We found what the op said very interesting. We have been in "the scene" for about 14 years. In that time we have seen HUGE changes. When we first started it was not with this site and then found this one after a year or so. When we joined we discovered a lot of like minded people that were happy with chat about darkest kinks and also do with respect and with humour.
Over time this has changed dramatically, now we find that a lot of the humour has gone and people are only after a "quick shag". Socials/munches used to be full on weekends lol. We used to take over hotels and travel all over the Country to attend these. Quite often these never ended in a shag but a lot of fun was had and great friendships were formed (these friendships are still strong and we all still chat to one another, albeit through normal social media now lol)
Do we miss these times, yes, we miss the fun, we miss the kinkiness and in some ways the secretiveness of being a "Swinger" now in someways it is the norm! lol