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I have wanted to gob off about this for a while but I have been cautious about doing it incase I get a telling off lol
I find it so annoying when peeps answer all their whispers in the main rooom grrrrr. Its ok ocasionally as I myself put lol@wispa in myself but when someone is getting e.g. 20 peeps whispering them and then answers them all in the main chat, it is so difficult to understand the main room conversation. I have seen it on some occasions when its just lines and lines of answers to whispers, sometimes just the same person doing it! :fuckinghell: If someone is getting that many whispers, surely it is better to open their own room?????
Many a time, things have thrown me and I've trawled up the page to try and make sense of what was said only to find it still doesn't make sense even then. I know it annoys many people so I just make the effort not to answer whispers in the main chat as I dislike it so much myself.
Could I open a room with 'no answering wispas in main chat' in the title or is that not allowed?
Ok...rant over...peace :rose:
You see I think that the problem lies with the whisperers not the person replying. Take yesterday for example. I was in a room and recieved lots of uninvited whispers but being the nice person lol that I am I asked them to chat in the main room and when they didnt I did occasionally answer them in the main room, but only because it felt rude not to answer them. If people werent put in that position then we wouldnt have to do it.
Im sure you can open a room that has that in the title though :thumbup:
Louise xx
Some people dont like whispering and so answer all whispers (most of them uninvited I suspect) in the main room and usually this deters the whisperer.
Oh I understand posting the whispers to deter the whisperers but that doesnt bother me...Its when they are welcomed and then answers all of them in the room...just bugs me lol
and if they are getting whispers from 5 or 6 different people then its a plain nightmare to keep clicking on a name to reply then click another name to reply to summat else...
Poor chatters would have RSI in less than 20 mins :lol2:
Quote by Mallock2006
and if they are getting whispers from 5 or 6 different people then its a plain nightmare to keep clicking on a name to reply then click another name to reply to summat else...
Poor chatters would have RSI in less than 20 mins :lol2:

rotflmao that was me yesterday, in the end I gave up and replied in the room as I was getting really confused redface
louise xx
Quote by Barneyandbetty
Oh I understand posting the whispers to deter the whisperers but that doesnt bother me...Its when they are welcomed and then answers all of them in the room...just bugs me lol

I really sympathise with this as I find it irritating too. It sometimes feels like you've come into a weird surreal universe.
However I do understand if you've got more than one person whispering how difficult that can be.
Maybe this is one for the techies? How about giving us a second column that only contains the people we're whispering to? That way we don't get lost scrolling through 70 names, but also helps to organise and simplify the whole procedure.
Quote by bbw_lover
Oh I understand posting the whispers to deter the whisperers but that doesnt bother me...Its when they are welcomed and then answers all of them in the room...just bugs me lol

I really sympathise with this as I find it irritating too. It sometimes feels like you've come into a weird surreal universe.
However I do understand if you've got more than one person whispering how difficult that can be.
Maybe this is one for the techies? How about giving us a second column that only contains the people we're whispering to? That way we don't get lost scrolling through 70 names, but also helps to organise and simplify the whole procedure.
The new chatrooms(when they arrive) have seperate windows for each whisper so that problem will be solved :-)
Quote by Mallock2006
Oh I understand posting the whispers to deter the whisperers but that doesnt bother me...Its when they are welcomed and then answers all of them in the room...just bugs me lol

I really sympathise with this as I find it irritating too. It sometimes feels like you've come into a weird surreal universe.
However I do understand if you've got more than one person whispering how difficult that can be.
Maybe this is one for the techies? How about giving us a second column that only contains the people we're whispering to? That way we don't get lost scrolling through 70 names, but also helps to organise and simplify the whole procedure.
The new chatrooms(when they arrive) have seperate windows for each whisper so that problem will be solved :-)
Excellent!! :lol: When are they coming then??? wink
Quote by Barneyandbetty
Oh I understand posting the whispers to deter the whisperers but that doesnt bother me...Its when they are welcomed and then answers all of them in the room...just bugs me lol

I really sympathise with this as I find it irritating too. It sometimes feels like you've come into a weird surreal universe.
However I do understand if you've got more than one person whispering how difficult that can be.
Maybe this is one for the techies? How about giving us a second column that only contains the people we're whispering to? That way we don't get lost scrolling through 70 names, but also helps to organise and simplify the whole procedure.
The new chatrooms(when they arrive) have seperate windows for each whisper so that problem will be solved :-)
Excellent!! :lol: When are they coming then??? wink
How long is a piece of string dunno
Thats a question best answered by the powers that be :-)
Quote by Mallock2006
Oh I understand posting the whispers to deter the whisperers but that doesnt bother me...Its when they are welcomed and then answers all of them in the room...just bugs me lol

