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Quote by flower411
We also come on here to chat to friends that we have met,

You chat to me too !!! lol
We do indeed Flower, as we class you as a true Kent
At least me thread stayed open for longer than a day eh? lol
Quote by flower411
a certain scottish couple I could mention wink

mrs s says it better be her your talking about or your for it smackbottom
lol :lol: :lol:
all we can say on the subject if it wasnt for ppl like flower an others in the kent room becauce thats where we spend the first 6 months when joining the site we probs wouldnt be here! being welcomed in bye other members makes all the diffrence no matter where ur from!!! now we pester :lol: the folk in the scotsroom more than others an there is folk from far an wide in there which keeps it intresting for us an them!
Quote by Shireen
Not everyone is looking for a shag every minute of the day rolleyes

but perleeeeease tell me that is what you look for when you look for me ???
lol
splendid
I don't know why I keep coming back to this thread. because every time I do, I get annoyed.
OK, I'll hold my hands up.
IM A TIMEWASTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I will chat and if you ask me for a meet, I will tell you that I don't meet. It's in my profile. So IF you have chatted to me in the hope of a shag - hard luck -it has wasted your time.
I will post any amount of inane or pertinant comment on the forum, but I don't meet - it's in my profile - and that makes me a TIMEWASTER.
I AM A FREE MEMBER! and I STILL don't meet - what a TIMEWASTER I am.
And lastly, for anyone who's time has been wasted by reading this post - hey, what did you expect from a time waster like me?
So I spose a shags out the question then Cherry confused: :giggle: kiss
Cherry climbs off high horse
I MIGHT make an exception for you - but keep it to yourself lol
It is interesting to see how this thread has gone on....
the original question.. why would you not go into the mids room... you say that is too far? by your standard or anyone elses? other people in the same room may feel differently.... I have seen people and even met from kent who go to socials and munches all over the country.... so are they wrong???
why can you not swing with anyone who is far away.... granted you make not meet them as often as you would like... but again,that is judging by your own standard
this site has changed a bit... not saying for the better or worse but it has....
when I first come on the site people were prepared to travel all over the country for munches, it sounds as if you didn't, but a heck of a lot of people did and I think that is what does made them so special and the who feel of the place so different from other sites
but with the advent of the "regional" rooms... I don't think the new people who have joined are prepared to do that to the extent that we use to........for example... how many from the mids rooms do travel to social/functions in the north west... or yorkshire just above them....not that far away.... not many..
I remember when loads of people from scotland would pile down to the munches in newcastle and manchester for example.... heck I remember a certain essex munch where there were more northerners down there than southerners...... and a certain bristol munch where we basically took over a hotel....
I love going into the regional chatrooms, I have made so many good friends from those socials I have been to all over the country why should i not?
you can swing with great people all over the country... maybe if you are only limiting yourself to the borders of kent (you are setting your own boundries..maybe not everyone feels the same as you) maybe the question should be why are you missing out on meeting so many great people from other places
sean xxxxxxxx
Good points made fabio. We know loads of people from this site and others too, but the feeling most give is they will not travel too far for a meet. We have traveled nearly a hundred miles for a meet in the past, but with young kids it is difficult. It is difficult to arrange a sitter for all night and best part of the next day. If you are single with no ties then that is fine, but for us meets or munches too far away is hard for us.
Getting onto cherrytrees point, I think you are taking things too much to heart. I dont think you are a timewaster at all, and it very clearly states on your profile you do not meet. That does not make you a timewaster in my book. But there are many others out there who are. We know a couple who have been blown out 9 times this year by single guys, plus many others have been let down too. We were let down this year also after we had paid for sitters too, which really can piss you off.
The main trouble with posting in the Forum which I rarely do, is people either tend to go away from the original thread or people get angry over comments made. I have opinions as others do, and I was only originally asking for peoples views, which surely is what a Forum is supposed to be all about. If any comments have been made that you find annoying Cherrytree then I can only applogise, as that was never my original intention when I started the thread.
Loves and kisses to all, and any comments made on my thread have been made by Mr777 and NOT my better half!! lol
Quote by fabio
you can swing with great people all over the country... maybe if you are only limiting yourself to the borders of kent (you are setting your own boundries..maybe not everyone feels the same as you) maybe the question should be why are you missing out on meeting so many great people from other places
sean xxxxxxxx

Sums it up nicely - I would hate to think I was bieng scrutinized just becuase I was in an 'out of area' room, tho I respect the fact that some people want to stay local. Personally I've had more fun with Lancashire peeps than local ones wink
Sums it up nicely - I would hate to think I was bieng scrutinized just becuase I was in an 'out of area' room, tho I respect the fact that some people want to stay local. Personally I've had more fun with Lancashire peeps than local ones wink[
That is a fair comment, but you are a single guy with all that entails. As I have already stated, we are a couple with young kids, that to us makes perfect sense to stay as local as possible!!
Most single people are free to travel as much as they want,. BUT on the whole couples with young kids have not got that luxury. Also let's be honest here, the vast majority of people who in our case come into the kent room from miles away are single guys, who just may be able to travel more freely that the vast majority of couples.
Quote by kentswingers777
Good points made fabio. We know loads of people from this site and others too, but the feeling most give is they will not travel too far for a meet. We have traveled nearly a hundred miles for a meet in the past, but with young kids it is difficult. It is difficult to arrange a sitter for all night and best part of the next day. If you are single with no ties then that is fine, but for us meets or munches too far away is hard for us.

