Basic Question About Affairs

9 Jan 2005

Quote by zorbotic
The original post is a wind

You may just be right.......i mean asking wether hotels take cash instead of credit cards for total discretion has to be a wind up .....i mean was he planning on signing in as Mr and Mrs Smith........or he really could just be plain stupid!

9 Jan 2005

Quote by Lil_Bunny

Lil_bunny lost her goats?

I'm not that lucky lol
The blighters are still here

They are loverlie!! Are they yours?

9 Jan 2005

Quote by edinbughchris

Lil_bunny lost her goats?

I'm not that lucky lol
The blighters are still here

They are loverlie!! Are they yours?
Yep they are mine. smelly funny animals lol
Now now Northeastcoupleuk lol they definately don't get an invite to my parties!

9 Jan 2005

Quote by ukdavvy
Hi
Im a saddo cliche bloke who wants a bit on the side.
This is not actually a personal
The thing is how do I have hours of illicit extra marital fucking withour my partner guessing?
I want neutral territory - not her place whoever her turns out to be, if at all.
I figured travel lodges or something.
Clearly I dont want anything on my bank or credit card statements.
Are these places cool about you paying cash or do they insist on plasyic?
And do any have rates just for tired motorists who only want the room for a few hours lmao or is it overnight rates or nothing? Yes I am a tight bastard, spend too much time in Yorkshire....
Cheers - please help a novice
d

My advice would be to ask yourself the the following question first:
Why do you want to do this?
Once you have answered that, the next question to answer for yourself would be from the following:
Why do you feel you need this?
Why do you want to do this outside your marriage?
Have you talked to your wife to see if she feels the same way?
You asked for advice and this is it - your wife is probably just as bored with her sex life as you appear to be are with yours - go home and find out what she wants, and give it to her.
lhk
Kat

9 Jan 2005

Quote by edinbughchris
How about being a bit nicer to him? Swinging is pretty well the opposite of what he's looking for - swinging (for me anyway) is probably more about honesty and openness with your partner than you could hope for in a normal relationship. But I think tolerance towards others is good generally. He probably won't learn not to cheat on his wife by being shot down for wanting to.
He's just looking on the wrong site, that's all. He's asking a question that has to do with sex, figures swingers are into sex, so maybe they will advise. I don't approve of what he want to do, but don't see any need to take a moral high ground - some people would think swinging is terrible, after all.

The whole of England - thanks to the NOFW thinks that swinging is somes sordid way of getting "your end away". It pisses me off sometimes because I know that the people I meet on here aren't about that. The most common discussion I have with people is "we aren't hurting anyone". And I see swinging as just that. NONE of us are hurting anyone by what we do. We are all consenting adults enjoying a lifestyle that may not suit everyone - but we aren't hurting anyone. My own PERSONAL belief is that when someone comes on wanting sex without his or her partner knowing they are in fact hurting someone. And that goes against what I believe. Sorry if I offend anyone on saying that - but I honestly feel that that is the spirit of swinging.

9 Jan 2005

Agree with ya totally there Rainbows hun, it's all about honesty and not hurting anyone

9 Jan 2005

was gonna play devils advocate
but cant be arsed
:twisted:

9 Jan 2005

Quote by redstilletto
was gonna play devils advocate
but cant be arsed
:twisted:

And the prize for the lazyest post goes to.......................................... lol

:lol:
Come on what were you going to say?

10 Jan 2005

no
im going to bed
bog off
passionkiss

10 Jan 2005

Quote by redstilletto
no
im going to bed
bog off

Same here!!
Night night everyone.

