Always a swinger?

30 Nov 2005

I was talking to a friend on msn last night who said they were "off to bed with Jackie Collins" and it reminded me of my first "non-contact" orgasm. (Unfortunately also my only one, but there you go)
The passage that brought on this totally unexpected event was about 2 couples who engaged in a same bed swap, all very horny and certainly had quite a big effect on me :shock: I was sitting on the sofa, fully clothed and not touching myself in any way
I've been thinking about it since though, and although I didn't have sex with more than one person at a time for another 12 years or so, it makes me wonder whether it was always more or less inevitable for me dunno

Just wondering how many years people thought about swinging, whether consciously or subconsciously before actually doing anything about it

30 Nov 2005

Bit different for me. I did it once - a threesome with a couple, without lots of toying with the idea beforehand - then not again for over 10 years. Made it not so nerve-wracking the second time though.

30 Nov 2005

hummmm difficult one, i had a few 3sums etc when i was younger, then i met Paul and led a 'normal' life for years.....yep it was something i always had on my mind but you get into a possition where you just leave it there in fear of upsetting you partner......after a few years we did get talking about it tho and i suggested we give it a try, he was not sure at first but our story has a happy ending as we have never looked back....could have worked out a lot diffarent tho

30 Nov 2005

I know what you mean NN. I'd talked about it with my ex but while he liked fantasising about me and another woman, he wouldn't take the actual step of doing anything about it sad

He can't stop me now though :twisted:
(Except when he refuses to look after the kids for me grrrrrrr)

30 Nov 2005

I spent years yearning for it. Then spent a long time in a relationship with someone who had very different views - views that were really too straight for me. Now with Gloria who always wanted to indulge group sex and since making her fantasy of two guys at once cum true we've not looked back.
So, to answer your question I reckon it's a personality trait - always in you. Though I also think it can be awakened in a few people there are definitely others who just don't get curious that way.
confused

Am I rambling???

30 Nov 2005

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30 Nov 2005

Like most of the response I had a threesome in my teens and then nothing unusual till about 4 years ago and have never really thought about it since - am just happy and comfortable with myself swinging, but do always think it was going to happen....dont know why, possibly just a personality thing.

30 Nov 2005

well i remember getting my grubby little hands on a forum mag as a young kid - and decided that i could not limit myself to one person - ever surprised

30 Nov 2005

I had my first swinging experience in May 2004 at the grand old age of 36. :happy:
Until then it was something I'd fantasised about since my teenage years, but having not met anyone else interested in the lifestyle and originally not possessing the courage to go solo it remained a dream until I finally overcame my inhibitions 18 months ago to give it a whirl. hump

I'm so glad I did. I just wish I'd done it sooner. banghead

Basket Case

30 Nov 2005

Sure, it's an old story that I'm sure everyone is bored with by now, but seeing as this is a new thread... :P
I, too, had my first threesome experience in my mid-teens with a best mate and his then-fiancee. Not only was this my first exposure to the concept of "swinging", but also the origin of my life-long obsession with breasts. silly

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It all began rather serendipitously: The three of us were sitting in my parents living room watching the telly one weekend whilst they were away, and the conversation turned to penis size (as it does). She said that her boyfriend was huge, but it didn't really show unless he was in a state of arousal (i.e. a grower, not a shower), whereas she observed that I looked fairly sizeable all the time. The naughty minx then decided that the only way to accurately judge would be to get a ruler, which I promptly found in the kitchen drawer.
He was the first to be assessed. She knelt down in front of him, unzipped his trousers and administered some "manual stimulus". Although his response was predictable, I didn't expect the resultsâ€¦nearly 11 inches!!
I was next, after she nervously asked her boyfriend if she could "de-pants" me and he surprisingly agreed. She lowered my trousers down to my knees and sat down on the couch next to me. Because of the earlier "show" between the two of them, there was no need to provide any additional stimulus. I must say that ever since that comparison I've felt somewhat inadequate, despite protestations to the contrary by subsequent sex partners.
After she'd obtained her desired scientific data, she remained sitting next to me on the couch, casually gliding her fingertips over the underside of my cock. Within minutes, her playful stroking had turned into a full, tight grip. I couldn't believe she was actually giving me a handjob in front of her fiancee! Even moreso, I couldn't believe that he hadn't said anything!! However, much later, I had learned that he was quietly seething inside the whole time...but that's another story.
As the situation seemed quite comfortable, I let my hands begin to wander. Moving one up beneath her t-shirt, I began stroking the underside of one of her huge breasts (for a girl just a year older than myself, she was quite well-endowed). I moved upward, playing my thumb across her nipple. As soon as I felt it grow erect to my gentle touch, I couldn't contain myself any longer and exploded, showering the front of my own t-shirt with cum.
We cleaned ourselves up and continued watching the telly. The film was "Snoopy Come Home", and I still get terribly turned on whenever I so much as hear the theme music!
After that first surprise encounter, the three of us shared several menage et trois experiences over the following month or so - each time enjoying further indulgence in her magnificent breasts - and, ultimately, she became "my first" (heterosexually speaking, that is...the great thing about bi-ness being that you get to lose your virginity twice!) in my very own bed whilst her boyfriend looked on.
Although she & I stopped having full-on sex after those menage et trois days, we remained the best of friends - "body-buddies", even, because we'd sometimes get to fondling each other to the point of mutual masturbation during our frequent naps together. While we were never proper "boyfriend & girlfriend", per se, we still shared everything together (including detailed descriptions of her current shags, which always proved to be a stimulating topic).
Then, between the ages of 16 and 37, the idea of swinging remained nothing more than a pleasant memory (and one within which I indulged often). When I met Vix, I finally found myself in a relationship where I was comfortable enough to freely discuss all of my past sexual experiences. I suppose this may have opened the door to the future, as we began swinging together in similarly serendipitous circumstances three years later...and haven't looked back since!
~Reese! surprised