In which case we are certainly going round in two different circles...
I meet people from all over the country at events all over the country...... but as you said if you are only going into the kent room, then in the end who is losing out??
Is it the rest of the country for not finding you in your little section of a huge site.... or is it you for never looking outside your little field so to speak and knowing that there is in fact a big wide world out there........
remember the greater your restrictions the smaller your potential pool of partners is going to be, so then I don't see how you can then gumble because of your own self imposed limits......
I don't think it is a case of being a single or a couple when it comes to travelling....It can be hard for everyone, for example I am not made of money, I try to make an effort to get to as many social/munches as I can... I also cannot do what I use to do because of my health so again I pick and choose when I can, Which is no different to what most couples do.....yes there are always going to be restrictions on what you can and can not do or attend...so whether it is one munch a month, every 6 months or every year
there is a difference between setting your own limits and not even being prepared to give it a try... if you have dismissed it out of hand then in a sense isn't that a semi-blinkered attitude, I am not saying try to get to everything.. just saying don't rule it out!
I would love to see you both at a munch at some point just to chat about stuff like this and other things..... it has been interesting
sean xxxxxxxx
Sean we have young kids!! you tell me as a single guy how we are supposed to travel 100+miles away for a meet, and then back again to pick the kids up by ten in the morning?
Unless your prepared to kid sit for us perhaps? We offer good rates of
Quote by kentswingers777
Sean we have young kids!! you tell me as a single guy how we are supposed to travel 100+miles away for a meet, and then back again to pick the kids up by ten in the morning?
Unless your prepared to kid sit for us perhaps? We offer good rates of

as who says i don't have commitments where i have had to travel at some god awful time the following morning to be at....trust me... i have left hotels at 6/7 in the morning because i have had to be somewhere early
There are single women with kids that go to munches....
there are couples with kids that go to munches...
so maybe a few of them will tell you how they do it....
at no point did I say it was easy to do... but I know a hell of a lot of people who do it....
so...to clarify
i think its generally agreed that everyone should stay only in rooms that are local to them and totally 'shun' outsiders and in a way form a 'clique'
naturally as they are on the site and chatting they should be expected to leave the chatroom at some point during the chat and go shag another member of the room...perhaps put up an emoticon to allow others in the room of their present activity and lack of communication
if this doesnt happen or if they cancel there should then be a points system alocated and shown on their profile ranging from 'turned up and got it on' to ' total waste of time and should be shot'
in time we could also give the rooms ratings themselves...
lancashire room - not bad peeps
kent- bit iffy
etc etc
any thoughts ?...or have i summed it all up perfectly?
love this forum!!
As usual on the Forums, what starts off as a good topic, degenerates into a total farce by about the end of page 2. Other things start being brought into things, which have no bearing on the original post!
The only one who got a tad annoyed was Cherrytree, for which I appologised for. Am not going to reply anymore, as if honest think this thread has run its course, certainly on the original topic.
Happy swinging x
Quote by mattius
so...to clarify
i think its generally agreed that everyone should stay only in rooms that are local to them and totally 'shun' outsiders and in a way form a 'clique'
naturally as they are on the site and chatting they should be expected to leave the chatroom at some point during the chat and go shag another member of the room...perhaps put up an emoticon to allow others in the room of their present activity and lack of communication
if this doesnt happen or if they cancel there should then be a points system alocated and shown on their profile ranging from 'turned up and got it on' to ' total waste of time and should be shot'
in time we could also give the rooms ratings themselves...
lancashire room - not bad peeps
kent- bit iffy
etc etc
any thoughts ?...or have i summed it all up perfectly?
love this forum!!

lol
Quote by flower411
so...to clarify
kent- bit iffy

OI!!!! smackbottom
Yeah but, no but, yeah but... wink
Kentswingers777 said some stuff and then If any comments have been made that you find annoying Cherrytree then I can only applogise, as that was never my original intention when I started the thread.
No need to apologise at all, it's very possible I read you wrongly, I'm hypersensitive about this issue, and may have been reading with grump-tinted spectacles.
:thumbup:
hugs n kisses for Cherry kiss :kiss:
So tell me was there an outcome ? :smile: