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BBW'S AND SWINGING
First things first:-
Your 'insecurities' are actually quite sweet - especially when you have nothing to worry about !! I'll now have to work on the fact that you felt the need for the word 'practically' in there
As for the subject of size I'm another person who has never "gone for" one size or another. Like many have said in this thread already, defining a person as big, small, tall, short, etc, etc is only a starting point - without that spark thats about as much use as it gets though.
I've known (in more than one sense) girls ranging from almost anorexic stick thin, to short and buxom, via tomboy and girlie-girl. Why do I tell you this in this thread ? Well, because thats my point - it really truly is the person inside that counts - no matter how much of a cliche it is.
As for curves, well there is something wonderfully natural and honestly sexy about that, but thats not to say a slim elfin figure can't be as enticing too - I noticed the example of Sophie Dahl earlier in the thread and can't think of a better choice.
When the modelling world took a collective intake of breath at the fact she had real thighs, rounded hips and full breasts there were, I'd wager, an equal number of guys thinking "wow, at last !" - she was indeed beautiful with a radiance that came of not not caring either way but simply being herself.
Now look at her - down to the size that many women struggle to aspire to and she looks ill and not the person she was.
I'm rambling on my soap box now so I'll pull myself together for the punchline.
Be who you are - the only person's opinion you have to give a damn about is your own. If you feel you want more curves then why not ! If you feel a pound or two lost would work for you then go for it !!
Just don't do it for anybody else !
Quote by MISSCHIEF
I must credit one rather special guy (and his duck) for making me completely comfortable with who I am. He has put up with my insecurities and practically bannished them now (thank you
Your 'insecurities' are actually quite sweet - especially when you have nothing to worry about !! I'll now have to work on the fact that you felt the need for the word 'practically' in there
As for the subject of size I'm another person who has never "gone for" one size or another. Like many have said in this thread already, defining a person as big, small, tall, short, etc, etc is only a starting point - without that spark thats about as much use as it gets though.
I've known (in more than one sense) girls ranging from almost anorexic stick thin, to short and buxom, via tomboy and girlie-girl. Why do I tell you this in this thread ? Well, because thats my point - it really truly is the person inside that counts - no matter how much of a cliche it is.
As for curves, well there is something wonderfully natural and honestly sexy about that, but thats not to say a slim elfin figure can't be as enticing too - I noticed the example of Sophie Dahl earlier in the thread and can't think of a better choice.
When the modelling world took a collective intake of breath at the fact she had real thighs, rounded hips and full breasts there were, I'd wager, an equal number of guys thinking "wow, at last !" - she was indeed beautiful with a radiance that came of not not caring either way but simply being herself.
Now look at her - down to the size that many women struggle to aspire to and she looks ill and not the person she was.
I'm rambling on my soap box now so I'll pull myself together for the punchline.
Be who you are - the only person's opinion you have to give a damn about is your own. If you feel you want more curves then why not ! If you feel a pound or two lost would work for you then go for it !!
Just don't do it for anybody else !
I am also new to swinging and before joining this site have always used bbw groups to meet people because of wanting to represent myself honestly and not misleading people. But I then feel that I am putting myself in a pigeon hole - on a one to on basis I beleive (at least I very much hope) that my partners are with me not just because I am fat but because of who I am as a whole person.
When I joined this site I neglected to add the bbw tag to the end of my name which I usually do and now everytime I see my new nickname I feel like a fraud!
As I am hoping to attend the next Scottish Munch was interested to read the replies regarding social events in general and hope the same hospitatlity applies north of the boarder.
When I joined this site I neglected to add the bbw tag to the end of my name which I usually do and now everytime I see my new nickname I feel like a fraud!
As I am hoping to attend the next Scottish Munch was interested to read the replies regarding social events in general and hope the same hospitatlity applies north of the boarder.
Sex God
Quote by celticqIt seems as though you feel obliged to a) have a label, and b) announce it as part of your identity. If you don't want it to be your defining characteristic then I don't see why you should have to let it be such. I don't feel obliged to call myself "Icepie_roundhead" or "Icepie_hairybloke", even though there are those who are slightly fetished about those things, I don't want be judged on that basis alone. I would say be whoever you are most comfortable being, and if other people want to put you in pigeon-holes, that's their problem.
When I joined this site I neglected to add the bbw tag to the end of my name which I usually do and now everytime I see my new nickname I feel like a fraud!
Ice xxx
The experience of being a 'BBW' is all down to who you mix with. I spent years married to a guy who looked upon my size as a flaw and the effect was that I became to think of myself as flawed.
When I ditched the pointless turd, it came as a big shock... I mean a BIG shock... that men were attracted to me sexually - so much so I thought they were taking the piss!
Is still took me a further two years to accept the attentions of one particular guy who I made jump through hoops to get into my knickers... but once there is was obvious he wasn't putting on any kind of act! :twisted:
There will always be blokes that don't like larger ladies... but most often I find guys really don't think of women in those terms. Just like women think of men (small cocks are good for sucking, medium ones just right for anal...), men think 'This one has nice tits, that one has a nice bum..'
We've all got good bits and bad bits... and as witnesses will testify my feet are possitively rank but my nipples ar another story...
Hxx
When I ditched the pointless turd, it came as a big shock... I mean a BIG shock... that men were attracted to me sexually - so much so I thought they were taking the piss!
Is still took me a further two years to accept the attentions of one particular guy who I made jump through hoops to get into my knickers... but once there is was obvious he wasn't putting on any kind of act! :twisted:
There will always be blokes that don't like larger ladies... but most often I find guys really don't think of women in those terms. Just like women think of men (small cocks are good for sucking, medium ones just right for anal...), men think 'This one has nice tits, that one has a nice bum..'
We've all got good bits and bad bits... and as witnesses will testify my feet are possitively rank but my nipples ar another story...
Hxx
Warming the Bed
Thanks daff. for posting your original concern. I do understand your inital concerns. The responses you have had from your post have also helped reassure me as I am sure it has yourself. I was suppose to go to the last NW Munch with my partner but unfortunately we had to cancel. I can't wait for there to be another munch organised. My partner has suggested going to a swinging club, now after reading alot of the postings on here I am full of confidence and can't wait to go. Alot of people seem to mention Partner in Bury, has anyone tried out Utopia in Staffs. Just wondered if anyone could suggest a good one to start off with.
Thank you
Cass xxx
Sex God
Quote by wildscent123
............ has anyone tried out Utopia in Staffs. Just wondered if anyone could suggest a good one to start off with.
Thank you
Cass xxx
does this link help?
Forum Virgin
Now it's the blokes turn to say 'size doesn't matter, it's how you use it'. I have yet to be invited to a munch. In fact I'm not even sure I know what one is. But it would be your charisma that would get my attention, nature would do the rest.
I would hope I speak for many normal blokes.
Have fun
I would hope I speak for many normal blokes.
Have fun
Warming the Bed
Thanks easy. Have you tried the place out for yourself??
Cass xxx
Cass xxx
Sex God
Quote by wildscent123
Thanks easy. Have you tried the place out for yourself??
Cass xxx
Nope, sorry.
I noticed that there were reviews of the clubs and thought you might not have seen them, so posted a kink.
Pop back to the forum later as there's usually more people around who do go to these clubs. No doubt someone will have been there and will be able to give you a better idea of what it's like.
Sex God
Quote by MISSCHIEF
you might not have seen them, so posted a kink.
8-) 8-) 8-) 8-) 8-) 8-) 8-) That's a corker Easy :lol2:
Didn't even notice that one (and I usually proof-read everything I type).
I'm sure Freud would say I had something else on my mind
Quote by daffodilbbw
thanks lou
sorry neil was i disturbing something ?? earlier,bloody mobile phones eh
assionkiss:
Whatever could you mean, miss?
I haven't had number 1 yet. I'm usually ok until about Wednesday or Thursday :wink: :wink:
Although the sun Has been shining, I have fresh bedding AND I've been thinking about a certain welsh flower.
Quote by daffodilbbw
well by wednesday or thursday i'll be on number 3!! come on you'll have to catch up! x
So; when/where was number 2??
Did i miss it??
Or will that follow the Opera??
Or during the Opera??
Oh my God. I think I need to lie down.
I am laid down.
I can feel number 1 coming on. Is still only Tuesday??
