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I think that the general public in Britain are afraid to stand up and be counted when it comes to beliefs. I was talking to a mate putting the world to rights and whinging that this is wrong and that is wrong etc when it occurred to me. If i was talking to a stranger would i say the same things?
An example of this is Muslim head scarves (Hijab). Both of us are of the opinion that they are intimidating exclusive and not right for promoting a secular society. Now if however i was within a group where there ware Muslims present would i voice those opinions. Or. just keep quiet for fear of being branded a racist or some such other thing?
Another such thing. According to BBC news there is a school in England that teaches students who between them have 17!! different languges used as a first language. Again i think learning English should be mandatory to ensuring a British passport and that it should be used wherever possible to the exclusion of other languages.
I could go on...
Do you, like I, feel we have a silent majority held to ransom by a busy body minority?
I see a lot of different types here in London. Many from 'traditional' backgrounds, who then go on to have families and build their own communities. Their children learn to speak English and usually perform as well as other UK residents. Some don't revert back to traditionalism within their own communities, but form a compromise as an interim stage.
Other people do eventually drop their characteristic traditionalism and wear western clothing and learn to use English with an accent etc. But sometimes it means we lose that diversity and they lose some of their character.
The UK really is an immigrant country. Especially so in the last 100 hundred years.
There is a certain amount of concern that an opinion could be taken as an insult, so people are careful, But I don't think we all want to live in fear.
Im one of those people who speak my mind generally, as long as it doesn't unnecessarily hurt somebody's feelings i will voice my opinion.
I do get myself into some situations that would probably seem awkward or embarrassing for most others but to be true to myself i always have to say what im thinking or give my viewpoint on something that directly or indirectly involves me.
Its a personal thing, some people are better at speaking their minds than others, whilst some don't like to think they are being confrontational or like to attract unwanted attention to themselves.
IMHO you can only be truly happy with yourself and in life if you are true to yourself and speak your mind, but thats just my opinion, those people who would rather have an easy life and keep quiet and avoid confrontation and possible verbal conflict are entitled to do that, they probably get on with their neighbours better than i do lol
Unfortunately, I agree with Srne. I never knew this day would come ... :doh:
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Unfortunately, I agree with Srne. I never knew this day would come ... :doh:

the bloody cheek of the woman (she's probably still hungover from ne munch so will edit when she sobers up lol )
and in answer to the question at the end Lost, i think its more about political correctness these days than a silence majority, people just cant be arsed with the influx of people jumping on the bandwagon trying to defend everyone and anything just to have their two peneth worth. It happens on here at times too rolleyes
This is a very interesting discussion.
Last week I was walking my 2 neices (5 & 7) when we came around a corner and in front of us was a muslim lady in the full black dress and veil, with no eye slot at all. This is the first lady I have seen dressed like this i my town, I am ashamed to say that I jumped and my neices screamed. She carried on down the street, and I shushed the girls and told them what it was about, (from my limited understanding).
But I felt awful for the lady. If I had the time again, I feel I would have liked to apologise or at least explain our reaction - but then again, ... part of me thinks, well, was I out of order or not?
confused
I think everyone that comes into this country to work and live should have to be able to speak our laungage..it is hard to express an opinion with out worrying about being judged as a racist...at the moment everyone seems very uneasy about dirrerant cultures it probably comes down to a lack of understanding from everyone..with my job i work in the middleeast alot and you meet some very decent and welcomeing people and also some of the worst..it is something that needs to be sorted out before the situation gets beyond control.
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I think everyone that comes into this country to work and live should have to be able to speak our laungage..

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with my job i work in the middleeast alot and you meet some very decent and welcomeing people and also some of the worst..it is something that needs to be sorted out before the situation gets beyond control.

