Quote by mils
Hi
I’d like some thoughts/advice/opinions from you good people especially the single guys because it is more relevant to them.
I’ve been playing, off and on for about 6 years. I can’t remember why and how I strayed from the ‘normal’ sex life path. My sex drive is not practically high, I’m not a dog with 2 dicks, I have never had problems attracting women, yet this way of life, if I’m honest, has become somewhat of an obsession.
Sex with a partner, although enjoyable, rapidly becomes unfulfilling and I find myself needing that extra thrill of being with a couple or a group. It’s not a moral dilemma, I don’t think this lifestyle is wrong and pretty much all the people I have met over the years have been fantastic, open-minded, intelligent people with levels of liberation I envy. It’s just that at 36 I know that I’ve pretty much screwed my chances of giving someone what I want from a partner: trust, loyalty and honesty. When a partner asks me (hypothetically) what sexual fantasies I would like to act out, I have to wrack my brains! Is it healthy to have practically lived them all out?
When I look through this site and see the (oh so obvious) ads from single guys pretending to be couples/females for whatever reason, pictures, w**k material whatever kick their on, It congers up a vision of some sad social retard sitting in a bed sit hunched over his PC whacking away and I think shit! That could be me one day! I don’t think I will end up as one of those unsavoury characters, but I bet they didn’t either.
I’m waffling on a bit now and I’m still not sure what I really want advice on! I know I don’t need justification for my lifestyle and I’m not after salvation It’s just that it’s not the sort of thing that I can talk over in a pub with my everyday friends.
Although I’ve never joined in with any of the chats on this forum I have observed them and have come to the conclusion that the majority of users seam to be switched on, intelligent folks who’s opinions I would respect.
If you made it to the end of this message, thanks and any constructive advice/thoughts would be appreciated. I’m working nights for a few days now so PM me and I’ll read them soon as I can.
Take care
Mils x
Hi Mils,
The fears and concerns that you express afflict us all, sadly, we are fearfull of the future and cannot decide what we really want in life, personally, I have had these feelings ever since my divorce that I never wanted many years ago, my ex wanted to come back after she left to live her own life, but I politely declined as both she and I had moved on and after such a traumatic experience, I have never wanted to repeat it.
Being human means we have emotions that are contradictory, we don't know what we really want and then when we get something we find that we don't want it anymore.
Add this to the stresses and strains of life and we get an explosive cocktail of feelings that can destroy us. My advice to you for what it is worth, is too live each day at a time and try not to think too deeply about the future and be happy doing what pleases you.
