I’ve noticed that recently there seems to be a lot of judgemental comments in the forums.
Other users seem to take on a judge jury and executioner role, to which a pack hunt of various posts/posters pursues
As swingers I would have thought that we have absolutely no right to judge others or make outlandish claims towards other users, which to be honest appear often to cross the AUP barrier
I’ve noticed this at least three times in the last month or so and it almost appears to be coupled with some sort of swinging snobbery.
I guess I can be judgemental about some things Rob and a couple of them sex related issues. One would be that of safe sex. Those that practice barebacking are making a mistake. Another would be of people swinging (read cheating) behind their partners back, let's be honest about it, it's just plain old lying. Of course there are the extremely rare exceptions. So yeah, I guess i am pretty much judge jury and executioner in respect to this.
I guess people, and I include myself in this, can be extremely vociferous when slapping away on keyboard in a way that they can't be face to face and use this to be able to fully vent vent feelings ideas and opinions without having to be polite.
People are not judgemental because they are swingers, neither will they be non-judgemental because they are swingers, we are judgemental because we are humans.
It is quite simply a human trait and one which we need.
The OP is judgemental, I am judgemental, everyone is.
A , do we judge them and decide what they do is wrong, or do we let them get on with it.
All laws a based on what we as a nation judge to be right or wrong.
As humans we cannot decide what we are going to judge people on and what would be wrong to judge them on, we make our own judgements with everything we do.
Gays, Lesbians, Transvestites, kissing in swinging, bareback sex, theft, lying, attaining wealth, how we dress, how we style our hair, everything is judged upon in our daily lives.
Saying some people are being judgemental is a judgemental statement.
It is like labels, try living your life without them.
The only thing we can do is hope that our judgements are based on the right reasoning and information and listening to other peoples judgements when they differ from our own, listening to their reasons for feeling the way they do and making, yes another judgement as to that being right or wrong in our own eyes/mind/judgement.
I would like to say I am non judge mental but I know it is a natural thought process. What I try and use is tact when conversing either orally or in type with people.
Often I have found not all my judgement is negative there can be many positive judgements all going on it my head together. what I have always done within my life in many situtations when dealing with people is highlight the positives that I find as most of the time I see more of those than the negatives.
What I find is for some they only seem to have vision to see negatives which seem to consume them which can also be the way they converse with others. Which is apparent when you sometimes read and hear continued dialogue that doesn't just happen on here it can happen anywhere in life.
I also think we live in an age where it seems someone has to be blamed for things. Which drives a defend and attack mentality.
When you mixed the two of the above together you will never see a resolution.
I personally can't waste my time in battle so I prefer a resolution even if it means to cut off all dialogue with people I feel that is the best solution for both parties and let each other get on with their lives the way they like to conduct it.
Ancient Chinese proverb.....
Judging a person does not define them.... It defines you
Some age-old wisdom I try to apply when interpreting the written word is to 'always assume positive intent'. It works great at most times, but some people consistently make it difficult. :lol2:
I Judge. So must you, if you agree or not, with the last statement or the next.
So what?
