What Did You Expect

When you joined this site what did you expect to happen?

Did you expect to meet up with a single gorgeous female/male within the first few minutes/days who was a nymphomaniac and was dying to shag your brains out at every opportunity.

Did you expect the couples would fight over meeting you and pester you to meet them ,no matter the distance away you were from them, or their personal preferences?

Did you expect to have thousands of mails to your inbox when they saw your manhood or even womanhood lol

Did you realise that it takes time to build up a rapport with people and not everyone is dying to meet you, and how long did it take you to realise that?

One for the guys.

How long did it take you to realise that females don't drop their knickers at the sight of your appendage, no matter how many different angles the picture is taken from.

How long did it take you to realise that here, as in the real world, nothing is guaranteed in life.

Personally I have been really lucky in meeting people, and eventually meeting my partner on here a little over seven years ago but it took me over 13 years to do so.

The best way to look at this site.

Is with Humour, never take it or yourself seriously and have patience, there are socials now and again ,although not as many as there once was, probably cos of the price of going to them, fuel, hotels etc, but try and go to some of the ones that are still on.

If i had a £ for every time iv'e heard "This site is shite, I've/we've been here ten minutes and not one person has got in touch with me/us even although I/we have pestered the life out of them"

I would be richer than Elon, Bill and Mark 🙄

Put into this site what you would expect to put into life and you will all be fine.

woo

Spot on Woohoo ..... its simple for us, you get out, what you put in ...

Love it Woohoo 🎉

Very true. Crass one line messages, empty profiles and cock shots just don't cut it.

Eloquently put there Woohoo as I myself have realised as being a single male on here amongst many and also competing against much younger men too I only succeed in getting a few meets now and then.

However I have met some lovely couples and singles through this site and hope to meet many more as I do enjoy nice sex.

You do have to put in a bit of time with messaging people and it is a shame that so many people are too rude to reply to you even if it is a no thanks.

I love this site and I hope to meet many more couples and singles on here in the future.

Happy Swinging everyone.

Gotta say folks, I expected absolutely nothing. I’m fully aware that for a single bloke it’s a privilege to get an answer or potentially a meet for a coffee and a conversation, never mind anything else.

Approaching with honesty, humour and genuine respect is the only way to go.

I agree that wanton cock pics and “I’m so beautiful” staging is just daft.

Despite that, I have met a fantastic couple and keep in touch still, and chatting with others too.

I only get a little disappointed when folk don’t say thanks but no thanks, particularly if there has been a request for imagination and considered thought in the profile.

Anyway interesting discussion. 😎

Life is for living and spreading happiness.

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Isn’t it interesting, 111 views, 7 likes, and not one reply from a single male! Perhaps they’re too busy taking pics of their credentials. 🙂

For my part, I didn't originally comment as I think Woo has covered it most eloquently (albeit in his inimitable tongue in cheek style!) and yes, I'm being nice to him cos his Mrs is Lovely...

But yes- as with most things in life- the more you're prepared to put in, the more you're likely to get out.

One thing that does amaze me and this cuts across all profiles is how many photos there are that were taken 10-15 years ago, so unless SH members have the elixir of youth it does paint a slightly false image of people. I know the private pics may be more up to date but surely a new body shot or doctored image could be added to give a more accurate impression and replace an out of date public image

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I came here not expecting too much as I know that age is against me as is my current situation so it was more for the social side and to see how things have changed over the last couple of decades.

Not disappointed in the slightest with the site, people are pleasant, chatty and you can have a light hearted conversation about things you couldn't have in the pub!

What has surprised me though is the amount of straight single guys that have checked out my profile, not sure why but certainly not reciprocating by visiting theirs lol

Age is an issue, but not a massive one,I met My Mrs here when I was your age and I'd say i did ok.

So far I got exactly what I expected similar to last time so far

I was here before with a different name for a couple of years, but we're talking over 15 years ago. Then I met a couple of great fellas and one very nice couple. Lots of chat too, which helped pass the time :)

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One thing that does amaze me and this cuts across all profiles is how many photos there are that were taken 10-15 years ago, so unless SH members have the elixir of youth it does paint a slightly false image of people. I know the private pics may be more up to date but surely a new body shot or doctored image could be added to give a more accurate impression and replace an out of date public image

Pics can't be relied upon at all. Short of enforcing daily verification, how can anyone be sure they're genuine?

In truth I never expected to meet anyone just for a shag, more I really just wanted to meet a lady who wanted to be open about her needs and desires and was looking for love. I did meet some people socially at the beginning, but they were more helping me through my divorce than wanting my body, I was happy about that. Regular dating for me has always been easier in real life and not here, and I suppose in reality I'm nervous about meeting someone who might expect me to perform without charisma and a sexual connection, so I've enjoyed the conversations but never really tried to create an online meet.

I did once go dogging and came across a Range Rover in a site near Portsmouth, but when I approached the window a man who was enjoying his private TV screen, (passenger window), threatened me with a machete. Never tried again!!!

You might be surprised that some women/couples here aren't looking for anonymous superstuds who can get it up, repeat on demand etc etc. They probably won't be looking for love but will be wanting to build a connection with a nice, decent, ordinary, guy and taking things slowly. That's why it's important to find out who you're dealing with before getting into the sort of pressurised scenario you describe. If those you're in contact with don't want to chat, exchange messages or get to know a bit about you, they're probably not the sort who can offer what you're seeking.

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In truth I never expected to meet anyone just for a shag, more I really just wanted to meet a lady who wanted to be open about her needs and desires and was looking for love. I did meet some people socially at the beginning, but they were more helping me through my divorce than wanting my body, I was happy about that. Regular dating for me has always been easier in real life and not here, and I suppose in reality I'm nervous about meeting someone who might expect me to perform without charisma and a sexual connection, so I've enjoyed the conversations but never really tried to create an online meet.

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One thing that does amaze me and this cuts across all profiles is how many photos there are that were taken 10-15 years ago, so unless SH members have the elixir of youth it does paint a slightly false image of people. I know the private pics may be more up to date but surely a new body shot or doctored image could be added to give a more accurate impression and replace an out of date public image

The photo section on here is better than on most sites. At least this has a date posted. With that you can see a timeline and on our pictures, us getting older. Although it would be easy to just post old pictures today from a few years ago, it would be found out if (and I mean IF) we ever got to meet anyone!

I didn't expect anything. Truthfully, I registered a few years ago when I was still a single girl with the only purpose of writing stories. They were true stories, my sexploration journey of such, and discovery of new kinks and likes. I used this as an outlet, and I think people enjoyed reading them. I deleted them all later, when I have started a new chapter in my life. I don't get a chance to write much nowadays, but I think it's brilliant because not many swingers sites allow to post such stories.

I started on the scene expecting nothing, and got less. These days, I pretty much just perv.

Mostly I enjoy this site, apart from a few jerks, but that is just normal and to be expected. I like being able to mix openly on line with like minded people. To read all the dirt and sexiness that goes on and sometimes to share some of mine. It is refreshing to see that many others feel the same way I do and can talk about it frankly and openly. No judgements as we all have our own funny fads and ways and dirty little secrets. Regarding meets, it is hard work but with patience can pay off. I have had 4 meets over several years so the site can work. You just got to keep at it. Nicely.