Friends...
Some of you may remember a few weeks back that I was in a pickle about a colleague.
She was showing big signals about being interested in alternative sex lives in the canteen at work. I touched very vaguely upon my lifestyle and she seemed to light up with enthusiasm. She was mainly interested in Gothic themes... but she also said she was very open to all kind of everything "new". I promised to look out the details of a fetish club and take her sometime...
That was before Christmas and to be honest I really hoped she'd forgotten. Despite her saying she's not the least bit fussed by alternative sex lives, I'm still a little nervous..
Today I happened to bump into her again. Again she quizzed me about where we're going and when...
Bear in mind she DOESN'T have internet access at home. She hasn't spent hours pouring over porn :twisted: :twisted: they way we have.... She's been fed on a diet of Channel Four programmes... but she's never even seen anyone else having straight sex before.
My instinct, despite her claims, is that she really isn't READY to see hard core fetish clubs. She says she "want to go somewhere really dirty and seedy"... but my feeling is her idea of seedy and dirty is an ocean away from mine. How would she feel seeing a human being tied to a Dog cart and being bull whipped? What about seeing a naked woman being led around in a gimp mask? Is that too far for her?
Do you guys think it would be a better idea to take her to a normal swingers party? Somewhere where I know the set up, I can make sure she's happy and isn't feeling too shocked or overwhelmed by it all? My idea is if she reactes well to that, I can push her a little bit further... say to a fetish market?
Any input?
Hxx
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Heather, what makes you think that a swingers party is any different to what you describe in the paragraph above!!! You should bring her to one of ours !!!
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Only kidding Heather. I think it would be very considerate of you to break her in gently. Take her to a swingers party then leave early and frighten the living daylights out of her with the gimp mask!!!
You never know she may suprise you.
Love
Alfie
x x x x
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: Only kidding Heather. I think it would be very considerate of you to break her in gently. Take her to a swingers party then leave early and frighten the living daylights out of her with the gimp mask!!!
You never know she may suprise you.
Love
Alfie
x x x x
Sex God
Heather show her to the forum, this is where I started and I feel a lot easier about things especially after meeting people at the Mid's munch.
She probably see's you as a liberator and want's to experience new thing's.
She may be into fetish but it takes some delicate probing (no pun intended) to discover her inner self.
She probably see's you as a liberator and want's to experience new thing's.
She may be into fetish but it takes some delicate probing (no pun intended) to discover her inner self.
Cheers, Alfie... BTW... any news on Fred's butt? 
She could well surprise me... But I must admit, if I didn't have half a desire to see her in a tight leather basque, tawse in hand, astride some accountant from Cheam I'd have not said a word...
So I guess I'm playing this one for myself as well as her!
Hells, Bells! At my first full on swinging party I had to get as pissed at a parrot to even have the courage to walk through the door.
ops: Couple that with the sight of a fully equipt dungeon and we are talking serious wobblies...
Here's another question for peeps local to me. What's this Rios like, then? Are saunas obligatory? Only I don't do heat that well...
She could well surprise me... But I must admit, if I didn't have half a desire to see her in a tight leather basque, tawse in hand, astride some accountant from Cheam I'd have not said a word...
So I guess I'm playing this one for myself as well as her!
Hells, Bells! At my first full on swinging party I had to get as pissed at a parrot to even have the courage to walk through the door.
ops: Couple that with the sight of a fully equipt dungeon and we are talking serious wobblies... Here's another question for peeps local to me. What's this Rios like, then? Are saunas obligatory? Only I don't do heat that well...
Seriously Heather, what MrsFC said about introducing her to the site may be a good idea. We introduced LadyPenelope (does not come into the forum) and she is having a great time.
I had a conversation with a friend tonight and so very nearly spilled the beans. She is a friend of some 22 years and we were at school and college together. She confessed (with encouragement) to having 2 bi experiences. I giggled and she said "you have too, haven't you?" I didn't like to disappoint her but was not quite brave enough to reveal all as yet but I may do in the near future.
BTW, Fred's bum is firming up luverrrly thank you!!!
Love
Wilma (aka Alfie - but only to Heather xx)
x x x x
I had a conversation with a friend tonight and so very nearly spilled the beans. She is a friend of some 22 years and we were at school and college together. She confessed (with encouragement) to having 2 bi experiences. I giggled and she said "you have too, haven't you?" I didn't like to disappoint her but was not quite brave enough to reveal all as yet but I may do in the near future.
BTW, Fred's bum is firming up luverrrly thank you!!!
Love
Wilma (aka Alfie - but only to Heather xx)
x x x x
Alfie 
I'm genuinely glad Fred's bum is on the mend... do send him my best.
Should I show her this forum? Er... unless she can access it through McDonalds or the library, she can't - no pooter!
But I will show her somehow, someday... just as soon as I've got enough dirt on her to make it not worth her while to dob me in at work! :wink:
After all... do I really want her to turn round and tell the lads in the canteen that 'Heather', the trollop in the purple basque, from that naughty website they all gawp at in the evenings, is ME !! :shock: :shock: :shock:
Hxx
I'm genuinely glad Fred's bum is on the mend... do send him my best. Should I show her this forum? Er... unless she can access it through McDonalds or the library, she can't - no pooter!
But I will show her somehow, someday... just as soon as I've got enough dirt on her to make it not worth her while to dob me in at work! :wink:
After all... do I really want her to turn round and tell the lads in the canteen that 'Heather', the trollop in the purple basque, from that naughty website they all gawp at in the evenings, is ME !! :shock: :shock: :shock:
Hxx
: Heather - there's no reason you should risk her finding another side of you via your 'www' button on SH if you don't want that or to risk it breaking out at work.
