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Quote by Ms_minxie
.... I would keep tabs on that--and make sure all the fit guys came :grin:
well that me out the running then...
but good idea for the lucky onesI think it should be arranged on the basis of first come first served, Minxie idea of fit may not be to everyones taste.
Also i think it should be arranged in colour codes, ie, different colour badges for what your looking for. Red could be used for singles looking for straight liasons. Blue for bi and Yellow for gay. I know thats using labels, which i know for a fact i'm going to be drawn and quartered for, but i would also be interested in the single women as well as men at this social and wouldn't want to offend or waste valued chat up lines :lol:
Now feel free to murder my post and idea, as i know some of you can't resist :lol:
I would like to point out that my quote, quoted above, WAS only meant in a joke, hence the :grin: & :rotflmao:
I would NEVER have the ordasity to think that my taste only, was important. As the bit underneath that quote says...
Don't panic guys... if this ever gets off the ground it WILL be arranged fairly for everyone.
And its weird you should mention the colours thing Chaos, that had already gone through my head but didn't want to 'label' peeps.
So maybe we could leave that up to choice on the night
Minxie xx
As a non swinger...think it would be better to say I wont be interested. Dont want to give the wrong impression to anyone!!
:? :? :) :smile: Forget where i am at times.....Back to the dating site for me!! :lol: :lol: :lol: Good luck with it tho!! :smile:
Warming the Bed
Hello There.. Just wondered when this gathering is going to take place.. do drop me aline??
Warming the Bed
Hello There.. Just wondered when this gathering is going to take place.. do drop me aline??
Sexlightened
Minxie......sounds like a good idea, and if it comes off id be up for it, best of british and im watching this space :-)
Sex God
I would certainly be interested - it depends on the date of course. Nice idea, Minxie.
Sex God
Actually singles can have family commitments like kids or elderly relatives that depend on them or jobs where they have to work at weekends so not being able to make a certain date doesn't mean someone is a 'fake' single.
I can't quite relate to the badge idea either.I'd just happy to meet single folk from the site, straight, gay or bi, swingers or not so long as they were ok people and discreet about any personal details that they may find out about others that they met.
Several wonderful contributers I can think of on this forum don't actually swing as such by choice but like the social side of SH.I'd be as pleased to see them at this proposed event as I would anyone else.
I can't quite relate to the badge idea either.I'd just happy to meet single folk from the site, straight, gay or bi, swingers or not so long as they were ok people and discreet about any personal details that they may find out about others that they met.
Several wonderful contributers I can think of on this forum don't actually swing as such by choice but like the social side of SH.I'd be as pleased to see them at this proposed event as I would anyone else.
quite interested reading this thread. as the organisers of the derby socials (just entering our 3rd year)i've been asked numerous times to arrange a "couples only" derby social,which i've not done due to the amount of "protests" i'd probably get from the members on here.(possibly from singles as they would be the ones not allowed to attend)plus i didn't think it was necessary.
has anyone thoughts on my 2 questions below please.
1) would the single's not mind if we had couples only socials here in derby?
2)what happens if 2 singles pair up at a singles social and become fuck buddies / partners would they be allowed to attend the next one?
3)as a couple who generally only meet single guys is it fair we couldn't attend?
has anyone thoughts on my 2 questions below please.
1) would the single's not mind if we had couples only socials here in derby?
2)what happens if 2 singles pair up at a singles social and become fuck buddies / partners would they be allowed to attend the next one?
3)as a couple who generally only meet single guys is it fair we couldn't attend?
Plenty of fair points Mr & Mrs Cockslut... Ya knows I lurve ya both and your socials are wicked!!
Yes I like many have been extremely grateful to attend your socials. I have met some FANTASTIC couples who I'd love to keep socialising with.
The idea of this one is in no-way to replace ANY othe social, just to be different, see what happenned etc. it could be a dissaster or could work wonders, we just don't know, the idea was posted on another thread so I thought why not sound it out.
