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Hi all. I'm relatively new to the forum, but I wonder if you all could give me some advice. Recently I have been inundated by e-mails from Blokes pretendig to be women. Is there any quick way of determining whether a poster is genuine, rather than than having to go through an interminable series of e-mail messages.
I appreciate a certain amount of timewasters is par for the course, but there must be a quicker way of sizing people up, excuse the pun. GR
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Hi all. I'm relatively new to the forum, but I wonder if you all could give me some advice. Recently I have been inundated by e-mails from Blokes pretendig to be women. Is there any quick way of determining whether a poster is genuine, rather than than having to go through an interminable series of e-mail messages.
I appreciate a certain amount of timewasters is par for the course, but there must be a quicker way of sizing people up, excuse the pun. GR

Nope, there isn't.
Now what on earth is the point of that?
Why would a guy do that to get a kick? confused
guess i need to wise up.
Still new to all of this and naive to those that will (hopefully redface ) contact me.
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guess i need to wise up.
Still new to all of this and naive to those that will (hopefully redface ) contact me.

you will get used to it on here biggrin
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guess i need to wise up.
Still new to all of this and naive to those that will (hopefully redface ) contact me.

let me say this.......if my partner advertises as a single.......then anywhere between 100 and 300 replies.........as a couple looking for a single male.........well you aint got time in your life .......an dont forget 60% are messers ! ......
60%? Where did you get that figure from?
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Now what on earth is the point of that?
Why would a guy do that to get a kick? confused

Cranial rectitis.
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guess i need to wise up.
Still new to all of this and naive to those that will (hopefully redface ) contact me.

let me say this.......if my partner advertises as a single.......then anywhere between 100 and 300 replies.........as a couple looking for a single male.........well you aint got time in your life .......an dont forget 60% are messers ! ......
60%? Where did you get that figure from?
Don't tell me you're a mathematician as well !!! the forum will be quaking... wink
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guess i need to wise up.
Still new to all of this and naive to those that will (hopefully redface ) contact me.

let me say this.......if my partner advertises as a single.......then anywhere between 100 and 300 replies.........as a couple looking for a single male.........well you aint got time in your life .......an dont forget 60% are messers ! ......
60%? Where did you get that figure from?
Don't tell me you're a mathematician as well !!! the forum will be quaking... wink
Me? Wasn't me who quoted percentages dunno
Just seemed a very precise percentage and I wondered where the information came from?
Its like the advice you give to the kids. Online no-one is who they sat they are!
well i replied to a few adverts myself and no luck so far just a stormy silence, i havent even had anyone be bothered to say thanks but no thanks.
bit disappointing really.
wed tend to agree with u on this we have found it to be in exess of 60 % timwasters or pretenders / pick collectors the times upon number we have had, i know ur not looking for single males but i am and ext ext ext usually ending up with i got 10 " or whatever and it will do her good or some daft coment like that go on freckkled correct me grammer lol redface
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wed tend to agree with u on this we have found it to be in exess of 60 % timwasters or pretenders / pick collectors the times upon number we have had, i know ur not looking for single males but i am and ext ext ext usually ending up with i got 10 " or whatever and it will do her good or some daft coment like that go on freckkled correct me grammer lol redface

Nope, some delightful person will only jump down my throat if I do. Apart from that, what you said was readable even with the mistakes. I can see your point about single males, but I reckon there must be some couples and single females out there who are timewasters/pretenders/pic collectors - it isn't an exclusively single male pursuit.

your right there.
but theres also genuine guys and couples and single woman on here haswell.
not all timewaster thank god biggrin
quite true ther are plenty of cples and single fems are timewasters ( well asuming they were actually fem lol ) and yes ther is certanly some gem pple on here we have met a few u just get to be able to judge a bit better sometimes then only sometimes lol
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quite true ther are plenty of cples and single fems are timewasters ( well asuming they were actually fem lol ) and yes ther is certanly some gem pple on here we have met a few u just get to be able to judge a bit better sometimes then only sometimes lol

