so i'm gonna say me bit, but ask you give credit where credit's due, cos maybe we sometimes give Mark and the Mods less credit than they deserve for "the cafe", and for the effort they put in. a lot more effort than the 1000 posts took me. i have some small idea of the effort it takes, entirely in their own free time, to keep this place on an even keel. i have the utmost respect for the site, for mark, and for the heavenly helpers, who allow us to witter on and post uttershite in a completely random way, so if there's any back-slapping to be done . . . . it ain't mine i'm after slapping!
i think like most people you find the site, one way or another, then go into headless chicken mode looking round the lot, thinking how have i missed out on this all me life? when you realise it maybe ain't quite what you thought it might be, you either leave, or you look for a place to chill while you learn a bit more about swinging, and more importantly, swingers. sometimes you find that it's actually the people that are far more important to you than the actual swinging . . . . . and thoughts of swinging can actually get in the way of things, and fire off all kinds of thoughts . . . .
the chatroom's one place i chilled in for a while . . . it's all one line banter, and just bouncing off each other quick as you can, but you don't really get to learn very much in there!
the cafe's very different. whether by accident or design, it's been allowed not to be about sex very much at all in here. there's other bits of the site do pretty well on that score by all accounts, but in here it is about swingers, and even non-swingers, as people! and i think that's why so much effort's been made here by so many contributors, cos it's the perfect place to watch and learn for the toe-dippers among us, cos there is no topic, and it's utterly random. ((( yes i know, you can keep your comments to yourselves ta very much! ;-) ))) it's often completely insane, and surreal, and deep! i wouldn't know where to find the worst offenders! ;-) blatant hijackers the lot of yas!! but i occasionally make a serious statement among all the bollox, cos i learn things here, and want to share them.
banter, inane drivel, amd complete bollox are what we do while we wait for the deep, serious stuff to come along and hopefully sink in and strike a chord. and more often than not it's the complete bollox that keeps you coming back long enough for realisations to dawn, and it's not the sexual aspect at all, for many of us! there's a lot of common ground here that has very little to do with sex in itself, and everything to do with people. i'd challenge anyone to find a more active, intelligent, witty, welcoming community anywhere, or one that forges such strong friendships, either online or In Real Life.
i've rediscovered my enthusiasm for the place, as have many i think looking at the cafe lately. it's not been so hard to log off for ages, so i've gone a bit post happy, and blatantly hijacked threads at a ferocious pace, but it looks like more and more are seeing the place in that light? i hope so!
i seem to have offended by being so enthusiastic, but inane drivel is what i do. as for the swinging? yet to decide. i come here for the friendships, not the sex!i really don't want to think just how many hours i've spent here, but the fact i have, well thanks! a lot! keeping each other addicted till we reach that point, and understand, is very much the point IMHO!
neil x x x ;-)
:worship: :worship: well done mate.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: 
:kiss: 
what would we ever do without you? Here's :cheers: to many more!
) keep it up :lol: 
