Ok, I am seriously not going to mention names in here as I feel that shows no class but I do feel that a little something about this may need to be put out there. Also please do NOT try to play detective and guess who I may or may not be talking about because you WILL end up being wrong because it's not an obvious thing.
This is a swingers site right? Where people with all kinds of tastes, styles and kinks like to come right? Well, should it really be the place to come if you have attachment issues? In other words if you get attached TOO fast. If you get upset with someone if they are playing with others, flirting with others or heck just talking with others should you be here? As long as the person has been 100% honest with you and no expectations were ever laid out, no promises made and no misimpressions given then you are doing whatever may have happened now or in the future between you and that person a misjustice because you are likely to push the person away. Had there been any promises etc made then I could surely understand but this is not the place to put your toe in the water unless you think you can handle swimming. There is nothing wrong with having feelings, thats not what I am trying to say, all I am saying is that maybe if you have attachment issues then you need to figure those out before venturing into a place as openminded as this is.
Ok, I hope I put that all clearly, respectfully and with an honest heart.
Mods .. if you feel this is in the wrong place or that I am out of line please feel free to move it.
Abi xx
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what you said made perfect sense to me too, no need to apologise for posting it
the sad thing is, the geek in me, saw the title, and thought it was a computer thing, and you was asking how to add files to something
i'll get me coat.....
Why ... you got some files to show me??????
Quote by Abilene
what you said made perfect sense to me too, no need to apologise for posting it
the sad thing is, the geek in me, saw the title, and thought it was a computer thing, and you was asking how to add files to something
i'll get me coat.....
Why ... you got some files to show me??????
you show me yours, i'll show you mine....
Quote by Abilene
This is a swingers site right? If you get upset with someone if they are playing with others, flirting with others or heck just talking with others should you be here?
When me and PK first got together some people I knew from here got upset, even some of them I had never met. One person started what can only be described as a campaign of jealous hate. Aparently we should tell eveyone our every move, let users know before the event when or where we are going to meet.
I totally agree some people don't seem to realise this is a swingers site and people are free to meet whoever they please
Thankfully the one user I was the closest to and thought the most of wished us the best of luck in our future hapiness so at least some people do understand the nature of the site
Quote by Kiss
Made sense to me too - but I personally just don't enjoy/like vague threads that can make people paranoid for no reason - unless it's about them....... who said that?
Just because you're paranoid, doesn't mean they're notout to get you :shock:
But Abilene, yep; it made sense and was well written.
It's a topic that comes up now and then, and I for one, am always happy to see it being aired - if only as one of those good old "timely remiders" Not so much as specific as you've been about attatchment issues, but as a gentle warning that not everyone sees the same things as happening.
:thumbup:
Quote by sheddy
This is a swingers site right? If you get upset with someone if they are playing with others, flirting with others or heck just talking with others should you be here?
When me and PK first got together some people I knew from here got upset, even some of them I had never met. One person started what can only be described as a campaign of jealous hate. Aparently we should tell eveyone our every move, let users know before the event when or where we are going to meet.
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YOU PROMISED not to tell.... :cry: :cry:
:wink: Quote by Kiss
Made sense to me too - but I personally just don't enjoy/like vague threads that can make people paranoid for no reason - unless it's about them....... who said that?
Just because you're paranoid, doesn't mean they're notout to get you :shock:
But Abilene, yep; it made sense and was well written.
It's a topic that comes up now and then, and I for one, am always happy to see it being aired - if only as one of those good old "timely remiders" Not so much as specific as you've been about attatchment issues, but as a gentle warning that not everyone sees the same things as happening.
:thumbup:
:giggle:
Sex God
I wanted to say that Sassy, but then she stopped repeating
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Although aimed (I think) primarily at singles, I think this thread still holds merit.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/47580.html
I truly hopes nobody reads that the way I did :shock:
I think "coupling up" is as far removed from the "nature of the site" as it's possible to be.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/47580.html
Quote by sheddy
. . . . . . . . . . so at least some people do understand the nature of the site
I truly hopes nobody reads that the way I did :shock:
I think "coupling up" is as far removed from the "nature of the site" as it's possible to be.
I am really not a cold hearted slut that just plans on sleeping her way around Europe ( hmmm .... now there's a thought ) because I can assure you if someone male or female comes along that can really get inside my mind ( what a scary place ) then they have a sure fire track into a permanent place in my thong ( when I wear one ). Afterall, if we could chose who would like us then I would be sleeping with Melissa Etheridge or George Clooney tonight
Abilene...
just so everyone is clear... you meant to type Splendid instead of Melissa. !
:lol:
I do agree with what you are saying. But where there are people involved it does sometimes get messy. Move along the bus and get chatting to other people instead.
I have seen and been the victim of all sorts of rubbish since I started here.. but I have also "met" some wonderful wonderful people. (you know who you are)
and if all else fails put it down to a language barrier. I have very good friends in the U.S. and we often have to translate what the other means...... rad ? peanut gallery? it is another language.
take care lovely .. and I look forward to seeing those smoke rings.
x x x x
just so everyone is clear... you meant to type Splendid instead of Melissa. !
:lol: I do agree with what you are saying. But where there are people involved it does sometimes get messy. Move along the bus and get chatting to other people instead.
I have seen and been the victim of all sorts of rubbish since I started here.. but I have also "met" some wonderful wonderful people. (you know who you are)
and if all else fails put it down to a language barrier. I have very good friends in the U.S. and we often have to translate what the other means...... rad ? peanut gallery? it is another language.
take care lovely .. and I look forward to seeing those smoke rings.
x x x x
I had this problem a little while back i got a bit over zealous with someone after i was mistaken about a comment.
Evrything is ok now i believe and we are ok as we still sometimes trade PM's and do get on or seems so to me. It never got that bad i just felt foolish for a while.
Dont want to give too much so i'll leave it there but you are correct in your post having been there first hand but from the wrong side of the fence
Evrything is ok now i believe and we are ok as we still sometimes trade PM's and do get on or seems so to me. It never got that bad i just felt foolish for a while.
Dont want to give too much so i'll leave it there but you are correct in your post having been there first hand but from the wrong side of the fence
Master of Sex
Quote by splendid33
.. and I look forward to seeing those smoke rings.
:smoke: ...anytime darlin' but I have to tell you I have not had a cigarette in over 36 hours.
I only smoke after sex
I'm down to 20 a day :smoke: :smoke: :smoke: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle:
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Some common sense as always
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Quick grab her I wanna kiss and do other things to her :rascal:
My stalker who has never had attacthment issues she perved over PK as much as I was
damn sheddy...... you aren't supposed to tell Abilene that I was your stalker... and you just got more attractive since you met kate :rose: ... mmmmmmm you are hot, she is hot... two hotties together.. heaven. :inlove: :inlove:
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Quote by Abilene
.....Where people with all kinds of tastes, styles and kinks like to come right? Well, should it really be the place to come if you have attachment issues?
FFS Abi, enough with the Marmite threads
Quote by meat2pleaseu
.....Where people with all kinds of tastes, styles and kinks like to come right? Well, should it really be the place to come if you have attachment issues?
FFS Abi, enough with the Marmite threads
Whats marmite mean
Other than that nasty stuff in a jar
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Ah beat me to it Abilene