Keep matters private if you want to - that is your right and your choice.
As for introducing her to something - I think some people in this situation might deliberately want to be a little evil and shock her by going straight for something extreme - but I think it is right to be considerate as you say, so that you are gently saying to her:
'This is just a glimpse of what it can be like - are you sure you want this?".
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Keep matters private if you want to - that is your right and your choice.
As for introducing her to something - I think some people in this situation might deliberately want to be a little evil and shock her by going straight for something extreme - but I think it is right to be considerate as you say, so that you are gently saying to her:
'This is just a glimpse of what it can be like - are you sure you want this?".
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:D :lol: :grin: :grin: :rotflmao: 
Sex God
You could invite her over to your house one night and show her the site on your computer. A couple of hours in the Cafe should convince her that we're all completely mad. Sorry, did I say mad? I meant mad about sex and gimp masks and... no, I won't ask. I don't need to know.
Then you can take her to your bedroom and ... well, I'm sure you'll think of something
Then you can take her to your bedroom and ... well, I'm sure you'll think of something
Hi Heather
OK I havn't been on the board for long and my experiences may not be as vast as some of you guys on here. But as an idea for your friend how about taking her to a sauna club?
It might break her in slowly, certainly the one in London I visit is very friendly and while not in your face it is obviouse what is going on.
So for her to wander around the place in a bikini, semi naked or nude with others in a similar state may be the catalyst to starrt the ball rolling and give her an idea of what she is letting herself in for.
OK I havn't been on the board for long and my experiences may not be as vast as some of you guys on here. But as an idea for your friend how about taking her to a sauna club?
It might break her in slowly, certainly the one in London I visit is very friendly and while not in your face it is obviouse what is going on.
So for her to wander around the place in a bikini, semi naked or nude with others in a similar state may be the catalyst to starrt the ball rolling and give her an idea of what she is letting herself in for.
Heather - there's no reason you should risk her finding another side of you via your 'www' button
I can see you've got my way of thinking, ManAlive...
Even though I've overheard the lads openly talk about SH and speculate who this Heather person is, I'm such a sensible seeming soul that they would never suspect me. (Heather is not my real name!) They know 'Heather' is from Croydon and works in retail... but I've got the same sexual image as Pauline Fowler...
Take last Saturday. I was doing an early shift with a college kid. I told her I had to get away early as I was going out. "Anywhere nice?" she asked... "Yeah, I'm going to a gangbang party in Fulham." She nearly spilt herself laughing.... I WAS TELLING THE TRUTH!!
Once 'A' becomes aware of many more of my private life she'll know that kind of stuff really IS true...
:roll: But the need to see what my chances are and seeing her have a good time (she's a dormouse who thinks guys won't fancy her!) outweight the fear of being 'outted'.
Hxx
heather its seems to me you have, as morpheus said "a red pill blue pill moment".
choose the blue pill and all is well she returns to here retail job and mousey Existence all thoughts of expansion quashed.
choose the red pill and break through the looking glass and discover both yours and many others darker side.
i think she needs to be sat down with and told the reality of life and the fact that people like you and i exist. if she really is that sheltered she might not want to go that far.
I dont think you will get the sack for your lifestyle unless you are bringing the employer into disripute by holding parties in their store or anything.
good luck
choose the blue pill and all is well she returns to here retail job and mousey Existence all thoughts of expansion quashed.
choose the red pill and break through the looking glass and discover both yours and many others darker side.
i think she needs to be sat down with and told the reality of life and the fact that people like you and i exist. if she really is that sheltered she might not want to go that far.
I dont think you will get the sack for your lifestyle unless you are bringing the employer into disripute by holding parties in their store or anything.
good luck
Heather
Just giving her some info... Web sites , books or tell her a couple of your experiances!.. Then that way she Decides how far to go!. Shes not got Net access?. well print her off some stuff.. you dont have to say that that is what your into , just randomly give her some details.. then she can decide how far shes willing to go, and im sure she'll come back to you with questions!. .. And then her curiosity levels will prove interesting!.
Magik
Sex God
I suggest you take her for a quiet drink ,somewhere neutral and private so she is at her ease . Then being careful not to offend her in any way , carefully get her completely drunk and screw her brains out , then discuss it while your having your post coital ciggy.
Did I go too far again ??.............
G
Did I go too far again ??.............
G
Well, lads... I had another brief chat with her today. And I'm going to take her for a quiet drink tomorrow... to say pretty much the same things as Silk and Big suggested. She has to convince me of her discretion before I take her anywhere.
Big trucker... Croydon is both a big place and a little place. My fears are not so much that my work mates will find out... it's more that the gossip will filter to my ex-husband and he'll try to get the kids off me!!
A friend who runs a party club has offered her free entry to one of his parties so that she can see and mix with swingers in controlled way. If she's still excited and not shocked by what she sees there, I'll go the next step and take her to the London Fetish Fair.... but's she's a long way off being ready to whip botties in anger! :twisted:
Hxx
Big trucker... Croydon is both a big place and a little place. My fears are not so much that my work mates will find out... it's more that the gossip will filter to my ex-husband and he'll try to get the kids off me!!
A friend who runs a party club has offered her free entry to one of his parties so that she can see and mix with swingers in controlled way. If she's still excited and not shocked by what she sees there, I'll go the next step and take her to the London Fetish Fair.... but's she's a long way off being ready to whip botties in anger! :twisted:
Hxx
