How very sad... And what a shock....
Sympathy to his partner and family.
Didn't know him in any other way other than through here - but still a shock.
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Gem, our heart goes out to you, and also to Neil's family. Completely shocked by the news and just cant express in words just how sorry we both are.
We first met Neil at one of Blue's parties and he noticed we was both feeling a little nervous and he came over to chat and help us relax. Then went on to meet him a so many other events, munches, socials etc and he always had time to chat, time to say hello and time to make us both smile. Such a brilliant character, fantastic sense of humour and he will be so sadly missed.
We first met Neil at one of Blue's parties and he noticed we was both feeling a little nervous and he came over to chat and help us relax. Then went on to meet him a so many other events, munches, socials etc and he always had time to chat, time to say hello and time to make us both smile. Such a brilliant character, fantastic sense of humour and he will be so sadly missed.
I think the "fancy a chat" section of the forums should be renamed "Neil invites you to chat" as a lasting tribute to someone who made the forums interesting, agree with him, disagree with him you could never ignore him or respect him.
There are currently listed, 87 pages of individual threads that Neil contributed to if you care to search the forums, with an average of 15 threads on each page, 1300 topics on which he took the time to put his opinion, more than once on many of them.
His contribution to the forums deserves a lasting token of appreciation.
There are currently listed, 87 pages of individual threads that Neil contributed to if you care to search the forums, with an average of 15 threads on each page, 1300 topics on which he took the time to put his opinion, more than once on many of them.
His contribution to the forums deserves a lasting token of appreciation.
Sex God
Bumpkin, who is no longer on this site but knew Neil, sends his commiserations.
Quote by MidsCouple24
I think the "fancy a chat" section of the forums should be renamed "Neil invites you to chat" as a lasting tribute to someone who made the forums interesting, agree with him, disagree with him you could never ignore him or respect him.
There are currently listed, 87 pages of individual threads that Neil contributed to if you care to search the forums, with an average of 15 threads on each page, 1300 topics on which he took the time to put his opinion, more than once on many of them.
His contribution to the forums deserves a lasting token of appreciation.
Absolutely agree with you Mids 1000%. What a brilliant idea, and one I hope the site owners will look into.
Sex God
We shall miss his forum posts.
Whilst some might disagree with his views you cannot say that they weren't well researched and helped make for informed debate, when needed, or just progressed the banter.
Greatly missed by those who knew him via the forums, so for those knowing him elsewhere we can only begin to comprehend he hole he'll leave in their lives, though his posts will remain seemingly forever for anyone wishing a reminder.
Whilst some might disagree with his views you cannot say that they weren't well researched and helped make for informed debate, when needed, or just progressed the banter.
Greatly missed by those who knew him via the forums, so for those knowing him elsewhere we can only begin to comprehend he hole he'll leave in their lives, though his posts will remain seemingly forever for anyone wishing a reminder.
Sex God
I just had a conversation on the phone with Angel Chat and she said she'd just written a really long message to someone and had lost it all cause the login timed out while she'd gone to make dinner. It properly made me snort cause I remember many times Nellie telling us off for not copying and pasting cause he'd done it loads of times after he'd written a mahoosive ranty clever post, edited it fifteen hundred times and then lost the whole lot because of the automatic logout. It's never the same second time round!
Then he shouted at his computer!! :fuckinghell: :giggle:
There's a lesson in there... I learnt it from Neil! :haha::haha::haha:
Then he shouted at his computer!! :fuckinghell: :giggle:
There's a lesson in there... I learnt it from Neil! :haha::haha::haha:
Sex God
bye Neil. the world has lost yet another good man
R.I.P :sad:
R.I.P :sad:
As others have said it is a long time since we met, but that doesn't mean any of us forget you.
You were quirky, you were fun, you were an all-round top bloke. I just know you will be 'up there' or 'down there ;)' smiling and having a laugh at the memories we left with you as our paths crossed. As each of us post in here I'm sure you will be saying something along the lines of "I remember........." just as we are all doing about you.
