Meeting/Munch for London newbies and First-timers May 22nd

1 May 2004

Hi everyone! I will be hosting a meeting/Munch in London on May 22nd!
While everybody is invited to come it will be basically for newbies and first-timers.
The meet will be held in an ordinary pub, near to most forms of public transport. As a result there will be no fee to get in. (But bring some money for drinks) wink

This meet will enable friends to be made in an informal and easy-going atmosphere. You will be able to swap ideas and stories and generally have a laugh. However, people may not pressure certain individuals to swap phone numbers or sleep with each other. This together with the fact abuse of any sort will not be tolerated will be the only rules! :wink:
So if you are interested Pm me and I'll give you some details.

2 May 2004

Aw... come on, fellas! Tkano is putting real effort into this!
If I promise to go will it help? dunno

Hxx

3 May 2004

HI I should be free to go, London guy here , may be working that day, but will be free to go to most centalish locations. Could also discuss an after event do
Flavio

3 May 2004

would like to try to come though the 22nd cold be a bit tricky i will know nearer the time. sounds quite excitig though. i am very new to the game and quite nervous too.
will definately try to come if heather is going to be there. redface

4 May 2004

Major kudos from me for being pro-active enough to set this up!! I'm not a newbie - but I'll be there to support ya'll cool

I think all the london crew should do the same! ;) :twisted:
Ghostie.

5 May 2004

Thanks Ghostie! smile

I have had a couple of PMs from guys saying they are willing to come to the meet, so how about some ladies attending?
This is a chance for all you ladies to meet available men in the flesh, they won't be able to hide behind the internet and so you will be able to form realistic opinions of them.
In addition to this, they will not pressure you to sleep with them or swap phone numbers.
If you still feel uncomfortable, you can leave at any time! :shock:
Anyway most of the guys are shy newbies, so there should not be any problems! :)
My ad number is 59321.

7 May 2004

Hi and thanks to all the guys who contacted me!
drinkies

I'd just like to say if more people do not come I might have to cancel! confused

I don't know what the problem is? Can anybody give me some advice?
It seems nobody in London or the South East is serious! For Shame!!!!! mad

I invited everybody, I may have specified newbies but more experienced people as well as couples are welcome to come!
Also where are the ladies? I know there are quite a few ladies in the London area that advertise! So where are they? :confused2:
So come on fellow Londoners! Make yourselves known!

9 May 2004

Hi all, sorry, i dont ever come on here which is why i havent noticed this post!! if i dont look like a spod i'd love to come, daz might not be able to though due to work and kid commitments!! are any other girlies going alone????

9 May 2004

Hi and thanks ladies for getting in touch! smile

I like you ladies already! wink

Anyhoo, there may be one lady already coming and five guys who say they may attend!
All I can say is more please!
:cheers:

10 May 2004

well done for organising this Tkano, it has started slowy but is building a head of steam i am looking forward to it i hope it is not cancelled.

11 May 2004

Hi to make this meet/Munch work more ladies are needed! :shock:
So don't be shy pm me please!
banghead

:confused: :sad: :confused2: :undecided:
Come on London ladies where are you?

15 May 2004

Hi Tkano,
I may be able to come along with my partner although we might need somewhere to stay, either Friday night or Saturday. We don't really *do* London very often, due to travel problems, but I think it might help me celebrate a big birthday the day before! :shock:
We would always love to see Heather again, anyway! ;)
Further details by PM would be appreciated, especially if they include some directions and accommodation suggestions!
Best wishes,
Mandy

15 May 2004

But am very new to this! redface

I'm m btw. First time meet up for anyone else?

15 May 2004

OK anybody who is definitely coming please PM me now!
Because so few ladies are coming I am only going to let ten or so people come so it will now be a small gathering. Mainly because too many single guys want to come and not enough single ladies want to.
Sorry! sad

So unless more ladies make themselves known I may have to choose who is coming and who is not! :(
People with pictures definitely go to the top of my list and if you tell me what you are like you are sure to get on the invitation list!

16 May 2004

Tkano, engineering the make up of this meet is not in the spirit of a munch, not of SH munches anyway. Here a munch is a meet which is open to all, and purely social. It should not matter whether you are a single male, single female, or couple.
Mike.

16 May 2004

This meet is open to everybody, but only single guys want to come!
If no women or couples come I think there is not much point in holding the meeting! See my above posts! sad

It may end up being a bunch of single guys in a pub! If no ladies come!
So to make it easier for those ladies thinking they might come I have reduced the number of single guys who will come.
Groups of single ladies are welcome!
Mike you got the wrong end of the stick I am not excluding anybody, just controlling the amount of single men who are coming!

16 May 2004

But you have ignored my point that a munch is purely social, and ought to be open to all. It should not matter if the munch is full of males - there could be many interesting discussions between males. By your constant appeals to females, or "ladies" as you call them, you give the impression that you are turning the meet into something sexual, with a hint of a predatory element in it. Have you thought that this could be the very element that is putting some couples and females off?
I don't wish to be unkind - I admire your enterprise, but I hope you appreciate some feedback.
Mike.

16 May 2004

You can look at it two ways: making sure there are enough women to go around (not very nice), or avoiding the event feeling too male-dominated and threatening for the women who go (which I think is quite thoughtful).
I'm not a woman, and I can't pretend to think in the way that a hypothetical "typical woman" would. But if I was the only woman among twenty men, I'd have one drink and bolt.
If it wasn't in May, if it wasn't in London, and if it wasn't mainly for the newcomers, you'd have another man on your hands.