I think you should arrange some couples only socials if it is intended for meeting other couples with these same idea's. Maybe we should have a singles one month, a couples another & a mixed another. I'd certainly be happy if you wanted to arrange all these then you could perv the men at the door lol plus it would make all the other socials more longed for as we'd have to wait a little longer for 'ours'
Also I'd guess the F.B. idea would have to be a bridge to be crossed at another time.
In short--This is, at the moment, a one off idea.
I certainly dont have all the answers just yet.
Minxie xxx
Yes I like many have been extremely grateful to attend your socials. I have met some FANTASTIC couples who I'd love to keep socialising with.
The idea of this one is in no-way to replace ANY othe social, just to be different, see what happenned etc. it could be a dissaster or could work wonders, we just don't know, the idea was posted on another thread so I thought why not sound it out.
I think you should arrange some couples only socials if it is intended for meeting other couples with these same idea's. Maybe we should have a singles one month, a couples another & a mixed another. I'd certainly be happy if you wanted to arrange all these then you could perv the men at the door lol plus it would make all the other socials more longed for as we'd have to wait a little longer for 'ours'
Also I'd guess the F.B. idea would have to be a bridge to be crossed at another time.
In short--This is, at the moment, a one off idea.
I certainly dont have all the answers just yet.
Minxie xxx
Quote by adamgt
ms_minxie - it's genius.
I do think the weekend thing will weed out fake singles. Making it short notice probably would as well - but I guess that's probably a bit too mean.
Go for it - can I put my name down now? :-)
For your information...you can be single and have kids you know !!!!!! I am 100% genuine single guy, but I still have my daughter every week-end. So week-ends can be difficult for me....and I certainly need notice to sort it out.
Also Cockslut has a fair point I feel. I like the normal socials because of the mix of people. It is social and so personally use it to put names to faces and to have a drink, laugh and a giggle with friends.
This could lead to couples only socials and certainly I would feel excluded then.
Sex God
Quote by cockslut
quite interested reading this thread. as the organisers of the derby socials (just entering our 3rd year)i've been asked numerous times to arrange a "couples only" derby social,which i've not done due to the amount of "protests" i'd probably get from the members on here.(possibly from singles as they would be the ones not allowed to attend)plus i didn't think it was necessary.
has anyone thoughts on my 2 questions below please.
1) would the single's not mind if we had couples only socials here in derby?
2)what happens if 2 singles pair up at a singles social and become fuck buddies / partners would they be allowed to attend the next one?
3)as a couple who generally only meet single guys is it fair we couldn't attend?
It is a fair point you raise... and one I have been thinking about overnight actually....
I do think inadvertantly you could open a pandora's box here.... after all.. if singles are doing it, why can't couples??? It could end up marginalising groups of people... as a single fem you are going to find it easier to accepted everywhere.... but that is not always the case for us single men
that is they way I feel the socials are heading in the north east, which is why my name hasn't been down for any in months, because as a well known single male it is easier for me, but if i was new I'd be jumping thru all sorts of hoops......which is something that I have spoken out against in other threads with quota's (the latest fad that is running thru the site at the moment) after all in the end and when all the dust clears if a social is just that a social, where people are just having a drink and a laugh, does it matter who is there?
so after thinking about it further..... if it does go ahead, I hope it does go well for you and it is a blast, but I don't think I would attend....that is just me personally speaking...
sean xxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
Also although we are a couple we can almost always only ever go to socials/munches etc as singles due to the lack of childcare....
