I know, i know, we single males sometimes complain that we are harshly treated by our couples on here sometimes, yawn. But come on guys, life in general.
Yesterday i went round to my best friends home, like i do every boxing day, (tradition) basicly just to have a good laugh and drink, watch tv, listen to music and a smashing meal to boot, ect with him and his good lady.
Now my best friend and his good lady are a smashing couple, they have a great home and standard of living and a great life and a brilliant relationship. and all in all its a brilliant day. something i look forward too every year.
But , im glad im single, in the relationship stakes i mean. i can do what i want, when i want, how i want, without the worry of upsetting a partner/ wife.
and i have had the long term relationship thing in the past, ive got a great and well cared for daughter. i just really like being single.
So how about you guys, looking for love and affection? or just happy being single.
I'd also agree - i do miss the emotional attachment, but having said that - i'm more than happy being a single guy. Yes - we do get it hard in the lifestyle - but i do know that for all the moaning that generally goes on - there are plenty of couples and single ladies who respect us for what we are. The hardships we face are mainly down to the rogue element of idiot single blokes who have not yet grasped the concepts of reading a profile, taking time to digest the contents, and then thinking carefully before replying.
Personally I'm in this lifestyle, first and foremost of the friendships i make, and the social side - anything else that happens is just a pleasant bonus.
Another strange thing I've noticed recently ( tosser single males read and take note!) since being diagnosed with hodgkins - I've kind of taken a step back from playing, and since doing that I've noticed that I've been getting a hell of a lot more replies to my ad. I guess if ever there was proof that sometimes not trying to hard pays dividends, then this is it - seven good replies in just over a week!
So on the whole - i'd say - yes i'm satisfied with what i have, and what i am!
Kevin
I wouldn't be happy about being a single male, but mostly because I am a single female and it would be a very worrying turn of events if I suddenly found I was male!
But seriously, I enjoyed being a part of a couple while it lasted and was happy but it always ended badly so I'm giving myself time out for bad behaviour for a while now :twisted:
I quite like being single.....the one thing that happens is you do become very selfish.....as mentioned before you do things when you want and because you want..... once used to this it can become very difficult to break. I have lived on my own for 20 years and so would find it very difficult having to think of others !!
Also I do have a daughter..10 years old now..light of my life....and when in one relationship it got very difficult because of jealousy from both sides. In the end my daughter is the one that I have to llok after and think about. So now made a decision that until she is 18 I won't be having a serious relationship...one of the major reason i'm here really.
So in the end I think it is like most peoples lives...it has its ups and its downs.
Being single can be fun. The freedom is nice and not having to work out what you did wrong because she wont tell you. It can be lonely at times though and nothing beats knowing someone loves you, being able to tell them things you cant tell anyone else and waking up in the morning with someone cuddling you.
I'm shortly to be single again, some things I'm looking forward to, others I am not. Despite the strain on the relationship I still hate coming home and finding the house empty, and when alone I never wash up till bedtime, and I just hate it.
When I have to face these things every day the gloss may wear off quite quickly.
I've been more single this year than at any other point in my life, and I have to say that I hate and loathe it with a passion. It terrifies me to think that one day, when I'm old and infirm, the entire rest of my life will be like this, except with more pain and less money. Man is not an island, et cetera et cetera et cetera.
Don't get me wrong, I like being master of my own house, and if by some startling strike of fate I did find someone (I'd probably win the lottery in the same week), it would have to be someone who could accept that, because I'd hate to end up as a kind of Richard Bucket, trailing after his wife and tutting "yes dear" and "no dear" and hating every minute. I anticipate spending quite enough time following ridiculous orders for an unthinking mini-Hitler at work.
Ah well; c'est la vie, as the French write on their toilets.
well,
i dont miss being single even tho all my friends are, i used to get them all popping round on a friday or saturday nite trying to drag me out to the pub,
but the truth was i would rather stay in with the missus,we've been together for over 2 years and i just know she's the only girl i would ever want.
now my 'friends' hardly bother to ask me out anymore which i understand cos im always sayin no. amd they always go on about how great it is being single and stuff and im missing out on everything......
but i really dont feel that way, i feel im the luckyest man alive, i've met the perfect girl who i could not love anymore than i do and ive never been so happy even tho i have had some hard times lately.
being single is great but everyone and i mean everyone will meet that special person at one point and then nothing else matters
And also being single doesn't give a monopoly on sexual experiences as this forum so shows. The special someone when you meet them will understand you and the desires and will prob enjoy similar things, so not being single doesn't mean you have to give up the swinging. I think a few of the guys on her are married and havent discussed it with they partners, i know i have, and knowing that what ever happens will not end the relationship it adds to the bedroom pleasure with stories and fantasties.
Do we know how many guys labeled as single are really married to a partner that doesn't know their desires?
BBx
Well in my opinion it really depends on what type of person you are.
Im only 21 and thus i am not exactly looking to settle down. However i was with a certain girl for 5 years until recently and so know both sides of the coin. When i was with Claire i was happy simply because i knew i had some one there when times were hard or when i wanted to be with some one. The confidence and support given by Claire i believe has enabled me and given me the strength to develop into the person i am today. There is also nothing better than looking into some ones eyes and knowing beyond any doubt that this person wants to be with you.
However saying that, all good things come to an end. Now i am single (for reasons which are too long for this thread) and i am loving every minute of it. I am able to do what i want when i want. I no longer feel as if i should be with her when ever i can nor do i feel guilty when i get attention from the opposite sex when out for the night with friends. It is also quite fun to know that if a pretty blonde makes eyes at you you can now make eyes back!
Has any one noticed though that the opposite sex (women in my case) only seem to be attracted to you when you are attached, and dont look twice when you are not?
I normally find I want men when they are attached because I know I shouldnt have them but I want them kind of thing. Like the forbidden fruit sort of thing.
As with most things in life there is good and bad.
Id consider myself as very very happy........................i find its important to be positive about the good things about the single lifestyle,freedom of choice and all that goes with you dwell on the negative you WILL be unhappy.
. I would love to be able to wake up in the morning & have someone next to me to cuddle, & a best pal to whom I could tell anything. Hopefully she would also be a keen swinger 
. The sex is better now than when we were living together soooo.. being single is fun. She knows what i do and get up to and, at times, we go to 'certain' parties to support one another 
Dino.
and of course most were a bit odd. One however stood out and to cut a long story short I'm now really close to that person. We can't have a full blown relationship for one very good reason, her health, and we are both a little wary of the full on thing. But, this is the point, I get much of the best parts of a relationship from her. She cares for me & I care for her, but there isn't the shit that goes down in a normal boy-girl thing. You know, the arguments, the compromises, the relatives etc. So apart from the lack of a sex partner life is Ok for me, not perfect, but OK. 