Am I straight, bi curious, or what?

29 Oct 2004

I wonder what label really applies to me (not that I necessarily feel I need a label applied to me, of course...).
Now, if I see a hot woman walking down the street, for example, being a guy the first thing that's going to pop into my head is "Mmmmm, I'd sure like to lick her into a frenzy until she begs me to stop...".
I'm not in any way physically attracted to guys though, so I have no similr types of thoughts when seeing a guy who could, by any straight guys definition, be considered hot.
However, I'd quite like to try, and have no real qualms about, playing around with a guy if it's part of a hot'n'sexy MMF threesome (or moresome). In fact, I suspect I'd (a) quite like it and (b) probably get quite turned on by it.
I say 'suspect' because I've yet to actually have a chance to try, but I think I know myself pretty well smile

So, straight but very open minded, bi curious, or just an all round weirdo who should be locked up for the good of humanity: :)

29 Oct 2004

Zootle~
Excellent point. I've always thought there should be a term for those dominantly-straight individuals who do not find same-sex play to be objectionable. When you browse through the ads, people tend to classify themselves as "str8", "bi-curious" or "bi-"...and, while many females seem to indentify themselves as "bi-" or "-curious", a majority of males say that they're "str8". However, I've often wondered how many of these affirmed "str8 guys" would consider a little bit more involvement in a MMF situation - thus, I posted this poll some time back, and was a bit surprised by the results. As much as I abhor labels, they seem to have their place in things like the photo ads. I think it's time we came up with some designation (perhaps falling between straight & bi-curious?) to identify exactly how you described yourself in your post. Any ideas? Anyone??
~Reese! surprised

P.S. Welcome, Zootle, to the SH forums!

29 Oct 2004

zootle!
labels belong on a pound of spuds and a nice pair of jeans!
i can't define myself as straight or bi, cos god knows what would happen with the right people, right time, right place? i don't look for one on one, but if it happens? well so what? i'll either like it or i won't? some of that i've already discovered, but noone here asks you for labels! take it as it comes, and find what you like? what's swinging all about? just have fun! IMHO!
n x x x ;)

29 Oct 2004

zootle.
we have met many guys who think the same as you.
Some have gone away from our meets thinking yes it was good but i don't wish to do it again. They felt it was something that they wanted to try for various reasons. They are all glad that they have tried it though.
We say that Del is bi because he enjoys sex with males and females. He doesn't fancy any guys in the slightest either. He doesn't want to kiss guys or do the touchy feely stuff with them either.
If it feels right at the time go for it.
Gill & Del x

29 Oct 2004

how about = sit
str8 i think?

29 Oct 2004

Quote by Reese
As much as I abhor labels, they seem to have their place in things like the photo ads.

Ads are certainly a puzzle. Does saying your bi-curious in an ad put some couples off from responding? Or, how do you respond to a couples ad where they are asking for a straight guy? After all, I'm not bothered if the guy in a MMF is straight or bi, I'd be pretty much happy with either, whatever the situation calls for, so I wouldn't rule myself out of responding. But is it better to be honest in a reponse and say you don't mind either way, or claim to be straight?

29 Oct 2004

Wilma calls it Bi Friendly which i think fits quite well
Jas
XXX

29 Oct 2004

....................erm, anyway what about that Manchester United Arsenal game - never a penalty!

29 Oct 2004

I have always been bi-curious and fancied girls as well as guys on occasion. It has taken this long (I'm 32 now) to actually have the opportunity to try having sex with a woman. It was in a group setting so I didn't have a lot of one to one contact with a woman but what I did experience was very pleasurable.
I have spent a lot of time wondering about it and I am now taking full advantage of being able to explore my sexuality further. I also fine MMF scenarios very sexy, there is something about men being erotic together that does it for me! wink

30 Oct 2004

Zootle~

Quote by zootle
Ads are certainly a puzzle. Does saying your bi-curious in an ad put some couples off from responding? Or, how do you respond to a couples ad where they are asking for a straight guy? After all, I'm not bothered if the guy in a MMF is straight or bi, I'd be pretty much happy with either, whatever the situation calls for, so I wouldn't rule myself out of responding. But is it better to be honest in a reponse and say you don't mind either way, or claim to be straight?

In terms of your own responses to ads, if you're totally comfortable with what they desire and fit the criteria, then I say, GO FOR IT! If they want a purely straight guy, and you can be totally straight in the situation, then call yourself a straight guy. If they're open to more, then call yourself bi-curious (as you've not had the experience as yet). As long as you're flexible, and represent yourself with total honesty in accordance with what they desire, then I'd say you have no problem!

Quote by Jas-Tim
Wilma calls it Bi Friendly which i think fits quite well

As much as I like the term "bi-friendly", I feel that many guys who classify themselves as "str8" would have a problem with anything which includes the "bi-" prefix. Sad, but true.

Quote by JudyTV
Always, Always be totally honest claim nothing that you are not and never say you are prepared to do something that you really would prefer not to do...

Too true. Again, honesty is paramount. If you're totally comfortable "playing it straight" for the encounter, that's what I emphasize in your response.
~Reese! surprised

30 Oct 2004

Zootle i know what you mean and i'm feeling the same.
I love women and find them imensely sexy but if i was in a MMF situation i'd have no quarms in having a bit of a three way play and i think that would really turn Clare on so its a win win situation biggrin

30 Oct 2004

This is how devil_in_part feels..... he doesn't in any way fancy blokes, however.. in the right situation, at the right time, with the right person(people) he would indulge with a bit of play with other blokes and enjoy it!!
I find it a huge turn-on as well.

30 Oct 2004

zootle im much the same i think its a lable thing too i think of myself as liberated!! lol

30 Oct 2004

I think it's wrong to be labelled gay just because I have had sexual play with other guys and enjoyed it, but I am not gay. I love woman and if I see a gorgeous babe walking down the street I'm going to follow her with my eyes and probably lust after her. I don't look at men the same way. I don't fancy men.
The important thing is that I like pleasure, be it with guys / gals or couples.
I also agree that bi guys can be more comfortable in a threesome situatuation because they are not worried about getting close up and sexy with another man even if he is straight
It's about time that bi guys were not treated any different to bi girls.

30 Oct 2004

Hiyas,
In reply to ur dilemma of such hun . xx
Wot the other replies is very true. xx
This subject has been a very and undertalked about subject. xx
As you can see there are many guys that have the same thoughts. xx
I think you have to be able to know yourself properly first. xx
Know your own boundaries and keep to them. xx
I have found there are a lot of people both male and female have these desires and a lot fulfil these desires in the swinging scene as people are so much more open minded. xx
People accept people for who they are and not what they are. xx
I wholeheartedly agree with Neil............ no one should ever be labelled no matter what their issues are. xx
Enjoy the site hun as it is a fab site xx
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1 Nov 2004

Well having tried giving a guy oral over the weekend as part of my first MMF I have to say it's kinda fun, and I'm sure it would be more so once I've got some experience and worked on my technique! lol Mind you, I still think women are a *lot* tastier then men smile