AlanRachel,Always going to get your fairshare of timewaster on here,we as a couple always take the following steps to ensure that who we are meeting is genuine.
1/We never answer e mails from people who do not send a facial pic.
2/We always cam/cam with individuals before we decide to meet.
3/ we always agree with the individuals 1st meet is for drinks and a chat and if either party wants to leave earlier no offence is meant or taken.
Of course this will limit the amount of people who contact you but in our opinion those who do are taking this as seriously as yourselves.
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We did this on Sat night and met a marvelous single male,who left our house with a big smile on his face and 2 smiling faces waving him goodbye.
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i can't understand why we have so much of this on here......ok ok i know there are a lot of new members...........but if you want to meet a genuine member and don't want to be let down by them not turning up,only arrange to meet someone who can be verified by another 's mean nothing as far as we are concerned,people can put what detaits they want,but if you ask the person you are wanting to meet, if they can be verified by pm,by someone else,this can save all the "we were let down again" threads 
does that make sense
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btw just thought i'd add that we do sometimes arrange to meet people without them having to be verified,if they don't show its their loss and we don't post about it later. its a chance we take,just like the rest of us
does that make sense
fil
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btw just thought i'd add that we do sometimes arrange to meet people without them having to be verified,if they don't show its their loss and we don't post about it later. its a chance we take,just like the rest of us
I feel the obbligation to name and shame myself.
I was the one supposed to meet Alan and Rachel, unfortunally, as per my message to Alan and Rachel, on my way to meet them, something out of my control happened, for this I am sorry.
I would make ammend and ask Alan and Rachel to please forgive me and believe that it was not my intention of not showing up, who knows me can say that I am always kind and respect everyone, never try to meet up unless I am sure and positive to do it.
I would like to answer to Alan and rachel that I do not believe is their fault if people do not show up, unfortunally there are many Idiots around, if I am allowed to say it. And if any of you, expecially Alan and Rachel, think that I am one of them, so be it.
I can only said once again that I am sorry and that it was my honest intention to meet up.
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I was the one supposed to meet Alan and Rachel, unfortunally, as per my message to Alan and Rachel, on my way to meet them, something out of my control happened, for this I am sorry.
I would make ammend and ask Alan and Rachel to please forgive me and believe that it was not my intention of not showing up, who knows me can say that I am always kind and respect everyone, never try to meet up unless I am sure and positive to do it.
I would like to answer to Alan and rachel that I do not believe is their fault if people do not show up, unfortunally there are many Idiots around, if I am allowed to say it. And if any of you, expecially Alan and Rachel, think that I am one of them, so be it.
I can only said once again that I am sorry and that it was my honest intention to meet up.
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hi all
for the 4 th time in as many weeks we have arranged for a single guy to attend a club with us for the usual drinks and maybe fun thing....
tried to seek out the genuine sounding guys,,, arranged ,, no show ,, why ??
wot we doing wrong ??
is it cos we say a few drinks and see how we get on ?? and not will shag you no matter what ??
any ideas ,,,, would love to hear the views of others
about to pack up single guys and just do the cpl thing...
plus is it the done thing to name and shame ,, so others can see who is a waster and whos not ???
alan rach xxx
hi alanrachel,
the thing with most singles is that they '' need'' to shag at end of day. its tarring the rest of us genuine ones with same brush. and then puts couples off ever meeting with dont have to be good looking, just have common sense and a good personality . attraction comes in various forms, all i can say is dont give up. there are some good ones out there. even if its on a social basis, the fun part is and always be a bonus.
lifes for living, exploring, then you die gracefully.
the thing with most singles is that they '' need'' to shag at end of day. its tarring the rest of us genuine ones with same brush. and then puts couples off ever meeting with dont have to be good looking, just have common sense and a good personality . attraction comes in various forms, all i can say is dont give up. there are some good ones out there. even if its on a social basis, the fun part is and always be a bonus.
lifes for living, exploring, then you die gracefully.
sorry to hear your bad luck.
Too many time wasters..cpls and singles..that spoil it.
I think you should be able to name and shame...although apprieciate comments above. Pity we cant have our profiles verified like other sites. This helped me a lot due to the verification.
hope your luck changes.
mike
Too many time wasters..cpls and singles..that spoil it.
I think you should be able to name and shame...although apprieciate comments above. Pity we cant have our profiles verified like other sites. This helped me a lot due to the verification.
hope your luck changes.
mike
Sex God
By that criteria I could name and shame the couple who arranged a meet with me,cancelled it "due to family reasons" and said they wouldn't be meeting anyone from the site for the forseeable future but then carried on updating their ad,including on the day they were due to meet they had to say was that they'd decided I wasn't for them.
But I wouldn't want to name them,I don't know the full story of their change of heart and no way would I want to try to ruin their chances elsewhere as an act of "revenge".
Another thing with verification is in a private meet its private who plays with who,after a munch or at a club meet that is more open for others to see who does what with who but if I meet someone privately then that is what it is,a private meeting,be it a social drink or the wildest romp of one's wildest I nor they are passing any test to be "verified",we are simply enjoying each others company be it at the bar or on a bed and if the latter that is very much between us and nobody else.
But I wouldn't want to name them,I don't know the full story of their change of heart and no way would I want to try to ruin their chances elsewhere as an act of "revenge".
Another thing with verification is in a private meet its private who plays with who,after a munch or at a club meet that is more open for others to see who does what with who but if I meet someone privately then that is what it is,a private meeting,be it a social drink or the wildest romp of one's wildest I nor they are passing any test to be "verified",we are simply enjoying each others company be it at the bar or on a bed and if the latter that is very much between us and nobody else.
Warming the Bed
I quite agree that meeting for a drink and chat before deciding to take things further or not is the right of any couple and for the lady concerned in particular.
I would not expect any lady to agree to shag anyone who she has not met before without having even the briefest of chances to weigh the guy up. (Of course there are some out there who do get off on being shagged by a total stranger, again each to their own).
As for the guy not turning up, As always it is very bad form not to attempt to contact the other party to cancel.
Timewasters are always a hazzard and very difficult to spot until it is too late. The only answer at the moment is to put it down to experience and try again with someone else, Some other sites do operate a feedback system and no doubt the folk running this site have looked into how to apply such a system. The problem then of course is how do you stop someone putting bad feedback against your name, As I'm sure some of the saddo's out there would do simply for being turned down for a meet.
Finally
Having looked at your profile I just wish I were 100 miles closer!
I would not expect any lady to agree to shag anyone who she has not met before without having even the briefest of chances to weigh the guy up. (Of course there are some out there who do get off on being shagged by a total stranger, again each to their own).
As for the guy not turning up, As always it is very bad form not to attempt to contact the other party to cancel.
Timewasters are always a hazzard and very difficult to spot until it is too late. The only answer at the moment is to put it down to experience and try again with someone else, Some other sites do operate a feedback system and no doubt the folk running this site have looked into how to apply such a system. The problem then of course is how do you stop someone putting bad feedback against your name, As I'm sure some of the saddo's out there would do simply for being turned down for a meet.
Finally
Having looked at your profile I just wish I were 100 miles closer!
Sex God
yep ...reckon its done thing.