There are no real words to say apart from "Are there any munches where you are? ;)"
RIP Neil you will never be forgotten.:rose:
You were quirky, you were fun, you were an all-round top bloke. I just know you will be 'up there' or 'down there ;)' smiling and having a laugh at the memories we left with you as our paths crossed. As each of us post in here I'm sure you will be saying something along the lines of "I remember........." just as we are all doing about you.
There are no real words to say apart from "Are there any munches where you are? ;)"
RIP Neil you will never be forgotten.:rose:
Another one who wishes I wasn't logging in for the first time in years under these circumstances, but I agree with Gem that this feels like the right place to talk about Neil. It all feels like a bit of a surreal conversation to be having, to be honest, but I felt drawn back here to the conversation anyway.
Neil was one of the people at the core of 'the gang' who made this whole SH world such an amazing, exciting, welcoming, bizarre and wonderful place for a couple of years way back when I first found it. He and so many others became real, lifelong friends of mine because of that time, and although that era fizzled to an end eventually, the friendships didn't and I am so grateful for that.
Neil is so central to my memories of whole nights spent furiously typing away on the forums, those nights when everything you read made you think, argue, laugh and think again, when the threads were filling up so quickly you couldn't refresh the page fast enough to keep up. Neil's posts were often thoughtful, usually witty, sometimes silly, sometimes political, always articulate and intelligent. He was an absolute pleasure to be with online. He made me think, and a few times he genuinely changed my point of view on something, which not many people have ever been able to do.
He was an absolute pleasure to be with in real life as well. His bony, skinny, tight hugs were some of the ones I looked forward to most when I saw everyone (every other weekend, it seemed, at the height of it!) and his conversation was as sparkling in real life as it was on the forums, which couldn't be said for all (most?!) of us! He could always be relied upon for a deep-and-meaningful putting the worlds to rights conversation, as much as for a bit of nonsense and silly dancing!
My favourite memory of Nellie was an after munch hotel room get-together, when he fell asleep in a chair in the corner and proceeded to sleep through all the shenanigans going on around him, except to wake up hours into the proceedings, sit bolt upright, shout 'ELBOW!!!!' at the top of his voice and immediately go straight back to sleep. We used to giggle like little girls every time we saw each other after that when one of us remembered to drop 'elbow' into the conversation. I love that he was a total giggler, as well as a thoroughly clever, articulate and passionate man.
He is just such a loss to the world. Gem, we haven't stopped thinking about you since we heard the news, and we just can't imagine what you're going through. I hope it helps a little bit to know how much he was loved.
xxxx
Neil was one of the people at the core of 'the gang' who made this whole SH world such an amazing, exciting, welcoming, bizarre and wonderful place for a couple of years way back when I first found it. He and so many others became real, lifelong friends of mine because of that time, and although that era fizzled to an end eventually, the friendships didn't and I am so grateful for that.
Neil is so central to my memories of whole nights spent furiously typing away on the forums, those nights when everything you read made you think, argue, laugh and think again, when the threads were filling up so quickly you couldn't refresh the page fast enough to keep up. Neil's posts were often thoughtful, usually witty, sometimes silly, sometimes political, always articulate and intelligent. He was an absolute pleasure to be with online. He made me think, and a few times he genuinely changed my point of view on something, which not many people have ever been able to do.
He was an absolute pleasure to be with in real life as well. His bony, skinny, tight hugs were some of the ones I looked forward to most when I saw everyone (every other weekend, it seemed, at the height of it!) and his conversation was as sparkling in real life as it was on the forums, which couldn't be said for all (most?!) of us! He could always be relied upon for a deep-and-meaningful putting the worlds to rights conversation, as much as for a bit of nonsense and silly dancing!
My favourite memory of Nellie was an after munch hotel room get-together, when he fell asleep in a chair in the corner and proceeded to sleep through all the shenanigans going on around him, except to wake up hours into the proceedings, sit bolt upright, shout 'ELBOW!!!!' at the top of his voice and immediately go straight back to sleep. We used to giggle like little girls every time we saw each other after that when one of us remembered to drop 'elbow' into the conversation. I love that he was a total giggler, as well as a thoroughly clever, articulate and passionate man.
