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I suppose much hangs on how judgmental a person is.
If a couple is looking for a single male, then what difference does it make to them whether the male is attached or not. His morality, his lies, his cheating, his deceit etc it nothing to do with anyone else but him. If you feel that you want to be guilty by proxy then fine but it's really got nothing to do with anyone else and if a guy with a single account actually admits to being married knowing that many couples will not do "cheating" then more fool him.
Quote by MidsCouple24
OK swinging was once couples swapping partners, but swinging has evolved like everything else, it now incorporates voyeurs, exhibitionists, doggers, cyber sex, camming, BDSM and much more including singles, there is nothing wrong with that.

It has only evolved through paying sites that have now incorporated all types into the ' swinging arena ' because people pay the money. It may well have evolved but for me swinging is as it was intended to be from the start....swapping of couples for sex.
Without paying sites and the internet that makes those paying sites possible, the term swinging would not have changed.
We actively seek single guys and to that end we do not class ourselves as swingers, more looking for guys for sex with the Wife. Simple as that.
Oh and we do not date cheats either and whilst we cannot guarantee a guys honesty, not being able to meet on a Saturday night is usually a dead giveaway to us. If a cheat spent the same amount of time on their other half, as they do looking for sexual partners then maybe just maybe, their own relationship would be a damn sight better. dunno How moralistic of me is that wink
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What if a person's partner no longer wants (or can have) sex?
What if that person wants sex but doesn't want to leave their partner because they love and care for them?
What if the person doesn't want to pay for the coldness of a prostitute or have the emotional complication of an affair?
Who is permitted to judge that person and define for them the meaning of "swinging"?

Very true and if any of that were indeed true, why would that person then feel the need to openly lie to others they wanted to swing with?
I agree with the original question... If you cannot be honest on this site, where can you be honest!!
I am married, my wife knows I'm a TV but not that I play... That is made clear on my profile and if I arrange any meets... If the person that I am arranging to meet doesn't like that situation they are free to say so.
What really pees me off are misleading profiles... 'straight' guys on the gay/bi/tv rooms trying to pull another guy!! C'mon peeps, get the profiles honest and things may happen!
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I agree with the original question... If you cannot be honest on this site, where can you be honest!!
I am married, my wife knows I'm a TV but not that I play... That is made clear on my profile and if I arrange any meets... If the person that I am arranging to meet doesn't like that situation they are free to say so.
What really pees me off are misleading profiles... 'straight' guys on the gay/bi/tv rooms trying to pull another guy!! C'mon peeps, get the profiles honest and things may happen!

Sorry but if your going to give a lecture on being honest then you ought to start with being honest with the person most deserving of your honesty......
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I agree with the original question... If you cannot be honest on this site, where can you be honest!!
I am married, my wife knows I'm a TV but not that I play.

You just scored an amazing own goal there.
Godlike.... I'm not 'lecturing'...Just having a rant.
Trev, not really an own goal. The op asked if people should be honest on SH. My private arrangements with my wife are just that, private! However, I always make clear my situation when arranging a meet, and my profile reflects that.
Of the meets I have had it has been obvious that ALL the guys have been married and NONE have visited me with their wives consent.
The op asked whether 'we' should admit to being married on SH, I simply agreed with that point of view.
I realise that Paula, and agree with your view so far as it goes. However using the phrase 'If you cannot be honest on this site, where can you be honest!!' does seem to be hypocritical to me.