Does this exclude us
Does this exclude us
Sex God
go minxie, just remember you wont please everyone, but then you havent got to have you , if you can fill a room with single folk, then do it girl... one or two people will say its a bad idea 
etc, but attendances will be the deciding factor, :shock: as for couples only nights being a consequence of this, why not, :shock: couples only nights, mixed nights, bi nights, straight nights, girls only, guys only who cares? the success of these nights or not will decide if they are worth having or not.
if you listen to the views of one or two on here you would never do anything new...every idea gets slaughtered by someone...
go minxie go minxie
wrats
xx
, if you can fill a room with single folk, then do it girl... one or two people will say its a bad idea etc, but attendances will be the deciding factor, :shock: as for couples only nights being a consequence of this, why not, :shock: couples only nights, mixed nights, bi nights, straight nights, girls only, guys only who cares? the success of these nights or not will decide if they are worth having or not.if you listen to the views of one or two on here you would never do anything new...every idea gets slaughtered by someone...
go minxie go minxie
wrats
xx
Sex God
We currently have rules governing how Munches are run and organised on here. Where people wish to organise a social event, we allow you to do your own thing, which is correct. Why should we dictate how you want to enjoy yourselves? However, due to recent circumstances, we have decided that certain conditions will apply to social events and parties publicised through Swinging Heaven. These are as follows:
1. The event is the responsibility of the organiser and a list of attendees is to be made available if requested.
2. If you know that banned people are attending you should state that this is the case as soon as known in the opening post.
Swinging Heaven is run for the good and benefit of its members, not anyone else. Wherever possible we endeavour to ensure that when you go to either a Munch or a Social, you can go knowing you will feel safe in the company of those attending.
The Social arranger can do what ever they like as long as 1 and 2 above are noted.
What ever you do you are not going to please everyone.
Minxie
You set a date and a location and your rules / guidelines for this and you go for it.
And I hope you all have a wonderful evening.
Orgasminator
Clubs have singles nights, couple nights, bi nights, girl nights, guy nights... i dont see why we can't have socials in the same way.
After all we already have BBW Socials and Black on White Socials. Why should any of these ideas be any different.
Sure some people are going to be unhappy, thats life, none of us can please everyone.
I love it when you negative towards me! :twisted:
After all we already have BBW Socials and Black on White Socials. Why should any of these ideas be any different.
Sure some people are going to be unhappy, thats life, none of us can please everyone.
Here is a radical thought, forget about causing someone unnecessary work in making different coloured badges, which will only serve to pigeonhole people who might like a bit of variety, and actually TALK to people at a social
OK, I know, I went too far
I love it when you negative towards me! :twisted:
Also i think it should be arranged in colour codes, ie, different colour badges for what your looking for. Red could be used for singles looking for straight liasons. Blue for bi and Yellow for gay.
If you use that system can I have all 3 coloured badges so as to force Chaotic to talk so she can find out which category i fit in!
If you use that system can I have all 3 coloured badges so as to force Chaotic to talk so she can find out which category i fit in!
Also i think it should be arranged in colour codes, ie, different colour badges for what your looking for. Red could be used for singles looking for straight liasons. Blue for bi and Yellow for gay.
If you use that system can I have all 3 coloured badges so as to force Chaotic to talk so she can find out which category i fit in!
If you use that system can I have all 3 coloured badges so as to force Chaotic to talk so she can find out which category i fit in!
Orgasminator
Quote by Kandleman
If you use that system can I have all 3 coloured badges so as to force Chaotic to talk so she can find out which category i fit in!
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Quote by cockslut
has anyone thoughts on my 2 questions below please.
1) would the single's not mind if we had couples only socials here in derby?
2)what happens if 2 singles pair up at a singles social and become fuck buddies / partners would they be allowed to attend the next one?
3)as a couple who generally only meet single guys is it fair we couldn't attend?
There are actually three questions
1) My opinion is there is enough elitist cliques going on already, without holding socials or munches that are selective towards specific groups or aimed at a particular status, its for that reason I wouldn't consider putting my name down for this, it's a SOCIAL, not a meat market, it matters not to me whether someone is a single, or part of a couple, my choices are made as a result of conversation or posting
2) If two singles then hooked up and became fuckbuddies, yes, they should be allowed to go again, as they are still two singles who happen to have spent more than one night together
If they decided to then become a couple, then no, they shouldn't be allowed to go
3)If a couple generally meet single guys, whose business is it of anyone but yours?
