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Warming the Bed
never thought it would be this hard to meet people on here,no fault of the site of course.....just seems to be lots and lots of time wasters!!!.and people collecting pics.c'mon peeps lets get busy lol lol
Quote by sexybriefs
never thought it would be this hard to meet people on here,no fault of the site of course.....just seems to be lots and lots of time wasters!!!.and people collecting pics.c'mon peeps lets get busy lol lol

You've only been on since 26th March, it's a site for people to meet, not a speed dating service!
Warming the Bed
I can understand Frecklebirds comments but I have to agree with Mr Briefs....there are a lot of timewasters on here....that includes women....(even tho most women on here acuse men of being timewasters)... I guess its the same both sides....
In closing....have faith Mr Briefs...there are many genuine and lovely women on this site.
Master of Sex
Go on, atta girl, you tell him!!! strangers are just friends you haven't met yet, If you don't post, you will never make contact, if you do, you are too impatient, a man cannot win!!! LOL.
Sex God
no offence... but a quick shag site this isn't!!!!
jaggy and sexy briefs... you have been forum members for 1 whole week!!!!! geez!!!
people like to get to know people and see if they get on...meet at munches as see what happens..... swinging is more that just sex....
if you are just interested in getting your leg over.. then i suggest either your local red light district.. or any city centre on a saturday night....... mad :x :x :x
sean
Warming the Bed
Can you recomend any city centres on a saturday night.....lol...
You are missing the point and pressuming a little too much.....neither of us are or have referred to a quick shag....The issues being raised above concern the quality and content of posts and the need, or not as the cae may be, for more or less information...depending on the readers disposition...
Sex God
Quote by jagga
Can you recomend any city centres on a saturday night.....lol...
You are missing the point and pressuming a little too much.....neither of us are or have referred to a quick shag....The issues being raised above concern the quality and content of posts and the need, or not as the cae may be, for more or less information...depending on the readers disposition...

.....and then i would say to you that you have been forum members for exactly 1 WHOLE WEEK......and for you to make sweeping generalistions is both unfair and wide of the mark.....
the forum is a different creature to the ad's and the chatrooms.....you will find that it tends to be a lot slower and relaxed and for the most part we like to get to know people a bit and meet up at munchies and other events.....
since mr briefs has made 3 posts... and you have made all of 6 posts, i would ask you the question "what have we learnt about both of you so far?" "what exactly have you told us about yourselves?" to which the answer to both is not a lot........
if you want to complain about the ads then fine, alot of us here have then, but were tend to use then as addition info, as opposed to stand alones.......but did you consider that you in fact are complaining to the wrong crowd of people???
sean xxxxxxxx
Quote by jagga
Can you recomend any city centres on a saturday night.....lol...
You are missing the point and pressuming a little too much.....neither of us are or have referred to a quick shag....The issues being raised above concern the quality and content of posts and the need, or not as the cae may be, for more or less information...depending on the readers disposition...

I was going to say the old "not being funny line" but I am.... so I won't drop the line in.
I have not been posting much of late as the quality you refer to on the forums has gone down rather too much for me to feel bothered enough to join in. I have had lots going on in my personal life and believe it or not, I am no longer on this site 24/7 due to the amount of people thinking I was willing to get my knicks off for just anyone.
I am swinger, yes, but I still want to be treated with some tenderness, consideration and most importantly respect. If someone disrespects me it is the biggest turn off going. I don't want to be treated like a piece of meat or a bike to be riden and passed on. IF I wanted that feeling I'd become a hooker and at least get paid for doing it.
confused
Little Gem and Sexy Steph, I am a 'relative' newcommer and have only been on the site since August last year, however, I have also noticed a difference in the posts being made and could not agree more with you both.
It makes me so frustrated when I see posts from people who have joined only a few days earlier complaining that no one as gone out of their way to meet them. Do they not realise that anything worth having takes effort and if these guys are too lazy to put in the effort then I am certainly not going to go out of my way to help them!
As long as we have guys like Fabio (sorry just to name you Sean but cant list everyone)and the other decent regular posters on here, Swinging Heaven will continue to be the excellent 'Community' it has become, but the influx of all the new 'one-nght-member - give me a shag' briggade are certainly not helping and it is no wonder people get so frustrated with all the one line posters! :cry:
Sorry if I have offended anyone but that is my personal view and as others have been quick enough to express theirs, I thought I would put my thoughts on as well.
Warming the Bed
who's this jagga???? nothing to do with sexybriefs,fabbio!! cool
Orgasminator
I have just joined and have had lots of fun so far and unlike other adult sites there is no charge (unless I'm really being charged £3 a min to connect to the Soloman isles in which case its a good job it aint my computer!) but seriously you ARE meeting real people like er now for instance! Check out the posting times, follow the banter ask a question ,its for real just like we are all in a bar somplace. Thing is as a male there are 10000s like us and the actual reality is that a female unless 100% sure is not gonna just pick up , nor am I gonna drive miles to meet a stranger in the middle of nowhere on the say so of one e mail, so It is really down to the art of conversation . One liners irritate me too kinda like the people who , when given an open mike just say somthing like "hi to everyone who knows me "if you want to debate in the forum feel free ,Maybe try the chatroom for realtime conversation although personaly I find it scrolls too fast for me and I then become a one liner merchant! Agreed an ad on its own unless unusual or offering somthing unique is not going to fare any better than the rest of the "male seeks female for sex " type ads just like another ford fiesta for sale in your local paper really.
Excellent post Judy, says it all... worship
Mike.
Master of Sex
Quote by fabio grooverider
Can you recomend any city centres on a saturday night.....lol...
You are missing the point and pressuming a little too much.....neither of us are or have referred to a quick shag....The issues being raised above concern the quality and content of posts and the need, or not as the cae may be, for more or less information...depending on the readers disposition...

