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If you're reading this post you're probably either a time waster or aspiring to become one. Welcome; you've come to the right post!
To ensure your time is best wasted I thought it best to post my '6 golden rules of timewasting', just to give you a flavour of what members expect/do not expect of you:
1. This is a swingers site; if you're not sure what it means it probably isn't for you.
2. Read the adverts; grnuine members pretty much respond to all emails but please afford the courtesy of checking what someone is looking for first.
3. Happy to chat before meeting, and sometimes chatting is all that will happen. But at least be seeking meets if you're going to contact someone.
4. If a meet is arranged genuine members show up as arranged. It's not unreasonable to expect the same of you.
5. Face photograph and contact number to be exchanged prior to meeting. And
6. If this sounds like too much effort, please see 1. above
How do I spot others of my own kind you may ask? Well i'm glad you did! The site has a feedback system called 'Shrep'. Have a look at the profiles, if it's activated it's at the top. See it? No...? There you go; a fellow timewaster! You deserve each other.
Helpful? I hope so. And it applies to everyone on here, not just me, so please bear in mind before wasting anyone's time other than your own....
x
Nsafun_one,
I'm getting the impression that you imagine yourself as a bit of a sex object and on that I can only agree because what you've written above makes me feel you really are a pompous prick.
What a load of old bollocks rolleyes
Quote by Nsafun_one
If you're reading this post you're probably either a time waster or aspiring to become one. Welcome; you've come to the right post!
To ensure your time is best wasted I thought it best to post my '6 golden rules of timewasting', just to give you a flavour of what members expect/do not expect of you:
1. This is a swingers site; if you're not sure what it means it probably isn't for you.
2. Read the adverts; grnuine members pretty much respond to all emails but please afford the courtesy of checking what someone is looking for first.
3. Happy to chat before meeting, and sometimes chatting is all that will happen. But at least be seeking meets if you're going to contact someone.
4. If a meet is arranged genuine members show up as arranged. It's not unreasonable to expect the same of you.
5. Face photograph and contact number to be exchanged prior to meeting. And
6. If this sounds like too much effort, please see 1. above
How do I spot others of my own kind you may ask? Well i'm glad you did! The site has a feedback system called 'Shrep'. Have a look at the profiles, if it's activated it's at the top. See it? No...? There you go; a fellow timewaster! You deserve each other.
Helpful? I hope so. And it applies to everyone on here, not just me, so please bear in mind before wasting anyone's time other than your own....
x

I read a lot of the forums, but that does not make me a time waster.
Some time I respond to threads, other times I just read and move on.
Another thought to me is 'how to win friends...............' if I was considering repsonding to an advert of yours, and read this post I would consdier twice before doing so.
Clearly the OP is someone struggling to meet people, probably in no small way due to his approach and the giant chip he carries around on his shoulder.
I like chips, but not that sort smile
Quote by Steve
What a load of old bollocks rolleyes

is it?
why is it?
as a single guy have you not been hit with the time waster twig?
maybe i am reading the op's comments all wrong, but maybe not.
Quote by Nsafun_one
If you're reading this post you're probably either a time waster or aspiring to become one. Welcome; you've come to the right post!
To ensure your time is best wasted I thought it best to post my '6 golden rules of timewasting', just to give you a flavour of what members expect/do not expect of you:
1. This is a swingers site; if you're not sure what it means it probably isn't for you.
2. Read the adverts; grnuine members pretty much respond to all emails but please afford the courtesy of checking what someone is looking for first.
3. Happy to chat before meeting, and sometimes chatting is all that will happen. But at least be seeking meets if you're going to contact someone.
4. If a meet is arranged genuine members show up as arranged. It's not unreasonable to expect the same of you.
5. Face photograph and contact number to be exchanged prior to meeting. And
6. If this sounds like too much effort, please see 1. above
How do I spot others of my own kind you may ask? Well i'm glad you did! The site has a feedback system called 'Shrep'. Have a look at the profiles, if it's activated it's at the top. See it? No...? There you go; a fellow timewaster! You deserve each other.
Helpful? I hope so. And it applies to everyone on here, not just me, so please bear in mind before wasting anyone's time other than your own....
x

:laughabove:
bolt
Quote by starlightcouple
maybe i am reading the op's comments all wrong, but maybe not.

