Feeling low.

14 Nov 2011

This is by way of being a message to all you non-repliers out there. When I contact someone I am always polite, I check my spelling, grammar and punctuation and try to write as though I talking face to face to the person or persons concerned and yet so many do not even bother to reply, why ?, after all a simple "thanks but no thanks" would suffice.
I realise that as a mature single male I am never going to be inundated with requests to join in the fun n games but surely a reply is not beyond anyones capability.
We all know why we joined Swinging Heaven and why we have ads and photos but it would appear that some people are not aware that etiquette says that a request should receive a reply so with the festive season nearly upon us please lets be nice to each other.
And so to each and everyone of the good people on the site and that includes all administrative staff, " A very happy Christmas and a peaceful and properous New Year.
Mike. a.k.a. "oralnmore1"

14 Nov 2011

Hi Mike,
Nice profile, It's a bit early for Seasons Greeting but what the heck, the same to you mate.
Paddy.

14 Nov 2011

I don't think that 'normal' etiquette comes into play on here actually. Not when you consider how many messages some people receive, when clearly the person messaging them does not meet their criteria. It is also very time-consuming, replying to every message you receive. If 'normal' etiquette matters to you so much, then maybe people not responding is your measure of how unsuited they are to you.

14 Nov 2011

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14 Nov 2011

Quote by HugsnKisses
they are too fat , thin,old , young,hairy ?
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I have been told im all of them and more lol

14 Nov 2011

Well said Freckledbird. There isn't a set etiquette on this site or any other swing site. Just because someone messages you you shouldn't feel obligated to respond or feel under pressure to respond. I agree it's nice to have a polite message but I wouldn't reply if I wasn't suited. I wouldn't think it fair to start a conversation if nothing was going to happen, though in all fairness a polite "no thanks" should be in order.
*Kitty*

14 Nov 2011

Well said Freckledbird. There isn't a set etiquette on this site or any other swing site. Just because someone messages you you shouldn't feel obligated to respond or feel under pressure to respond. I agree it's nice to have a polite message but I wouldn't reply if I wasn't suited. I wouldn't think it fair to start a conversation if nothing was going to happen, though in all fairness a polite "no thanks" should be in order.
*Kitty*

14 Nov 2011

For those of you who haven't noticed it yet, each PM you get now has a 'Reply No' button at the bottom. If you click that it sends a preset message back to the sender saying something like:

Hi,
Thanks for taking the time to contact us but we would not be interested in meeting at this time.
Regards,
(your username)

;-)

14 Nov 2011

Quote by Cubes
For those of you who haven't noticed it yet, each PM you get now has a 'Reply No' button at the bottom. If you click that it sends a preset message back to the sender saying something like:
Hi,
Thanks for taking the time to contact us but we would not be interested in meeting at this time.
Regards,
(your username)

;-)
All well and good, but the ending 'not interested in meeting at this time' usually results in another pm saying, so when do you want to meet :sad:

14 Nov 2011

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
For those of you who haven't noticed it yet, each PM you get now has a 'Reply No' button at the bottom. If you click that it sends a preset message back to the sender saying something like:
Hi,
Thanks for taking the time to contact us but we would not be interested in meeting at this time.
Regards,
(your username)

;-)
All well and good, but the ending 'not interested in meeting at this time' usually results in another pm saying, so when do you want to meet :sad:
Yes... you never did come back with a date! :twisted:
:giggle: bolt

14 Nov 2011

Quote by Cubes
For those of you who haven't noticed it yet, each PM you get now has a 'Reply No' button at the bottom. If you click that it sends a preset message back to the sender saying something like:
Hi,
Thanks for taking the time to contact us but we would not be interested in meeting at this time.
Regards,
(your username)

;-)
All well and good, but the ending 'not interested in meeting at this time' usually results in another pm saying, so when do you want to meet :sad:
Yes... you never did come back with a date! :twisted:
:giggle: bolt

True, but when you asked me to meet for some hot, wet, sweaty fun, I didn't realise you meant you wanted the car washing, so think I will pass if you dont mind wink

14 Nov 2011

Mail on sites like this or even facebook, twitter and all the other sites is kinda like mail through your letterbox, just because we have a letterbox it doesn't mean we want everything that comes through it.
We all have a letterbox and we all want food but that doesn't mean we want all the "take away delivery menus" we get.
So just because we have a profile and an advert on here it doesn't mean we want all the mail we get, so let me ask you, do you reply to the junk mail you get ? do you contact the local take away and tell them "thanks for the menu but I don't want to order anything today" ?
So no, the ettiquette is not that everyone should reply to all the mails they get.
Some people get hundreds of mails a day and simply do not have the time to reply to everyone, some people will not reply because so many have had abuse in the past when they send a polite "thanks but no thanks" mail, some are just fed up with people not reading thier profiles and criteria and contacting them regardless and don't believe everyone deserves a reply.
We personally always reply to people but that is just our personal choice and we can do it because we rarely get mails anyway, but we do understand that this is not the case for everyone.
You do need to realise the above, otherwise it WILL depress you, understand the reasons why they don't reply, put yourself in the shoes of those you contact and most of all don't believe that you are going to be in the "not wanted on voyage" category, as an old git and former single male I can assure you, I got more meet offers when I was single than we ever get as a couple, many couples like older guys and actively seek them, even younger couples and younger single females, more mature females like to feel comfortable with thier peers, remember a six pack won't do you any harm, rugged good looks can be sexy, a cheeky smile can be endearing, but at the end of the day personality will get you laid wink

You have a big advantage over most of the men on here, you have a profile with information and pictures, that alone sets you above the majority.
The most important thing to remember is HAVE A GREAT CHRISTMAS

14 Nov 2011

Quote by woohoo
they are too fat , thin,old , young,hairy ?
.

I have been told im all of them and more lol

too short lol

15 Nov 2011

we all know how you feel. but actually if you got a reply for every offer you sent out, you also might find it a bit tedious to deal with. and some guys can send out hundreds of offers. it doesn't do your soul much good to keep reading a lot of polite 'no thank you's'.
really it doesn't, trust us.........

16 Nov 2011

If I answered every message I get on swinging heaven I'd have to spend up to 10 minutes a month replying, well in a good month anyway. Don't take it personally my friend, tis the way of things here. Most meetings and friendships will develop through the chatrooms or from social gatherings.

19 Nov 2011

Quote by skinny
If I answered every message I get on swinging heaven I'd have to spend up to 10 minutes a month replying, well in a good month anyway. Don't take it personally my friend, tis the way of things here. Most meetings and friendships will develop through the chatrooms or from social gatherings.

Haha, i dont know where you get all the spare time!