Now in my 50s I know all too well my chances are reduced. Of course if you want a muscular fit young stud I ain't it, no point kidding anyone or myself! As for me when I was younger I always was happy to play with anyone over legal age to pension age if I liked them, and that's still true today.
I fully understand age criteria, respect it and understand it, I just don't understand why so many think it is so important, going back to what I said ealier, I see why people would have it in their minds as a guideline but clubs prove they often change their minds, in fact most of the couples I have played with over 15 years have admitted that I was outside their age criteria but played with me as a person not as an age.
I just wonder why people don't realise that writing peoples profiles because they are "too young" or "too old" may mean they miss out.
I have found some young people to be far more "worldy wise" and "mature thinking" than some older people and I have found some younger people in far worse physical condition than people twice their age and vice versa.
So many women have a strict age criteria then admit they would shag the likes of Sir Sean Connery (1989 at 59 voted most sexiest man alive and 1999 at 69 voted most sexy man of the Century) or others ....... Brad Pitt 50 years old next month, Richard Gere aged 64, Richard Branson aged 63, and the girls, Madonna aged 55, Cher 67.
Some people get a sexual kick out of meeting with people in a certain age range.
I only have 2 rules, really simple.
rule 1 - Younger than me.
rule 2 - Better looking than me.
Pretty much allows everyone into the mix.
People with using rules - age is one of them just lose so much! We have all looked for our perfect match, be that sexual or romantic. For me it's like - they need a degree, they need to be "middle class", they need a steady job, they need to be within 5 years of me age wise etc etc.
We create these rules, and they seem so important to us at the time - but when you meet the right person I find that they go out the window and cease to matter anymore. That is the only rule you can live by is - if you click with someone and it seems right go for it!
Maybe the mystery is why we create these rules in the first place? These rules appear to be there to guide us in meeting the person who we think we want to meet (a filtering system if you want).
Bottom line is people see great benefits from a filtering system and setting up these arbitrary rules in their heads - and I guess those benefits can't be measured. But the O.P's posts show the costs from implementing a filtering system - since people are fantastically individual it is hard to see how rules, if consistently applied would benefit people - the rules only serve to mean people lose their chance of meeting someone they click with - we end up with wasted opportunities in other words.
To me it may make sense to make strict rules for our online interactions, but once in the real world, where we get to interact with people more fully we can take a pragmatic approach and see if we actually click with the person (and they often break our own rules!).
Each to there own but we don't have an age, sexual orientation or gender criteria. Personality is the thing for us so what it says in the profile is far more relevant than the age.
Agree with most of the comments that hard and fast rules are silly.
We prefer to meet (and Play) at clubs because there you just meet the "person" and don't see the "tick boxes" of age etc.
John & Shel
I used to enjoy dogging but last time I went I parked up and went for a stroll round, when I got back to where I had parked it was gone, nowhere to be seen, stolen, now I have to fork out for a new zimmer frame and cant go dogging again till I get one.
I have an age range of 40 plus at least that, I have had experience with younger guys in the distant past and they just weren't really for me, not slagging off younger men before you all get your knickers in a knot, it is just my preference.
I think its flexible depending on appearance. My unofficial limit is late 40s, but its not set in stone. Plus of course I will get older. I used to think that people my age were old, but strangely not anymore.
We all face the inevitable it seems.
Being the eve of remembrance I remember speaking as a youth with Boer war veterans let alone the great war.
I quite like the idea that age is just a number. It provides me with the opportunity to play with much older women now, and in 40 years time to play with much younger women.
Perfect!
I have guidelines but not limits. In the same way that I have guidelines but not limits about distance and size. Nothing is set in stone, just an 'average' based on past experience.
It just helps anyone reading my profile work out if they think I might suit them and vice versa.
its not that difficult to do, i like people my age :)