Yep, I think you are.
Quote by starlightcouple
What a load of old bollocks rolleyes

is it?
why is it?
Because he's generalising and giving only his jaded view of things - clearly having been let down by someone, but that's no excuse. For example he suggests that if you have Shrep disabled then you're a time waster. Some of us know that for a fact to be nothing more than a pile of old bollocks smile
So, feel sorry for the OP as a single bloke? Maybe. However, with that attitude and miserable outlook he's probably his own worst enemy.
2. Read the adverts; grnuine members pretty much respond
:laughabove:
Ah cut the guy some slack he's only referring to the grnuine wasters and the grnuine folks that reply.
Sorry, when I read it I thought it was just for a bit of a giggle......isn't it?
Quote by DM_Couple
maybe i am reading the op's comments all wrong, but maybe not.

Yep, I think you are.
Quote by starlightcouple
What a load of old bollocks rolleyes

is it?
why is it?
Because he's generalising and giving only his jaded view of things - clearly having been let down by someone, but that's no excuse. For example he suggests that if you have Shrep disabled then you're a time waster. Some of us know that for a fact to be nothing more than a pile of old bollocks smile
So, feel sorry for the OP as a single bloke? Maybe. However, with that attitude and miserable outlook he's probably his own worst enemy.
Much better put than I could have hoped to do :-)
Paaaah Haaaaaa !!!!rotflmao
Quote by if_only2006
Nsafun_one,
I'm getting the impression that you imagine yourself as a bit of a sex object and on that I can only agree because what you've written above makes me feel you really are a pompous prick.

quality first post :thumbup:
welcome to the forum :welcome:
God I hope Nsafun_one stays and posts more in the forum smileI love this sort of stuff :thumbup:
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God I hope Nsafun_one stays and posts more in the forum smileI love this sort of stuff :thumbup:

previous posts make a riveting read
Quote by Lizaleanrob
God I hope Nsafun_one stays and posts more in the forum smileI love this sort of stuff :thumbup:

previous posts make a riveting read
LoL Don't they just
This is LB1 writing (by the way, I think there should be a function for couples with extras - like in chat - to choose which one is doing the posting in the forum)...but I digress...
I'm getting a little tired of hearing the expression "time waster" on this site. It seems to me to be a term that's banded about by frustrated and impatient people as a way to justify to themselves why someone they've talked to once or twice hasn't shagged them yet!!
To my mind, the only legitimate use of the word is to describe someone who has arranged a meet and doesn't show up (or otherwise failed to do something they've committed to doing). The fact that someone has exchanged a few messages with you or chatted in the chatrooms, but doesn't want to meet you immediately, does not make them a time waster!! It just means that they (quite sensibly) wanted to talk a bit first and then decide whether to arrange a meet. Or they were just being friendly! Or they may want to meet, but not just yet. Unless someone has actually said they'll meet you and hasn't shown up as agreed, don't you think it's a little rude and aggressive to brand them a time waster?!!  If my wife and I are expected to fuck everyone we ever speak to on here, we'll be pretty bloody busy!!
People are all on this site for different reasons, and everyone is looking for different things from their experience - even just in my own relationship, I know that my wife wants different things from the site than I do - she's a voyeur and is not keen on being on cam; I'm an exhibitionist and could spend endless hours on cam!!  I find it frankly astounding that so many people seem to have got this far through life without realising that not everyone agrees with them and sees life the way they do. It is such a narrow-minded and blinkered approach to life and I genuinely find it hard to understand.
Not everyone wants to have meets every week. Not everyone will know whether there's enough sexual chemistry and attraction to want a meet without chatting quite a bit first.  Not every meet will necessarily end in sex. Not everyone even wants meets! I think anyone tempted to run around labelling people as time wasters needs to calm down, take some time to make an effort and see where that takes them - it's likely to be a damn site further than getting pissed off and moving on just because you don't get a guaranteed fuck after saying "hi" in the chatrooms!
My wife and I are still very new to swinging and are still in the process of working out what we each want from it (both individually and then working out how to get what we both want doing this as a couple). But, what we already know for sure is that swinging is about much more than just meeting people for sex for us - it's a fabulously rich and fascinating world, with loads to explore and enjoy!  Perhaps if the op chills out a bit, takes his time and loses the attitude, he might discover the many pleasures to be had!
Lilith xx
I'm getting a little tired of hearing the expression "time waster" on this site. It seems to me to be a term that's banded about by frustrated and impatient people as a way to justify to themselves why someone they've talked to once or twice hasn't shagged them yet!!