He is just such a loss to the world. Gem, we haven't stopped thinking about you since we heard the news, and we just can't imagine what you're going through. I hope it helps a little bit to know how much he was loved.
xxxx
My first encounter with him was at a Wakefield Munch ('05? '06? ). I did a double take as he was a spitting image for a certain time traveller ;) 
Orgasminator
Everyone has said all I want to say. Neil was just such an amazing person. I'm still sad after hearing the news so I have no idea how his close friends and family are feeling.
I'm now actually stuck for words. The world has lost a truly great person.
I'm now actually stuck for words. The world has lost a truly great person.
Sex God
What is there to say that hasn't been said already?
Such a sad loss. I never met Neil but through his posts on here I felt he was a kindred spirit in many ways.
His posts on here were always insightful, thoughtful, considerate and displayed a sense of empathy, humour, compassion and understanding that few could match. By the eulogies from those that met him on here, it is clear that he displayed these same qualities in all other aspects of his all-too-brief life.
I think Neil would probably be embarrassed at the depth of feeling he's generated on here. But I think humility is an endearing trait and although he probably never realised it - it is heartening to see how many lives he influenced for the better - even in the briefest of moments.
I hope it is some consolation to those closest to him, to know how he impacted so many people's lives so positively.
Rezzer x
Such a sad loss. I never met Neil but through his posts on here I felt he was a kindred spirit in many ways.
His posts on here were always insightful, thoughtful, considerate and displayed a sense of empathy, humour, compassion and understanding that few could match. By the eulogies from those that met him on here, it is clear that he displayed these same qualities in all other aspects of his all-too-brief life.
I think Neil would probably be embarrassed at the depth of feeling he's generated on here. But I think humility is an endearing trait and although he probably never realised it - it is heartening to see how many lives he influenced for the better - even in the briefest of moments.
I hope it is some consolation to those closest to him, to know how he impacted so many people's lives so positively.
Rezzer x
Sex God
Im so shocked and upset to hear the sad news about Neil.
Gem Im sending you all my love and best wishes.
All I can say is I have watched as your romance blossomed over the years,
I have had the pleasure of your company on many occasions,had so many laughs, hugs and many happy times.
All those lovely memories we made are forever.
You know my number Gem, xxxxxxxxxxx
Gem Im sending you all my love and best wishes.
All I can say is I have watched as your romance blossomed over the years,
I have had the pleasure of your company on many occasions,had so many laughs, hugs and many happy times.
All those lovely memories we made are forever.
You know my number Gem, xxxxxxxxxxx
Casanova
I cant put anything that hasnt been said much better by others.
Neil was one in a million, whenever i saw him at a munch he always had a big wide grin .....which always helped put me at ease.
He will be forever remembered fondly by everyone who was lucky enough to have crossed his path.
Gem you and neils family are in our thoughts and prayers, sending you strength and much love xx
Neil was one in a million, whenever i saw him at a munch he always had a big wide grin .....which always helped put me at ease.
He will be forever remembered fondly by everyone who was lucky enough to have crossed his path.
Gem you and neils family are in our thoughts and prayers, sending you strength and much love xx
Another one who is logging in after a long absence because of a very special man... I have laughed, cried with laughter, been amazed, learnt so much and fell in love with Nellie just from his forum posts... I only had the pleasure of meeting him once and I realised that what we saw on the forum was only scratching the surface of his wonderful personality.
Gem I can only imagine what you are going through and I send lots of cyber hugs and love.
Nellie you have no idea how much we are going to miss you
Gem I can only imagine what you are going through and I send lots of cyber hugs and love.
Nellie you have no idea how much we are going to miss you
Gem, when i read the post on Sunday on FB i was totally staggered and had to read it several times for it to sink in. I know what youre going thru and the hell you find yourself in.. im not going to say its gets easier with time.. cos for me the pain is still there.. but it gets easier to live with. Neil was a lovely man, always had time for a chat, and had this ability to make you feel welcome and wanted. Take strength from those closest to you.. dont be afraid to ask for help, people want to help and will do all they can. You will certainly find out who your real friends are! Much love Gem and stay as strong as u can xxx
Sex God
Our love and sympathy go out to you Gem.
RIP Neil, you will be missed.
