These last couple of responses are so true as I think a lot of men are relaxed about cock play but not keen on kissing etc.
This is an area where the 'looking for' options on SH are a bit limited and should allow an 'OK with' option.
I consider myself straight and not looking for a bi male but I'm not put off by gay or bi men and wouldn't rule out some interaction at some stage.
Thanks to the OP, because it's a interesting and broad topic.
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I'm married here and don't fancy guys at all, however I do like to mess with other guys now and again. There's no physical attraction for me and I don't want to kiss or fuck other guys, or be fucked for that matter. What I do love though is just getting naked and horny with a guy, maybe over a porno, to wank and perhaps suck each other. Its just a mutual blokey thing for me - porno on, pants off, talk dirty, wank, suck, spunk then off we go our separate ways. No strings or commitments. Its just good sharing a bit of intimacy with a likeminded bloke now n again, without wife/gf involvement, and get off on each others cock n balls. I've met a number of guys into the same sort of thing and can highly recommend it.
You've summed it up perfectly j_b_220 - When I was early teens I used to go around to a neighbours house and we somehow ended up wanking in front of each other. I guess it was the first sexual thing I;d done with another human-being, but the explicit excitement of sharing an orgasm and the seeing a hard cock with another guy has never left me.
Over the past few years the idea of exploring this again has been a real turn-on.. I also dont fancy guys, would never want to kiss or go near a guys ass, but holding, masturbating and sucking the cock of someone similar to me now feels natural. :twisted:
Oh.. if anyone is interested i've started a Tumblr blog that I use to share ideas with similar guys - may be of interest . PM me for details.
honestly, for some reason guys believe they are 'gay' if they have ideas about other guys cocks. Twistedly those same guys get their rocks off watching two girls get it on. Not that two girls getting it on means they don't fancy guys, in the head of the 'macho' guy of course, that's normal behaviour. If for some reason a guy has ideas that sucking cock (second or third base) is a bit too far, then give a bloody good hand job (first base) and have one reciprocated. Sorry girls but only a guy, or a bloody good hooker, knows what a good handjob is. Or klixen.
Never really fancied sex with men in my younger days, but cursed with a frigid wife and blessed with a bisexual friend, my views changed as I got older. Whilst I still actively pursue sex with the ladies on the rare occasion I can "pull", I have great sex with the men, most of whom are merely acquaintances. Like women, they come in all shapes, sizes and peculiarities, together with various sexual preferences, many I too can enjoy. The best thing about male sex, whether it's just oral and wank or a full blown anal fuck, is that few preliminaries are expected, parting is usually swift and uncomplicated, and you haven't had to go dining, dancing and cinema for weeks beforehand. I have had sex with gay men, never been a problem as soon as you accept the genuine gay sees life differently, but still enjoys the union of two bodies and exchange of juices. One caution, though; some bi-guys don't snog, the though of kissing another man is repulsive, but if you have fun with a gay man, be prepared for some nice wet snogging, tongues compulsory. And don't forget the condom.... xxx Jon
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if i was you i would go to a sauna. there are quite a few gay/bi saunas scattered about. i could name about 3 or 4 in london alone.
you dont have to talk to anyone, you are not pressured into anything and you dont have to do anything if you dont want to, you could just observe, check out some naked guys or even watch other guys playing. see if it does anything for you.
the steam room is usually where the action is, it will be dark in there and peoples hands will wonder. if you see someone you like the look of you just smile and follow them into the steam room and try and sit next to them. all you have to do to find out if they are interested is stroke their leg gently. if they move away or push your hand away then its a no go... take the hint. if they dont move away then thats an invite to let your hands wonder. if someone touches you and you rather they did not then you knock their hand away slowly and gently or get up and leave the steam room. no one gets offended, they move onto someone else they probably stand a better chance with.
if youre just wanting to touch or suck another guys cock or have another guy do the same to you to see if you like it or not then that would be the less complicated way to go about it if you ask me.
the hardest bit would be to pluck up the courage to actually go to one.
the reason im suggesting a sauna is as follows
usually cleaner than sex clubs, cinemas etc.
everyone is there for the same reason
no messing about with profiles, online time wasters, people who dont show up etc
its nice and relaxing just having a sauna, some saunas have cafes and lounge/tv rooms where you can people watch and decide who you are interested in.
if you cant accommodate meeting someone
you can be selective about who you play with. if guys find you attractive then you will get a lot of attention and the pick of the bunch. and probably have to slap a lot of hands lol
people are clean, showered etc
totally anonymous, no one knows your name, has your phone number.
ive been to a few saunas and not played just had a sauna because there wasnt anyone there i liked the look of. ive also been to a few saunas where ive had some really good fun dublin and amsterdam spring to mind. ive never kissed a guy and most dont attempt to kiss you either.
you dont have to talk to anyone, you are not pressured into anything and you dont have to do anything if you dont want to, you could just observe, check out some naked guys or even watch other guys playing. see if it does anything for you.
the steam room is usually where the action is, it will be dark in there and peoples hands will wonder. if you see someone you like the look of you just smile and follow them into the steam room and try and sit next to them. all you have to do to find out if they are interested is stroke their leg gently. if they move away or push your hand away then its a no go... take the hint. if they dont move away then thats an invite to let your hands wonder. if someone touches you and you rather they did not then you knock their hand away slowly and gently or get up and leave the steam room. no one gets offended, they move onto someone else they probably stand a better chance with.
if youre just wanting to touch or suck another guys cock or have another guy do the same to you to see if you like it or not then that would be the less complicated way to go about it if you ask me.
the hardest bit would be to pluck up the courage to actually go to one.
the reason im suggesting a sauna is as follows
usually cleaner than sex clubs, cinemas etc.
everyone is there for the same reason
no messing about with profiles, online time wasters, people who dont show up etc
its nice and relaxing just having a sauna, some saunas have cafes and lounge/tv rooms where you can people watch and decide who you are interested in.
if you cant accommodate meeting someone
you can be selective about who you play with. if guys find you attractive then you will get a lot of attention and the pick of the bunch. and probably have to slap a lot of hands lol
people are clean, showered etc
totally anonymous, no one knows your name, has your phone number.
ive been to a few saunas and not played just had a sauna because there wasnt anyone there i liked the look of. ive also been to a few saunas where ive had some really good fun dublin and amsterdam spring to mind. ive never kissed a guy and most dont attempt to kiss you either.
Warming the Bed
Good topic and totally understand where the OP is coming from.
With regard to feeling completely differently after you've cum, well that's fairly normal. I'm sure most guys have had a wank and felt a bit silly (maybe even ashamed) right after they finish.
I've always described my self as sexually bisexual, but emotionally straight. It's a term I use whenever I'm chatting to bi men or Bi-m couples on here. It is a nice shorthand way of explaining things.
To give you something to think about I'll tell you how I got into the bi side of things...
I've always had a high sex drive and one evening in my 20's, whilst at a party I was sitting in a small group, there were a couple of gay guys. In amongst the general chat one of the guys said that he was always bottom (or the receiver, I think might have been his actual words).
A few days later I was horny watching some porn and that line came back to me. I thought that if there are guys who only like that, then it must feel good in some way.
SO being someone who would rather regret having done something, than regret never having done something, I decided to see if I could arrange it.
I was on a different site and after a lot of messages to different people, chatted to a guy and he came over.
There was mutual oral and he took my anal cherry.
I'll be honest, I didn't enjoy it. I don't think it was the act itself, I think it was a combination of things. Me being nervous, there not really being enough lube and the feeling of wham-bam-thankyou-man, that came of it.
That put me off for a bit, but I decided to try again after a while.
One evening on here I advertised for a guy. Nothing much came back that I felt comfortable with, so I went out. I came back to find a message (amazingly) from a couple.
I went over there soon after and we had a really relaxing evening, slow build up and we all had sex. O and A (both ways) for us guys. It was a good experience and from that I started occasionally meeting other guys.
I'm still mostly into women, but I completely accept that I like a cock up my arse. You say about how it is a 'gay activity'. It's really not. Sex is about what feels good and if you like a to suck cock or like me, have the occasional anal fuck, that just means you have a sexual kink. Being gay (so far as I can tell) is about much more than that.
I'd encourage you to dabble. It can be great fun, especially with a couple.
I'm still looking to fulfill a fantasy of being in the middle of a couple, me fucking her while he's fucking me. After the mindblowing orgasms I've had from anal sex alone (seriously, a lifelike dildo is a great investment), I can only imagine how good that would be!
Wow, that got a bit longer than I had planned.
To summerise: You have one life to experience things. Go find out if you like it or not. You might be very happy that you did.
With regard to feeling completely differently after you've cum, well that's fairly normal. I'm sure most guys have had a wank and felt a bit silly (maybe even ashamed) right after they finish.
I've always described my self as sexually bisexual, but emotionally straight. It's a term I use whenever I'm chatting to bi men or Bi-m couples on here. It is a nice shorthand way of explaining things.
To give you something to think about I'll tell you how I got into the bi side of things...
I've always had a high sex drive and one evening in my 20's, whilst at a party I was sitting in a small group, there were a couple of gay guys. In amongst the general chat one of the guys said that he was always bottom (or the receiver, I think might have been his actual words).
A few days later I was horny watching some porn and that line came back to me. I thought that if there are guys who only like that, then it must feel good in some way.
SO being someone who would rather regret having done something, than regret never having done something, I decided to see if I could arrange it.
I was on a different site and after a lot of messages to different people, chatted to a guy and he came over.
There was mutual oral and he took my anal cherry.
I'll be honest, I didn't enjoy it. I don't think it was the act itself, I think it was a combination of things. Me being nervous, there not really being enough lube and the feeling of wham-bam-thankyou-man, that came of it.
That put me off for a bit, but I decided to try again after a while.
One evening on here I advertised for a guy. Nothing much came back that I felt comfortable with, so I went out. I came back to find a message (amazingly) from a couple.
I went over there soon after and we had a really relaxing evening, slow build up and we all had sex. O and A (both ways) for us guys. It was a good experience and from that I started occasionally meeting other guys.
I'm still mostly into women, but I completely accept that I like a cock up my arse. You say about how it is a 'gay activity'. It's really not. Sex is about what feels good and if you like a to suck cock or like me, have the occasional anal fuck, that just means you have a sexual kink. Being gay (so far as I can tell) is about much more than that.
I'd encourage you to dabble. It can be great fun, especially with a couple.
I'm still looking to fulfill a fantasy of being in the middle of a couple, me fucking her while he's fucking me. After the mindblowing orgasms I've had from anal sex alone (seriously, a lifelike dildo is a great investment), I can only imagine how good that would be!
Wow, that got a bit longer than I had planned.
To summerise: You have one life to experience things. Go find out if you like it or not. You might be very happy that you did.
Quote by Angel Chat
This might sound very old fashioned but have you thought about chatting to someone, getting on with them so you think you might want to meet them. Meet them and see if you are both attracted to each other, planning another date and just see how it goes? Not all bi or gay men are promiscuous and just want to hop into bed with anybody all the time. the ratio is probably the same as straight people. If you are looking for a sexual release them you would probably feel bad about yourself afterwards. If you took the time to get to know somebody then there enjoyment will be as important as your own. You can open up to them, tell them your desires, fears and feeling towards your sexuality. You are basically talking about using somebody for your own gratification, have a thought for the other person.
Sorry, didn't want to make it sound like a sermon but think I failed in that regard
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Is this a serious reply?? On a swinging site?!
The OP has said he doesn't fancy men, he just wants to suck and/or fuck cock. Why would you send him on a date? He's talking about going dogging, not starting an affair with a man
Is this a serious reply to a serious reply.