It would seem you have a firm grasp on how things work on here, yes. ;)
I think anyone tempted to run around labelling people as time wasters needs to calm down, take some time to make an effort and see where that takes them - it's likely to be a damn site further than getting pissed off and moving on just because you don't get a guaranteed fuck after saying "hi" in the chatrooms!

Alienating half the forum and a good chunk of those who read his ad ain't likely to progress things much either I wouldn't have thought? confused Luckily for him hardly noone reads the bloody forum any more, but might wanna think about changing his ad. About as appealing as a wet weekend in Cleethorpes at present. ( No disrespect meant to lovers of that fine seaside town, wet weather or otherwise, obviously. lol )
Quote by Lizaleanrob
Nsafun_one,
I'm getting the impression that you imagine yourself as a bit of a sex object and on that I can only agree because what you've written above makes me feel you really are a pompous prick.

quality first post :thumbup:
welcome to the forum :welcome:
Nsafun_one
Getting there
Joined:6 Feb 2012
Posts:20
Pass me a calculator
wink
Quote by paddy
Nsafun_one,
I'm getting the impression that you imagine yourself as a bit of a sex object and on that I can only agree because what you've written above makes me feel you really are a pompous prick.

quality first post :thumbup:
welcome to the forum :welcome:
Nsafun_one
Getting there
Joined:6 Feb 2012
Posts:20
Pass me a calculator
wink
I think they meant If Only's first post :jagsatwork:
Quote by Nsafun_one
If you're reading this post you're probably either a time waster or aspiring to become one. Welcome; you've come to the right post!
To ensure your time is best wasted I thought it best to post my '6 golden rules of timewasting', just to give you a flavour of what members expect/do not expect of you:
1. This is a swingers site; if you're not sure what it means it probably isn't for you.
2. Read the adverts; grnuine members pretty much respond to all emails but please afford the courtesy of checking what someone is looking for first.
3. Happy to chat before meeting, and sometimes chatting is all that will happen. But at least be seeking meets if you're going to contact someone.
4. If a meet is arranged genuine members show up as arranged. It's not unreasonable to expect the same of you.
5. Face photograph and contact number to be exchanged prior to meeting. And
6. If this sounds like too much effort, please see 1. above
How do I spot others of my own kind you may ask? Well i'm glad you did! The site has a feedback system called 'Shrep'. Have a look at the profiles, if it's activated it's at the top. See it? No...? There you go; a fellow timewaster! You deserve each other.
Helpful? I hope so. And it applies to everyone on here, not just me, so please bear in mind before wasting anyone's time other than your own....
x

