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Congratulations! I'm still trying for my first 3-sum on this site, you would not believe how many time-wasting couples i've had this past two years! single guys up for a laugh i can understand, but i had expected something better from couples.....even if it was just a 'thanks but no thanks'! Can begin to see why the ranks of bi/gay partners are beginning to swell....please, if you really are'nt up for it, then keep off the site.......
Quote by laterunner
please, if you really are'nt up for it, then keep off the site.......
I think you'll find this is a swingers community not a guaranteed -to-get-a-shag site.
There's a massive mix of people here, many who perhaps arnt ready to jump in the deep end yet, but they're very welcome all the same. To suggest people cant be here because they're not 'up for it' is quite possibly one of the most offensive things I've heard in a good while ....and while I understand you are frustrated at not finding what you came here for, that attitude will get you nowhere. I'm also inclined to think that, having read your profile, the couples you've encountered are perhaps not timewasters, they're just not interested.
Good luck
Quote by Darkfire
please, if you really are'nt up for it, then keep off the site.......
I think you'll find this is a swingers community not a guaranteed -to-get-a-shag site.
There's a massive mix of people here, many who perhaps arnt ready to jump in the deep end yet, but they're very welcome all the same. To suggest people cant be here because they're not 'up for it' is quite possibly one of the most offensive things I've heard in a good while ....and while I understand you are frustrated at not finding what you came here for, that attitude will get you nowhere. I'm also inclined to think that, having read your profile, the couples you've encountered are perhaps not timewasters, they're just not interested.
Good luck
:thumbup:
Quote by Darkfire
please, if you really are'nt up for it, then keep off the site.......
I think you'll find this is a swingers community not a guaranteed -to-get-a-shag site.
There's a massive mix of people here, many who perhaps arnt ready to jump in the deep end yet, but they're very welcome all the same. To suggest people cant be here because they're not 'up for it' is quite possibly one of the most offensive things I've heard in a good while ....and while I understand you are frustrated at not finding what you came here for, that attitude will get you nowhere. I'm also inclined to think that, having read your profile, the couples you've encountered are perhaps not timewasters, they're just not interested.
Good luck
:thumbup: :thumbup: def the wrong attitude from a single guy :cry:
Quote by Darkfire
please, if you really are'nt up for it, then keep off the site.......
I think you'll find this is a swingers community not a guaranteed -to-get-a-shag site.
There's a massive mix of people here, many who perhaps arnt ready to jump in the deep end yet, but they're very welcome all the same. To suggest people cant be here because they're not 'up for it' is quite possibly one of the most offensive things I've heard in a good while ....and while I understand you are frustrated at not finding what you came here for, that attitude will get you nowhere. I'm also inclined to think that, having read your profile, the couples you've encountered are perhaps not timewasters, they're just not interested.
Good luck
:worship: :worship: :worship: :worship: 
Sex God
Quote by laterunner
Congratulations! I'm still trying for my first 3-sum on this site, you would not believe how many time-wasting couples i've had this past two years! single guys up for a laugh i can understand, but i had expected something better from couples.....even if it was just a 'thanks but no thanks'! Can begin to see why the ranks of bi/gay partners are beginning to swell....please, if you really are'nt up for it, then keep off the site.......
dont mean to sound rude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
but u have nothing on yr profile
so why would any one want to meet.
nice to read a bit about some one
or even a pic.
Quote by laterunner
Congratulations! I'm still trying for my first 3-sum on this site, you would not believe how many time-wasting couples i've had this past two years! single guys up for a laugh i can understand, but i had expected something better from couples.....even if it was just a 'thanks but no thanks'! Can begin to see why the ranks of bi/gay partners are beginning to swell....please, if you really are'nt up for it, then keep off the site.......
So single guys mucking about and waisting people's time is acceptable behaviour? From what you say above it would seem that you consider couples timewasters if they don't reply to you, that's not time wasting, that's simply not being interested. Timewasting is when you make arrangements to meet someone and they don't show and don't let you know, I've lost count of the times single guys have done that to me and you seem to think that's ok. I wonder why you've not had a meet yet with that kind of attitude.
H.x
First of all, we'll start by saying timewasting by Anyone is not good!
And the following is not to bash 'every' single guy or anyone else for that matter, but....
Why do people think that signing up to a swinging site is going to result in hundreds of desperate (delete as applicable) men, women or couples throwing themselves at you?
For gods sake, 'It does not work like that!!'
To be successfull takes patience, understanding and a sense of humour! (helps if your what other people are looking for aswell) You have to get in, do your leg work, bide your time, understand that people have a life outside of this and maybe then you will 'Get lucky' although as other posters have said, luck has nothing at all to do with it.
Swinging is about attitude, thats it imho. You could be the ultimate paragon of attractivness, but if your attitude is one of arrogance and people should be at my feet, ill bet pounds to pennies, you still wont get any meets. Put a profile up, be part of the site, be nice (always a good bet) and things may change, its like anything else in life, you will only ever get out what your prepared to put in.
And the following is not to bash 'every' single guy or anyone else for that matter, but....