The OP I believe asked for advice, and someone gave them advice, the OP can take the advice or decide that is not the way they want to go, taking the piss out of someone giving advice whilst offering no advice yourself is not what I would consider appropriate for a swingers site where people enjoy all forms of sexual pleasure, and where strangers can help each other not ridicule each other for what they think.
I Don't think what was advised is the way the OP will want to go but that is just my opinion he may think differently, how would I know, I no nothing of the OP or the advisor but I respect him for asking the question and the advisor for trying to help.
I am happily married to Mandy but since we have been swinging, I am not allowed to fuck other women, but have over time have become interested in being fuck by other men.
so when we are having a threesome it started with a bit of cock sucking, which made me feel awful in the beginning as i felt i was cheating on her and made me feel gay, but she reassured me, then we moved on a bit and a guy came round and fucked me as well as mandy ! it was amazing I loved it, but the same feeling came over me of guilt and being ashamed of feeling as if she was looking at me being gay, however she reassured me again.
Now I feel much better, I don't fancy men but do admire a well turned out man, I Love anal sex whether it is Mandy fucking me with a strap on or a guy fucking me, It feels great the bigger the cock the better lol, the other day i was away at work for the week and was moaning that i could go a good fucking, so she organised someone to come round when i got home, and came up stairs with us and just watched and took some photos, sometimes she joins in but this time she just watched, afterwards she reassured me that she loved watching us both and it gave her a wet pussy, I even fucked the guy my self which was a first for me.
I guess what I am trying to say is take your time, one step at a time but I guess like me you will in time enjoy it :twisted:
Regards
John
so when we are having a threesome it started with a bit of cock sucking, which made me feel awful in the beginning as i felt i was cheating on her and made me feel gay, but she reassured me, then we moved on a bit and a guy came round and fucked me as well as mandy ! it was amazing I loved it, but the same feeling came over me of guilt and being ashamed of feeling as if she was looking at me being gay, however she reassured me again.
Now I feel much better, I don't fancy men but do admire a well turned out man, I Love anal sex whether it is Mandy fucking me with a strap on or a guy fucking me, It feels great the bigger the cock the better lol, the other day i was away at work for the week and was moaning that i could go a good fucking, so she organised someone to come round when i got home, and came up stairs with us and just watched and took some photos, sometimes she joins in but this time she just watched, afterwards she reassured me that she loved watching us both and it gave her a wet pussy, I even fucked the guy my self which was a first for me.
I guess what I am trying to say is take your time, one step at a time but I guess like me you will in time enjoy it :twisted:
Regards
John
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Quote by mixedbicouple
"When I have gay fantasies, as soon as I ejaculate I feel like I couldn't go through with it. So can any of you bi guys relate to this?"
Yes.
Im exactly the same. But I just got over it but getting really horny then meeting a guy.
Once I meet the guy and returned home I had mixed feeling but a week or 2 later I'd be craving it again.
Get horny, don't cum, Meet and enjoy ;)
wow. this has blown my mind, I love women and get a hard on all time looking at them and thinking about them, but like somebody wrote earlier when a woman is not there for you,you then realise that a man can give you some sexual release. I have been fantasizing about everything lately. it started off with sexual frustration though lack of female company so I imagined being fucked by a girl with a strap on and being tied up and abused by her but after a while other things started popping into my head like what would a real flesh like penis feel like(a man)but in the fantasy there would always be a woman but with me as the centre piece. After some more time I just thought about mmfs mffs and all manner of group scenarios involving all bi people, but all this was pure fantasy, I needed real sex. I ended up finding adultwork where there are many beautiful girls but as I saved their profiles on my hotlist I found it difficult to choose a girl for many reasons but when on the site I discovered tv/ts and my head is all over the place.i ended up meeting 2 girls and had a bit of fun but the memories of the previous fantasies where still alive in my head. then I found this place and its great. I was sceptical at first because everybody I tried speaking to was a cock really but after a while I got to know a few people and made a few friends. but to this day I still crave women but love going on the chatrooms and speaking to men who want the same, it gets me hard as nails when talking dirty with men on here but so far ive failed to meet anyone. I want a sexual experience with a man but I feel it needs to start off with a mmf where the other 2 people were together and the woman told me what to do because I feel there would be no chemistry when I looked at him but if the woman told me I would get hard and do anything because I get turned on by women getting turned on if that makes sense. so if there is a couple or even a woman with a strap on who would like to try new things with a beginner like me then please get in touch help me conquer my fears, I am a really horny person who wants to enjoy new sexual experiences, I believe i'm a decent looking dude with a gsoh and good attitude. I'm clean and would be ultra discreet. I'm near Manchester but would travel far and wide to try a mmf. I'm not so sure about going to a club i'm confident but not enough to walk into a room full of strangers while i'm starkers but all exhibition when in a closed room even if with if there is a tv/ts out there with breasts that would make my day and no woman needed(I do like licking pussy though mmm)
thanks oogie
thanks oogie
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I was reflecting on this thread earlier and had a sudden moment of clarity.