I really sympathise with this as I find it irritating too. It sometimes feels like you've come into a weird surreal universe.
However I do understand if you've got more than one person whispering how difficult that can be.
Maybe this is one for the techies? How about giving us a second column that only contains the people we're whispering to? That way we don't get lost scrolling through 70 names, but also helps to organise and simplify the whole procedure.
The new chatrooms(when they arrive) have seperate windows for each whisper so that problem will be solved :-)
Excellent!! :lol: When are they coming then??? wink
How long is a piece of string dunno
Thats a question best answered by the powers that be :-)
Wish they'd give us some idea when this will happen. We've been waiting ages and it's all gone quite on the new chatrooms front.
banghead
Quote by flower411
I think there must be something wrong with me !!
Don`t all agree at once !!!!! Please rolleyes
I find that when somebody keeps answering whispers in open room it can be really annoying, so I move to another room lol
Isn`t this the best option ? dunno

No it misses the point.
The fact is that the current system isn't practical. What if you're one of the whisperers but the other person isn't able to scroll through the list quickly enough because he/she is also whispering to someone else?
It's difficult for all concerned not just the person observing the strange messages.
:shock:
Quote by flower411
I think there must be something wrong with me !!
Don`t all agree at once !!!!! Please rolleyes
I find that when somebody keeps answering whispers in open room it can be really annoying, so I move to another room lol
Isn`t this the best option ? dunno

No it misses the point.
The fact is that the current system isn't practical. What if you're one of the whisperers but the other person isn't able to scroll through the list quickly enough because he/she is also whispering to someone else?
It's difficult for all concerned not just the person observing the strange messages.
:shock:
Have you tried the "different windows for different whisperers " system in the new chatrooms ???
If you think that`s practical, you have a much quicker brain than mine !! :shock:
Sounds horrendous. I think the tech people should sort something out.
biggrin
Well that's me. I reply to all uninvited whispers in open chat, a clear message that should someone decide it is OK to whisper me without even saying hello in chat first, that it's not.
If they ask and I accept, I reply in whisper.
If I get too many whispers at one time, I ask them to all chat in main room.
And when I do reply in open chat I always add the ID first so people know who I am addressing.
Sorry but I'm not stopping doing that for anyone, it's the uninvited whisperer's that should take note.
Blimey it's a long way down my my high horse today wink
pink x
Quote by blueandpink
Well that's me. I reply to all uninvited whispers in open chat, a clear message that should someone decide it is OK to whisper me without even saying hello in chat first, that it's not.
If they ask and I accept, I reply in whisper.
If I get too many whispers at one time, I ask them to all chat in main room.
And when I do reply in open chat I always add the ID first so people know who I am addressing.
Sorry but I'm not stopping doing that for anyone, it's the uninvited whisperer's that should take note.
Blimey it's a long way down my my high horse today wink
pink x

I didn't mean you personally Pink. Like I said, I do it myself occasionally. Just that if someone is getting an exceptionally large amount of whispers (lucky buggers!! lol ) and answers them all in the main chat, it can be difficult for the rest of the room to follow the conversation.
I don't get alot of whispers myself...I just tend to talk crap in the room generally but I know if I was getting that much attention through whispers and welcomed it, then I would open my own room.
so i take it you will never be opening your own room :twisted: betty babes i promise never to whisper you again :-):-):-) well not till the next time
I think the best option is to get rid of the "whispers" full stop.
Not only will it stop confusion and people getting annoyed...
It will get rid of the annoying disrepectful idiots!!
rolleyes
Quote by Barneyandbetty
Well that's me. I reply to all uninvited whispers in open chat, a clear message that should someone decide it is OK to whisper me without even saying hello in chat first, that it's not.
If they ask and I accept, I reply in whisper.
If I get too many whispers at one time, I ask them to all chat in main room.
And when I do reply in open chat I always add the ID first so people know who I am addressing.
Sorry but I'm not stopping doing that for anyone, it's the uninvited whisperer's that should take note.
Blimey it's a long way down my my high horse today wink
pink x

I didn't mean you personally Pink. Like I said, I do it myself occasionally. Just that if someone is getting an exceptionally large amount of whispers (lucky buggers!! lol ) and answers them all in the main chat, it can be difficult for the rest of the room to follow the conversation.
I don't get alot of whispers myself...I just tend to talk crap in the room generally but I know if I was getting that much attention through whispers and welcomed it, then I would open my own room.
Worry not Betty, didn't take it as directed at anyone. And I totally see your point. However, I get quite a few whispers each time I go into chat, and shed loads if I go on cam, and I have no problem with them per se, as they are part of the chat room, but I demand respect and politeness in real life so look for the same in the chat room.
As for opening your own room, I wouldn't welcome that at all, I go into chat to chat to people in the main room, get to know people, my theory behing answering whispers in main chat is so that the people who 'offend' recognise they are getting no where and will eventually stop. They also see the people who ask get an acceptance and again eventually will learn.
Again just my way of doing things ( I am a trifle anal at times redface rolleyes ), each to their own and all that. :wink: :lol2:
pink x
Quote by Lilmiss
I think the best option is to get rid of the "whispers" full stop.
Not only will it stop confusion and people getting annoyed...
It will get rid of the annoying disrepectful idiots!!
rolleyes

OMG Lilian!!!!!! That is the most sensible thing you have ever said....are you ill??? Do you need an ambulance??? lol :lol: :lol:
Quote by Barneyandbetty
I think the best option is to get rid of the "whispers" full stop.
Not only will it stop confusion and people getting annoyed...
It will get rid of the annoying disrepectful idiots!!
rolleyes

