A strange "Catch 22" situation.

11 Feb 2005

Just for the sake of argument, let's say that I want to PM somebody to arrange a :cheers: .
It's just a polite message and not the "Fancy a shag" type of thing that I know is frowned upon. It doesn't even have any sexual content.
So what's the problem? :fuckinghell:
The person I want to PM has a sig that says "Please don't e-mail or PM uninvited" :doh:
Hello???? poke

How do I get an invite without sending a PM or e-mail?? dunno

If I PM to get an invite to PM, will that pee off the recipient and make her less likely to reply?
Besides which, I hate shoving my nose in uninvited 'cos I'm shy. :scared:

11 Feb 2005

Bounce the invitation off of them in a thread smile

Venusxxx

11 Feb 2005

Bit of a dilemma, isn't it, but if someone has "do not PM uninvited" one assumes that they mean it - it's their loss then, isn't it, if it excludes friendly innocent PMs.
Mike.

11 Feb 2005

We have (correction, HAD) that in our signature too Parrot.
Unfortunately, its a waste of time because most, apart from you clearly, seem to be unable to read it or just plain ignore it.
Therefor, its history ;)

11 Feb 2005

Simple. Start a thread with a title (in upper case)
"OI (insert name here). D'YA MIND IF I PM YOU TO ARRANGE A DRINK?"
Can't fail with that one. :smug: wink

Just a shame we can't get it done in flashing neons really sad

11 Feb 2005

It is probably there to deter the "I have an 8 inch cock and want to show you how I can use it" brigade. I'd just PM them and explain that you recognise that they don't want PM's but..... etc etc.
Then when they shout at you you can blame me smile

11 Feb 2005

Quote by JudyTV
Parrot, respect other peoples requests for privacy, it is one of the few basic things we have left in a very public world. I am sure there are many hundreds who will accept and welcome a PM or email from you so its better not to piss anyone off.
Judy

Judy... If I WAS NOT respecting their request for privacy, there would be no need for this thread. I have absolutely no intention of contacting them but I just thought it strange that such a sig should be there.
How does anyone EVER contact them without disregarding the sig?

11 Feb 2005

Parrot, I suspect that any PM message to these people, however innocently dressed-up as an invitation to a drink, or even just a friendly word or compliment, will be interpreted by them as a "wanna shag?" message in disguise - maybe with good reason, you never know they may have experienced in the past. You've either got to be extremely inventive and surprise them with a uniquely original approach, or, what I would do, leave well alone and try someone else.
And Judy is, as always, full of good horse-sense.
Mike.

11 Feb 2005

Quote by Parrot
How does anyone EVER contact them without disregarding the sig?

Is a stumper, innit? Perhaps they just want to participate publicly in the forums and nothing more (i.e. "mental swingers"). Perhaps one or the other of them has had a bad experience with PMs that compromised the trust of their relationship in some way. Perhaps they're just antisocial buggers, who knows? In any case, I'd just write 'em off an move on.
Once, whilst trolling the photo ads, I encountered one from a young lady who started off with all of the usual "I'm looking for _____" business and then closed with "Please don't PM or e-mail me, or I'll get in trouble!" What's the point of the ad if there's no agreeable means of contact? Bit pointless, if you ask me. confused

Quote by Rainbows
Then when they shout at you you can blame me

I take that as an open invitation, my dear, and have thus appended my sig! :P
~Reese! surprised

11 Feb 2005

Quote by MikeNorth
And Judy is, as always, full of horse-shit
Mike.

That's not very polite Mike, I'd've expected better from you!
(By the way Bev, or anyone, is a compounded contraction like the one above ok in English? I don't see why not, but what'd'ya think?)
Chris

11 Feb 2005

Quote by JudyTV
The person in question has made it quite plain they do NOT want to be contacted directly. That is their prerogative and their right to privacy is sacrosanct to their own human rights.

Whilst I understand your point, Judy, and agree with it, I don't think it actually has any basis in fact, I don't believe it is considered a human right not to be contacted; if it was that'd be one way to fight spam in general, so let's lobby the European Commission on Human Rights
Chris

11 Feb 2005

Quote by marmalaid

And Judy is, as always, full of horse-shit
Mike.

