watchers have you ever walked away or not joined in if asked............... because you where not interested
And why?
Nosey cow Debbiewebs! xxxxxxxxxxxx
Yeah they do Debs . We have had it happen , and always think its rude and insensitive really . Some just dont want to be involved unless there is contact , some think they see something better going on , and some just cant get it up . Either way we always say once you have begun to watch you should try and stay if only to not insult the lady involved .
I have walked away from watching on the odd occassion. Usually because the pushy types are trying to takeover, and join in when the couple plainly do not want it. Had it happen the other week , a couple felt too crowded ,stopped and left due to the pressure.
So I decide that discretion is the better part of valour & hopefully find a quieter spot with another couple,if I can find them, who want to be watched or whatever they want to happen.
All the time love...many reasons.
In one recent case, it was getting too dirty...the girl was covered in cum and had had so many guys shag her (without rubbers) that it was getting to be a case of manners versus nausea...and there were still people waiting to get "in"........................
But in most cases it was just too crowded, and in serious risk of getting out of control...with guys shoving others out of the way to get there.
If the couple are just showing and not playing then it is different, but you'll always get the ones who want a feel and get mouthy if the girl doesn't want to play....
It all used to be so polite in the past !
when its a case of no condoms and no holes barred and you realise you are 6th 7th 8th in line or some one who is just not my "type" yes i walk
In this day and age HIV is being spread more by heterosexuals than gays and would you really want to go in a hole without protection after some one with HIV may have shot their load in there?
Bare backing may sound fun but it is also very dangerous
Well yeah I cant disagree with many of the sentiments here . Although many of the more extreme suggestions are rarer occurances than doggers would wish .
As most here know we enjoy the 'showing ' aspect of dogging and were we the sort that desired extreme participation were not at all sure a carpark is a suitable venue . Blues comparison to a club isnt really like for like as the situation and atmosphere are completely different .
The suggestion that you might walk away if the lady involved was ' a bit big ' or to put it more politely not your type is fair enough if the initial approach is a quick look in the window and then walk stright away , it kinda doesnt rub well though if you watch for ten minutes and THEN wander off mid show .
I suppose the whole difficulty arises because of the whole confusion about dogging and what to expect . Whereas dogging was once predominatly watching with some encounters escalating to some participation (often very mild) now what is really happening is swingers just meeting up in carparks . The expectations are much much higher and what was once the preserve of mostly voyeurs and exhibitionists has now almost made those individuals into outsiders .
I dont criticise people for doing what they want to , its all cool as long as everyone agrees , but for those that complain about the attitudes of what they call 'doggers' they should perhaps remember that most of the men they encounter now days at the popular sites are just chancers and not voyeurs at all .
I still say that walking away after watching part of a show is rude really and insensitive . Personally we dont lose sleep over it , but we can see how it would demoralise a new couple just starting , and the consequence will be simple . The only people you will encounter will be the 'twenty guys without condoms' couples as those that prefer less extreme fun will be marginalised , and those voyeurs who like to watch without loudmouthing will be intimidated away from the sites .