OMG Lilian!!!!!! That is the most sensible thing you have ever said....are you ill??? Do you need an ambulance??? lol :lol: :lol:
brain surgeon would be better lol... and a torch lol
RWL
xx
Quote by flower411
Have you tried the "different windows for different whisperers " system in the new chatrooms ???
If you think that`s practical, you have a much quicker brain than mine !! :shock:

Anyone who remembers the good old days when SH had a proper chatroom (mIRC) all whispers opened in a seperate tab and it was a sinch to use..
Quote by redwine_lover
I think the best option is to get rid of the "whispers" full stop.
Not only will it stop confusion and people getting annoyed...
It will get rid of the annoying disrepectful idiots!!
rolleyes

OMG Lilian!!!!!! That is the most sensible thing you have ever said....are you ill??? Do you need an ambulance??? lol :lol: :lol:
brain surgeon would be better lol... and a torch lol
RWL
xx
flipa
Quote by Mallock2006

Have you tried the "different windows for different whisperers " system in the new chatrooms ???
If you think that`s practical, you have a much quicker brain than mine !! :shock:

Anyone who remembers the good old days when SH had a proper chatroom (mIRC) all whispers opened in a seperate tab and it was a sinch to use..
Which is pretty much why the new version has tabs, it should as you say be a sunch to use, but as with most things in life we won't be able to please everyone.
Quote by st3v3

Have you tried the "different windows for different whisperers " system in the new chatrooms ???
If you think that`s practical, you have a much quicker brain than mine !! :shock:

Anyone who remembers the good old days when SH had a proper chatroom (mIRC) all whispers opened in a seperate tab and it was a sinch to use..
Which is pretty much why the new version has tabs, it should as you say be a sunch to use, but as with most things in life we won't be able to please everyone.
Very true but I think its much easier than the current whisper system.
Quote by Mallock2006
At the moment I can see all the whispers in front of me and can simply ignore the ones that I don`t want. With new chat I will have to make a concious decision to change to another window to check whether or not I wish to answer. When two or three or more people are whispering at once I stick by my previous statement, that you would have to have a much quicker brain than mine :shock:

You're absolutely right. Using the windows options is even more time consuming, and a very messy solution.
I still think having two columns is a workable option. In the first column we could have the current list of people in the room. Then in a column next to this would be another column with all the people we are whispering to.
It may not be ideal but I think it's better than what we've got.
banghead
What you suggest isn't any different to having tabs at the top with names of people whispering, tabs have one big advantage in that with one click they can be deleted.
Quote by st3v3
What you suggest isn't any different to having tabs at the top with names of people whispering, tabs have one big advantage in that with one click they can be deleted.

Yeah that sounds like another good option. Could be done easily and quickly?
As easily and quickly as one mouse click ;)
Quote by Barneyandbetty
Well that's me. I reply to all uninvited whispers in open chat, a clear message that should someone decide it is OK to whisper me without even saying hello in chat first, that it's not.
If they ask and I accept, I reply in whisper.
If I get too many whispers at one time, I ask them to all chat in main room.
And when I do reply in open chat I always add the ID first so people know who I am addressing.
Sorry but I'm not stopping doing that for anyone, it's the uninvited whisperer's that should take note.
Blimey it's a long way down my my high horse today wink
pink x

I didn't mean you personally Pink. Like I said, I do it myself occasionally. Just that if someone is getting an exceptionally large amount of whispers (lucky buggers!! lol ) and answers them all in the main chat, it can be difficult for the rest of the room to follow the conversation.
I don't get alot of whispers myself...I just tend to talk crap in the room generally but I know if I was getting that much attention through whispers and welcomed it, then I would open my own rolleyes point taken ill stop wispering u now fffs all u had to do was tell me :twisted: but it dont matter whether u get wispers or not u still get bloody confuddled :roll: :roll: xxxxxx
Quote by pussygalore33
Well that's me. I reply to all uninvited whispers in open chat, a clear message that should someone decide it is OK to whisper me without even saying hello in chat first, that it's not.
If they ask and I accept, I reply in whisper.
If I get too many whispers at one time, I ask them to all chat in main room.
And when I do reply in open chat I always add the ID first so people know who I am addressing.
Sorry but I'm not stopping doing that for anyone, it's the uninvited whisperer's that should take note.
Blimey it's a long way down my my high horse today wink
pink x

I didn't mean you personally Pink. Like I said, I do it myself occasionally. Just that if someone is getting an exceptionally large amount of whispers (lucky buggers!! lol ) and answers them all in the main chat, it can be difficult for the rest of the room to follow the conversation.
I don't get alot of whispers myself...I just tend to talk crap in the room generally but I know if I was getting that much attention through whispers and welcomed it, then I would open my own rolleyes point taken ill stop wispering u now fffs all u had to do was tell me :twisted: but it dont matter whether u get wispers or not u still get bloody confuddled :roll: :roll: xxxxxx
Shhhhhhh Puss...I've started a nice sensible post and you shower of buggers are hijacking it!!!!
No wonder nobody ever takes me seriously pfffttt
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