16 May 2004

I can see what you mean Mike.
I would just like a few ladies/women/girls/females/birds to turn up and give their perspective of the scene and hopefully teach us newbies how to improve our chances!
I never said it was about meeting ladies etc and trying to get them into bed! I thought I made myself clear on this in my first post on this thread. It is mainly about having fun and talking and making friends.
If anybody got the wrong impression I am sorry! redface

It is mainly about networking and meeting people! And having a few drinks! drinkies

:beer:
You can call this meet a munch if you want, but to tell you the truth I dunno what it is!

16 May 2004

I'm still hoping to come, but I have to say this...
If it's 99 fellas and me, so be it!
A Munch is nothing but a chat. And if you want perspectives on the scene as you say you do, Tkano, you won't get them from a bunch of people who've never swung before... and your 'target audience' is as much in the dark as you are. So all you've got is a bunch of keep peeps wanting to break the ice. What difference does gender make?
Making guys defensive is not the way to go about things as they too find their first swinging experience daunting and desparately need a chance to drift into it as much as the girls do - this is why Munches are perfect for them.
I'm sure you've now realised that saying you were going to limit guys was a daft thing to do... but seriously, if you DO start to select who comes and who doesn't, I won't be there. wink

Hxx

16 May 2004

I only had good intentions! I thought women would be put off by a load of single guys in a pub! redface

I was only trying to attract more women! :shock:
rolleyes

Anyway quite a few guys said they can not make it! :shock:
Anybody who wants to come Pm me and details will be forthcoming!

16 May 2004

Yes, I know Tkano... But if a girl is put off my the sight of lots of blokes talking in a pub, what she's going to be like on a future occasion when she is faced by sexual activity with them?
It's all about 'quality' of people you want to attract to your Munch and hopefully the females that are attended will be the right sort who are sensitive to the guys feelings too! wink

So please give us girls a little credit here... fill Wembley Stadium with single guys and I'll still come because there is nothing at a Munch that warrants ANYONE getting concerned about gender.
Hxx

16 May 2004

That is quite true! But not all women think like that especially if they are newbies.
Anyway I organised this meet/Munch for people to get together, thats all, I don't really need to do it because I have got lucky myself wink

and am thinking of leaving the scene.
So its up to you guys if this works or not!

17 May 2004

The name of the street has a R instead of an N! redface

Opposite the plaza....... wink

Sorry about the mistake guys! surprised

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18 May 2004

So five guys and possibly two women! That's all that want to come! :shock:
I really don't know why I bother! mad

Since that number is so small I will call this event a meet not a Munch, however it will be still be adhering to the rules I set out at the start of this thread!
I want some newbie ladies to turn up, so we can meet and talk to them! If anybody has a problem with that don't come!
This is mainly because most of the veteran posters here don't seem to want to talk to us newbie guys no matter how hard we try! So to bypass all that time consuming hard work I set this meet up. If no-one wants to take advanage of it so be it!
I like most guys don't want to spend most of my spare time on a computer, I want to meet people!

18 May 2004

Pep talk time

Quote by Tkano
So five guys and possibly two women! That's all that want to come! :shock: I really don't know why I bother!

Tkano, until someone came up with the idea of munches/meets - most people on this site never met ANYONE. 6 people is 6 more than you would have met a year ago.

This is mainly because most of the veteran posters here don't seem to want to talk to us newbie guys no matter how hard we try! So to bypass all that time consuming hard work I set this meet up.

As a veteran poster, I feel the urge to point out that Kit and I have been posting a great deal longer than we have been swinging. Do not assume that because we are comfortable on here - we are also comfortable walking into a room full of swingers. It scares the crap out of us every time we go to a munch. Our first swinging experience was 7 months ago, we are still newbies.

I like most guys don't want to spend most of my spare time on a computer, I want to meet people!

We like the computer - we have 4 kids so we are very much tied to the house 7 days a week. Getting out at all is a logistical nightmare for us. And that is not just swinging meets, just nipping down the local pub for an hour, takes an hour of organising. As for a munch or a meet ............... rolleyes

From what I have seen, swinging is centered in the sort of North Midlands area of England. There may have been over a hundred people at the NW munch recently, but if that represents only 10% of the members in that area, and there are 100 members in the london area you can not expect much more of a response that you have already received.
OK, so you cannot fill the Albert Hall, that does not mean that those who do go cannot have a bloody good time!
lhk
Kat

18 May 2004

Hi Tkano, I hope everything goes well at the meet/munch.
Mike.

18 May 2004

Thanks guys for the support! smile

Everybody who is coming please Pm me to confirm attendance! :)
Also more people are welcome, even if you don't live in London! :)
If you are unsure about anything please contact me.
I can provide a list of cheap hotels in which to stay!

20 May 2004

Hi All
Total novice, just reading through the various postings - found this one about the meet/munch being set up in London & thought great! A chance to finally get off the fence and chat to real people face to face lol

Then boo! hiss! I can't make this date mad

.....
Thanks Tkano for putting this together - its exactly what folk like me are searching for, as you know so well already...and I look forward to being able to join some of you another time, in the not too distant.

20 May 2004

Hopefully I will be able to make it, but if not, I hope WHOEVER turns up has a great afternoon! Good idea Tkano.