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:? :? :?Quote by mziafat
Why is it more difficult for an young (early 30's) Asian bloke to attract swingers? oreso if his 6'4 too!
Its not just you.......
Its the fact that the guys far outweigh the number of couples or single females that there is so its up to you to make sure you stand out from the rest...
Looking at your advert, it gives very little information about yourself don't it?
you need to write a better advert, more about yourself, what your looking for, your do's and don'ts, what your good at ect ect ect.......
And how about a couple of pictures, you don't have to put face or cock shots on, just something so they can see a little of what there replying to.
Also its a good idea to post on the forums and get to know members on here and build up trust, we don't bite, were just careful.
make yourself STAND OUT!!!!!
Shaz x
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:smackbottom:We agree with "Shaz_n_Tony"
You need to expand your ad, let people know what you are looking for in a meeting and what you can offer. It pays to advertise so put a couple of photos in your ad and on your profile. You also need to complete your profile , putting N/A against smoking or drinking
doesn't mean anything .
Its not just you.......
Its the fact that the guys far outweigh the number of couples or single females that there is so its up to you to make sure you stand out from the rest...
Looking at your advert, it gives very little information about yourself don't it?
you need to write a better advert, more about yourself, what your looking for, your do's and don'ts, what your good at ect ect ect.......
And how about a couple of pictures, you don't have to put face or cock shots on, just something so they can see a little of what there replying to.
Also its a good idea to post on the forums and get to know members on here and build up trust, we don't bite, were just careful.
make yourself STAND OUT!!!!!
Shaz x
You need to expand your ad, let people know what you are looking for in a meeting and what you can offer. It pays to advertise so put a couple of photos in your ad and on your profile. You also need to complete your profile , putting N/A against smoking or drinking
doesn't mean anything .
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
Why is it more difficult for an young (early 30's) Asian bloke to attract swingers? oreso if his 6'4 too!
Its not just you.......
Its the fact that the guys far outweigh the number of couples or single females that there is so its up to you to make sure you stand out from the rest...
Looking at your advert, it gives very little information about yourself don't it?
you need to write a better advert, more about yourself, what your looking for, your do's and don'ts, what your good at ect ect ect.......
And how about a couple of pictures, you don't have to put face or cock shots on, just something so they can see a little of what there replying to.
Also its a good idea to post on the forums and get to know members on here and build up trust, we don't bite, were just careful.
make yourself STAND OUT!!!!!
Shaz x
Sex God
Quote by mziafat
Why is it more difficult for an young (early 30's) Asian bloke to attract swingers? oreso if his 6'4 too!
well there are 15,000 other ad's in men looking for women so tell me exactly how do you stand out from the others.....
you wrote 30 words, a whole 2 lines about yourself.....
did you tell people about you.....
did you tell people what you are after.....
did you tell people if you can travel/accomodate
did you tell people about your turn ons/off.....
did you show people a picture of yourself.....
did you give people a reason to think "my god he is just so different from anyone else i HAVE to meet this man!!!"
you know the answer to all the above is NO........
so i don't think it have anything to do with the fact you are asian (i am black and having a whale of a time.......) or the fact you are 6ft 4 (i am 2 ins shorter than you!!!)... it is more likely that you have been lazy and thought that this is an easy place to get your leg over, and didn't put any effort it....... and found out that wasn't quite the case...
the thing we say about the forums and the ads is that you do get out of it, hand on heart, what have you put in so far..........................................
that is what i thought...
sean xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by mziafat
Why is it more difficult for an young (early 30's) Asian bloke to attract swingers? oreso if his 6'4 too!
Its not about race.... your ad is a little crap,not even a picture....in this game you have to sell yourself just to stand out from the other thousands of single guys on here.
Sex God
Quote by fabio grooverider
or the fact you are 6ft 4 (i am 2 ins shorter than you!!!)...
Got to be a size thing, two inches can make one hell of a difference
Casanova
Quote by naughtynymphos1
oh dear i hate people who play the race card when they can't get a meet
I think he has a point though. I've spoken to lots of ladies and couples over the years, most of whom say the same thing...they don't mind blacks and they don't mind whites, but they don't "do" browns.
The problem is of course beiing brave enough to admit it without being called a racist. I't somehow OK to be "singleist" but you daren't be seen to be racist, even though it all boils down to your own personal preferences and tastes.
One of the main reasons cited for the prejudice that I hear is the attitudes of Asian society towards women. The same goes for Mediterranian Europeans as well mind, so don't feel singled out. But it women in this country have fought long and hard for equal rights and to be treated with equal respect, then there is no surprise that men from cultures that are seen to repress its womenfolk (compared to UK standards) and treat them as second class citizens are treated with suspicion, and that a lack of a desire to mix with them.
Also a general observation here, is that the number of asian single guys at a club outweighs the number of asian couples to a FAR greater extent than is the case with with black and whites. It all adds to the impression of only wanting wanting wanting, and not giving anything back by the Asian culture. (one example, my local club has a regular 5 or 6 asian singles out of a total of 25-odd singles every Friday, but the number of Asian couples at any time (Wed Fri or Sat) is only 1 or 2 (max) out of an aggregate of 250-300 couples per week.
So mziafat, there you have an honest account of my observations of what people will say behind your back, and not to your face, because only with that known to you will you know how to go about re-wording the advert that others have mentioned, to get over the problems that you face. These observations are not necessarily my own point of view, and others will disagree with them in public, but then it's not the public approval that you are after, its the private fun and games...so hopefully this might be of use to you.
ok i put my hands up and admit i don't meet asian guys, i have posted this on a thread a while back on the same subject, i am not racest i have met asian men in the past but due to the fact i have had bad experiences with every single asian man i have ever met i decided not to meet any more, my choice and i don't have to justify it 
P.S asian women more than welocme
P.S asian women more than welocme
Personally, I don't usually fancy Asian men.
Nor do I usually fancy men who are shorter than me.
Nor do I usually fancy men who are more than twice my age.
Nor do I usually fancy TVs.
Nor do I usually fancy skinny women.
Everyone's entitled to personal preferences, and all that means is that none of us is going to shag everyone on the site. But isn't it lucky that there are so many people on this site that there's someone for everyone? Playing the racist card is completely unnecessary, and certainly isn't going to help you get laid. Instead, why not try putting some time and effort into joining in with the site, getting yourself known, coming to a munch, making some friends without trying to shag them, writing a really good ad.... and then see how many people fancy you?
Nor do I usually fancy men who are shorter than me.
Nor do I usually fancy men who are more than twice my age.
Nor do I usually fancy TVs.
Nor do I usually fancy skinny women.
Everyone's entitled to personal preferences, and all that means is that none of us is going to shag everyone on the site. But isn't it lucky that there are so many people on this site that there's someone for everyone? Playing the racist card is completely unnecessary, and certainly isn't going to help you get laid. Instead, why not try putting some time and effort into joining in with the site, getting yourself known, coming to a munch, making some friends without trying to shag them, writing a really good ad.... and then see how many people fancy you?
Sex God
Quote by makingcocoa
Personally, I don't usually fancy Asian men.
Nor do I usually fancy men who are shorter than me.
Nor do I usually fancy men who are more than twice my age.
Nor do I usually fancy TVs.
Nor do I usually fancy skinny women.
Everyone's entitled to personal preferences, and all that means is that none of us is going to shag everyone on the site. But isn't it lucky that there are so many people on this site that there's someone for everyone? Playing the racist card is completely unnecessary, and certainly isn't going to help you get laid. Instead, why not try putting some time and effort into joining in with the site, getting yourself known, coming to a munch, making some friends without trying to shag them, writing a really good ad.... and then see how many people fancy you?
I was going to write a really fancy reply.... but this said it better than i could..... ........
sean xxxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
actually i will say my piece....
Some people won't play with me because i am black..... so what!!!! cross them off your list
some people won't play with me because i am a large guy....so what!!! cross them off
some people won't play with me because i am a single guy....so what!!!! cross them off
I want people to play with me for ME.... not because i am black, not i am a large guy, not because i am singe.... for ME!!!!!
in fact rather than complain about it... concentrate on people who may like you....and how have you come across so far.....
Whinging isn't attractive.... and it isn't getting you any sympathy shags either............
sean xxxxxxxxx
Some people won't play with me because i am black..... so what!!!! cross them off your list
some people won't play with me because i am a large guy....so what!!! cross them off
some people won't play with me because i am a single guy....so what!!!! cross them off
I want people to play with me for ME.... not because i am black, not i am a large guy, not because i am singe.... for ME!!!!!
in fact rather than complain about it... concentrate on people who may like you....and how have you come across so far.....
Whinging isn't attractive.... and it isn't getting you any sympathy shags either............
sean xxxxxxxxx
i have to say makingcocoa personally i totally agree with you, however not everyone used this site to make friends, go to socials and take the time to get to know people who wont shag them and thats totally ok theres no right and wrong is swinging, people always say this isn't a quick shag site? well why isn't it? course it is if thats what your after, but i think the results of using this as a quick shag site speaks for itself 
I see your point, NN! I've often wondered whether there are, in fact, a whole group of SHers who are completely successful with their one-liners, and all those posts in LMU get answered by someone in PM and everyone shags happily ever after, and we just don't hear about it because we're all here offering helpful advice and trying to 'make friends' There could be a whole successful 'quick shag' element to SH that we just don't know anything about.
It's entirely possible.
On the other hand, the number of 'I've been here ten whole minutes and no-one will shag me' style posts suggest that while it may be working for some people, it isn't working for all of them. And the only advice us forum lot can offer is what has worked for us - a bit of a circular situation really, because the nature of people from the forum is to join in and not look for a quick shag, so if you ask for advice on the forum that's all you'll be told!
There could be a whole successful 'quick shag' element to SH that we just don't know anything about.It's entirely possible.
On the other hand, the number of 'I've been here ten whole minutes and no-one will shag me' style posts suggest that while it may be working for some people, it isn't working for all of them. And the only advice us forum lot can offer is what has worked for us - a bit of a circular situation really, because the nature of people from the forum is to join in and not look for a quick shag, so if you ask for advice on the forum that's all you'll be told!
Quote by makingcocoa
Everyone's entitled to personal preferences, and all that means is that none of us is going to shag everyone on the site. But isn't it lucky that there are so many people on this site that there's someone for everyone? Playing the racist card is completely unnecessary, and certainly isn't going to help you get laid. Instead, why not try putting some time and effort into joining in with the site, getting yourself known, coming to a munch, making some friends without trying to shag them, writing a really good ad.... and then see how many people fancy you?
Ok, so now I know my ideal partner's out there, can you put your hand up so I see where you are please.......
