dogging adds

29 Oct 2006

Quote by Srne
Lately we have seen a lot of adds on the forum saying things like "anyone dogging tonight in blah blah" then another half hr later saying "come on guys, there must be someone" etc when there is nothing on your profiles or adverts and we think that for sucess in advertising on here you have to give a little more than this!

Oh I'm so late to the party on this one lol

So, profiles! I absolutely agree that when posting, people could do much better - the online "Is there anything going on in XYZ tonite?" is dire and *if* I were part of a showing couple it wouldn't do anything for me. However, my own profile is distinctly lacking in information on purpose as I think anyone having a passing interest in making an arrangement with me will get to know far more about me by clicking on the link to my posts. I used to have a note in my profile (as well as my sig) that started I'm in for the voyeurism but it made no difference really, 90% of PMs were still assuming that I wanted to be taken dogging and given a good seeing to over the bonnet :lol:
But yes, I agree that people should take advantage of one or the other if they want some sort of response. However, if I did want to go down the pre-arranged route permanently at least I can say "take a look at my posting history to find out more" and know that I don't (hopefully) have to prove I'm genuine to people so I have an advantage over the one liners - a completely selfish plan I know but I don't like to queue wink

29 Oct 2006

hi Serendipity, we prefer to think of it as fashionably late for the party lol

Anyway, a few opinions on this one have come about, and a few good and valid points raised, think the important thing is that whatever its called, be it outdoor swinging, couples dogging or dogging itself, there will always be a debate to raise over the issue of this little scene. There are many types of dogger, the good, the bad and the dare i say it ugly :shock: , but we have all got to find our own little niche where we are comfortable and not try to judge too harshly of others that seem to be trying to make an effort!
Im sure you wouldnt have too much trouble finding pre - arranged meets either Serendipity, a single female dogger, why you are the proverbial golden goose my dear wink

29 Oct 2006

Quote by Srne
Im sure you wouldnt have too much trouble finding pre - arranged meets either Serendipity, a single female dogger, why you are the proverbial golden goose my dear

Yup, been told that a few times - but trying to get people to understand that I'm not in need of stuffing can be a challenge lol

30 Oct 2006

we dont do pre-arranged meets - we just turn up where and wehn we like - that way it's far more fun - and rewarding for both parties. and as for the demands of the so-called doggers to wind the window down or open the door so they can get in on the action - they are the ones who tend to scare couples off who are solely interested in just showing. if we want to let someone have a grope etc, we'll decide who and when (as we have done in the past to the more 'proper' doggers.)
we not against anyone chosing to meet, that's there choice, we've tried it a couple of times in the past, the main problem today is the boy racers/drug takers/non-doggers activities that goes on in car parks that makes it more difficult for us all to get out and about.
we've now found two decent places near us - and we use them instead - once with a very appreciative gentleman who thanked us before he left. - nice touch that.

31 Oct 2006

Quote by cockslut
re prearranged meets, it maybe that the couple go to a well known site knowing
that if out of the 10 or so guys they have invited only two show up they can pick
from those already there to make up the numbers and still have a good time without having to go home feeling let down.

SPOT ON MY FRIEND
I agree xxx

31 Oct 2006

well lots been said here ,think it shows we who go dogging but are into different ways of dogging,dont seem to be getting all of what we are looking for,hope you all do get there in the end,we have a few different adds ,ie swinging dogging and clearly state what we look for,but like a lot of peeps here wil probs do,is still get poo loads of emails to our adds,which now do get a lot unanswered binned because we state whats to happen what we expect etc the age bit,and still get loads who try it on "i know your looking for blah blah but......" this used to make us very pissed of but now find it just as easy to bin them , we find it rather sad to even read a add and know your not looking for them even to reply ,they are the ones who get into chat complain about not getting meets n shit and dont realize that they do them selfs more harm complaing ,pity for a watcher like jomu who we have read others posts but dont personally know him he seems a really nice person who if was up our way would be the sort who we would invite st8 away,any enough said for now ,we have a meet ,if he turns up for this wed night so watch the story bit on the other page lol

31 Oct 2006

Quote by tina1
re prearranged meets, it maybe that the couple go to a well known site knowing
that if out of the 10 or so guys they have invited only two show up they can pick
from those already there to make up the numbers and still have a good time without having to go home feeling let down.

SPOT ON MY FRIEND
I agree xxx
some couples might, indeed..if a couple arrange to meet guys recruited from a dogging board such as this one, in a carpark known for it's dogging activity, with the intention of employing the watching or hands-on services of the resident doggers in the event of the almost inevitable "no shows"..then thats cool.
to put it another way, they are a couple, either exhibitionists or players, arranging to meet men advertising their availability for adult fun in a public carpark..if that couple select, either accidentally or intentionally..a carpark that is frequented by doggers, and are happy to be dogged, or even fall upon their services should the need arise, then that is just dandy..
IF however they are a couple, visiting a public carpark which is a known dogging location, a fact availed to them by guys off the dogging board, the sites list or common knowledge in the hope that they and their privately invited entourage will attract no interest or attention from those who's sole purpose in frequenting said location is to dogg couples having sex, then they are deluding themselves..
couple looking for couple, and private parties have been an aspect of carpark fun for years..we've seen evidence of that sinse we started three and a half years ago..its nothing new..its just that there are rather more couples deluding themselves these days..when Jomu suggests they stay away from carparks known to be frequented by doggers, it's advice, not an instruction..its good advice too...to the deluded couples, whom i'm sure the remark was aimed at......all the others are fine lol

with regards to PM messages and emails, then yes, we too get loads..we don't arrange meets, and we don't swing, therefore we have no need to advertise..it doesn't prevent guys, and couples contacting us in the hope we can be a little more flexible with our "no arranged" status...some such requests aren't personal..they are massed produced and submitted with a scattergun approach in the hope that one will hit a target..its par for the we accept, that as a couple using an adult orientated website, we are going to attract interest, most of which isn't reciprocated, then there is little to get angry about..if we accept that going into a chatroom is going to open a barrage of uninvited private chat boxes from guys 200 miles away willing to travel for a BJ, then that too will be considered part of the deal..you'll always be content if you can accept the fact, and not get too strung up on how things "should be".
there are plenty of couples out there who's only agenda is to recieve attention..they want emails, so they can write back telling the fellas they are no hoper's, or sad..they want fellas to leap on them when they enter a chatroom, so they can rant about rude losers..they want fellas to approach them at dogging sites so they can tell them to fuck off, or rant about the behaviour and lack of respect, on the dogging board. its an aspect we are aware of daily..when the attention ceases, they go to another website, change their screen nick or visit another dogging site so the cycle can start all over..that is another reality..getting attention makes you feel important..being a couple attracts attention..that in turn gives us a certain power..with some couples, that attention becomes the more desireable aspect of the game, and with some, the power is abused..we are carefull to reply to thoughtful mail with equal consideration..we also make time to follow up requests for advise from those with honourable intent and happily provide details of venues to those visiting our county from afar..requests for times and places from locals aren't given such favour..thats just being plain lazy :lol: