Are all pervs male?

4 Apr 2007

There are plenty of female 'pervs' on here, I've just found that they aren't so keen to advertise it.
I think that some women worry about the somewhat skewed sterotyping that kinky = easy/desperate/not picky.
Sadly even if a female advertises in the Women seeking Women section she will still get lots of replies from men. rolleyes

And for those ladies it really can be too much hassle to dare to advertise in a non-gender specific section like 'Fetish' even though they state clearly that they are seeking women only!
Ergo you can't advertise for anything remotely 'Fetish' in the Women seeking Women section so a lot of adverts have to be toned down or re-worded otherwise they get moved or deleted.
So in answer - no, men are not the only pervs! lol

4 Apr 2007

i would say a lot of the women are perves on here....a few actually shocked me i wont name names........
MikeC

4 Apr 2007

Quote by essex34m
Just a small pondering, looking through the photo ad's, I noticed that in the fetish section, there is a serious lack of females putting up ads
is this because women tend to be more discreet in their 'recruitment' or its left more to the males?

Id have to say im more discreet about my pervy thoughts. Id never advertise for certain things that i think about. Only after getting to know someone do I sound them out about potentially acting out these pervy thoughts. Even then I still get embarrassed telling someone redface

hence the reason ive only told one person here wink

Louise xx

4 Apr 2007

Quote by Abilene
Nahhh I am just as perverted but still waiting for a volunteer photographer ( who can hide my bumps and flaws lol)

What type of portfolio are you looking for? wink

I want something sexy yet discreet that shows my love for BDSM ... if that makes sense. lol
You better sketch out some pose ideas then. lol

4 Apr 2007

Quote by louise_and_joe
Id have to say im more discreet about my pervy thoughts. Id never advertise for certain things that i think about. Only after getting to know someone do I sound them out about potentially acting out these pervy thoughts. Even then I still get embarrassed telling someone hence the reason ive only told one person here
Louise xx

I am exactly the same! I do have the odd one or two pervy thoughts, surprised

ops: and would love to act the odd one or two of them out, :oops: but I would not have the nerve to place an ad or a post.
I don't know if it is because I am female and slightly more reserved (stop laughing at the back) or whether it is also a little about being frightened of what people would think (now doesn't that sound really bad on a swingers site). Do I want people to think Im 'up for anything' by placing an ad saying what my real fantasy's are? Do I really just want them to stay a fantasy?
Perhaps there is also the fear of rejection if no one answered. dunno

4 Apr 2007

Is being a pervert a bad thing then?? I've never thought so and am quite proud to be a perv!
POWER TO THE PERVS!

4 Apr 2007

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
I am exactly the same! I do have the odd one or two pervy thoughts, and would love to act the odd one or two of them out, ops: but I would not have the nerve to place an ad or a post.
I don't know if it is because I am female and slightly more reserved (stop laughing at the back) or whether it is also a little about being frightened of what people would think (now doesn't that sound really bad on a swingers site). Do I want people to think Im 'up for anything' by placing an ad saying what my real fantasy's are? Do I really just want them to stay a fantasy?
Perhaps there is also the fear of rejection if no one answered.

I am lol. I would answer you hun :twisted:

4 Apr 2007

I've advertised in that section in the past, it was frustrating to be mixed up with everything else that didn't fit a neat box at times but I got what I wanted so no complaints there! I did get lots of PMs for what I didn't want but I expected to lol

Maybe women are more discreet in finding partners but I also think part of it is that when women place an ad, they've thought long and hard about exactly what they want whereas (in my experience in chat and with ad responses) a lot of guys place a random ad and don't think past the "I've been naughty, punish me and make me do kinky stuff while I admire your PVC catsuit clad appearance" idea to consider what else can be experienced.
Not that there's anything wrong with PVC catsuits, but that's not all there is biggrin

5 Apr 2007

Quote by Serendipity
I've advertised in that section in the past, it was frustrating to be mixed up with everything else that didn't fit a neat box at times but I got what I wanted so no complaints there! I did get lots of PMs for what I didn't want but I expected to
Maybe women are more discreet in finding partners but I also think part of it is that when women place an ad, they've thought long and hard about exactly what they want whereas (in my experience in chat and with ad responses) a lot of guys place a random ad and don't think past the "I've been naughty, punish me and make me do kinky stuff while I admire your PVC catsuit clad appearance" idea to consider what else can be experienced.
Not that there's anything wrong with PVC catsuits, but that's not all there is

the highlighted bit:
thats it in a nutshell there is no neat little box and never will be because we are all so individual.
I perv all the time but this is one area, as in conveying my thoughts to women that I have no experiance at and get nervous/embarressed about redface

5 Apr 2007

I love sex, any time any place. Does that make me a perv? or is this about fetishes?

5 Apr 2007

hmm... shame i'm just not around the corner wink

5 Apr 2007

Quote by Serendipity
I've advertised in that section in the past, it was frustrating to be mixed up with everything else that didn't fit a neat box at times but I got what I wanted so no complaints there! I did get lots of PMs for what I didn't want but I expected to
Maybe women are more discreet in finding partners but I also think part of it is that when women place an ad, they've thought long and hard about exactly what they want whereas (in my experience in chat and with ad responses) a lot of guys place a random ad and don't think past the "I've been naughty, punish me and make me do kinky stuff while I admire your PVC catsuit clad appearance" idea to consider what else can be experienced.
Not that there's anything wrong with PVC catsuits, but that's not all there is

Yes I've found the same.
But also I'm usually looking for something specific and only that. However because you are revealing yourself to be a bit different from the norm sexually, sadly some folk think you must be into everything - their 'thing'.
Just because I'm into A or B doesn't mean you can start sending me unsolicited graphic PMs or whisper me in chat about how you'd like me to do X or Y to you. :shock:
I'm may be pervy but I'm not desperate! :lol:
Yes it's a good thing that SH have seperated TV/CD from Fetish but I find the sections still very limiting as they are far too broad. Yes this is a swinging site but swingers can be kinky too!