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Quote by ambervixen
Any hoo - any advice on my ramblings and a good way to go about meeting a sexy friendly couple while on the site would be appreciated.

If you'd said you wanted to meet a female I may have been able to help. innocent
wink
As I said, I'm a bi lady - females also always welcome!
Amber x
Quote by Kiss
Any hoo - any advice on my ramblings and a good way to go about meeting a sexy friendly couple while on the site would be appreciated.

If you'd said you wanted to meet a female I may have been able to help. innocent
wink
We are all ears lol
Quote by ambervixen
As I said, I'm a bi lady - females also always welcome!
Amber x

Off to write a PM! :thrilled:
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Quote by ambervixen
I think that for anyone it makes a big difference if you make the effort to get to know the other people a bit before going in for the 'kill' as it were.
I haven't yet reached the stage where I've met up with a couple, simply because I've not established a sufficiently strong connection - and to be honest I havent' looked that hard. I've had a look at the adds mostly and good god they can be intimidating, they're all a bit random and someone displaying their cock - well is likely to be one!!
I think that the chat rooms are interesting but it's a bit off-putting to be bombarded with whispers when you kind of want to just get involved in a bit of banter.
what am I doing wrong!!!
Amber x

Wrong ?? Probably nothing !!! The chat rooms can be off putting - at times i have logged off because of all the unwanted whispers - best advice is to find a regular room and get to know who the usual host is - if its a good room, persistent whisperers will get kicked and the people will get the idea eventually if its a good host !!! Our regular is the Yorkshire room - I dont generally go there to find a quickie, as you say, a chat and a bit of banter is always nice. But its not always that easy, you still get unwanted whispers at times but normally it eases with time - whatever you do, do not answer them back in a whisper wink
I look at the adds regularly, nosiness mainly, we have had some good meets, but only once through a reply to someones add because as you say, they do look very intimidating and kind of "quick and now" - not our style lol But each to their own and good luck I say !!!
Finally, I love the forums, most of the people are really fantastic wink
Well, I must admit I am really quite chuffed to see so many postivie messages still coming forth in this thread. I guess I do understand the difficulties that face us all, but it is good to know it's worthwhile in the end (hopefully!!!).
PS. Nice eloquent post Amber: give me a nudge next time you're in a chatroom and I'll gladly enter the fray with some dashing, devastatingly witty banter. Or something...
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The other category that lets singles down, with us anyway (couples do this also) You have a nice first chat, begin to think "yes, maybe" but because you have not fallen at their feet straight away, the next time they see you in chat, you dont even get a "Hi" and they have moved on to another target - this just re-iterates that our waiting was the right choice.

I am so glad someone said it and that this came from a couple and not from a single guy as if i had something like this it would have sounded reallypreachy.......kiss

As a child I wanted to be a nun :smug:
Oh god yes!
But only if they enter into the banter and chat in the room and u can gauge thier personailty,,,, At the end of the day you wouldnt just grab somone on the street having not spoken to them and play! well u might do... mmmm... intersesting innocent
Anyway.... Good sex is about good communication, Some people just can't be bothered to make that effort, be it singles (fems or males) or couples, and thats thier loss! I always think if they cant make an effort here then what would a meet with them be like! :shock:
ok.... il go back to sulking cause my puter wont let me in chat sad
Jus xx
Very interesting reading this discussion on who meets men. Personally I wish i cold find that elusive fun friendly couple near me, but seems if your not bi, ts the devils own job making new friends for honest sexy fun.
If there are any couples in the south-east (NW Kent in particular) who want to befriend a straight, honest talking genuine guy who only works a three-day week (lol), then drop me a line - love to chat to kindred spirits. John
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If there are any couples in the south-east (NW Kent in particular) who want to befriend a straight, honest talking genuine guy who only works a three-day week (lol), then drop me a line - love to chat to kindred spirits. John

Hmmm, bit of a hi-jack there, I think... rolleyes lol - nothing like gratuitous self-advertisement eh? Good luck to yer, ventoux!
This is a really interesting thread. I think that the key to meeting up with someone who doesn't want to just 'grab' you off the virtual streets of SH is as has been said establishing a sense of personality.
Communication is key to safe and respectful fun, there are a lot of nutters floating around, and going into unknown territory with anyone is a risky business.
Back to the original question however I would be interested to hear from others as to how many of arranged 'meets' have come through and how many have been cancelled at the last minute.
I think that for me establishing a rapport is important as I don't want to get tarted up and go and meet someone who is at home scratching their knackers over my picture rather than getting out to meet me.
Thanks for the info re the chat rooms Juniper - muchos appreciated.
Amber xx
Quote by ambervixen
Back to the original question however I would be interested to hear from others as to how many of arranged 'meets' have come through and how many have been cancelled at the last minute.