30 Nov 2005

I used to fantasise that my ex was doing something on the quiet as we never really did anything together. I suppose it was that fantasy that kept me with her. She was, in reality, doing nothing of the sort. I had been faithful to the marriage.
So, my fantasy about her possibly swinging was enough to satisfy my "inner desire" .
Now being single, I'm trying to live what I dreamed of all those years.

30 Nov 2005

I think it's in a person to swing from an early age. i dont' think it's anything in oarticular that triggers the desire to swing , but something like a personality trait. Some people are always happy, some people always look at the negative side of things and some people like to swing. I just think I'm made that way. In fact my mum said to me once that if I ever got married, I would be the one having the affairs! So even my mum knows deep down that I'm a swinger. Actually that's kinda scarey! i think I will stop writing now! lol

30 Nov 2005

My first experiences were in my liberal, lefty political student days, but all with women, until about a year ago, when I had my first ffm. I guess it went from being 'liberal' to being a swinger, but either way, I've never looked back!

30 Nov 2005

who said I was a swinger flipa

:shock: :boo:
:giggle:

1 Dec 2005

i had my first 3 some when i was 20 i caughty my female cousin licking my girlfriend out i stood and frooze they did the same then we all thought let,s go for it the best sex ever this went on for a couple of months

1 Dec 2005

I remember when I first heard about an amazing club that had opened in New York called Plato's Retreat. Playboy would sometimes do photo shoots of all these gorgeous people involved in these amazing orgies. All soft focus, silk curtains and velvet cushions, with perfect bodies and hands everywhere and lots of boobs on display (no dicks of course! This was the 80s).
Unfortunately Aids closed it down, but that's another story.
I saw the story of O not long after that, followed by the film 'Caligula'.

1 Dec 2005

Swinging was inevitable for me -- I never did want to be normal lol

:lol: :lol: wink

:wink: :wink:

1 Dec 2005

No never been normal im a sex addict .
But being one and living up to its has been very hard over the years .
And i never even knew Swingers existed untill a couple of years ago well its helped my addiction no end lol :grin: :grin: :grin: hump

:therethere: :spit: :rascal: :rascal: passionkiss

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1 Dec 2005

My wife and i have been swinging for two years nearly.....but i was thinking about wife swapping going back nearly ten years.....i fancied my mates wife and use to think what it would be like to swap partners but it never happened, probably for the best we finally got into the scene with thanks to the internet!

1 Dec 2005

Quote by bluexxx
Swinging was inevitable for me -- I never did want to be normal :lol: :lol: :wink: :wink:

and thank fuck you succeeded smile

1 Dec 2005

i am still trying to decide wether I am a swinger or not lmao
If any ladies out there in happy land wanna help me decide................

1 Dec 2005

Since my very youngest days 8 or 9 (dont laugh its true) I knew what I wanted but didnt know how to go about it and never had the confidence in myself to find it. I was convinced that I was a real ugly but Ive got to a stage where I think I look ok even though others have said I look good.....So got married young and suffered. Now I am swinging confident and Happy...
Hoorar for SH

1 Dec 2005

My first sexual encounter was with an amazing 60 or 70's porn flick about group sex at a theatre. I think that coloured a lot of my sexuality from then on although I am now married and trying to slow down a bit confused

1 Dec 2005

Funnilly enough, I think that porn movies conditioned me to thinking that group sex was fun, and one day when in a porn cinema (at that point being in that "I hope no-one sees me in here" phase of life), a couple sat next to me. I was minding my own business not looking left or right in case anyone should recognise me, when a womans hand felt its way up my leg, and had a play wiith me. From then on, NSA sex was just fine by me.