I thought seeing as it seems to be a question no one really has a solution to to ask in here if people are as annoyed as me with the constant whispers that go on in chatrooms uninvited.
I know many already have like mine something on their profile saying they find uninvited whispers offensive and still have it ignored sometimes to the point of being upset so much they have left.
I myself now find i copy and paste all whispers i receive straight into the room with a comment along the lines of please dont. Of course if it has been one of those nights the comments get sarkier(?) as the night goes on with me invariably getting in a worse mood each time. It detracts from the enjoyment of the rest of the chat.
I have been advised to ignore them (doesnt work with some of the more persistant ones), i've been advised to report the person (very little seems to happen and they've continued), room hosts (i often have my own room open) are powerless because even if they boot someone for persistant whispering in a room directly titled no whispering, the person simply clicks on join room and picks up where they left off.
I have used other sites where if someone whispers you without your consent you can block them from future whispers. It is a great idea and works really well.
Now i'm not saying that all whispers are wrong, we all whisper with friends or when arranging meets etc but if something could be put in place where someone has to ask you and you have to accept that whisper surely that would make the chatrooms a much friendlier place and end the constant remarks from ppl all saying the same thing "xxxxxxx please stop whispering"
Of course I understand that some members have no problems with uninvited whispers so maybe again there could be an opt out option available with those people who would prefer not to enter into this
Does anyone have any other remarks/suggestions/ideas, and even if you dont it would be interesting to see your opinion with the Poll on here.
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How uninvited whispers might be stopped?
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Do you think whispers should only happen as result of being invited (ie u decide who you want to whisper to, not the other way around)
That will teach me to have typed all this while in the Cafe and then realising it would be better in the Chatroom lounge, so copied and pasted it over without checking to see if there was already a thread running, apologies to those that may be offended, but will still be interested in seeing wot the poll might show up.
I think you're hoping against hope. And what bugs me are the ones who make you out to be the villain of the piece after you've had them not to whisper without asking. I think we'll just have to put up with the dickheads and hope that after enough sarcasm is levelled at them they will eventually stop or go a f**k themselves ( how rude)
Quote by flower411
I`ve never had a whisperer that doesn`t just give up if you ignore them ..
They are annoying and some of them are just plain downright rude
But ignore them and they stop ...
If you get a reputation for rising to the bait, you`ll be plagued by every wind up merchant on the site ..
They are annoying , puerile and and in many cases a bit scary ....when they get scary ...report em and if admin investigate and find that they are in the wrong .....they DO get banned.
Have to admit flower i disagree with you there in my experience. I often find that ignoring gets the whisperer in a fouler mood than me copy and pasting with an sarky answer tagged on the end.
I now think twice before going on cam simply because it depends on my mood as to whether or not i can handle the amount of whispers i get. I get more than enough and the fact that i'm a fem on cam seems to open the floodgates.
I just feel that as it is against site rules to whisper without first getting an ok from the other party something might be able to be done to enforce this site rule. Lets face it, i dont want to spend my night filling in support tickets to get yet another mindless twat slapped on the wrist. And yes i've had some damn scary ones - resulting in no ban despite tickets going in.
I usually choose to ignore the whispers, unless from my mates in the rooms, we know we can do it too each other with out asking now!
However if it does get too bad, I usually say something polite and witty and invite them to come in to open chat, most of them then will come in to the open chat and join in the fun, the others just move on!
I have seen some people in the chat rooms tearing the whisperers to pieces by type, and then it gets to be a slanging match for all who want to witness the type to see!
The whispers will never stop, but I feel can be handled in a way , so no one gets to the stage where it is a big issue!
Keep having fun in the rooms!
Lucys post.
However if it does get too bad, I usually say something polite and witty and invite them to come in to open chat, most of them then will come in to the open chat and join in the fun, the others just move on!
I have seen some people in the chat rooms tearing the whisperers to pieces by type, and then it gets to be a slanging match for all who want to witness the type to see!
The whispers will never stop, but I feel can be handled in a way , so no one gets to the stage where it is a big issue!
Keep having fun in the rooms!
Lucys post.
Quote by Dave__Notts
I think that every memeber should be be hooked up to the national grid by the balls for a fellah and the nipples for the ladies. If an uninvited whisper occurs then we should be able to press a button that allows the juice to flow.
This just might prevent another whisper
Dave_Notts
hold on a mo Dave, this might encourage some folks to whisper more
:lol: :lol: :lol: Quote by Kns2006
I think that every memeber should be be hooked up to the national grid by the balls for a fellah and the nipples for the ladies. If an uninvited whisper occurs then we should be able to press a button that allows the juice to flow.
This just might prevent another whisper
Dave_Notts
hold on a mo Dave, this might encourage some folks to whisper more
:lol: :lol: :lol:You bloody kinky pair.
I am off to find my crocadile clips and a 12 volt battery :twisted:
Dave_Notts
Your permission has to be obtained to allow a cam to be shown, something similar could be arranged for accepting whispers. Although if you feel that ignoring whispers makes the whisperer abusive, denying access to them could generate the same effect.
I've never had problems with persistant whisperers getting abusive but I know people who have. It is very upsetting for them and puts them off chatting. It should be possible to boot someone for whispering and not allow them back into the same chatroom the same day.
I have had whisperers who say banal stuff that could be discussed in the room but they will not give in. That gets on my nerves sometimes and I usually reply to their questions in the room if I feel inclined to acknowledge their prescence. Otherwise I do tend to ignore persistant whisperers.
