I avoid town centres like the plauge!! The violence used today just seems to get worse everyday.
The thing is, even if your minding your own buissness in a town centre late at night, trouble will normally find you, in the kebab shop or at the taxi rank normally.
One of the bus routes I drive has a school on it, the police are there EVERYDAY at to keep an eye on things, now I may sound like an old git, but I don't remember police outside my school everyday!
The equivalent of "I wouldn't expect my wife to - - -" is "I expect my wife NOT to - - -".
these two phrases are not even similar,never mind the same
not being pedantic,but cant let you get away with that one
Shock! Horror!
Mr Kent, I'm in agreement with you here, well about the sexist issue anyway. Not so much the OP... there's a surprise eh? ;-)
To me your comment about Mrs 777 is rather like the statistics, you can view it in any way you like and take them out of context, twist them around and play with them to make you out as either a saintly, caring husband, or a raving, sexist misogynist. In the same way that the stats can be made to make Britain look like Basra on a bad day, or paradise with Peckham.
I can see why people would choose to take yours and Mr Powers comments and deem them to be a tad sexist, especially when taken out of context, but I didn't read them in that way at all. I'd share similar concerns about people getting home late at night, which is why if my wife or one of our friends needs escorting home or picking up late at night, I will happily do it. That isn't some chauvinistic "poor little woman" attitude, to me it gives me peace of mind knowing they are home safe. (I do that for blokes too by the way, not just girls before I am accused to of blatant automotive induced sexual discrimination)
I once held a door open for a well known, very vocal, feminist at University. She glared at me and stated "Do you not think I can open a door?" So I shut it in her face. Odd how you can view good manners as chauvinism when the occasion suits.
She was such a feminist she was the first to get her tits out at the male rugby club do and dance on the table for them. Right on sister.
I didn't see your comments as being denigrating to women in anyway unless you wanted to interpret them that way. I saw a husband who wanted to be sure his wife and her friends were safe. Something I can empathise with wholly.
However back to the OP, the streets aren't ruled by thugs everywhere. Not yet, but it isn't improving and with this gang culture mentality, it is only going to get worse. But you can't really expect a balanced portrayal of things from the Daily Mail quoting a Conservative sponsored piece of 'research' can you?
The whole issue here Res is the fact that mrs777 would never want to walk home alone anyway. I am always at hand to pick her up.
If she does go out with friends she tends to take her car anyway and the other women she goes out with, all make sure everyone is safely in their cars.
The situation where mrs777 would be out alone at night, walking home just simply would not happen anyway. So this conversation has no relevance really to us.
I would pick her up no matter where or when that might be IF she did not have her car. Say if she wanted to drink. I have also said that if she wanted to drink I would take all of them and pick them all up.
That offer has been taken up and they have all been grateful for that offer. I did it willingly and my main thoughts are that mrs777 gets home safe and sound.
That is a caring and sensible attitude to have. It ain't controlling or Sexist, it is just pure common sense.
A lot of women get into trouble simply by being out on their own at night, and as I have stated before a lot of people would question why a lone female was out at night alone. Nowadays that is just plain silly and is never worth the risk.
The offence is no doubt caused by the presumption that women are less able to handle themselves in the urban jungle described than men.
Anyway back to the topic.
Obviously the article is a nonsense, the Daily mail reporting stats manipulated by the Tories.
In terms of Bexleyheath and the Medway towns, two areas I have lived and drunk in many times, they are typical "city centres" and have the late night drink associated problems.
As for feeling safe, I usually feel safe in any evironment. I have been a victim of violent crime twice, once in a city centre in the small hours and once on a commuter train at 5pm.
Do I think its worse than 30 years ago? Nope, but then I was in Birmingham back then and it was alot scarier then than my local areas are now.
Do I think the level of drink fuelled crime late night in "city centres" is unacceptable? Yep, and it uses up way too much police and hospital time.
Do I think feral yobs rule the streets late at night in city centres. Yep, they always have and will continue to do so until we do something about our nations drink problem.
I've always found it better when perpetrating random acts of violence to remain sober....a clear head makes for a clean getaway
I don't think violent crime is any worse than before.
