should we renew membership on sh?

9 Nov 2011

maybe if you showed some photos you might get a meet? why would anyone in their right mind send a email to a couple with no photos? that's just what I think....
regarding the pool. it is a busy chat room. and I know loads who go in that room. and join others and don't even chat in the pool. just stay in there to check who comes on.. they should only let you go in one room really.
regarding not being a sex site. I " also" know loads of couples who get reg meets.. i think it just the moody ones who don't seem to pull. not sure what that is to be honest

9 Nov 2011

Quote by SinSi
i always thought this was a swinging site not a sex site

Sorry sara, I meant swinging rather than a social net working site :thumbup:
Well I'm still inundated with ironing requests so it can't be all bad :thumbup:
Oh can I make a request? I have two baskets of ironing if you fancy helping out :dunno:

11 Nov 2011

Quote by nostringsluton
maybe if you showed some photos you might get a meet? why would anyone in their right mind send a email to a couple with no photos? that's just what I think....
regarding the pool. it is a busy chat room. and I know loads who go in that room. and join others and don't even chat in the pool. just stay in there to check who comes on.. they should only let you go in one room really.
regarding not being a sex site. I " also" know loads of couples who get reg meets.. i think it just the moody ones who don't seem to pull. not sure what that is to be honest

I must say I do chat in the room, but spend lots of time whispering to a few friends that I meet. That is not to say I will not chat with new friends.
...and yes I do look at cams.
Travis

11 Nov 2011

we have found that far too many people are on here to look and maybe chat but not actually meet. Many just seem to collect friends as if it is a popularity contest.
There are also a large number of single guys posing as couples. I do sympathise with them, but it's not helpful.
All these criticisms can probably be levelled at most other sites though and there are plenty of others. You pays your money, you take your choice

11 Nov 2011

Yes ... if you want to
No ... if you don't want to
It is what it is, if you find it doesn't do what you want, don't use it, if it does use it....don't use pliers if you want a spanner

11 Nov 2011

Quote by Staggerlee_BB
Yes ... if you want to
No ... if you don't want to
It is what it is, if you find it doesn't do what you want, don't use it, if it does use it....don't use pliers if you want a spanner

This is my new catch phrase .. ty staggers! xx

14 Nov 2011

Quote by Dawnie
I have been a member for quite a few years now and only some here occasionally to keep in touch. I think it's sad that so many people are leaving but I'm not really that surprised. Since the changes that have happened, in the last 5 years or so, something fundamental has also gone. If I knew what it was I'd happily highlight it and hope it would change back. But I too find I have had many meets off other sites but any meets from here have totally dried up.

IMHO whats missing is a sex. We rarely have threads on sex and the chatrooms is based on displaying sex and not getting meets for sex

Quote by bbw_loverNkitty
I can't help feeling that the current design, and the way the site appears to be going, gives the impression of a social networking site. And it didn't help the fact that the site changed from one thing to the next, almost at random. Even the Forums haven't recovered from this. There's nothing wrong with changes, and people aren't afraid of them. What people are afraid of is changing the site into something else. And sadly this is what has happened. Instead if taking the strengths and building on it, changes were implemented without any apparent due care and consideration.

Completely agree with you, however............

Quote by bbw_loverNkitty
There were many of us who had predicted this would happen and, judging from the comments, it looks like it has. I hope something can be done before it's too late. This used to be the best swinging site on the net but that is no longer the case and hasn't been for years now.

I do know that 'admin' are looking to turn this place back into a more sex related site, although I'm not too sure they know how yet confused

Feel free to make suggestions :thumbup:
Well at least they're willing to admit it now. The stumbling block had been their refusal to admit their was a problem, so that's progress of sorts. How do we change it back? It won't be easy and will require a complete rethink of the current design of the site. Swinging is for adults but the site, with it's 'My Little Pony' colours and layout doesn't look very adult. I need to give it more serious thought before I can come up ith any constructive comments, but there may be a way to turn it around?

14 Nov 2011

I think that with a lot of 'sites', they developed along with the development of the internet, social networking and technology. That along the way there was as many changes and developments in the purpose of the site as with its capability to utilise them.
At the outset it was like coming into a room where an intimate and friendly party was going on and just about everyone could squeeze in. But later it became too big and people had to 'talk amongst themselves' and make their own fun in the reaches of an ever expanding location.
It seems like the internet has hit a wall and its got confusing and misleading, and its knocked a lot of hope and expectation out of using it. Which makes one think that's what is happening on individual sites and also with one's memberships and ultimately one's own lifestyle.
My advice is not to put it at the centre of what you do. Its an accessory.
So I don't see any use in looking to find blame in it all. And it won't go back to what it was, now.