If you had asked me a week ago I would have said one no show in 4 years but..... This weekend we encountered not one but two guys that we talked to, exchanged photo's etc and they said yes they were keen to meet. They were both given the details of where to meet plus my mobile number but neither showed up and no text/email apologies either rolleyes
I did think that the first one wouldn't show though as he was asking for more revealing photo's of us in action and I refused to give them to him wink
It is possible, yes. Largely through being polite, not pushy at all, and being honest about what it is that you are after.
Patience, though, is important. In my opinion.
back on topic for a moment
YES we do meet sngl men
NO we've never been let down
BUT our criteria are v well laid out in our profile and we do spend time deciding who to meet
SO if your just after a quick shag then move along
BECAUSE as has been said many times - it's easier to get a quick shag at your local than on SH, so be prepared to put a bit of work and bit of effort and a bit of yourself in
I think that for me establishing a rapport is important as I don't want to get tarted up and go and meet someone who is at home scratching their knackers over my picture rather than getting out to meet me.
You are talking so much sense Amber, my time is very precious and I would get very pissed off in a similar situation. I dont appreciate the instant cock type picture that I have received as replies. I don't accept bad manners in any other type of social circle so I definitely won't compromise just for a quick shag on here. So there!!! haha xx
(rant over, coffee and ferrero recher in hand...all is calm......;)
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(rant over, coffee and ferrero recher in hand...all is calm......;)

Thanks for that... Stressful xmas was it??? smile
Thanks for reviving the thread. Hope you all had a cracking Christmas!
Hey There,
Fun Female I think that you are right, it's interesting to see that in an environment such at this, where you would imagine that everything is 'on the table' as it were that people still manage to withdraw into anti-social inbred cucoons!
Now I'm ranting and I am indeed sans Ferrero Rochet. I think that with my (VERY) limited experience that I'm learning that what you sense from someone on chat normally mirrors their overall personality. If someone is rude, brash, in your face and pushy and if you don't feel right, that they are not for you. If someone wants to get you naked and to have fun with you they should at the very least be willing to put in a bit of time and get to know you, to have the manners to allow you to get a sense of their personality.
Back to the point of meeting single men though, how many of them actually are single? How many couples are actually couples? I read another thread where there was discussion of 'straight' men getting involved in some homo-erotic activities when and where the opportunity arises, I would hope thought that in this arena people ought to be honest, but normally this is not always the case.
I think that if single men want to meet with single women and vice versa that you have to be willing to expose a bit more about yourself, and to be upfront. If you're asked personal questions as to what you do outside of the bedroom be open to them. I was talking to a very hot guy in a chat room a few days ago (ok by hot I mean that his online personna was hot) and after a bit of chat I asked him what he did for a living (I was talking industry not specific office location) and he said no, let's keep it to sex. BAM that there and then outruled the chance of him ever getting any 'sex' from me! lol
Sorry for not catching the name, but the couple that arranged to meet up with the two single guys who buckled out, well done for not giving any personal shots - there should be a name for these freaky cyber picture collectors, what could it be... well maybe 'visage vermin' as in the sort of rats that like to collect any pictures and waffle all over them - fecking mutant c*ck sucking freaks!!
Ok ranting over back to lulling carols!
Hope everyone had a fab christmas
Amber xxx
Quote by minotaur

(rant over, coffee and ferrero recher in hand...all is calm......;)

Thanks for that... Stressful xmas was it??? smile
Oh just abit 'deck the f***ing halls and the f***ing ex!!
Ah, I need an outlet.
Great thread btw, I dont usually reply as a lot of what i read isnt relevant or is full of one liners I dont understand Doh!!
Quote by Funfemale1

(rant over, coffee and ferrero recher in hand...all is calm......;)

