Is it just me?
Over the past few months I have replied to adverts posted on members' profiles.
No one ever replies! Not even a 'thanks for your email but....'
I've had about 3 replies in total over 2yrs!
I appreciate some might get lots of responses but is it too much to ask for an Acknowledgement at least?
If you expect people to take the time to read and reply to your adverts at least respond....or don't post in the first place.
Very frustrating!!
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Unfortunately Pete lots of people don't reply.
I'll hold my hands up and say I haven't replied to every message I've had in response to an advert. Sometimes there are too many.
Sometimes I don't reply almost on a point of principle if the person who has PM-ed me has just cut and pasted a message that has obviously gone to loads of other people too, or they are blatantly not what I am looking for, or they are rude and offensive.
But yes, you're right, it is disheartening and perhaps more people should do the 'thanks but no thanks' thing.
Hope you find what you're looking for though.
Nola x
I'll hold my hands up and say I haven't replied to every message I've had in response to an advert. Sometimes there are too many.
Sometimes I don't reply almost on a point of principle if the person who has PM-ed me has just cut and pasted a message that has obviously gone to loads of other people too, or they are blatantly not what I am looking for, or they are rude and offensive.
But yes, you're right, it is disheartening and perhaps more people should do the 'thanks but no thanks' thing.
Hope you find what you're looking for though.
Nola x
Sex God
This has to be one of the biggest 'gripes' here and its unfortunate but it happens.
Personally, I try to reply to all, even if its a thanks but no thanks. Courtesy costs nothing afterall.
Good luck
Personally, I try to reply to all, even if its a thanks but no thanks. Courtesy costs nothing afterall.
Good luck
Sex God
There are so many males here all competing for the same thing. Perhaps try re-jigging your profile, add a little more about yourself and if you are confident enough, add a photo. I know, for obvious reasons,not everyone is comfortable putting face photos on profiles, me included. Try a search of the older posts and have a look what others say about this subject, you will find lots maybe something there will help
Sex God
Quote by pete_smith89
Is it just me?
Over the past few months I have replied to adverts posted on members' profiles.
No one ever replies! Not even a 'thanks for your email but....'
I've had about 3 replies in total over 2yrs!
I appreciate some might get lots of responses but is it too much to ask for an Acknowledgement at least?
If you expect people to take the time to read and reply to your adverts at least respond....or don't post in the first place.
Very frustrating!!
The example that I always give is that I know a single girl who was looking...... put up an advert and went on holiday for a week..... and when she came back she found she had the best part of 800 replies waiting for her.......
now if you were in her position, hand on heart, would you answer every single one of them?
to be honest I have yet to meet a bloke that has said "yes, I would answer every one".....
yes it is frustrating...... but you have to imagine the amount of post a person gets..... and unless yours does stand out, then it is going to be tough...
I have been on here longer than you have, and to be honest with you, them amount of people that have replied to my ad has to be no more that the fingers on both hands....
there is a saying that goes so well in regards to swinging and the scene in general...
you get out what you put in....
I have gotten myself known in various chatrooms that has opened up many avenues..... I have gone to socials and munches, where meeting people in person has opened up a new world of oppotunities....
if you are just relying on an ad then you are restricting the ways that you will get noticed......
so I went and looked at your ad and profile.....
your profile is very basic, says very little about you or your personality.....
your ad..... here is a tip...Swinging Heaven hasn't started charging by the word quite yet, so use them to sell yourself!
your ad says nothing about you, it says nothing about the type of person you are after, it is just one line long......hand on heart,if you were someone on the outside looking in would you answer your ad? if, and i would suspect, the answer would be no... then you know what you need to do
hopefully you will take a lot of what you have said in....
Sex God
I tell you what foxes me sometimes...
When you send a mail to someone, if you then check your sent mail and read the message again then in the inbox of the person you sent it to, it is registered as being 'read' and therefore won't be highlighted in bold.
This has happened to me lots before now. I don't get a red flashing new mail thingy because the person has 'read' the mail and therefore it isn't 'new' for me.