14 Nov 2011

Quote by duncanlondon
I think that with a lot of 'sites', they developed along with the development of the internet, social networking and technology. That along the way there was as many changes and developments in the purpose of the site as with its capability to utilise them.
At the outset it was like coming into a room where an intimate and friendly party was going on and just about everyone could squeeze in. But later it became too big and people had to 'talk amongst themselves' and make their own fun in the reaches of an ever expanding location.
It seems like the internet has hit a wall and its got confusing and misleading, and its knocked a lot of hope and expectation out of using it. Which makes one think that's what is happening on individual sites and also with one's memberships and ultimately one's own lifestyle.
My advice is not to put it at the centre of what you do. Its an accessory.
So I don't see any use in looking to find blame in it all. And it won't go back to what it was, now.

Not sure I agree with this. It is meant to be a swinging site, and some people pay good money on that assumption. Over the years it seems to have 'borrowed' so heavily from Facebook et al, that the swinging part of it has become incidental.
If you got in your car one day and it failed to start would you sit in the driver's seat making 'brum, brum' noises, or would just shrug your shoulders and decide you may as well just walk? I'm willing to bet you'd be quite annoyed, and be anxious to get it fixed. And as quickly as possible.
*lover*

16 Nov 2011

Quote by kaz_allen
our membership is on monday! can anyone tell us why we should renew? no meets off here! n since we had new chat u can never get in the pool,,,whats the point?
kaz n allen
cheers guys!

hi all my 1st post in the forum! for me personally have only met once through a chatroom and i think the reason being is that im a genuine single average guy competing with 1000s of others BUT i do send out nice msgs to people who take my fancy and have had 6 meets this year alone (5 fems, 1 couple) the msg is dont give up there are genuine people out there but can be so bloody frustrating in finding them! just think of the rewards matt x x

16 Nov 2011

Quote by matt0072
hi all my 1st post in the forum! for me personally have only met once through a chatroom and i think the reason being is that im a genuine single average guy competing with 1000s of others BUT i do send out nice msgs to people who take my fancy and have had 6 meets this year alone (5 fems, 1 couple) the msg is dont give up there are genuine people out there but can be so bloody frustrating in finding them! just think of the rewards matt x x

Hi, and :welcome: to the forums! You took your time getting here! :lol2:

19 Nov 2011

Quote by kaz_allen
our membership is on monday! can anyone tell us why we should renew? no meets off here! n since we had new chat u can never get in the pool,,,whats the point?
kaz n allen
cheers guys!

Did you decide to renew?
What made you decide to stay?

20 Nov 2011

Morning all,
I for one would be sorry to see Kaz and Allen leave a very nice gen couple which is what this site needs more.
As for this site being a sex site, your right in saying in your comments this was set up as a swinging site first and foremost.
I don't know about everyone else but surely swinging in its whole is a social networking set up. You meet people, you see if you get on with them and then you decide as a set if anything else is going to happen going forward.
Nobody said you join and you get sex with other couples. It gives you the opportunity to meet like minded people with similar interests in a welcoming and open chat environment or via adverts of forum posts.
I have been a member on this site now for several years and have had some great meets even if rare at times and have met some great m8s we can socialise with as friends and talk openly about this lifestyle, which I'm sure many do not have with vanilla friends or family.
You are only ever going to get out of a site what you put into it, and that sometimes requires more effort than posting a message in chat saying, anyone want a shag in Such and such area.
Admittedly some of the changes made to the site have not always enhanced it but given that admin requested feed back several times I'm sure they went with what the majority wanted.
Either way to us Swinging is defiantly a social networking event. Surely Dogging was created for casual non social sex???And I'm sure even at dogging sites folks get rejected or don't succeed every time they go to have fun.
Sorry rambled a bit

20 Nov 2011

Well Kaz an Allen are still about by the looks of it, an why not you don't have to pay to be a member of SH. You can have a free profile on SH, a little limited in what you can do with it. It's not membership that you pay for but the privileges required to use the site.