yes i still find it hard to judge gen from timewasters.
im to trusting i geuss biggrin
lol Just wondered, from both your posts, that's all.
as a single male i resent the implication that we're ALL timewasters, only interested in a random shag or some juicy pictures (mind you...) :-) hey look, i happen to have a penis, it's not my fault. and since i seem to keep going out with nice, sweet girls who aren't into this at all (don't know why, they all seem to be vegetarian foreigners as well; and recently i've hit a really bizarre seam of long distance swimmers, i don't know where this comes from) ...i thought rather than lie to anyone or entice anyone into something that wasn't their bag i'd come and explore this scene as a single guy. thus one more errant schlong to get on everyone's tits... if only cool
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as a single male i resent the implication that we're ALL timewasters, only interested in a random shag or some juicy pictures (mind you...) :-) hey look, i happen to have a penis, it's not my fault. and since i seem to keep going out with nice, sweet girls who aren't into this at all (don't know why, they all seem to be vegetarian foreigners as well; and recently i've hit a really bizarre seam of long distance swimmers, i don't know where this comes from) ...i thought rather than lie to anyone or entice anyone into something that wasn't their bag i'd come and explore this scene as a single guy. thus one more errant schlong to get on everyone's tits... if only cool

Tomu, most people on here won't actually imply that it's ONLY single males who are timewasters, nor that they are ALL timewasters.
hey, i'm only joking. anyway i think we need to have a Single Males Appreciation Day. love your single males!
That single males stand no chance really of meeting genuine couples/single fems, because of the timewasters and pillocks who have b''''''''''''ered it up for the genuine!
Guess single men now know what it was like to be an unrepresented majority - if that makes sense?!
Must be the gin, it's got to me oh me oh my.
While I am typing though - anyone want to meet a single male?!
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Its like the advice you give to the kids. Online no-one is who they sat they are!

well in the majority.....blame the single male brigade !
ah yes, the lowly single male is surely the root of all evil! rolleyes
how about, and this is just a suggestion, blaming the tossers and twats, who come in all shapes and sizes, and not just single guys, or am i being impossibly naive? banghead
neil x x x ;)
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Its like the advice you give to the kids. Online no-one is who they sat they are!

well in the majority.....blame the single male brigade !
ah yes, the lowly single male is surely the root of all evil! rolleyes
how about, and this is just a suggestion, blaming the tossers and twats, who come in all shapes and sizes, and not just single guys, or am i being impossibly naive? banghead
neil x x x ;)
Neil, we don't all blame just the single men kiss
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Its like the advice you give to the kids. Online no-one is who they sat they are!

well in the majority.....blame the single male brigade !
ah yes, the lowly single male is surely the root of all evil! rolleyes
how about, and this is just a suggestion, blaming the tossers and twats, who come in all shapes and sizes, and not just single guys, or am i being impossibly naive? banghead
neil x x x ;)
of course yer being naive...now crawl back under that rock. lol
No, some of us just blame Neil. :giggle:
Venusxxx
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Its like the advice you give to the kids. Online no-one is who they sat they are!

well in the majority.....blame the single male brigade !
ah yes, the lowly single male is surely the root of all evil! rolleyes
how about, and this is just a suggestion, blaming the tossers and twats, who come in all shapes and sizes, and not just single guys, or am i being impossibly naive? banghead
neil x x x ;)
Neil, we don't all blame just the single men kiss
no i know bev ;)
there's always gonna be a hugely disproportionate number of single guys on sites like this, so you'll obviously see a higher number of twats and tossers among them. it's just a numbers game. but if they are twats and tossers, it's cos they are twats and tossers, not cos they are single guys. unfortunately, people seem incapable of doing the math and making that little distinction, and so we have sweeping statements about the "single male brigade", which i find tedious, and vaguely offensive. can we just define people by their status as twats and tossers, and not their relationship status, cos believe you me there's a few twats and tossers out there who ain't male, and ain't single, but they don't seem to suffer from the same kind of sweeping derogatory statements, or continually get the bad press! wonder why?
neil x x x ;)
MOMF,
I think it might not be a good idea to give percentages unless they're actually based on fact. You've given percentages for some things and yet said you couldn't guess at others. Makes for statements that are just asking for trouble; couple that with sweeping generalisations such as the comment about the 'single male brigade' and you'll be getting peoples' backs up quite often.
You have been part of the 'single male' brigade yourself at various times on here. You've signed posts both as a single and as a couple with different partners, so you could be including yourself when referring to them couldn't you, even though you currently have a partner?
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I was generalising over the course of an advert

There's your problem.
Venusxxx
47.3% of statitics are made up on the spot anyway
*snigger* innocent