That's not very polite Mike, I'd've expected better from you!
(By the way Bev, or anyone, is a compounded contraction like the one above ok in English? I don't see why not, but what'd'ya think?)
Chris
Stop making me be teacher ffs - I'm trying not to do this!
But since you asked, I can't see anything wrong with it. I wouldn't do it in a formal piece of writing though.
Bev
xx

11 Feb 2005

I don't like uninvited PMs at all from anyone who I have never spoken to directly on the forum. Anything to do with moderation of course is fine, but anything else, however innocent it sounds gets my back right up. It's annoying at best. If someone specifically states they do not want them, do not send them any. It really is that simple.

11 Feb 2005

Don't know who this person is that carries a signature asking not to be contacted, but what I do know is that they are missing out on a drink with a genuinely nice guy sad

He's quite a new member of the site, but a few of us met up with him earlier this week for a drink and found that he has not got two heads, didn't ravage us on sight and I can say with honesty that he is funny, chatty and very friendly biggrin

Don't moan at him for asking a question - offer to go out for a drink with him instead :P
Tracy-Jayne

11 Feb 2005

Quote by JudyTV

And Judy is, as always, full of horse-shit
Mike.

That's not very polite Mike, I'd've expected better from you!
(By the way Bev, or anyone, is a compounded contraction like the one above ok in English? I don't see why not, but what'd'ya think?)
Chris
Chris,
You are a bad bad boy. I still owe you a part payment for a hotel room share but I am confiscating it as a fine for your bad behaviour. Anyway you still owe me a shag.
However, I do acept all PMs and emails requesting a shag from both males and females or to buy me dinner. I know what I am I just haggle over the price. (Joke)
Judy ....... : whip

for marms... but after the shag.
Oooh, whipme, beat me, BITE ME!
wink

Chris

11 Feb 2005

Oh Marmalaid. Can you work up to posting more pervy pictures on this thread whilst you are here? :bounce:
I think you should be known as the Official SH Flasher` and as such it should be a rule that you flash your bits on every damn thread you post on! :twisted:
Venusxxx

11 Feb 2005

Quote by Parrot
The person I want to PM has a sig that says "Please don't e-mail or PM uninvited" :doh:

It may be more likely to close the door on someone polite and charming (like yourself, I guess!) than it is to stop a shag-me-spammer. Then again, it's personal choice and fairly clear.
I think VenusnMars had one solution - ask permission in a thread. Or via someone who doesn't mind your PMs who knows the other person. Apart from that maybe you will meet them at a social event one day, or dazzle them with your brilliance on the forum such that they PM you (unless your sig forbids it of course ;) )
I'm with Judy ... not literally of course ... but just in wanting to keep all avenues, rough tracks and back alleys open. Then again, my inbox doesn't get flooded with tons of unwanted messages (or wanted ones come to that, sob).
On the other hand.... can Geordie type ?

11 Feb 2005

Quote by blueis
On the other hand.... can Geordie type ?

No, but she has a profile on Dragon Naturally Speaking and on very rare occasions, it types up what she says, lol
No, seriously.

11 Feb 2005

Me personally being a chatterbox always accept pms. I just ignore those that are 'fancy a shag' types lol

What pisses me off is when blokes add me to msn without asking, just trying to get a shag.. although I do have a pretty warped sense of humour and, if I'm particularly bored, like to scare the crap out of them before blocking them.... :twisted: :twisted:

11 Feb 2005

Never having received a PM :cry: I can't comment! Would happily reply to anyone should that day ever come.

11 Feb 2005

Sad bastard aren't I, trying to get a sympathy shag redface

You saw straight through me Judy.
Back to the drawing board. I have yet another cunning plan :rascal:

12 Feb 2005

One of the most off-putting things I have seen in a photo ad was one written like a job advert with a full specification and finishing up by saying they wanted to send out a check-list before arranging a meet!
I'd be intrigued to know if anyone ever replied.