20 Nov 2011

Quote by matt0072
hi all my 1st post in the forum! for me personally have only met once through a chatroom and i think the reason being is that im a genuine single average guy competing with 1000s of others BUT i do send out nice msgs to people who take my fancy and have had 6 meets this year alone (5 fems, 1 couple) the msg is dont give up there are genuine people out there but can be so bloody frustrating in finding them! just think of the rewards matt x x

:welcome: to the forum Matt!
Oh and yes, the rewards can be very fun! wink

20 Nov 2011

This is a great post! :thumbup:

Quote by Liamnsteve
Morning all,
I for one would be sorry to see Kaz and Allen leave a very nice gen couple which is what this site needs more.
As for this site being a sex site, your right in saying in your comments this was set up as a swinging site first and foremost.
I don't know about everyone else but surely swinging in its whole is a social networking set up. You meet people, you see if you get on with them and then you decide as a set if anything else is going to happen going forward.
Nobody said you join and you get sex with other couples. It gives you the opportunity to meet like minded people with similar interests in a welcoming and open chat environment or via adverts of forum posts.
I have been a member on this site now for several years and have had some great meets even if rare at times and have met some great m8s we can socialise with as friends and talk openly about this lifestyle, which I'm sure many do not have with vanilla friends or family.
You are only ever going to get out of a site what you put into it, and that sometimes requires more effort than posting a message in chat saying, anyone want a shag in Such and such area.
Admittedly some of the changes made to the site have not always enhanced it but given that admin requested feed back several times I'm sure they went with what the majority wanted.
Either way to us Swinging is defiantly a social networking event. Surely Dogging was created for casual non social sex???And I'm sure even at dogging sites folks get rejected or don't succeed every time they go to have fun.
Sorry rambled a bit

20 Nov 2011

Quote by Liamnsteve
As for this site being a sex site, your right in saying in your comments this was set up as a swinging site first and foremost.
I don't know about everyone else but surely swinging in its whole is a social networking set up.

Thank you for saying that. Quite a few times I have been told that "this is a sex site" and I find it *extremely* patronising. What people usually mean when they say this to me is that I should put out, or at least not complain when they objectify/commodify me.

20 Nov 2011

Quote by pebble
As for this site being a sex site, your right in saying in your comments this was set up as a swinging site first and foremost.
I don't know about everyone else but surely swinging in its whole is a social networking set up.

Thank you for saying that. Quite a few times I have been told that "this is a sex site" and I find it *extremely* patronising. What people usually mean when they say this to me is that I should put out, or at least not complain when they objectify/commodify me.
I completely understand this.
However, whenever I have used the term "this is a sex site", it is not to objectify individuals, and infer that they should put out on that basis, but that this is not Facebook, and discussing sex, or approaching someone for sex, should not be discouraged and made to feel it is wrong.
If I were to approach someone on Facebook for sex, I wouldn't consider that to be a proper or appropriate place to do so, to approach someone here (on a sex site) should be seen as acceptable, unless of course someones profile states quite clearly that they are not currently meeting.

21 Nov 2011

agreed exxex i have a few swinger friends on facebook and i feel weird when the topic is about blatant sex even in messaging on there i have even been known to block and delete friends because they couldnt talk about anything else on it

21 Nov 2011

Quote by essex34m
As for this site being a sex site, your right in saying in your comments this was set up as a swinging site first and foremost.
I don't know about everyone else but surely swinging in its whole is a social networking set up.

Thank you for saying that. Quite a few times I have been told that "this is a sex site" and I find it *extremely* patronising. What people usually mean when they say this to me is that I should put out, or at least not complain when they objectify/commodify me.
I completely understand this.
However, whenever I have used the term "this is a sex site", it is not to objectify individuals, and infer that they should put out on that basis, but that this is not Facebook, and discussing sex, or approaching someone for sex, should not be discouraged and made to feel it is wrong.
If I were to approach someone on Facebook for sex, I wouldn't consider that to be a proper or appropriate place to do so, to approach someone here (on a sex site) should be seen as acceptable, unless of course someones profile states quite clearly that they are not currently meeting.
Hi Essex,
I can see where you coming from but primarily this is not a sex site but a swinging site. There are ways of approaching anyone for sex and respect should still be given at all times.
If someone is not very forthcoming with what they are looking for and not being very helpful to you then I would suggest you move on and chat to someone who follows the same interests and you are enjoying chatting to.
After all even if you met someone in a club and they didn't want to talk to you or very forth coming with chat, even in a swinging club, I'm pretty sure you would move on an chat to others. This is no different, surely? Just because your in type text and not face to face common sense and politeness on both parties should follow, although I know this is not always the case.
I am not trying to imply you don't respect people or that you are rude or force your topic onto people but I do know some guys who would and do, and once rejected get rude.
I hope this didn't come across as aimed at you Essex as that was not what I was trying to explain. This is a swinging site so maybe for some guys the first line shouldnt be, wow, great tits can we see more?