I've never had problems with persistant whisperers getting abusive but I know people who have. It is very upsetting for them and puts them off chatting. It should be possible to boot someone for whispering and not allow them back into the same chatroom the same day.
I have had whisperers who say banal stuff that could be discussed in the room but they will not give in. That gets on my nerves sometimes and I usually reply to their questions in the room if I feel inclined to acknowledge their prescence. Otherwise I do tend to ignore persistant whisperers.
Quote by medic_1
I have said this in a previous post >>>
What we need is an "IGNORE" button
The more the ignore button is used the sooner the plonkers will realise they are in the wrong and the rooms become less crowded.
medic_1
Could that go someway of eliminating timewaster?
Because eventually they would have no one to talk too?
Just a thought!
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have said this in a previous post >>>
What we need is an "IGNORE" button
The more the ignore button is used the sooner the plonkers will realise they are in the wrong and the rooms become less crowded.
medic_1
Could that go someway of eliminating timewaster?
Because eventually they would have no one to talk too?
Just a thought!
Minxy
Yes I think it could.
It would be worth a trail
medic_1
Quote by medic_1
I have said this in a previous post >>>
What we need is an "IGNORE" button
The more the ignore button is used the sooner the plonkers will realise they are in the wrong and the rooms become less crowded.
medic_1
Could that go someway of eliminating timewaster?
Because eventually they would have no one to talk too?
Just a thought!
Minxy
Yes I think it could.
It would be worth a trail
medic_1
Might save the verification process :wink:
What a bloody good idea... :twisted:
Quote by Dave__Notts
I think that every memeber should be be hooked up to the national grid by the balls for a fellah and the nipples for the ladies. If an uninvited whisper occurs then we should be able to press a button that allows the juice to flow.
This just might prevent another whisper
Dave_Notts
We hate uninvited whispers with a passion. :shock:
The ones who do it all the time are the worst of all. The same people time after time. They do it to everyone, they are the worst.
In my experience the best way to stop them is to copy and paste the whisper into the room, with a " no whisper without asking quote ". Most of the time they leave the room, as they have now been singled out.
I really really cannot understand why a room host has the " kick " button, if the person kicked can get straight back into the room, by pressing the join button again. What is the point in that?
I have seen people get booted 20 times and still keep coming back in. A useless thing in my view. Much better to have an ignore button where you just click it and hey presto that person cannot whisper you ever again. Or an ability to block certain members. That would work much better.
That is one of the reasons mrs777 very rarely goes on cam now, as when the pubs shut on a fri or sat night and they get home, that is when the worst offenders appear.
No easy solutions but if the " no whispers without asking first " is part of the AUP ( which it is ), than surely something should be done to the persistant ones out there, who continue to do it?
The ones who do it all the time are the worst of all. The same people time after time. They do it to everyone, they are the worst.
In my experience the best way to stop them is to copy and paste the whisper into the room, with a " no whisper without asking quote ". Most of the time they leave the room, as they have now been singled out.
I really really cannot understand why a room host has the " kick " button, if the person kicked can get straight back into the room, by pressing the join button again. What is the point in that?
I have seen people get booted 20 times and still keep coming back in. A useless thing in my view. Much better to have an ignore button where you just click it and hey presto that person cannot whisper you ever again. Or an ability to block certain members. That would work much better.
That is one of the reasons mrs777 very rarely goes on cam now, as when the pubs shut on a fri or sat night and they get home, that is when the worst offenders appear.
No easy solutions but if the " no whispers without asking first " is part of the AUP ( which it is ), than surely something should be done to the persistant ones out there, who continue to do it?
Sex God
whispers?
lol
lol
Yes as you said, some other sites allow us to block an individual who is causing grief. Why cannot we do that here, it is quite simple, we need to be able to just click on the person invelved and have the option, not to ban them, but to stop them private messaging or anoying us. It has been a pain for me on here and would like some action from SH.
Kind Regards to all,
Crissy
Kind Regards to all,
Crissy
Sex God
Quote by CrissyTV
Yes as you said, some other sites allow us to block an individual who is causing grief. Why cannot we do that here, it is quite simple, we need to be able to just click on the person invelved and have the option, not to ban them, but to stop them private messaging or anoying us. It has been a pain for me on here and would like some action from SH.
Kind Regards to all,
Crissy
If someone is causing grief then report them. That's what we're here for. Feel free to drop me a PM if you're having problems and I'll try to help.
There is a disable function now which lets you turn whispers off altogether. I appreciate this isn't ideal as it's everyone or no-one but hopefully that will change and you will be able to choose who you want to ignore.
My way of dealing with unwanted whispers (and yes, I get them too!) is to simply say in the room that "I'm happy chatting in the room, thank you" :mrgreen:
If the person continues to whisper univinted then in the first instance ask who the room host is and ask them to post a copy of the rules. If there's no host then drop one of us a PM and we'll come and help.
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It is a site wide rule that you must ask to whisper in open chat and wait until you receive permission before you do so. Yes, we all relax that with our friends but it should be adhered to if you don't already have permission.
Mod
What pretty short arse said.
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Sex God
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Sexlightened
If i get whispers I just say in general chat "joe blogs get out my whispers please" it works every time.
What I dont like are the people who constantly paste the whispers into chat.
What I dont like are the people who constantly paste the whispers into chat.