Lukes... not trying to be deliberately confrontational, but this is a thread about speaking your mind, so my question is: Do you speak the local language when you work in the Middle East?
And another point, again not directed at you in particular, is why is English 'our' language? English as such doesn't exist. The language we know as English stems from Latin, Anglo Saxon and numerous other flavours. Who knows, in another millenia we may have integrated various Arabic phrases and words?
dunno
We will always say things to trusted friends that we would not say in public. How often have do we think to ourselves, 'He/she is opinionated'
Then again is it bad to hold an opinion and debate it with others? Is it better to keep it to oneself and never test it in cold day light?
Language
In India English is sort by all young people. Why? English is a passport to well paid jobs.
Travis
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I think everyone that comes into this country to work and live should have to be able to speak our laungage..

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with my job i work in the middleeast alot and you meet some very decent and welcomeing people and also some of the worst..it is something that needs to be sorted out before the situation gets beyond control.

Lukes... not trying to be deliberately confrontational, but this is a thread about speaking your mind, so my question is: Do you speak the local language when you work in the Middle East?
And another point, again not directed at you in particular, is why is English 'our' language? English as such doesn't exist. The language we know as English stems from Latin, Anglo Saxon and numerous other flavours. Who knows, in another millenia we may have integrated various Arabic phrases and words?
dunno
You may be right, that is 'kiss met'. Oh look we already have.
:doh:
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Who knows, in another millenia we may have integrated various Arabic phrases and words?
dunno

Words like alcohol, sequin, lemon, coffee, or gerbil?
OK, those ones probably came into English along with the items being traded. But it is true that if you have two language communities in close contact for long enough, words will be permanently 'borrowed'. A huge amount of current English came from French after the Norman conquest.
A too quick search doesn't bring up any references, but I do remember hearing about blends between English and various Indian languages used as slang in parts of London. Some of it is bound to stick and spread.
It's a natural part of how languages evolve, and doesn't in itself say anything either positive or negative about anything else.
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This is a very interesting discussion.
Last week I was walking my 2 neices (5 & 7) when we came around a corner and in front of us was a muslim lady in the full black dress and veil, with no eye slot at all. This is the first lady I have seen dressed like this i my town, I am ashamed to say that I jumped and my neices screamed. She carried on down the street, and I shushed the girls and told them what it was about, (from my limited understanding).
But I felt awful for the lady. If I had the time again, I feel I would have liked to apologise or at least explain our reaction - but then again, ... part of me thinks, well, was I out of order or not?
confused

I wouldnt worry too much Cherry, she was probably laughing her head off under all her robes at the look on your face. I for one would have liked to have seen that rotflmao
You can talk about anything with anybody if it's broached in a respectful way and everyone involved is capable of listening.
I am always very receptive to people that have different beliefs and views to me, but only if they have some knowledge/reason/experience to back it up and don't view my questions as a personal attack.
I would like to think my opinions are things I have spent time thinking about and are evolving as I learn/experience new things - so in that vain I wouldn't mind talking about them with anyone who was interested or curious.
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I think that the general public in Britain are afraid to stand up and be counted when it comes to ]

I think this statement is so true. Now im talking about the bigger things in this country that affect us all. Not little niggly things that get at us. More about politics, council taxes, income taxes, immigration, criminal sentencing, schooling, Nhs etc.
If the people of this country voiced their opinions more, made a stand for what they think is right then people would have to listen.
This country = selective democracy
Louise xx
its a case of the silent majority I think...yes people are afraid to voice their opinions for fear of being branded this that and the next thing...however it woud appear that its not the older people of the immigrant/asian communities who are opting for the wearing of hjab etc......lets not beat about the bush this is all part of the radicalisation of the young people of this country.
Go to any ex-pat community and you'll find British people living as though they were still here, what's so different to other cultures coming here and doing the same? Is it because it's a culture we're not familiar with so we see i differently? Personally I'd prefer people to come here and feel that they had the freedom to bring their customs and beliefs with them, do we want to turn the whole world into one homogenised society?
H.x
In edit: Ta FB
Did anyone see Panorama last night on BBC1. It was discussing the divide that appears to be forming between the black/asian community and the white community in Blackburn.
I did find some of the expressions created by the media inflammatory in my opinion.
White flight seemed to be a bit extreme a phrase for white people moving out of the area.
The media is very powerful and needs to think carefully about how it presents items of news it thinks may be relevent to the cultural mix/divide in this country nowadays.
It did reveal though that things work both ways re integration and acceptance. One young couple a white man and an asian girl found walking down the street together quite an intimidating experience. They said they felt hositility from both sides of the community.
Not new I grant you but sad after all this time that its still happening.
DD
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The media is very powerful and needs to think carefully about how it presents items of news it thinks may be relevent to the cultural mix/divide in this country nowadays.

