some of you may be using the new messenger ..we do think its fab..we have never bothered with face book and we have always kept our messenger separate to anything vanilla..
so ...
let me talk to you about connections..
many of you..we know cos we have you on msn use just one account for both vanilla and swinging..with the many new ways folk can network friends and contacts are you all sure thats wise?
example today i had a notification via my msn network that one of our pals..a swinger..had become part of another girls network, a swinger we know of recognise her picture on her network and do not have on our network or profile, that gave us a click to go visit this other persons profile page..where we discovered her network of pals..including the business she works at ..one that possibly could be sensitive to her swinging activity...
this is the point im making ...can you lot be aware of the capabilities of who and what you allow onto your messenger and face book contacts, we arent malicious and by no means the most techy minded but someone that is could run riot with just a few clicks ..or for that matter ..your boss can see a whole lot more than you may have bargained for..
imagine... them seeing...
eg;
oooh sophie smith (made up name)..my child minder..has lots of freinds called cock hungry whore swinging sally big dick phil chameleons all nighter and tranny dave..whats more all thier tags have sexuall references to them.. tranny dave has said cant wait ot see sophie at the gang bang Thursday and so on..
of course some of you wont care a hoot..some of you wont understand what im on about and some of you will see the implications of networks on the sites i talk about , the links are not in your control..thats the bit to remember..if you use a profile or email address that crosses two aspects of your life then people can easily make the connection and people will go looking for connections of this sort...
discuss and enlighten me because im still learning the potential pitfalls..im not scare mongering and i know what im saying is right..that girl we saw earlier ive no doubt is currently unaware of how her employer can with two clicks trace her back to the swinging scene !
Have you told her, Wrats?
im telling all of you,, she will be told when i get chance
It is all very invasive isnt it? I havent joined in with the whole "add to your network "thing as I can't be bothered, but I don't think we should be able to view peoples status and friends unless they specifically tick a box to allow it.
Are there privacy settings ?
there are privacy settings on EVERYTHING, I got a bit lost with the OP as it was difficult to read, but I'm pretty tech savvy and I know no one has any info on me from any of my accounts that I haven't chosen to keep public. people who are worried just need to pay more attention to the settings on any site or program they use, and people who don't care don't need to worry either.
i have 3 mail accounts and 3 facebook accounts i am also one of these people who doesnt mind if vanilla friends finds out about my swing side but i only tell casual people my real name ..i am mostly on my 'sara' msn account so dont use my real account anymore other than to collect mail from people who have that account from pre-swing times. i also have a work mail account and only use that for work purposes it is not an msn account
Mr KK doesnt use facebook or any networking sites which makes life easier, but I do use one msn for swinging and vanilla. However with facebook, although I have about 5 swinging friends on there they are ones we socialise with more than swing, I don't plan to adding every swinger I chat to on facebook - I just ignore requests. Its too high a risk. I also dont have any face pics on my public profile.
Although to be honest a little digging and I am sure someone who knows what they are doing could dig up my dirt easily.
I would like to remain more private, but when we chat to new people one of the first questions is do we have a face pic!
oh that happened me other day. i am now trying to remove ppl i have on my msn away from friends on there.
has a guy i chat to actually added a friend. who is none swinger. via that msn network thingy.
then to my shock she sent me an open msg on face book mentioning the guy for all too see. omg, saying he was being rather flirty. . i was rather shocked. tracked him down and told him what i thought?
to me he should ignored that network thing? clearly showing it was friend off mine etc.
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two accounts is the easy answer..keep your swinging life separate.. totally separate ..or the networks will be your downfall ..glad to see this thread hasnt been a waste ffo time and one or two of you have spotted what i meant ..
To be honest I have facebook and myspace.
But I keep my swinging life on here
never mention it anywhere else.
I also have friends from north east room
as friends on facebook and we all agree tho keep things quiet.
Although I have almost been caught out
or unintentionally made a comment
that could place my "swinging" friends
in the shit
yay for ..
I use a different mail address for messenger and for facebook.
the couple of people I've met on swinger sites and added on facebook are private and level headed enough not to mention sex on facebook
No nettlog
No facebook
No nettwork
just msn....the others not for me
trav.....
) and I wouldn't dream of making the connection public. That place is a completely separate entity to this one and I have to tone it down bigtime on Facebook because half my family can read it! :scared:
Far as swinging goes, just this profile here and on the THI forum.