:yawn:
Hi all,
What a fantastic response - and what a cross section of views!
I should say it was meant to be tongue in cheek, certainly not my intention to offend anyone. Sarah, I don't think people that browse the forums are timewasters; DM_couple I've had some fantastic meets from this site; Paddy, Skinny, you've got me clocked, and LB1 - I agree with everything you say.
But there are a lot of 'timewasters' on here. And my post was for them.
Lizaleanrob, Lost, thanks for the welcome ;)
xD
I'm a timewaster 'cos I don't use Shrep? Oh I do apologise! I thought it was just a brag-list for indiscreet people to show off their notches. Meh.
Quote by Nsafun_one
Hi all,
What a fantastic response - and what a cross section of views!
I should say it was meant to be tongue in cheek, certainly not my intention to offend anyone. Sarah, I don't think people that browse the forums are timewasters; DM_couple I've had some fantastic meets from this site; Paddy, Skinny, you've got me clocked, and LB1 - I agree with everything you say.
But there are a lot of 'timewasters' on here. And my post was for them.
Lizaleanrob, Lost, thanks for the welcome ;)
xD

Glad to hear it, Nsa... I speak a lot of sense! ;-) lol
Lilith xx
Quote by Inanna
Glad to hear it, Nsa... I speak a lot of sense crap! ;-) lol

innocent
:giggle: bolt
Quote by Marya_Northeast
I'm a timewaster 'cos I don't use Shrep? Oh I do apologise! I thought it was just a brag-list for indiscreet people to show off their notches. Meh.
Exactly the reason I don't use it ... it's nobody else's business who I've met or done anything with.
Quote by Inanna
This is LB1 writing (by the way, I think there should be a function for couples with extras - like in chat - to choose which one is doing the posting in the forum)...but I digress...
I'm getting a little tired of hearing the expression "time waster" on this site. It seems to me to be a term that's banded about by frustrated and impatient people as a way to justify to themselves why someone they've talked to once or twice hasn't shagged them yet!!
To my mind, the only legitimate use of the word is to describe someone who has arranged a meet and doesn't show up (or otherwise failed to do something they've committed to doing). The fact that someone has exchanged a few messages with you or chatted in the chatrooms, but doesn't want to meet you immediately, does not make them a time waster!! It just means that they (quite sensibly) wanted to talk a bit first and then decide whether to arrange a meet. Or they were just being friendly! Or they may want to meet, but not just yet. Unless someone has actually said they'll meet you and hasn't shown up as agreed, don't you think it's a little rude and aggressive to brand them a time waster?!!  If my wife and I are expected to fuck everyone we ever speak to on here, we'll be pretty bloody busy!!
People are all on this site for different reasons, and everyone is looking for different things from their experience - even just in my own relationship, I know that my wife wants different things from the site than I do - she's a voyeur and is not keen on being on cam; I'm an exhibitionist and could spend endless hours on cam!!  I find it frankly astounding that so many people seem to have got this far through life without realising that not everyone agrees with them and sees life the way they do. It is such a narrow-minded and blinkered approach to life and I genuinely find it hard to understand.
Not everyone wants to have meets every week. Not everyone will know whether there's enough sexual chemistry and attraction to want a meet without chatting quite a bit first.  Not every meet will necessarily end in sex. Not everyone even wants meets! I think anyone tempted to run around labelling people as time wasters needs to calm down, take some time to make an effort and see where that takes them - it's likely to be a damn site further than getting pissed off and moving on just because you don't get a guaranteed fuck after saying "hi" in the chatrooms!
My wife and I are still very new to swinging and are still in the process of working out what we each want from it (both individually and then working out how to get what we both want doing this as a couple). But, what we already know for sure us that swinging is about much more than just meeting people for sex for us - it's a fabulously rich and fascinating world, with loads to explore and enjoy!  Perhaps if the op chills out a bit, takes his time and loses the attitude, he might discover the many pleasures to be had!

Inanna That is a great post!
Minx
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Glad to hear it, Nsa... I speak a lot of sense crap! ;-) lol

innocent
:giggle: bolt
lol Love you too, Cubes!! smackbottom wink
Lilith xx
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Inanna That is a great post!
Minx
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kiss xx
Lilith xx
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... I speak a lot of sense! ;-) lol

I'm lost for words .... banghead