Think what you say here is on the button. The media does just headline deployinmg shock horror tactics and using ever more over sensationalised ways to report what may not be so amazing in truth.
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Go to any ex-pat community and you'll find British people living as though they were still here, what's so different to other cultures coming here and doing the same? Is it because it's a culture we're not familiar with so we see i differently? Personally I'd prefer people to come here and feel that they had the freedom to bring their customs and beliefs with them, do we want to turn the whole world into one homogenised society?
H.x
In edit: Ta FB

I think this only true in part. The British ex-pat community is in its very nature 'ex-pat' they still hold British citizenship and passports and have no wish to integrate by becoming naturalised. If their way of life was threatened one would assume that for most homeward bound they would be.
I for one embrace the differences that various other cultures bring to the idea of being British. In fact i would propose that diversity and acceptance of diversity is maybe what British 'culture' is.
The idea that the world is homogenised by not accepting the more radical limits of ethnicity or religion or any other word placed upon the fringe community is a little too broad a statement in my view. One can clebrate 'La Difference' without having to indulge the more remote and radical idiologies that cause the feelings of alienation from all factions of our accepted and enjoyed multi ethnic comuunity.
I dont mind who comes here as we seem to be discussing imigration at the moment what I do mind is why they come here. Its simple they come here cus its a free ride in this country. Thats why they are hell bent on traveling through 3-6 countries to get to this one. Why not stop in France or Germany I doubt they make it all this way just for the weather lol There are a lot of people taking a free ride in this country quite a lot of them are British but they are our problem that our society created and we should deal with it. What we dont need is other peoples problems thanks very much. Personnaly I think Britan is a diversified as it needs to be right now.
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I think this only true in part. The British ex-pat community is in its very nature 'ex-pat' they still hold British citizenship and passports and have no wish to integrate by becoming naturalised. If their way of life was threatened one would assume that for most homeward bound they would be.
I for one embrace the differences that various other cultures bring to the idea of being British. In fact i would propose that diversity and acceptance of diversity is maybe what British 'culture' is.
The idea that the world is homogenised by not accepting the more radical limits of ethnicity or religion or any other word placed upon the fringe community is a little too broad a statement in my view. One can clebrate 'La Difference' without having to indulge the more remote and radical idiologies that cause the feelings of alienation from all factions of our accepted and enjoyed multi ethnic comuunity.