.....and then i would say to you that you have been forum members for exactly 1 WHOLE WEEK......and for you to make sweeping generalistions is both unfair and wide of the mark.....
the forum is a different creature to the ad's and the chatrooms.....you will find that it tends to be a lot slower and relaxed and for the most part we like to get to know people a bit and meet up at munchies and other events.....
since mr briefs has made 3 posts... and you have made all of 6 posts, i would ask you the question "what have we learnt about both of you so far?" "what exactly have you told us about yourselves?" to which the answer to both is not a lot........
if you want to complain about the ads then fine, alot of us here have then, but were tend to use then as addition info, as opposed to stand alones.......but did you consider that you in fact are complaining to the wrong crowd of people???
sean xxxxxxxx
Well put Fabio I am new to the site as well but as an old observer (about 1 year) feel I know a lot of the guys on here, hopefully they are getting to know me a bit now. This site is chilled, laid back, humerous and serious when it needs to be. Much more a community than any other site. Guys more interested in each other not just interested in what to get for themselves.
:love: xxx
being a newbie myself i have to agree that this is a most unwelcoming place!
i have never met anyone on here, i truelly believe that they are all timewasters!
have spent hours going through adverts.... but do i get a single offer of a shag? - no i dont!.
something needs to be done. i propose those moddy peeps get their acts together and sort out some shags for us newbies as time is ticking on - and i dont want to waste it being here when i get nothing to show for it.
Master of Sex
Quote by well_busty_babe
being a newbie myself i have to agree that this is a most unwelcoming place!
i have never met anyone on here, i truelly believe that they are all timewasters!
have spent hours going through adverts.... but do i get a single offer of a shag? - no i dont!.
something needs to be done. i propose those moddy peeps get their acts together and sort out some shags for us newbies as time is ticking on - and i dont want to waste it being here when i get nothing to show for it.

ffs read judy's post ! mad I am a firm believer that if you want something you have to earn it. You must be pressing the wrong buttons and quite frankly my dear, this post I would say is one of those buttons :gagged:
:love: xxx
Quote by hornet harlot
ffs read judy's post ! mad I am a firm believer that if you want something you have to earn it. You must be pressing the wrong buttons and quite frankly my dear, this post I would say is one of those buttons :gagged:
:love: xxx

Erm, harlot, please switch your irony detector back on, it must have got switched off by mistake... lol
Master of Sex
Quote by MikeNorth

ffs read judy's post ! mad I am a firm believer that if you want something you have to earn it. You must be pressing the wrong buttons and quite frankly my dear, this post I would say is one of those buttons :gagged:
:love: xxx