I am in two steady relationships with women at the moment (its complicated). Now and again though, I work away from home and yearn for sex with a stranger. Last week, I was staying in a hotel and got chatting to a horny guy in the chatroom here. I told him I liked cumming in the mouths of guys kneeling in front of me wearing stockings. He asked me what type of stockings I preferred and whether I was available. I was and within the hour, he had arrived in my hotel room, stripped down to his stockings and took a fantastic face fucking until I came in his mouth, balls deep. Within five minutes, he had dressed and buggered off. You dont get that sort of relief often with the fairer gender.
I am in two steady relationships with women at the moment (its complicated). Now and again though, I work away from home and yearn for sex with a stranger. Last week, I was staying in a hotel and got chatting to a horny guy in the chatroom here. I told him I liked cumming in the mouths of guys kneeling in front of me wearing stockings. He asked me what type of stockings I preferred and whether I was available. I was and within the hour, he had arrived in my hotel room, stripped down to his stockings and took a fantastic face fucking until I came in his mouth, balls deep. Within five minutes, he had dressed and buggered off. You dont get that sort of relief often with the fairer gender.
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Hi mate
I know exactly the Situation you are in. I am very similar - married etc. I have never fancied guys but have always found the idea of having a cock extremely horny. I finally plucked up the courage about 3 yrs ago and had a mutual wank session at home with a guy i chstted to on here. Slowly things have progressed... sporadic encounters. I now adore licking and sucking cock, i swallow, and love being fucked. Theres a guy who is local meaning that i am fortunate to have infrequent but regular fucking sessions.
Good luck with your quest. Please feel free to contact me
I know exactly the Situation you are in. I am very similar - married etc. I have never fancied guys but have always found the idea of having a cock extremely horny. I finally plucked up the courage about 3 yrs ago and had a mutual wank session at home with a guy i chstted to on here. Slowly things have progressed... sporadic encounters. I now adore licking and sucking cock, i swallow, and love being fucked. Theres a guy who is local meaning that i am fortunate to have infrequent but regular fucking sessions.
Good luck with your quest. Please feel free to contact me
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Quote by MidsCouple24
Don't you ? I certainly do, what on earth makes you think that only guys like that.
I am absolutely sure that there are plenty of women out there who love anonymous, no strings attached sex with strangers. I just haven't met any.
I spent my first year on here trying to meet women and despite being no gargoyle and able to string a sentance or two together, I got nowhere. My wife has no interest in swinging, so effectively I am a middle aged single man. Ten a penny on this site.
So after a first fruitless year, I decided that it was either abandon ship or widen my search. I marked my profile as bi and advertised for men who were willing to suck my cock. And all of a sudden, replies and offers started to come in. It took me a while to take the plunge, but over the past couple of years, I must have ejaculated in the mouths of a dozen or so men. And if I had accepted every offer I got, it would be a lot more. There is no shortage of men on here who are willing to visit a stranger, strip off, kneel before him and take his spunk in his mouth. Perhaps it is just me, but finding a women to fill a similar role is much harder unless you have a swinging partner.