What you get up to in your life should have no relevance to others, unless it involves others
Quote by wild rose and the stag
go minxie, just remember you wont please everyone, but then you havent got to have you
if you listen to the views of one or two on here you would never do anything new...every idea gets slaughtered by someone...
go minxie go minxie
wrats
xx
Thankyou so much Wrats xx
I seem to have caused a stir in actually bringing this to print, which wasn't my intension, but opinions was.
I thankyou ALL for your input. This is what I needed. And yes, as you say, I'll never please ALL the people all the time. Why do some see this as an 'exclusion' negative? Im lucky to have not met anyone off here that I want to avoid but have noted its hard sometimes to find who IS available at mixed socials, BUT, I still love going to them. And as my previous thread stated 'Why cant we rotate some socials as in - One month mixed - next month - Couples - next month - Singles.. then back to mixed etc? everyone would at least be able to attend every 2 months. We know how good they are from when alot of us attend Cocksluts fab do's but Im not trying to step on any toes here, just trying to see if there's enough interest to warrent this.
At the end of the day you either would like to try this or you wont.
Be true to yourself and follow what you believe is right for you.
And Deano--- yes your right.. I too am a single parent and my daughter lives with me. I also have her to consider. So IF & when this social is arranged, it'll be with plenty of notice, so will probably be towards the end of January time.
Love Minxie xx
Quote by essex34m
has anyone thoughts on my 2 questions below please.
1) would the single's not mind if we had couples only socials here in derby?
2)what happens if 2 singles pair up at a singles social and become fuck buddies / partners would they be allowed to attend the next one?
3)as a couple who generally only meet single guys is it fair we couldn't attend?
There are actually three questions
1) My opinion is there is enough elitist cliques going on already, without holding socials or munches that are selective towards specific groups or aimed at a particular status, its for that reason I wouldn't consider putting my name down for this, it's a SOCIAL, not a meat market, it matters not to me whether someone is a single, or part of a couple, my choices are made as a result of conversation or posting
2) If two singles then hooked up and became fuckbuddies, yes, they should be allowed to go again, as they are still two singles who happen to have spent more than one night together
If they decided to then become a couple, then no, they shouldn't be allowed to go
3)If a couple generally meet single guys, whose business is it of anyone but yours?
What you get up to in your life should have no relevance to others, unless it involves others
Meat market?? Depends what YOU go to socials for?? I go to socialise, but I'd like to socailise every NOW & AGAIN where I know people are available to chat to and maybe get to know better/further. Certainly dont wanna hook them up there n then n test for quality
Come on--- keep this in perspective -- this is just a friendly IDEA at this stage, Im sure theres no need to degrade it to this extent. Until its been experienced.... Who Knows
Minxie xx
I go to Socials to socialise too
Isn't it a meat market? Couples are not part of this idea, but what is the actual reason?
Can't single people make any approaches?
Do couples reduce the opportunities for single people?
Do people in couples play alone?
Surely people can go to a social , attended by singles or couples, chat, socialise, form opinions, then take it further, by PM, IM's, texts etc?
So you would like to socialise NOW and AGAIN where people are available to chat to?
Are there socials where they arent available, or when you arent chatting now and again, its a meat market?
Dont get me wrong, I'm not taking this out of perspective, I'm looking at the reasoning behind it, I want to see what a singles only social would achieve that an open to all couldn't
Isn't it a meat market? Couples are not part of this idea, but what is the actual reason?
Can't single people make any approaches?
Do couples reduce the opportunities for single people?
Do people in couples play alone?
Surely people can go to a social , attended by singles or couples, chat, socialise, form opinions, then take it further, by PM, IM's, texts etc?
