Hi all. Just need some advice. Me and the misses are looking at doing our first 3 some. Now she want someone to do it with us who knows us. I only know one person a mate of ours that would do it. She doesnt fancy him. All our other mates wouldnt do it.
I said about getting a stanger in to do it. She is not sure as we wouldn't know the person. But i said we could for a bit then do do it. Meet in a bar somewhere first.
What would you guys do???
Friend or stranger
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Sexlightened
I spose it depends on what your looking for .. My husband and I have spoke about trying a 3some at some point in our swinging adventure and we personally would not feel comfortable with doing this with a mate that we know really well.
I would suggest scouting through the adds and see if any of the adds there are what you are lookng for .. you can always just meet a couple of times in a bar to get to know them first
I would suggest scouting through the adds and see if any of the adds there are what you are lookng for .. you can always just meet a couple of times in a bar to get to know them first
I would preferre a stranger that we get to know as like you said we could loose a good friend. Most of her girl friends are single. Or she doesnt know them enough to use there boy friends.
I know she is interested and she allways when the time is right. She get very horny thinking about it. So she has the fantasy there but not doing anything from it.
I know she is interested and she allways when the time is right. She get very horny thinking about it. So she has the fantasy there but not doing anything from it.
Sex God
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I would suggest scouting through the adds and see if any of the adds there are what you are lookng for .. you can always just meet a couple of times in a bar to get to know them first
Actually... if it was me... I probably wouldn' look thru the ads,not if it was going to be my first time.... if only that i feel personally that you get a better feel for someone on here in the forums that i think you do on the ad's... plus you can do past reading on any prospective person, as well as pm's sent...
also you then have the option at meeting at munches and deciding if you want to from there you have a big party enviroment....
sean xxxxxxxxxxxx
Definitely a stranger Sorted, the risk of doing something with or even suggesting it to an old friend (rather than with one you've made through swinging) is that you run the risk of them sharing all the details with others if you fall out.......and it might be a silly, something out of nothing falling out that can never be put right if they share that info. You may also find yourself alienated by other "friends" because of it - it sounds extreme but it happens.
Stick to a stranger, just take your time setting it up
Stick to a stranger, just take your time setting it up
Sex God
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Definitely a stranger Sorted, the risk of doing something with or even suggesting it to an old friend (rather than with one you've made through swinging) is that you run the risk of them sharing all the details with others if you fall out.......and it might be a silly, something out of nothing falling out that can never be put right if they share that info. You may also find yourself alienated by other "friends" because of it - it sounds extreme but it happens.
Stick to a stranger, just take your time setting it up
Excellent point. Was in two minds about this one, but now you've said it ..................... Stranger.
unless you have very open minded friends i wouldnt like to have to deal with using the line....
'my missis wants to sleep with you'
unless its someone you know swings already and who knows the ground rules.
i would suggest if its someone you know, or someone you just pick to be the ONE there is always the paranoia afterwards of is there something else going on, especially for the first time.
a stranger is only a stranger for so long, and i guess they wouldnt still be a stranger once youve got to know them, and then at least your in the driving seat.
also you wouldnt want your mates telling your other mates that he went with your missis, it could get complicated.
that was a long way of saying stranger....sorry.
'my missis wants to sleep with you'
unless its someone you know swings already and who knows the ground rules.
i would suggest if its someone you know, or someone you just pick to be the ONE there is always the paranoia afterwards of is there something else going on, especially for the first time.
a stranger is only a stranger for so long, and i guess they wouldnt still be a stranger once youve got to know them, and then at least your in the driving seat.
also you wouldnt want your mates telling your other mates that he went with your missis, it could get complicated.
that was a long way of saying stranger....sorry.
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unless you have very open minded friends i wouldnt like to have to deal with using the line....'my missis wants to sleep with you'
unless its someone you know swings already and who knows the ground rules.
i would suggest if its someone you know, or someone you just pick to be the ONE there is always the paranoia afterwards of is there something else going on, especially for the first time.
a stranger is only a stranger for so long,
also you wouldnt want your mates telling your other mates that he went with your missis, it could get complicated.
that was a long way of saying stranger....sorry.
So totally agree with the above argument made by my fave TallBoy. :thumbup:
My vote is on stranger too.
:smackbottom: :smackbottom:Quote by Sorted16v
Some good advice from all of you. I have said stranger before but i still think she would want to do it with someone we know. Like you said it is worth making friends with people and asking them to do it
Have you thought about your milkman or postman who are not exactly your mates but you know them to be reliable and trustworthy....? Only joking.....
detective debz is on the case.
she will also be able to tell you what colour pants your wearing today.
perhaps the answer sorted is to ask for single men in your area to come fowards and maybe meet for a few drinks, i sure as hell dont mind going out on the piss more and im sure they wont either. Then you will be able to guage what you think, contrary to popular opinion were not all dogs on heat who want to stip your girlfirend naked as soon as possible (Although maybe as some point lol). Many of us single gents can actually handle a night out just for fun and conversation (oh and beer!).
so how about asking her what she fancies? old, young, tall, short, fat, thin? that should narrow it down.
she will also be able to tell you what colour pants your wearing today.
perhaps the answer sorted is to ask for single men in your area to come fowards and maybe meet for a few drinks, i sure as hell dont mind going out on the piss more and im sure they wont either. Then you will be able to guage what you think, contrary to popular opinion were not all dogs on heat who want to stip your girlfirend naked as soon as possible (Although maybe as some point lol). Many of us single gents can actually handle a night out just for fun and conversation (oh and beer!).
so how about asking her what she fancies? old, young, tall, short, fat, thin? that should narrow it down.
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Definitely a stranger Sorted, the risk of doing something with or even suggesting it to an old friend (rather than with one you've made through swinging) is that you run the risk of them sharing all the details with others if you fall out.......and it might be a silly, something out of nothing falling out that can never be put right if they share that info. You may also find yourself alienated by other "friends" because of it - it sounds extreme but it happens.
Stick to a stranger, just take your time setting it up
Excellent point. Was in two minds about this one, but now you've said it ..................... Stranger.
I really think so too. I can remember someone posting some time ago about how friends had discovered their swinging through another person they'd confided in - I can't remember who it was but I do recall that it seemed like a very upsetting situation for everyone involved. Whilst it's easy to argue that friends shouldn't behave differently when they know, there's a 50/50 chance they will - I wouldn't risk a good friendship over differing views of sexual behaviour!
For the threesome idea........try to find someone through SH, they might not be a friend yet but they might not be a complete stranger either, best of both worlds! :D
Just go to a swingers club (on singles night could be best)and take your pick lol
Its not rocket science lol
There are loads of ads on here!!
Just take a good luck and then its up to you
Or go to a munch get to know other people and then you could be in a better position and be more relaxed in having a threesome with someone youve met and know a bit about :wink:
Hope you get sorted out :wink:
Mr & Mrs goodtimez
Its not rocket science lol
There are loads of ads on here!!
Just take a good luck and then its up to you
Or go to a munch get to know other people and then you could be in a better position and be more relaxed in having a threesome with someone youve met and know a bit about :wink:
Hope you get sorted out :wink:
Mr & Mrs goodtimez
Orgasminator
stranger eveytime, just wouldn't want to risk potentially lousing up a friendship