More a case of the media using what crime there is to sell papers, and in some cases those in power perhaps painting a slighter blacker picture to obtain / maintain funding levels.
If your unlucky, or in the wrong place at the wrong time, you will experience bad things, and that will effect your viewpoint.
Looking at crime historically, nothing has changed.
'They ran the grimy streets of Manchester and filled the city's courts and police cells, while the media described their codes and gang names in lurid detail - the Bengal Tigers, the Meadow Lads and the She Battery Mob.
But this wasn't another outbreak of modern gun crime, teenage stabbings or hoodie trouble-making. The 'scuttlers', as the whole of Britain learned to know and detest them, were a serious social problem in the 1870s and 80s. '
'They took over music halls, openly paraded with home-made weapons and staged fights where more than 500 young people took part.'
'The sheer number of young teenagers filling the newly-built Strangeways prison and other jails - led Manchester city council to petition the then home secretary for the return of flogging to punish violent crime.'
,,, let's hope so, we have to be proud of something!
lp
I see it very much as does Devon. There is no more violence perpetrated on the people of Britain now just more acknowledged and reported on violence due to the amount of information readily available.
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As for the sexist thing _ i believe in equality although i'm bloody sure that I'd make or take more issue about my daughter/mother/wife/friend walking home from somewhere late at night past pubs clubs through town centres than I would mt brother/father/mother/son/malefriend doing the same.
I'd prbably be well pissy with J if she felt she could walk home at night with the same sort of self assurity than myself. I might be wrong but im not that liberal yet and i think its obviously something my wife, oh I'm, sorry partner suffers with as a burden, her being the little woman obviously.
I'd always want to escort a woman home because i feel protective towards them. So bloody what if thats considered chauvenistic and really awful. For crying out loud strip me of everything I feel and shut me up. Take away my genitalia and make me purely androgenous make me one size fits all coloured grey make me without flavour and without thought or feeling with a set of basic instructions ending with "Dispose of in a responsible way when finished with"
I wouldn't want my wife to walk home on her own even if she wanted to. And if she demanded that right then I guess she would probably be a different person to the one I knew. I'd have to evaluate how i felt at the time not to make issue.
In some things, not all thank god, maybe i'm a throwback to previous generations and i'm happy to be so too.
Irony...
One thread moaning about a violent society...
Another stating that the answer is beating our kids...
Life? Don't talk to me about life...
Brain the size of a (Mars) planet and they call me an "old slagbag."
Sorry, wrong place :giggle:
unfortunately..we are a violent race ...
theres never going t obe peace on earth
unfortunately..we are a violent race ...
theres never going t obe peace on earth
I sort of don't believe this Joe as i'm a bit of an optomist and think that what man has acheived over the last few thousand years is incredible and that in the case4 of need and want eventually mankind step up to the mark. OK so it takes some weird stuff as regards inflicting pain and suffering getting but we eventually arrive at destinations.
Through evolution and civilisation I believe that we will come to a harmonious state in fact i'd go as far as to say that its inevitable. What does concern me in the odd idle though moment is that will we acheive that state as free thinking individuals or by that time will we be that much run by the state that effectively we'll all be human automotons. A brave new world indeed.
I think inner city life in the UK is pretty hostile territory, Rural parts much less so. . Don't see many fights of an evening up Glen Coe, , Although it was not always thus!
Nope, if you were looking for an example of rural harmony, Glencoe is probably not the ideal, given 1692 and all that.
Bit like choosing Stamford Bridge, Bannockburn, or Culloden.
It is a stunningly beautiful place though, you are lucky if you live there!
Mind you we were such a ferociously hostile nation at times, it's a wonder any place can claim to have an entirely peaceful history.
The older I get the more I recognise the genius of Douglas Adams.
More violent than what ???
So a man at his wits end lashes out, thank goodness the judge saw good sense
A man who fired a catapult at louts terrorising his home was yesterday backed by a judge.
Three teenagers had launched a bid for compensation but Judge Gareth Hawkesworth rejected their claims and said they had "brought this very much upon themselves".
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