Quote by Ms_minxie
but I'd like to socailise every NOW & AGAIN where I know people are available to chat to and maybe get to know better/further.
So you would like to socialise NOW and AGAIN where people are available to chat to?
Are there socials where they arent available, or when you arent chatting now and again, its a meat market?
Dont get me wrong, I'm not taking this out of perspective, I'm looking at the reasoning behind it, I want to see what a singles only social would achieve that an open to all couldn't
Sex God
ok so its not for you, thats cool, i hate lables as you know, i cant be doing with cliques as you know, however i dont think that this is about that, what i am for is freedom for folk to do what they please without fear of rebuke from others on here just cos it doesnt suit them, i got taught that lesson when i spoke out about safe sex...
things work or they dont work, i said to cocksluts once that their socials were too often, as luck would have it they took no notice, and carried on doing what they thought best, i have little doubt that what they do is the most regular event on this site, and possibly the most succesful, people vote with their feet, let them do that with minxies idea, its not in the tradition of things on here i agree but what the fuck does that matter, people on other sites joke of the rules here as it is, lets not make anymore , i really dont think there is a question as to whether or not this should go ahead, its within site rules, if people say they want to go, the list will fill up and all that attend will do as they chose, now doing as i choose has a certain ring to it....
staggy
things work or they dont work, i said to cocksluts once that their socials were too often, as luck would have it they took no notice, and carried on doing what they thought best, i have little doubt that what they do is the most regular event on this site, and possibly the most succesful, people vote with their feet, let them do that with minxies idea, its not in the tradition of things on here i agree but what the fuck does that matter, people on other sites joke of the rules here as it is, lets not make anymore , i really dont think there is a question as to whether or not this should go ahead, its within site rules, if people say they want to go, the list will fill up and all that attend will do as they chose, now doing as i choose has a certain ring to it....
staggy
Quote by wild rose and the stag
ok so its not for you, thats cool, i hate lables as you know, i cant be doing with cliques as you know, however i dont think that this is about that, what i am for is freedom for folk to do what they please without fear of rebuke from others on here just cos it doesnt suit them, i got taught that lesson when i spoke out about safe sex...
things work or they dont work, i said to cocksluts once that their socials were too often, as luck would have it they took no notice, and carried on doing what they thought best, i have little doubt that what they do is the most regular event on this site, and possibly the most succesful, people vote with their feet, let them do that with minxies idea, its not in the tradition of things on here i agree but what the fuck does that matter, people on other sites joke of the rules here as it is, lets not make anymore , i really dont think there is a question as to whether or not this should go ahead, its within site rules, if people say they want to go, the list will fill up and all that attend will do as they chose, now doing as i choose has a certain ring to it....
staggy
Don't get me wrong, if someone organises this, and it's a success, great, I love going to socials, I am just curious as to why only singles, what the advantages are, why people are for or against it, and I think it should be looked at from both sides
I agree, people will do whatever they choose, and as long as it's within site rules, then there can't be anything wrong with it
But I also think it would be wrong without looking at the negative reasons too, I travel thousands of miles per year to go to socials and munches and meets, so it's not as though I dont have any interest
I know many wont like what I have previously said, they are just questions, I welcome any answers or comments
Sex God
too much analysis and ill bet someone comes up with a real good reason for this never to happen...a reason thats as brilliant as it is umlikely to be of consequence...
staggy
leave you to it now
staggy
leave you to it now
Don't get me wrong, if someone organises this, and it's a success, great, I love going to socials, I am just curious as to why only singles, what the advantages are, why people are for or against it, and I think it should be looked at from both sides
I agree, people will do whatever they choose, and as long as it's within site rules, then there can't be anything wrong with it
But I also think it would be wrong without looking at the negative reasons too, I travel thousands of miles per year to go to socials and munches and meets, so it's not as though I dont have any interest
I know many wont like what I have previously said, they are just questions, I welcome any answers or commentsI cant believe you didnt read the 'reasoning' behind Why Singles Socials...... I have stated it on nearly every post I've put up.
