Is it ok to turn up as a "couple" if you are ....how can I say ...err...you know ...."friends" of the opposite sex...
err...if any further clarification is required I will be happy to provide it
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Sex God
Maybe I'm being thick here (as usual!), but David H, what do you mean by turning up at a party as a couple if you know friends of the oppposite sex? Are you saying, turning up claiming you're a couple but while you're both having sex with other people too? (Like I said, I'm thick most of the time!). If you do mean this, I can't see anything wrong with it. I sometimes go to clubs with my partner, who I live with. But most of the time I go to clubs with a friend, who I will just say "hi" to now as he sometimes lurks on this site 
- "Hi, join in!!!!" 
So, we turn up as a couple, do our own thing and then go home - it's cheap to get in that way :twisted: .
- "Hi, join in!!!!" So, we turn up as a couple, do our own thing and then go home - it's cheap to get in that way :twisted: . 
Sex God
Isn't the fact they say, go as a couple, only to make sure the party has the right ratio of people? I.e. The same number of males and females, or to make sure there are not an over abundance of single men all trying to get off.
I was at a party last night, couples only. Granted not many finally turned up but the ratio of men to women was good. Everybody had somebody and nobody was left out. I don't think anybody actually went with there own partner all night, well apart from kissing in the begining.
All in all good fun, lots of sex and fun had by all.
So the answer to your question would be, yes it is ok to go as friends. If they wanted singles they would ask for them.
I was at a party last night, couples only. Granted not many finally turned up but the ratio of men to women was good. Everybody had somebody and nobody was left out. I don't think anybody actually went with there own partner all night, well apart from kissing in the begining.
All in all good fun, lots of sex and fun had by all.
So the answer to your question would be, yes it is ok to go as friends. If they wanted singles they would ask for them.
Sex God
It might be a bit much, me offering an opinion here - seeing as I have never been to a club or a party; yet (hint!). However, that's never stopped me from having an opinion before .
I had always assumed, and please correct me if I am wrong, that the reason clubs and party organisers specifically aim at couples is to try and maintain a reasonable ratio of male to female. Otherwise, I suspect that they would be inundated with single males. If I am right, then as long as you arrive as a couple whether, once inside, you 'play' together or as a couple shouldn't make a difference. I am sure there are lots of singles who team up as a couple just to get into clubs and parties (bluexxx has already alluded to this - morning blue by the way
). After all, if you do split up after you have arrived you have effectively added to that rarest of categories - the single female.
I hope that makes sense, but then, what do I know?
Of course, the principal reason I have NOT been to a club or party is because I am not part of a couple. Now if anyone would like to volunteer to introduce me to the scene (please see ad 24945 for details) then please feel free. Now don't all rush at once !
.I had always assumed, and please correct me if I am wrong, that the reason clubs and party organisers specifically aim at couples is to try and maintain a reasonable ratio of male to female. Otherwise, I suspect that they would be inundated with single males. If I am right, then as long as you arrive as a couple whether, once inside, you 'play' together or as a couple shouldn't make a difference. I am sure there are lots of singles who team up as a couple just to get into clubs and parties (bluexxx has already alluded to this - morning blue by the way
). After all, if you do split up after you have arrived you have effectively added to that rarest of categories - the single female.I hope that makes sense, but then, what do I know?
Of course, the principal reason I have NOT been to a club or party is because I am not part of a couple. Now if anyone would like to volunteer to introduce me to the scene (please see ad 24945 for details) then please feel free. Now don't all rush at once
! I'm sure there are a lot of single females out there who would prefer to go with a 'friend', and in fact do - whether they did the deed with the friend or not.
I haven't been to a party or club either, but if I was to (chance would be a fine thing) I'd prefer to have an escort. At least someone to come and go with - no pun intended!
I haven't been to a party or club either, but if I was to (chance would be a fine thing) I'd prefer to have an escort. At least someone to come and go with - no pun intended!
I think DH, the answer to your question is, yes, in your case it is appropriate to go as a couple. (Having never been to a party myself either). It is not like you are completly incompatible and will become two singles as soon as you walk through the door, or someone you just met in bar and asked to go to the party with you so you could get in.
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Quote by David H
Thanks for the feedback guys and girls. It's pretty much what I expected, but I wanted to be sure I wouldn't be commiting some dreadful faux pas
Didn't we mention, if you get found out your not an actual couple the whole party will string you up by your chest/arse/arm/leg hair! :crazy:
Only joking, have fun David. And tell us all about it. :notes:
Well......
speaking as a couple that holds the occasionalparty we know a number of swinging couples who are always very open about their relationships. By a swinging couple we mean a couple that is not in a direct relationship or even having sex with one another but who just happen to be swinging partners for all the obvious reasons. As a consequence we have no concerns in inviting them to parties and to my mind it can also be an advantage in that they do not have any hang ups regarding their partner etc.
However - would have to say we would always prefer to meet the couple first, just to put our minds at rest. When you invite 15 couples you know to a party and one you dont you take a risk that the one you dont know could spoil the party for the others and loose you friends.
So off you go Will - find a swinging partner and you never know - might get an invite from Wilma to the next party! :shock:
Fred
speaking as a couple that holds the occasionalparty we know a number of swinging couples who are always very open about their relationships. By a swinging couple we mean a couple that is not in a direct relationship or even having sex with one another but who just happen to be swinging partners for all the obvious reasons. As a consequence we have no concerns in inviting them to parties and to my mind it can also be an advantage in that they do not have any hang ups regarding their partner etc.
However - would have to say we would always prefer to meet the couple first, just to put our minds at rest. When you invite 15 couples you know to a party and one you dont you take a risk that the one you dont know could spoil the party for the others and loose you friends.
So off you go Will - find a swinging partner and you never know - might get an invite from Wilma to the next party! :shock:
Fred
