I have found that "Yours" is a great shop, wide fitting shoes upto size 9 (normally fit a size 10) plenty of choices there as well. They also have a website that took over the "Long Tall Sally" brand. its worth checking it out
heres a thought for you, try a sauna, you can go with someone and use the jacuzzi steam room sauna etc and decide what you want to happen based on how you feel. In the sauna , steam, jacuzzi you will be safe ( with a friend to reassure and help) and left alone till you decide to take it further or not. If not- you have had a nice sauna steam jacuzzi time and built some confidence and nothing else has happened. The sauna I use does not even need a real name or any ID so is stress free.