hey Ho
silk &gig g have got it exactly right i started dogging at a very tender age and yes the whole thing has changed ,as for walking bcause "their not my type" you should be able to tell in a glance would certainly never do it in any way to hurt,offend those concerned we are there at the couples invitation when alls said Even doggers should have manners
Hi everyone,many moons ago I used to go to a place in Manchester(where the last Pope held a mass in 84). a couple used to come in,give all the signals to approach and then when they were approached by doggers he'd known for a while,he got out of his car and got very aggressive with them,threatening violence and being very verbal,it didn't matter whether they'd dogged him before(when everything was 'normal')or the doggers were new,this happened one out of maybe three times they arrived,two times ok,one time threatening and no body knew why. After a while it got to the point where every time this couple arrived on the car park all the doggers drove off and left them on their own,if they turned up at a different car park on the same night looking to be dogged again all the doggers would just didn't know what was going to happen or which mood he was in on any given night so best to leave alone and leave him to stew. Another time I and another dogger approached a car after being signalled to approach,as we got along side the car the passenger door opened and the lady was in such a position as to appear to be trying to clean both door mirrors at the same time with her feet(if you know what I mean)and was naked but a wall of smell hit us as the door opened,I can't describe it other than to say I don't thing she'd showered for months and allmost made me throw up( I shower just before I go out,its polite and B.O. and bad breath are the 2 biggest turn offs there is for me)Well me and the other dogger were trying to push each other to go first,I didn't want to and neither did he,it was quite funny,the upshot was that eventually to be polite I had a play with her with breath held and afterwards tried to get rid of the stench off my hands with allsorts,water(nope that didn't work)wet wipes(that neither).I could still smell it after dousing my hands with WD40,windscreen washer fluid and petrol and when I got home even domestos didn't work,it took swarfega to get the smell off and probably a couple of layers of skin,I felt like I had a compulsive disorder for a couple came in again and no one went near them,the word had got funny now but not at the
you live and learn silk,its what makes life so interesting,lol,john,x
Blimey Mr D you cant leave us on the hook wondering what the " idea" is .
I love the description of ' shrink wrapping' it made me giggle out loud (which frankly looks a bit ridiculous on a fella of my appearance) . Yeah as always we are virtually in full agreement , although having never visited our in depth pervy knowledge of the game we play means we know Norfolk has been a centre for the more extreme of our fraternity for many years . As you know we arent really about whinging , and try not to place constraints on anyone save for common decency and manners .
Even the more irritating habits of the new breed of near-doggers can be amusing if viewed from our personal haze of semi-reality and sick humour. As you hint at though I believe the kind of dogging we like best will become harder and harder to find in the traditional way . We find that sad because many of the things we like about it , especially the spontaneous nature , seem nigh on impossible now .
So thanks for your thoughts , and if you have amazing good ideas for future fun , by all means share them ( secretly if you prefer) with us . We'd be grateful .
Peace
S n G xx
Yeah you know what , we have often had more fun driving to new sites and finding them empty , than going back again and again to places that are often predictable . There are all sorts of extra possibilities involved in frequenting lesser known sites . Although some of the possibilities are unpleasant of course but hey what reward without risk ? Imagine for example the thrill of discovering the couple who had just wandered over to watch you at the beach had never heard of dogging but were just liberal sexual individuals who were turned on by your erotic encounter , or the amazed incredulity of a man enjoying every minute of the show you are giving - not because he has been there for hours looking at his watch and expecting someone , but just ran into you by chance whilst eating his sarnies in a quiet place .
Im not sure what your new ideas are , but I know you would appreciate the sentiments anyway .
Peace G
hello debbie yes i have walked away twice , only last nite there was a couple i walked away from she was about 65 yr old and him the same and the other time i was watching a couple and a guy came out of no were , and he had the worst BO i have ever smeltand it put me off love dave
I dont see why its rude to walk away from a dogging experience if your not happy being there, I've walked away from a few before and have always made an excuse like i need to go or my phone is ringing in the car so i dont cause upset, I havent just gone with no reason why, its got nothing to do with having no manners.
From my own experience if i'm not happy being there then i'll go, If I don't fancy the lady, too many men present, the wrong vibes put you off. I'm not despererate to shag anything that moves and I actually like to dog a lady who turns me on, if the lady does nothing for me i'll leave them alone and give room to other doggers who have different tastes to me.
Doggers can be selective in exactly the same way as couples can and its not meant to cause offence or upset, its just the way people are, different strokes for different folks. Like a few posters said above a lot of it is down to the mood at the time, I've had a few dogging experiences where the man of the couple is doing all the running and the lady looks like she is just doing it for him, I dont like that and walk away.
I find there are a lot of braindead doggers around at the moment who come into the car parks and light everyone up on full beam, jump out and are straight up on any car regardless of whats in it, this annoys us single doggers so I can imagine what it does to couples. These are the same kind of idiots who have no manners and dont have any respect regarding the couples, and it gives us all a bad name.