Oh I hear what your saying i really do. My problem is this though you reply but as the Mod that is an answer I would expect. But tell me how does a new member manage to speak to others and make friendships when none of the other members blank them even though the very same member is a friend of the profile also match. the answer is they really dont and that then sends them onto a rival swinging site and you find profiles that clearly left for similar reasons who will interact. I have come cross many profiles here where member not been online for over 90 days so they have abandoned ship s a result and use exactly the same profile name and surprise surprise happily interact. I actually upgraded to communicqte with profiles the site refused to show unless upgraded wjho had viewed me and then it shows no on for 90 days so yeah you get out of it what you put in to it. Shame really was already a member on fab and have been for a number of years and it is to get out all the best