Erm, harlot, please switch your irony detector back on, it must have got switched off by mistake... lol
oops thanks mike get a bit carried away sometimes. ok it's on now :silly: mmmm feel much better now
:love: xxx
Quote by well_busty_babe
being a newbie myself i have to agree that this is a most unwelcoming place!
i have never met anyone on here, i truelly believe that they are all timewasters!
have spent hours going through adverts.... but do i get a single offer of a shag? - no i dont!.
something needs to be done. i propose those moddy peeps get their acts together and sort out some shags for us newbies as time is ticking on - and i dont want to waste it being here when i get nothing to show for it.
Surely, you are joking????
I am a relative Newbie too................... I love it here !.................... I wanted to swing for years but until I found this site, I didnt know where or how to begin.......
I have been to a number of munches and parties and I am even organising a social event of my own.........Note............... "A social event"
Swinging Heaven is more than a "shag me quick" site................It's a chance to meet like minded individuals !!
Obviously you are not "like minded", so maybe you need to look elsewhere ?
P.S. Sexbriefs, I would also like to point out that your post is in the wrong place.......... It is not about a munch, party or meet and as such should not be on "Lets Meet Up"....... it is a discussion that should be in the "cafe"........ but being as you havent grabbed the concept of SH at all........ I am not surprise you entered it in the wrong place !
Quote by blondeslave
being a newbie myself i have to agree that this is a most unwelcoming place!
i have never met anyone on here, i truelly believe that they are all timewasters!
have spent hours going through adverts.... but do i get a single offer of a shag? - no i dont!.
something needs to be done. i propose those moddy peeps get their acts together and sort out some shags for us newbies as time is ticking on - and i dont want to waste it being here when i get nothing to show for it.
Surely, you are joking????
Errrrrrrm..........yep I'm afraid she was. Naughty, naughty well_busty_babe. smackbottom
Steve (a moddy peep)
Quote by steveg_nw
being a newbie myself i have to agree that this is a most unwelcoming place!
i have never met anyone on here, i truelly believe that they are all timewasters!
have spent hours going through adverts.... but do i get a single offer of a shag? - no i dont!.
something needs to be done. i propose those moddy peeps get their acts together and sort out some shags for us newbies as time is ticking on - and i dont want to waste it being here when i get nothing to show for it.
Surely, you are joking????
Errrrrrrm..........yep I'm afraid she was. Naughty, naughty well_busty_babe. smackbottom
Steve (a moddy peep)
OK............... eeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr..................... well I am blonde..... thats my excuse and I am sticking to it...........lol
well ithats told me! rolleyes
chhers blondslave and hornetharlot... things are so much easier to understand now! lol
lol
judy...................... im am toooooo much of a lady to comment, and you are too much of a lady toooooo hear what i would have said anyway... so lets just say "bring it on" on fri! :twisted:
WBB ...still rubbing her bum after moddy steves beating!
Master of Sex
aww jeez busty babe makes those comments then she gets rewarded with the " sleeping bag treatment " no fair kiss
:love: xxx
Quote by hornet harlot
aww jeez busty babe makes those comments then she gets rewarded with the " sleeping bag treatment " no fair kiss
:love: xxx

i have "earnt" it....... trust me!
lol
Master of Sex
Quote by JudyTV
aww jeez busty babe makes those comments then she gets rewarded with the " sleeping bag treatment " no fair kiss
:love: xxx

I notice from your profile you want to be a sex slave, (it says, "I wish") :P well if you get yourself over to Manchester on Friday night we will make you our sex slave and lock you in our room with your sleeping bag and take it in turns to return every half hour and abuse you with a strap-on, riding crop and a bull-whip. If you are a really good little slave we may even let you speak and allow you to beg for a shag.
Sex slave request eh? Be careful what you wish for .... you just may get it biggrin wink
Judy
......... expert at training sex slaves and still searching for a personal maid.
just made a slight adjustment to my profile innocent
:love: xxx
Quote by hornet harlot
aww jeez busty babe makes those comments then she gets rewarded with the " sleeping bag treatment " no fair kiss
:love: xxx

I notice from your profile you want to be a sex slave, (it says, "I wish") :P well if you get yourself over to Manchester on Friday night we will make you our sex slave and lock you in our room with your sleeping bag and take it in turns to return every half hour and abuse you with a strap-on, riding crop and a bull-whip. If you are a really good little slave we may even let you speak and allow you to beg for a shag.
Sex slave request eh? Be careful what you wish for .... you just may get it biggrin wink
Judy
......... expert at training sex slaves and still searching for a personal maid.
just made a slight adjustment to my profile innocent
:love: xxx
Nicely done! rotflmao
Sex God
Quote by well_busty_babe
being a newbie myself i have to agree that this is a most unwelcoming place!
i have never met anyone on here, i truelly believe that they are all timewasters!
have spent hours going through adverts.... but do i get a single offer of a shag? - no i dont!.
something needs to be done. i propose those moddy peeps get their acts together and sort out some shags for us newbies as time is ticking on - and i dont want to waste it being here when i get nothing to show for it.

I got a Shag Pile going Begging Well_Busty, would that do for a start?
John
wink
Sexpert
I think you will find there are always timewasters/ pic collectors on all websites and I have to say I have begun to suss who is genuine and who isn't since being on here and have met some very genuine people.
Just like offers posted in various walks of life,if the offer sounds too good it is obviously yet another timewaster/pic collector.
Here endeth my sermon and remember be careful(and safe)out there.
Warming the Bed
I'm Stuart a fit genuine guy looking for fun, I will not waste yours or my time as you say there are too many timewasters, why not get i touch.
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Warming the Bed
Quote by well_busty_babe
being a newbie myself i have to agree that this is a most unwelcoming place!
i have never met anyone on here, i truelly believe that they are all timewasters!
have spent hours going through adverts.... but do i get a single offer of a shag? - no i dont!.
something needs to be done. i propose those moddy peeps get their acts together and sort out some shags for us newbies as time is ticking on - and i dont want to waste it being here when i get nothing to show for it.
have'nt you read what has been said here? i'm also a newbie here who has gone the wrong way about this site but i'm learning this is a place to make freinds and a big part in freindship is trust, i'm gonna keep bashing away trying to earn trust and hopefully soon meet people at munches and in the chatroom. there is sum really nice stuff coming from the words of the experienced guys and gals... smile
Stial..... Well_Busty_Babe was joking rolleyes She is far from a newbie....