I've had mail sat in my inbox and not realised... then I've felt awful about 'ignoring' someone.
Not sure this happens to others, but just thought would add it in to the debate!
Nola x
When you send a mail to someone, if you then check your sent mail and read the message again then in the inbox of the person you sent it to, it is registered as being 'read' and therefore won't be highlighted in bold.
This has happened to me lots before now. I don't get a red flashing new mail thingy because the person has 'read' the mail and therefore it isn't 'new' for me.
I've had mail sat in my inbox and not realised... then I've felt awful about 'ignoring' someone.
Not sure this happens to others, but just thought would add it in to the debate!Nola x
To be honest here we are fussy in what we are looking for. In our adverts we try and be honest about whar we are looking for.
We can only ever meet Sats, so when a guy asks to meet on a Thursday, why should we reply?
We only look for certain types of people, and quite often people do NOT read our advert. That is the main reason we do not reply. Why bother to write an advert, if people cannot be bothered to read it? :shock:
You need to make your advert stand out from the crowd, as there are thousands in the same boat as you.
But we wish you luck in your search, and patience really is a virtue on this site.
We can only ever meet Sats, so when a guy asks to meet on a Thursday, why should we reply?
We only look for certain types of people, and quite often people do NOT read our advert. That is the main reason we do not reply. Why bother to write an advert, if people cannot be bothered to read it? :shock:
You need to make your advert stand out from the crowd, as there are thousands in the same boat as you.
But we wish you luck in your search, and patience really is a virtue on this site.
Sex God
Quote by fabio
Is it just me?
Over the past few months I have replied to adverts posted on members' profiles.
No one ever replies! Not even a 'thanks for your email but....'
I've had about 3 replies in total over 2yrs!
I appreciate some might get lots of responses but is it too much to ask for an Acknowledgement at least?
If you expect people to take the time to read and reply to your adverts at least respond....or don't post in the first place.
Very frustrating!!
The example that I always give is that I know a single girl who was looking...... put up an advert and went on holiday for a week..... and when she came back she found she had the best part of 800 replies waiting for her.......
now if you were in her position, hand on heart, would you answer every single one of them?
to be honest I have yet to meet a bloke that has said "yes, I would answer every one".....
yes it is frustrating...... but you have to imagine the amount of post a person gets..... and unless yours does stand out, then it is going to be tough...
I have been on here longer than you have, and to be honest with you, them amount of people that have replied to my ad has to be no more that the fingers on both hands....
there is a saying that goes so well in regards to swinging and the scene in general...
you get out what you put in....
I have gotten myself known in various chatrooms that has opened up many avenues..... I have gone to socials and munches, where meeting people in person has opened up a new world of oppotunities....
if you are just relying on an ad then you are restricting the ways that you will get noticed......
so I went and looked at your ad and profile.....
your profile is very basic, says very little about you or your personality.....
your ad..... here is a tip...Swinging Heaven hasn't started charging by the word quite yet, so use them to sell yourself!
your ad says nothing about you, it says nothing about the type of person you are after, it is just one line long......hand on heart,if you were someone on the outside looking in would you answer your ad? if, and i would suspect, the answer would be no... then you know what you need to do
hopefully you will take a lot of what you have said in....
As always, a great reply
Yes Fabio, thanks for the reply.
Appreciate your time (and it must have took lots lol)
On reflection maybe I am at fault for not having a fuller profile. I'll make that No.1 on my to do list.
On the other hand, a lot of the people I reply to have very sparse profiles also. So if the 'get out what you put in' rule applies then maybe they don't deserve me lmao.
But seriously, thanks for your time and advice.
Pete
Appreciate your time (and it must have took lots lol)
On reflection maybe I am at fault for not having a fuller profile. I'll make that No.1 on my to do list.
On the other hand, a lot of the people I reply to have very sparse profiles also. So if the 'get out what you put in' rule applies then maybe they don't deserve me lmao.
But seriously, thanks for your time and advice.
Pete