10 Jan 2005

Quote by foxylady 123
The original post is a wind

Well of course it is, married men never go off and shag around behind their wives backs do they?
Yes, but they don't openly declare an intention to deceive. I don't want to pass judgement on unfaithfulness per se, because many people claim mitigating circumstances and that's a whole other discussion, but this guy is basically saying he's doing it with malice aforethought and, as Judy says, the fact that he sees nothing wrong in that paints men in general in a rather poor light. sad

10 Jan 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
The original post is a wind

Well of course it is, married men never go off and shag around behind their wives backs do they?
Yes, but they don't openly declare an intention to deceive. I don't want to pass judgement on unfaithfulness per se, because many people claim mitigating circumstances and that's a whole other discussion, but this guy is basically saying he's doing it with malice aforethought and, as Judy says, the fact that he sees nothing wrong in that paints men in general in a rather poor light. sad

yeah i was gonna say that wink

10 Jan 2005

Quote by Ice Pie
The original post is a wind

Well of course it is, married men never go off and shag around behind their wives backs do they?
Yes, but they don't openly declare an intention to deceive. I don't want to pass judgement on unfaithfulness per se, because many people claim mitigating circumstances and that's a whole other discussion, but this guy is basically saying he's doing it with malice aforethought and, as Judy says, the fact that he sees nothing wrong in that paints men in general in a rather poor light. sad

Some men in some circumstances are quite open about their intentions regarding extramatital sex..........if they can get away with it they will take it when and where they SOME men and thats despicable.
But its this guys obvious lack of even a basic common sense that marks him out as either a wind up merchant or another fine example of our failing education system

10 Jan 2005

Quote by celticq
Anyone seem a broken bridge nearby??

Hiya celticq, I must admit that was exactly my same thought... and I pondered further to wonder if a previous flouncee had possibly returned to yank our chains.. LOL

10 Jan 2005

The only question you should be asking yourself is "why the fuck i am married?". If you want to go shagging around, do your wife a favour and get divorced, therefore she can find someone else who would treat her in the manner she deserves.
Whatever way you want to dress it up, there is no excuse for affairs and they are marriage breakers, is that what you really want?
Have you any idea how hurtful infidelity is? Once it is done it can never be taken back. Just remember that when your looking for your quick-fix.

10 Jan 2005

Quote by Lil_Bunny
Yep they are mine. smelly funny animals lol

I think goats are amazing animals - so much attitude!
My friend has given up her legal business to raise goats (and a few other animals) and publishes a monthly mag about them called Ruminations.
Sorry - bit off topic

10 Jan 2005

Quote by Rainbows
The whole of England - thanks to the NOFW thinks that swinging is somes sordid way of getting "your end away". It pisses me off sometimes because I know that the people I meet on here aren't about that. The most common discussion I have with people is "we aren't hurting anyone". And I see swinging as just that. NONE of us are hurting anyone by what we do. We are all consenting adults enjoying a lifestyle that may not suit everyone - but we aren't hurting anyone. My own PERSONAL belief is that when someone comes on wanting sex without his or her partner knowing they are in fact hurting someone. And that goes against what I believe. Sorry if I offend anyone on saying that - but I honestly feel that that is the spirit of swinging.

I think that was so well put, and I agree 100%. I had a chat a month back with the friend who got me into swinging a while ago - she is now in a non-swinging monogamous relationship and was having wayward thoughts (only thoughts I might add). I asked her if she didn't miss the honesty of swinging and being able to be open about sexual feelings.
I'm not so into swinging that I couldn't give it up, but I would ask myself before committing (to a non-swinging relationship) if I felt able to want only that one person sexually the rest of my life and not get tired of them. But the nice thing is that we (often) tend to be attracted to people who have a similar outlook and so it would be ok to raise the possibility early on (if they weren't already a swinger). Would that be the start of a different thread? How people met their (swinging) partners - as a development of an existing relationship? Or knowing that both of you were into swinging?
drinkies

10 Jan 2005

Hmmm, I`m not sure women in general should be careful, just his wife. He`s pretty upfront about his desire to embark on the extra-marital, albeit a little too indiscreet for here. I think for the most part this is due to his ignorance about how most of us feel about swinging. I think he thought perhaps he could get away with it. Without getting into the sematics of morality, I won`t jump to the conclusion he wouldn`t be honest with prospective `others`...at least I hope not, because that would be a HUGE violation upon any woman who doesn`t wish to be a part of such dishonesty, and I have seen posts here from women who are comfortable with such an `arrangement`, so there should be no need.
I hope he takes that on board.
Venusxxx