Thanks for that... Stressful xmas was it??? smile
Oh just abit 'deck the f***ing halls and the f***ing ex!!
Ah, I need an outlet.
Great thread btw, I dont usually reply as a lot of what i read isnt relevant or is full of one liners I dont understand Doh!!
Well, we all need an outlet, especially where decking the ex is concerned! Just the one question, was the ex an ex before xmas or as a result?
To add another angle to this thread, I'm a single straight male and as such know that my place in the pecking order on swinging sites is very low. I ALWAYS send a friendly and polite mail, never being pushy and just keeping it to a brief and polite introduction, a quick spiel about myself and finish it off with a "hope to chat more and see where it takes us". Not very exciting but there ya go.
I know females and couples get an absolute shedload of mail but it would be nice every so often to get a reply, even if it's just "thanks but no thanks".
Like I said before though, I do understand that fems and cpls will always be snowed under with mail on this site and therefore probably can't even hope to reply to even half of the messages they get. But it is nontheless frustrating.
Just wanted to toss my tuppence in anyhow ^_^
(long time lurker, first time poster)
Quote by plumdrops
I know females and couples get an absolute shedload of mail but it would be nice every so often to get a reply, even if it's just "thanks but no thanks".
Like I said before though, I do understand that fems and cpls will always be snowed under with mail on this site and therefore probably can't even hope to reply to even half of the messages they get. But it is nontheless frustrating.

Can't agree more esp when you have tried your hardest to fulfil all the requirements listed in the ad - the worst have to be those that state they will reply to such responses even if it's a no thanks & you still hear nowt from them rolleyes
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Welcome to the forum!
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I know females and couples get an absolute shedload of mail but it would be nice every so often to get a reply, even if it's just "thanks but no thanks".

I would echo your comments too. The trouble is, although you may try the polite approach, there is no accounting for the manners of the recipient...
However, not sending many emails myself, I do seem to get a polite rebuttal. Guess it pays to carefully chose the ads to which you reply!
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(long time lurker, first time poster)

Welcome to the forum!
Quote by plumdrops
I know females and couples get an absolute shedload of mail but it would be nice every so often to get a reply, even if it's just "thanks but no thanks".

I would echo your comments too. The trouble is, although you may try the polite approach, there is no accounting for the manners of the recipient...
However, not sending many emails myself, I do seem to get a polite rebuttal. Guess it pays to carefully chose the ads to which you reply!
i'll tell you a story of a swinging friend who put an advert on here..... she is a single bi fem, and she put an advert in women seeking men... and women seeking couples...... and went away for a week......
she came back a week later to find that there were 700 replies waiting for her..... now with the greatest of respect is she suppose to answer every single one? if so..how much time is that going to take? i know some people who have and then had e-mail abuse from people afterwards.... so you are damned if you do... and damned if you dont....
i suppose it did annoy me at the beginning but in the grander scheme of things if you get upset about the small things... then what happens when the bigger things come along....
i was look at it the same way i do a job application now.... they are not going to reply to everyone either, and people don't seem to be as pissed off with them as they seem to be on here........
sean xxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by minotaur

(long time lurker, first time poster)

Welcome to the forum!
Quote by plumdrops
I know females and couples get an absolute shedload of mail but it would be nice every so often to get a reply, even if it's just "thanks but no thanks".

I would echo your comments too. The trouble is, although you may try the polite approach, there is no accounting for the manners of the recipient...
However, not sending many emails myself, I do seem to get a polite rebuttal. Guess it pays to carefully chose the ads to which you reply!
And manners have very little to do with how many replies you'll get. It's more to do with the volume of mail couples and single females get, that they can't answer due to lack of time. Don't whinge about it, just put it down to experience and move on.
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And manners have very little to do with how many replies you'll get. It's more to do with the volume of mail couples and single females get, that they can't answer due to lack of time. Don't whinge about it, just put it down to experience and move on.

Sorry, don't get me wrong, wasn't meaning to whinge about it, was just airing opinions here that are open to different points of view and not fixed in stone either. Also willing to change them in the light of the last couple of posts. Didn't perhaps realise quite how many replies the more popular of you receive...!
Quote by minotaur

And manners have very little to do with how many replies you'll get. It's more to do with the volume of mail couples and single females get, that they can't answer due to lack of time. Don't whinge about it, just put it down to experience and move on.

Sorry, don't get me wrong, wasn't meaning to whinge about it, was just airing opinions here that are open to different points of view and not fixed in stone either. Also willing to change them in the light of the last couple of posts. Didn't perhaps realise quite how many replies the more popular of you receive...!
Although I'd quoted both you and Plumdrops, it wasn't aimed at anyone in particular - just a general comment about not moaning about lack of replies really.
To answer the question, some of us do meet single guys, yes.