Bambi & Bear69
XX--XX
RIP Neil, you will be missed.
Bambi & Bear69
XX--XX
Sex God
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Rest in peace Mr inleeds, nolongerinleeds, inleeds again :upset:
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Neilinheaven
Sex God
Pfft... No disrespect, but I don't think any of us are going to heaven :giggle: He'll be busy partying with Kev, Bart and the spaghetti monster ;)
Sex God
Can't really add to what i've said elsewhere other than he was a 100% top bloke- and this will also be the moment that defines the times I had the pleasure of his company :grin:
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My favourite memory of Nellie was an after munch hotel room get-together, when he fell asleep in a chair in the corner and proceeded to sleep through all the shenanigans going on around him, except to wake up hours into the proceedings, sit bolt upright, shout 'ELBOW!!!!' at the top of his voice and immediately go straight back to sleep. We used to giggle like little girls every time we saw each other after that when one of us remembered to drop 'elbow' into the conversation. I love that he was a total giggler, as well as a thoroughly clever, articulate and passionate man.
Sex God
I heard by e-mail earlier this evening but have only just got in. I still can't quite believe it.
I remember Neil so very well. From the days when Sappho and I were still relatively new on here, Neil was a great support and among those encouraging us to meet for real instead of only virtually. The wonderful family we have now bears its own witness to the wisdom of that advice.
Then there were the munches. He was wonderful company - and I couldn't have been more delighted when Gem and Neil got together. What a lovely couple they have always been.
Ultimately though, his posts will be both his legacy and his own tribute. Thoughtful, funny, challenging, insightful, mocking and occasionally downright daft.
I was genuinely shocked when I received this news and just had to come on here and pay my respects. The roll call of 'Old Schoolers', as Blue referred to us, is testament to the incredibly high regard in which he was held. I am proud to join the long list of those who wish we were back here under happier circumstances.
Gem - our hearts go out to you and you will be in our thoughts at this dreadful time.
His intellect was, for a long time, one of the highlights of this site.
Peace and rest to a fine man.
Requiescat in pace
Will (and Sappho too)
I remember Neil so very well. From the days when Sappho and I were still relatively new on here, Neil was a great support and among those encouraging us to meet for real instead of only virtually. The wonderful family we have now bears its own witness to the wisdom of that advice.
Then there were the munches. He was wonderful company - and I couldn't have been more delighted when Gem and Neil got together. What a lovely couple they have always been.
Ultimately though, his posts will be both his legacy and his own tribute. Thoughtful, funny, challenging, insightful, mocking and occasionally downright daft.
I was genuinely shocked when I received this news and just had to come on here and pay my respects. The roll call of 'Old Schoolers', as Blue referred to us, is testament to the incredibly high regard in which he was held. I am proud to join the long list of those who wish we were back here under happier circumstances.
Gem - our hearts go out to you and you will be in our thoughts at this dreadful time.
His intellect was, for a long time, one of the highlights of this site.
Peace and rest to a fine man.
Requiescat in pace
Will (and Sappho too)
Sex God
Quote by willxx69
I heard by e-mail earlier this evening but have only just got in. I still can't quite believe it.
I remember Neil so very well. From the days when Sappho and I were still relatively new on here, Neil was a great support and among those encouraging us to meet for real instead of only virtually. The wonderful family we have now bears its own witness to the wisdom of that advice.
Then there were the munches. He was wonderful company - and I couldn't have been more delighted when Gem and Neil got together. What a lovely couple they have always been.
Ultimately though, his posts will be both his legacy and his own tribute. Thoughtful, funny, challenging, insightful, mocking and occasionally downright daft.
I was genuinely shocked when I received this news and just had to come on here and pay my respects. The roll call of 'Old Schoolers', as Blue referred to us, is testament to the incredibly high regard in which he was held. I am proud to join the long list of those who wish we were back here under happier circumstances.
Gem - our hearts go out to you and you will be in our thoughts at this dreadful time.
His intellect was, for a long time, one of the highlights of this site.
Peace and rest to a fine man.