"I personally, and I know it's been said by others too, sometimes find it difficult trying to find out who's available for meets at a mixed social, without looking like a 'maneater or partner stealer'. I am far from that and if I want to share sex with anyone I usually get quite passionate, loads of kissing etc. I don't feel comfortable doing that with someone else's partner(in a couple)& Im sure they wouldn't want me too. This may be a swinging site but Im sure it wouldn't be appreaciated by a woman if I went to her man and asked if I could have a passionate session with him, probably get a smack! :boxing:
Those couple's I have shared fun with I've never been able to really let go & fulfill my desires. And isn't that what this is all about?? Comfortable, safe, clean, mutual fun?
Minxie xx
I agree, people will do whatever they choose, and as long as it's within site rules, then there can't be anything wrong with it
But I also think it would be wrong without looking at the negative reasons too, I travel thousands of miles per year to go to socials and munches and meets, so it's not as though I dont have any interest
I know many wont like what I have previously said, they are just questions, I welcome any answers or commentsI cant believe you didnt read the 'reasoning' behind Why Singles Socials...... I have stated it on nearly every post I've put up.
"I personally, and I know it's been said by others too, sometimes find it difficult trying to find out who's available for meets at a mixed social, without looking like a 'maneater or partner stealer'. I am far from that and if I want to share sex with anyone I usually get quite passionate, loads of kissing etc. I don't feel comfortable doing that with someone else's partner(in a couple)& Im sure they wouldn't want me too. This may be a swinging site but Im sure it wouldn't be appreaciated by a woman if I went to her man and asked if I could have a passionate session with him, probably get a smack! :boxing:
Those couple's I have shared fun with I've never been able to really let go & fulfill my desires. And isn't that what this is all about?? Comfortable, safe, clean, mutual fun?
Minxie xx
As one of the earlier supportive contributors to this thread, i have seen nothing in the subsequent posts that has caused me to change my mind.....
The idea as a concept is still worth pursuing and to me it seems that it could become a sensible and valuable addition to the current SH calendar of events.
Whether or not it becomes a regular (prob a cpl of times a year) event will depend solely on the reaction on the night in terms of numbers turning up, so.................
Go minxie go...and i will be there (hopefully)
RWL
xx
The idea as a concept is still worth pursuing and to me it seems that it could become a sensible and valuable addition to the current SH calendar of events.
Whether or not it becomes a regular (prob a cpl of times a year) event will depend solely on the reaction on the night in terms of numbers turning up, so.................
Go minxie go...and i will be there (hopefully)
RWL
xx
Short one from me, a good idea from my point of view as i would like to meet other single people being single myself. It can be very hard as a single person on here as a lot of ads state no single males and so we are excluded a lot of time before we even start. (lot of singles in there and much longer than i intended ). Time to get off the hobby horse and say again, good idea Ms_minxie i would be interested if it goes ahead
Sex God
Quote by Ms_minxie
I cant believe you didnt read the 'reasoning' behind Why Singles Socials...... I have stated it on nearly every post I've put up.
"I personally, and I know it's been said by others too, sometimes find it difficult trying to find out who's available for meets at a mixed social, without looking like a 'maneater or partner stealer'. I am far from that and if I want to share sex with anyone I usually get quite passionate, loads of kissing etc. I don't feel comfortable doing that with someone else's partner(in a couple)& Im sure they wouldn't want me too. This may be a swinging site but Im sure it wouldn't be appreaciated by a woman if I went to her man and asked if I could have a passionate session with him, probably get a smack! :boxing:
Those couple's I have shared fun with I've never been able to really let go & fulfill my desires. And isn't that what this is all about?? Comfortable, safe, clean, mutual fun?
Minxie xx
Just set a date and organise it then; people will either come or they won't. No good asking if people would be interested without giving a date/rough location.
