discreet relationship

8 Feb 2005

A thought for the guy who wants to experience swinging but his partner is having none of it...hey you only live once so good luck to you bloke but just be bloody careful?

8 Feb 2005

Ok everyone ......i think it's time for a group hug!

8 Feb 2005

:bounce: OOOoooo I love hugs :bounce:
((((((((HUG)))))))))
Mmmm, that was nice! biggrin

8 Feb 2005

A nice big hug goes along way! wink

9 Feb 2005

well i would just like to thank those of you who spoke out in my favour, i must admit i very nearly decided not to use this site as it appeared to be populated by the " in brigade". but it would appear not to be the case, to my crittics(not that i need to explain myself) i say this you know nogthing about me or my home life, i am not judging anyone and i dont expect to be judged by people with morals no better than my own. sorry if this offends, but i was quite supprised that for people who claim to swingers could be so narrow minded.

10 Feb 2005

Well said bloke, afterall, who are we to judge anybody. People are generally judgemental and suppositious and you hear examples of this in everyday life. So lets not be on here to judge or be judged by anyone.....

10 Feb 2005

Well my opinion for what its worth is people shouldn't be so quick to jump on others, ok myself i would never meet a married guy or woman for that matter playing away, i think swinging and married and cheating is two different things and there are dufferent sites for ur needs, but saying that jumping on married guys for being honest will only make them lie and say they single so avoid the grilling, i have myself met guys only to find out they was married when they said they was single which to me is out of order cause i feel i have the rights to know these things so i can decide if i want to meet, so at least the guy in question here is being honest (well to us anyway lol) but i agree with most, tho i don't agree with married and cheating at the end of the day its not our buisness and maybe we shouldn't jump on them at every corner.
We are all here for our own reasons and so long as you have all the facts you can decide who u will and wont meet, so long as ur happy who cares what others are doing?

10 Feb 2005

Allright look, I started this bloomin knightmare, now i am asking it be allowed to die a death, I have made my apologies in public, and in PM, I am hoping that bloke will understand my reasoning, and because to me its such a touchy subject I want the people here that I respect to understand, this is the PM I sent to bloke, read it, judge me as you will

From: kristof
To: bloke
Posted: Thu Feb 10, 2005 8:45 am
Subject: your thread !discreet realtionship" and my fuckup Edit message
I dont know if you looked in the cafe of late, if you have you may have noticed my thread "A apology to all members and mods of Swinging Heaven"
It was a general apology to all, yourself included, its only today I realised that I had not apologised directly to you
I have allowed my personal past to rear its head and effect my life again now
Short and sweet, the woman I married and had 3 children with had been cheating on me since day one, We divoreced after I found out she was sleeping with my "best mate", the CSA came after me for maintenance and I was willing to pay except one thing bothered me, her mum in a fit of rage had let it out that the kids were not mine, so I requested tests be done. She refused point blank, and i have since met the fathers of the 3 children.
she put me into a mental unit after a breakdown, now the though of people cheating and somebody else getting hurt as I did sends me over the edge easily.
I dont want sympathy, I ave given you the basic information so that you understand it was not an attack on you personally, but on the thought of cheating, please accept mt apology for the singling out of you
kristof

I am a honest guy, if I screwup I will say it, please let this die now
Any Mod reading please lock this thread so it can die

10 Feb 2005

OK, I will lock this thread. It has become useless as a meet up post anyway. I'm not meaning to stifle any debate about cheating, married swingers etc etc. If you do want to discuss these topics further, there are threads about cheating that have recently been running in the cafe.