Requiescat in pace
Will
i must confess to spending a lot of time here since the news just reading through Niel's posts. 305 pages of them
I met Neil a few times in real life, the Wigan Munches mainly but like many others spent so much time on here reading his posts that it felt like I knew him better. He was articulate and funny and just a thoroughly nice guy, in real life and online...
My abiding memory of him is after a Wigan Munch, back in, oh, 2005 I guess and going with Angel Chat to get him and Little Gem a spare tyre after theirs blew-out on the M62. He was remarkably calm and relaxed standing on the hard shoulder... which was a huge testament to the guy to be so chilled out, considering LG's driving AND a tyre blow-out which had sent them across 3 lanes of traffic...
He was lovely. A truly nice guy.
My abiding memory of him is after a Wigan Munch, back in, oh, 2005 I guess and going with Angel Chat to get him and Little Gem a spare tyre after theirs blew-out on the M62. He was remarkably calm and relaxed standing on the hard shoulder... which was a huge testament to the guy to be so chilled out, considering LG's driving AND a tyre blow-out which had sent them across 3 lanes of traffic...
He was lovely. A truly nice guy.
Sex God
Fellow Yorkshireman. We shared a fair few evenings in forum banter. Only met him once but it was easy to see he was a gentleman too.
You've touched all of us and I'll be glad to share a proper drink with you later.
You've touched all of us and I'll be glad to share a proper drink with you later.
Sex God
Wish we were here under better circumstances too.
Thanks to a friend who messaged us the sad news which has left us speechless and really devastated at the loss.
Gem our hearts go out to you.
Nellie was without doubt one in a million. Like many have said his posts were many things but they were never dull and we too remember fondly the nights spent refreshing pages of the forum and laughing aloud and some of the nonsense that many of the “old school” have eluded to.
He’ll always have a special place in our hearts as someone we got to look forward to seeing at munches. From WRATS parties to Room 307, LadyFeeBee and I swapping identity badges with him and Gem after an “unfortunate incident” at a NW Munch (we still have their badges), his awesome legs in thigh high boots (I kid you not) and just the cuddles, the laughs and the intelligent conversation……albeit that was only the start of the pre drinks, it went downhill from there!
I’ll raise a glass to him tonight and we’ll share fond memories of what was for us the SH heyday of forums, friends and a shit load of fun.
It’s nice to see all the old guard here. It’s been a long time indeed
xxx
The Laird and LadyFeeBee
Thanks to a friend who messaged us the sad news which has left us speechless and really devastated at the loss.
Gem our hearts go out to you.
Nellie was without doubt one in a million. Like many have said his posts were many things but they were never dull and we too remember fondly the nights spent refreshing pages of the forum and laughing aloud and some of the nonsense that many of the “old school” have eluded to.
He’ll always have a special place in our hearts as someone we got to look forward to seeing at munches. From WRATS parties to Room 307, LadyFeeBee and I swapping identity badges with him and Gem after an “unfortunate incident” at a NW Munch (we still have their badges), his awesome legs in thigh high boots (I kid you not) and just the cuddles, the laughs and the intelligent conversation……albeit that was only the start of the pre drinks, it went downhill from there!
I’ll raise a glass to him tonight and we’ll share fond memories of what was for us the SH heyday of forums, friends and a shit load of fun.
It’s nice to see all the old guard here. It’s been a long time indeed
xxx
The Laird and LadyFeeBee
Sex God
Nice to see you back mate- give her exquisiteness a kiss from me
Sex God
There is little I can say that hasn't already been said much more eloquently.
Time passes too quickly and before you know it years have passed by. Neil was a good friend, a great laugh and a complete loon. Many evenings on the forums and a good few parties spent drinking and talking bollocks.
Big hugs from Jan and I for you Gem - we will see you soon and give them in person.
Roger
Cheers Neil :cheers:, sorry I never got to have a last drink with you, sleep well.:sleeping:
Time passes too quickly and before you know it years have passed by. Neil was a good friend, a great laugh and a complete loon. Many evenings on the forums and a good few parties spent drinking and talking bollocks.
Big hugs from Jan and I for you Gem - we will see you soon and give them in person.
Roger
Cheers Neil :cheers:, sorry I never got to have a last drink with you, sleep well.:sleeping:
