I just wondered ... what people's turn offs are in relation to meeting someone off here for the first time?
Attraction - do you have to feel attracted to the other person before things go further? Or are looks not important to you?
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Turn Offs and Attraction
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This question gets raised time and again, in some format or other, and often the thread will deviate as it moves along.
No.1 turnoff is likely to be a question of hygiene rather than appearance.
As said so often, by me at any rate, the glint in the eye and the wicked curl of the lip often do more to turn me on than anything else. Nevertheless I do admire a pretty face, a size 8 to 10 figure and an amazingly cute bum. Slim hips and a smaller boob size are plus points... and of course saying "yes" as and when required is crucial.
I don't have to find someone especially attractive in order to have sex with them. ( I have been known to get a tongue lashing for this one.) On the other hand, I don't actually aim to meet anyone from this site with the intention of having sex with them.
No.1 turnoff is likely to be a question of hygiene rather than appearance.
As said so often, by me at any rate, the glint in the eye and the wicked curl of the lip often do more to turn me on than anything else. Nevertheless I do admire a pretty face, a size 8 to 10 figure and an amazingly cute bum. Slim hips and a smaller boob size are plus points... and of course saying "yes" as and when required is crucial.
I don't have to find someone especially attractive in order to have sex with them. ( I have been known to get a tongue lashing for this one.) On the other hand, I don't actually aim to meet anyone from this site with the intention of having sex with them.
Quote by skinny
This question gets raised time and again, in some format or other, and often the thread will deviate as it moves along.
No.1 turnoff is likely to be a question of hygiene rather than appearance.
As said so often, by me at any rate, the glint in the eye and the wicked curl of the lip often do more to turn me on than anything else. Nevertheless I do admire a pretty face, a size 8 to 10 figure and an amazingly cute bum. Slim hips and a smaller boob size are plus points... and of course saying "yes" as and when required is crucial.
I don't have to find someone especially attractive in order to have sex with them. ( I have been known to get a tongue lashing for this one.) On the other hand, I don't actually aim to meet anyone from this site with the intention of having sex with them.
No doubt there are probably plenty of similar posts that have built up over the years. Probably plenty more to come too. I just can't be arsed wading through them ;)
Thanks for the input. I think I'm also interested as it gives me something to compare to and wondered what others think
Sex God
Yes they have to be attractive, but that's a probably as hard to pin down what/why I'm attracted to someone as why I'm not.
Not exactly done a good job of answering really have I? ;-)
Not exactly done a good job of answering really have I? ;-)
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Yes they have to be attractive, but that's a probably as hard to pin down what/why I'm attracted to someone as why I'm not.
Not exactly done a good job of answering really have I? ;-)
Ummmm, you kinda lost me.
saying that, it's difficult trying to fathom anything on a hangover 
What were you saying about pinning down though :rascal:
Turn offs when dressed, bad breath, lousy manners, no sense of humour
Turn offs when undressed (or almost) y fronts, unkempt pubes, smeg *cough*
Turn on's when dressed, smile, sense of humor, drag me to bed eyes
Turn on's when undressed, well proportioned in all depts) strong arms, busy tongue.
Attraction I have eyes just for one, all the rest is just sex.
Turn offs when undressed (or almost) y fronts, unkempt pubes, smeg *cough*
Turn on's when dressed, smile, sense of humor, drag me to bed eyes
Turn on's when undressed, well proportioned in all depts) strong arms, busy tongue.
Attraction I have eyes just for one, all the rest is just sex.
I don't have a "type" so I find all sorts of people attractive for different reasons, some its body shape, tattoos, personality, great sense of humour, naughty twinkle in the eye, lips you just want to kiss over and over
I suppose some of my greatest turn offs have been unkempt body hair, no sense of humour, and ultimately just no spark of interest to meet them :sad:
I suppose some of my greatest turn offs have been unkempt body hair, no sense of humour, and ultimately just no spark of interest to meet them :sad:
unattractiveness to me is all in the personality...i.e. lack of
though they probably say the same about me... but thats good coz we both do ourselves a favour and don't waste each others time...
Attractiveness is the willing to chat and giggle...
though they probably say the same about me... but thats good coz we both do ourselves a favour and don't waste each others time...
Attractiveness is the willing to chat and giggle...
It's not necessarily physical attraction, it's more the chemistry I feel that makes me want to fall into bed with someone, a cheeky smile and a twinkle in the eye is always a bonus...
Turns off... Lack of personality, no sense of humour, inability to let go and have fun, then the usual like bad breath, poor hygiene and unkept body hair
Turns off... Lack of personality, no sense of humour, inability to let go and have fun, then the usual like bad breath, poor hygiene and unkept body hair
Warming the Bed
Attraction is more than just about good looks in my opinion.
There has to be a spark which doesn't have to be a visual spark. Sometimes it just feels like two people can be on the same wavelength, which can be a very horny thing.
There has to be a spark which doesn't have to be a visual spark. Sometimes it just feels like two people can be on the same wavelength, which can be a very horny thing.
Forum Virgin
Attraction is not looks per say for me but personality, creativity and quirkyness; so slim or cuddly, hairy or smooth, young or old is not as important, but it does add to the overall package.
focusing on 'appearance' for a woman my ideal would be a mature, slim, tatood burlesque/gothic/leather/business styled woman,smelling beautiful with a powerful front hiding a tender edge; and for a male it would be someone older, clean, well endowed and able to control their urge to cum.
Biggest put off and alarm bell: "I'm married and can't let my partner know" urgh, shame on you asshole!
Not experienced anything from here yet but looking forward to my first time
focusing on 'appearance' for a woman my ideal would be a mature, slim, tatood burlesque/gothic/leather/business styled woman,smelling beautiful with a powerful front hiding a tender edge; and for a male it would be someone older, clean, well endowed and able to control their urge to cum.
Biggest put off and alarm bell: "I'm married and can't let my partner know" urgh, shame on you asshole!
Not experienced anything from here yet but looking forward to my first time
Casanova
Quote by Toots
Turn offs when dressed, bad breath, lousy manners, no sense of humour
Turn offs when undressed (or almost) y fronts, unkempt pubes, smeg *cough*
Turn on's when dressed, smile, sense of humor, drag me to bed eyes
Turn on's when undressed, well proportioned in all depts) strong arms, busy tongue.
...and for the women?
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This question gets raised time and again, in some format or other, and often the thread will deviate as it moves along.
No.1 turnoff is likely to be a question of hygiene rather than appearance.
As said so often, by me at any rate, the glint in the eye and the wicked curl of the lip often do more to turn me on than anything else. Nevertheless I do admire a pretty face, a size 8 to 10 figure and an amazingly cute bum. Slim hips and a smaller boob size are plus points... and of course saying "yes" as and when required is crucial.
I don't have to find someone especially attractive in order to have sex with them. ( I have been known to get a tongue lashing for this one.) On the other hand, I don't actually aim to meet anyone from this site with the intention of having sex with them.
it's just the thought of not finding someone attractite and still being able to have sex! How do you keep it up?
nice ass, nice legs do it for me. petite.
It's the eyes.....
Sense of humour, well dressed, well groomed, sense of humour, nice eyes, nice lips, toned body, unique personality etc etc
You are all describing me it seems :thumbup:
You are all describing me it seems :thumbup:
Sexpert
There has to be a spark to start with. If the spark smolders a little and then catches fire I can't think of anything more attractive.
Don't have any time for self obsessed people, bad hygiene or rudeness.
Don't have any time for self obsessed people, bad hygiene or rudeness.
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There has to be a spark to start with. If the spark smolders a little and then catches fire I can't think of anything more attractive.
Don't have any time for self obsessed people, bad hygiene or rudeness.
Ohhhhh yes, rudeness. Don't get me started on that topic
Hit the nail on the head though
Forum Virgin
For us there has to be some physical attraction, although thats only initially.
Much more important is the ability to converse with a good and varied sense of humour without getting serious about life. Cleanliness and being well turned out are paramount. If they look like they made the effort its a great start. We find that we can tell whether there is any possibility of us wanting to take anything further from the content and way folk write. That may be wrong but its how it is for us. Good topic
Much more important is the ability to converse with a good and varied sense of humour without getting serious about life. Cleanliness and being well turned out are paramount. If they look like they made the effort its a great start. We find that we can tell whether there is any possibility of us wanting to take anything further from the content and way folk write. That may be wrong but its how it is for us. Good topic
Sexpert
Turn on= women in stockings.
Turn off= when she wears them over her face, points a shot gun at you and demands the content of the safe! Actually that's turning me on as well come to think of it
Turn off= when she wears them over her face, points a shot gun at you and demands the content of the safe! Actually that's turning me on as well come to think of it
