first of all let me say that i like loads of you out there and this is not meant as a dig at any persons in particular...
i have noticed that there are loads of parties out there that do exclude single men......
i am not knocking cpls only parties..... i understand why these are there....
i suppose my beef is with parties for "couples and single fems" as if single men are no treated as the lowest of the low already....
i just find it weird that if i am good enough to play with when i have a woman attached to me that i am suddenly not when i don't.......
maybe it is just me that looks for personalty and spark..maybe it is me that look to know people first and not look at a "status" i suppose that no matter how genuine a person can be you will never be more than a single man/woman/bi male/bi woman/ couple in some peoples eyes.....
yours......... "disillusioned of newcastle"
Its nothing personal, just some people have their preferences. You've heard of greedy girl parties, well they are the male equivalent- greedy guy parties.
I don’t believe single guys are lepers it’s just that their reputation as a whole is similar to that of a Millwall football fan. The reality is that most are fine and just a few spoil it.
Perhaps party organisers don’t want to take a risk. At the end of the day if you are organising a party it is your prerogative to invite who you want
Fabio
I don't think single men are lepers but I DO think we are each responsible for creating our own perception and persona and that life is what we make it.
Do I think some single men are lepers? No - but I think that anyone can be a pain in the arse, man or women. Any of the 'doggers' on here will tell you that the behaviour of some guys is absolutely unacceptable at dogging sites. This is the same type of behaviour that would no doubt replicate itself at parties if left uncontrolled in some way.
I've had invites to 'couples or females' only parties and I don't think it was because of the the 'bi' thing as I'm still a bloke. I'd like to think it was because people knew me and saw me as non-threatening and respectful of their preferences.
There are always exceptions to the rule (and usually these are numerous) but the rules have to be there to establish some kind of bench mark in the first place. I'll bet there will be single guys there too and it's likely that will be because of the things I mention above.
Its a case of "Supply & Demand"
Single guys probably account for 60-70% of swingers ads...there is no way we or many other couples would attend a party with that kind of ratio.
We work with a couple of friends who are party hosts....we always limit the number of single guys invited to a party, usually about 50 couples to 12 single guys.
The best advice we can offer to single guys is to get along to as many socials/munches as possible...and be patient you might not rock every bodies boat.
Oeorrr...was that a bit sensible for us?
Sean, I've been really touched by your dilemma. Want you to know that as a very recent single, I understand your position. Although I'm a fem, sometimes the situation is very similar to what you've experienced. Personally, I don't want to be labelled as someone who's there for couples.
To be honest I never thought about "why don't they want single men?"
I had 2 party invites through my picture ad but I said "no, thanks" (I'm too shy).
Why don't we just respect everybody's wishes without thinking about "why", there are enough gang bang parties, so no reason for us to complain.
I think there's too many single men. Would you like to go to a party and see 10 couples, 3 single women and 30 single men? I wouldn't.
I can see why single guys get dis-heartened, but if people only want couples, or fems, or green-eyed goblins, it is up to them. Yeah, there are some parties that are couples and fems only (each to their own), but there are plenty of events where single guys are welcome, that includes some parties and all social events advertised on here.
Funnily enough the party we are planning at the mo is open to everyone, as have our other parties been, but considering the amount of single guys on the site, the list is actually over-represented by couples. I would say that there are nearly as many single fems as single guys coming, and looking at the list over all, the gender split is almost 50/50. Make of that what you will - but my answer is that the single guys are too scared to come hehehehehehehehehehe :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Maybe I'm wrong .....it's a wild guess...