In some ways I find the 'ex-pat' mentality worse, we'll take advantage of the bits we like about your country, usually the weather, and disregard the customs and traditions - bring our own with us until we don't ;ike it here any more then go home.
Whose to say what's radical? I find people preaching in the street extemists but because they preach what is considered to be our national religion they're accepted. For someone brought up in a very strict religous ethos, our liberal views would be alienating in themselves. In my view, as long as there is no inclination to harm others, people should be allowed to do or wear what they like, especially if it holds some significance to them.
H.x
Many of the world's strivers and skivers come here because we have a system which by and large actually works and has a good deal of the world's wealth arriving here.
If we didn't have a flow of produce and people here we would starve. Or be eating turnips out of the ground with our teeth, if anyone could be bothered to plant them.
We have an enormous legacy of trade and labour directed towards us because we have a controlling factor in the world's economy. It's not about wideboy traders in the Stock Exchange making thousands per deal its about 2-300 years of trade across the world. A huge legacy that people across the world believe in, and thereby continue to contribute.
We don't like to see lazy sods sponging off our system, but on the world scale we can afford it, believe it or not.
I am not afraid of my own opinions even though often people don't agree with me.
For what it's worth, my opinions on some of the things brought up in this topic go as follows.
The Hijab. If people choose to wear something then I have no right to question them. This goes both ways -they have no right to question what I wear or my reasons for doing so either.
I do have some reservations regarding the apparent patriachal nature of some religions, but peoples religion and culture are thier right. This being a free country, we absolutely should respect the rights of people to dress and act however they like so long as that does not infringe on the liberties of anyone else.
This is where any fundamentalist religious belief can get onto a sticky wicket in a country with freedom of expression - but it is important to allow people freedom of religion and expression even when we don't agree with them.
I know a number of women who wear the hijab, and I like all of them as people, and I like thier husbands, too. I don't claim to fully understand Islam or the reasons for wearing it, but I accept that if that's what they feel they should do, then that's thier choice and I have no call to question that.
I harbour absolutely no religious beliefs whatsoever. and disgree wholeheartedly with an awful lot of what religion stands for, (and agree with a lot of it too - who can argue with, 'Thou Shalt Not Kill'?) - but that's a personal opinion and not one I thrust down anyone elses throat.
Looking after people who choose not to work
While this goes on and is annoying, I am happy to pay my taxes to ensure there is a safety net for those who need it. If some people take the piss, then that is no reason to remove the safety net for those who genuinely cannot work. I don't like the idea of people starving to death, or dying because they can't afford medical treatment. There are people who abuse the system, but there are a lot of people who need it. I would hate to have an American style system where everyone just looks out for themselves and sod anyone who can't afford to look after themselves.
Immigartion and Asylum Seekers
I have a similar point of view. There are those who need sanctuary in this country and there are those that take advantage. But just because there are those who take advantage does not mean we should turn outr backs on those who need us. If we could get it right and refuse asylum and privelegs for those who are taking advantage without making those who are genuine suffer, then I would be all for that. But, unfortunately, the arguments seem to be all or nothing, and given a choice, I'd personally prefer that we helped people who needed help and a few piss takers got through the net, than if we turned everyone away and genuine people suffered because we were afraid of having the mickey taken.
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Lukes... not trying to be deliberately confrontational, but this is a thread about speaking your mind, so my question is: Do you speak the local language when you work in the Middle East?
And another point, again not directed at you in particular, is why is English 'our' language? English as such doesn't exist. The language we know as English stems from Latin, Anglo Saxon and numerous other flavours. Who knows, in another millenia we may have integrated various Arabic phrases and words?
dunno

We already have - words like algebra, adobe, caliber, checkmate are Arabic. Try Googling it, it's a fascinating list.
I'm an Asian - and have lived in this country for over 45 years - so this is home for me and my family - never even been back to India where I was born in fact. I have always felt that us 'foreigners' should integrate and not segregate....the odd thing is my brother and I had a recent discussion about 'being British'....and we came to the conclusion that in many ways, he and I are actually MORE 'English' than a lot of the indigenous population!. We go to church on Sundays - and am part of various comittees within, we value the countryside, love and respect this country as home to the point that my kids NEVER litter, or vandalise etc. YET - we STILL get abuse from the ignorant youth - who tell us to go back to our own country - yet quite happily smashing in a phone booth for fun! Most frustrating I can tell you! Incidentally, the British Raj when in India, really did not integrate - seeking to educate the natives to the British way of life - so maybe we shouldn't expect total integration heh? Also, the Brits in Spain don't integrate or learn to speak Spanish - instead they build a community within a community of British pubs etc.....just as the foreigners here do! Now isn't that food for thought??
Kash
Have to say, Woodlake - you certainly write better than a lot of 'native' English people! Apologies, couldn't think of a better way to phrase that - no offence intended.
As to the changing language - I wonder if 'text speak' will become an acceptable misuse of the language? For example, in literacy examinations.
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I think everyone that comes into this country to work and live should have to be able to speak our laungage...

I disagree with that as I don't think it should be a pre-requisite for coming here though I do think immigrant communities should make better efforts to integrate and learning English whilst here is a part of that - integration does NOT equate to the loss of ones national heritage.
"You're" only holding "yourself" and "your" families back by NOT integrating more.
Wot Gothic Punk sed.
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It's not about wideboy traders in the Stock Exchange making thousands per deal

someone is keeping something from me