Why do people think that signing up to a swinging site is going to result in hundreds of desperate (delete as applicable) men, women or couples throwing themselves at you?
For gods sake, 'It does not work like that!!'
To be successfull takes patience, understanding and a sense of humour! (helps if your what other people are looking for aswell) You have to get in, do your leg work, bide your time, understand that people have a life outside of this and maybe then you will 'Get lucky' although as other posters have said, luck has nothing at all to do with it.
Swinging is about attitude, thats it imho. You could be the ultimate paragon of attractivness, but if your attitude is one of arrogance and people should be at my feet, ill bet pounds to pennies, you still wont get any meets. Put a profile up, be part of the site, be nice (always a good bet) and things may change, its like anything else in life, you will only ever get out what your prepared to put in.
Quote by laterunner
Congratulations! I'm still trying for my first 3-sum on this site, you would not believe how many time-wasting couples i've had this past two years! single guys up for a laugh i can understand, but i had expected something better from couples.....even if it was just a 'thanks but no thanks'! Can begin to see why the ranks of bi/gay partners are beginning to swell....please, if you really are'nt up for it, then keep off the site.......
so if a couple doesn't reply back to you.....they're considered timewasters?
Quote by da69ve
Congratulations! I'm still trying for my first 3-sum on this site, you would not believe how many time-wasting couples i've had this past two years! single guys up for a laugh i can understand, but i had expected something better from couples.....even if it was just a 'thanks but no thanks'! Can begin to see why the ranks of bi/gay partners are beginning to swell....please, if you really are'nt up for it, then keep off the site.......
so if a couple doesn't reply back to you.....they're considered timewasters?
Yes you are!
And more to the point if you can't be arsed to contact us singles in the first place then you are not as bloody genuine as you make out - do you think we are here for our health!!!!
Now feck off to your PM box and start tapping them keys and show you are 'up for it' - otherwise sod off!
I always reply to the ones with the lines "12" c*ck fancy a f*ck" NOT!!! :lol:
Seriously thou' if people take the time to read the profile (and only send a pm to people whom they fill the criteria) and send a nice pm, most people on here will give them the same courtesy.
There does seem to be more time wasting single males than anything else, but this is more due to the ratios of single males to any other sexual orientation. Its unfair to lump everyone together as you are doing with couples.
Congratulations on getting successful meets but has been put before me, it takes time and a sense of humour and you have to keep plugging away.
There are a lot of people on this site that don't play for a variety of reasons, but they stick around because of the banter and friendships they have made. It doesn't make them timewasters. We are all here for differant reasons and although it is a swinging site, the most important aspect is trust and friendship. Who knows in the future they may be willing to step their toes in a little further.
kaz x
:lol: Seriously thou' if people take the time to read the profile (and only send a pm to people whom they fill the criteria) and send a nice pm, most people on here will give them the same courtesy.
There does seem to be more time wasting single males than anything else, but this is more due to the ratios of single males to any other sexual orientation. Its unfair to lump everyone together as you are doing with couples.
Congratulations on getting successful meets but has been put before me, it takes time and a sense of humour and you have to keep plugging away.
There are a lot of people on this site that don't play for a variety of reasons, but they stick around because of the banter and friendships they have made. It doesn't make them timewasters. We are all here for differant reasons and although it is a swinging site, the most important aspect is trust and friendship. Who knows in the future they may be willing to step their toes in a little further.
kaz x
Quote by PoloLady
Congratulations! I'm still trying for my first 3-sum on this site, you would not believe how many time-wasting couples i've had this past two years! single guys up for a laugh i can understand, but i had expected something better from couples.....even if it was just a 'thanks but no thanks'! Can begin to see why the ranks of bi/gay partners are beginning to swell....please, if you really are'nt up for it, then keep off the site.......
so if a couple doesn't reply back to you.....they're considered timewasters?
Yes you are!
And more to the point if you can't be arsed to contact us singles in the first place then you are not as bloody genuine as you make out - do you think we are here for our health!!!!
Now feck off to your PM box and start tapping them keys and show you are 'up for it' - otherwise sod off!
please stop it....don't say anymore.....your making me feel so guilty!
I'm with darkfire.
All of us couples are not always timewasters. Us personally have in our profile that we cannot always commit due to family commitments, but we always inform that to anyone we meet first. In addition, quite often you start communicating with a couple/singleguy/singlefemale and maybe unfortunately decide they may not be what they seemed at first or you just are not suited. We are about to meet a great guy in a weeks time and are really looking forward to it, we don't rule out anything but just remain honest.
All of us couples are not always timewasters. Us personally have in our profile that we cannot always commit due to family commitments, but we always inform that to anyone we meet first. In addition, quite often you start communicating with a couple/singleguy/singlefemale and maybe unfortunately decide they may not be what they seemed at first or you just are not suited. We are about to meet a great guy in a weeks time and are really looking forward to it, we don't rule out anything but just remain honest.
Quote by twos_company
Congratulations! I'm still trying for my first 3-sum on this site, you would not believe how many time-wasting couples i've had this past two years! single guys up for a laugh i can understand, but i had expected something better from couples.....even if it was just a 'thanks but no thanks'! Can begin to see why the ranks of bi/gay partners are beginning to swell....please, if you really are'nt up for it, then keep off the site.......
dont mean to sound rude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
but u have nothing on yr profile
so why would any one want to meet.
nice to read a bit about some one
or even a pic.
So right! We are VERY reluctant to consider mail swap with 'empty' profiles (couple, singles included) and no pics.. who are these people? missing identities.
Sex God
Quote by jaymar
dont mean to sound rude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
but u have nothing on yr profile
so why would any one want to meet.
nice to read a bit about some one
or even a pic.
So right! We are VERY reluctant to consider mail swap with 'empty' profiles (couple, singles included) and no pics.. who are these people? missing identities.
Laterunner, as others have said, maybe it's more to do with that attitude.
With regard to members with empty profiles, it's always anyone's prerogative to ignore those members. However, bear in mind that some people don't want their details or pictures on public view because of their jobs or whatever. It's their right to keep those things out of their profile if they wish (as long as they don't moan about anyone else having an empty profile or no pictures).
And before anyone says about face pictures not being necessary (just body shots), some people have other distinctive features such as tattoos, which might identify them.
Quote by Freckledbird
dont mean to sound rude!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
but u have nothing on yr profile
so why would any one want to meet.
nice to read a bit about some one
or even a pic.
So right! We are VERY reluctant to consider mail swap with 'empty' profiles (couple, singles included) and no pics.. who are these people? missing identities.
Laterunner, as others have said, maybe it's more to do with that attitude.
With regard to members with empty profiles, it's always anyone's prerogative to ignore those members. However, bear in mind that some people don't want their details or pictures on public view because of their jobs or whatever. It's their right to keep those things out of their profile if they wish (as long as they don't moan about anyone else having an empty profile or no pictures).
And before anyone says about face pictures not being necessary (just body shots), some people have other distinctive features such as tattoos, which might identify them.
Of course, I am also referring to those who 'ignore' requests to send pics by email, again missing identities. But you would agree a little bit of info in profile would help? even age would do.. we are wary of all the question marks on some profiles that's all. We would never put our faces on our profile (because of our family and jobs), and we are VERY careful with tattoos. Sometimes on a profile it has 'contact member for pics', which is good, that way you know they have some.
Sex God
Quote by jaymar
Of course, I am also referring to those who 'ignore' requests to send pics by email, again missing identities. But you would agree a little bit of info in profile would help? even age would do.. we are wary of all the question marks on some profiles that's all. We would never put our faces on our profile (because of our family and jobs), and we are VERY careful with tattoos. Sometimes on a profile it has 'contact member for pics', which is good, that way you know they have some.
Maybe a little information would help, but I can't complain because we have none on ours - even age. I just meant don't automatically think that people are not genuine or that they are not worth your time simply because they have incomplete profiles. We have 'contact member for pictures', as we do have some - but wouldn't invite just anyone to look at them.
Sex God
Quote by laterunner
Can begin to see why the ranks of bi/gay partners are beginning to swell.....
This, and your comment on another thread, is absolutely astounding. Do you really think people 'turn' bisexual because they have no interest from the opposite sex? Or from a 'no-go wife', as you put it?
Quote by Freckledbird
Can begin to see why the ranks of bi/gay partners are beginning to swell.....
This, and your comment on another thread, is absolutely astounding. Do you really think people 'turn' bisexual because they have no interest from the opposite sex? Or from a 'no-go wife', as you put it?
No FB! ....
Not 'turn'.... 'forced' .... tut tut 
Sex God
bi men bi girls
that is what people want so be it
but if i could not get a man after 2 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
it would not mean that i would turn bi
i am bi but that is my choice
not that im forced into it cos i can`t get laid
that is what people want so be it
but if i could not get a man after 2 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
it would not mean that i would turn bi
i am bi but that is my choice
not that im forced into it cos i can`t get laid
Sex God
Couples have a right to ignore messages from single guys,they get so many,but plenty of couples do reply,even if it is to say thanks but no thanks.
Getting from message to in person play is a big step all round,however few or many times whoever has done it encounter is unique and,if it works,totally amazing,but there's no easy path to respect is a must whatever does or doesn't happen in the end.
I know myself how flusterating it gets when one so wants to but can't find anyone who wants to with you lol but one just has to accept it with grace and carry on hopefully!
Getting from message to in person play is a big step all round,however few or many times whoever has done it encounter is unique and,if it works,totally amazing,but there's no easy path to respect is a must whatever does or doesn't happen in the end.
I know myself how flusterating it gets when one so wants to but can't find anyone who wants to with you lol but one just has to accept it with grace and carry on hopefully!
Sex God
Quote by DeviousLiasons
We would go so far as to say thats the wrong atitude from anyone, be they single, a couple, str8, female, male, bi, gay, a martian or an oomp loompa!
I've now got the rather bizzarre image of a gay martian oompa loompa in my head
