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When I am with a partner i liketo be very dominant. I love to be in charge and have complete control. I like sex to be very hard, aggressive even with me calling all the shots.
Does anyone else feel like this? Is this a normal way to feel?
Quote by hateitorloveit
When I am with a partner i liketo be very dominant. I love to be in charge and have complete control. I like sex to be very hard, aggressive even with me calling all the shots.
Does anyone else feel like this? Is this a normal way to feel?

Fine if your partner is totally sub. Not fine if your partner isn't totally sub.... in fact, I doubt you'd be popular with many people if you consider sex that cut and dried confused :? :?
We've been here before in another thread, haven't we rolleyes
That isn't all I am interested in. I want to be open to please a partner in other ways. But this is a feeling I have inside. Just wondered how normal it was. If anyone else feels the same.
Quote by hateitorloveit
That isn't all I am interested in. I want to be open to please a partner in other ways. But this is a feeling I have inside. Just wondered how normal it was. If anyone else feels the same.

If that's what does it for you, no problem - perhaps you should explore the BDSM scene, you may find it more satisfying than straight sex?
You may not actually be dominant, you may just feel that you need to control the situation because you feel that you need to please the woman. You may feel that the only sex a woman likes is hard and rough to get her going, hence your attitude and need to be in control.
My advice, calm down, get to know what your partner wants. It is not what you always think. Banging away like you do may only be your fantasy.
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Quote by bluexxx
When I am with a partner i liketo be very dominant. I love to be in charge and have complete control. I like sex to be very hard, aggressive even with me calling all the shots.
Does anyone else feel like this? Is this a normal way to feel?

Fine if your partner is totally sub. Not fine if your partner isn't totally sub.... in fact, I doubt you'd be popular with many people if you consider sex that cut and dried confused :? :?
We've been here before in another thread, haven't we rolleyes
I like to be in charge and fuck a girl like an animal until she starts crying and stuff. I am quite dom. Maybe thats why I like head so much.

My problem is you wanting your girlfriend/sexual partner to cry 'and stuff'. As Blue said, this probably isn't the site for you. Try Informed Consent, they'd love you there.
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Quote by hateitorloveit
When I am with a partner i liketo be very dominant. I love to be in charge and have complete control. I like sex to be very hard, aggressive even with me calling all the shots.
Does anyone else feel like this? Is this a normal way to feel?

You want one of two things - a sub as Blue says or a prostitute - he who pays the piper and all that.
Doesn't it get boring having agressive sex all the time? No I don't think it is normal - variety is the spice of life.
I guess if someone hasn't had much sex in their lives I can understand them becoming fixated on one type of sex until they've tried it and then probably move on.
Quote by hateitorloveit
When I am with a partner i liketo be very dominant. I love to be in charge and have complete control. I like sex to be very hard, aggressive even with me calling all the shots.
Does anyone else feel like this? Is this a normal way to feel?

What do you mean is this a normal way to feel.....it seems normal to you but wouldn't rock the boat for everyone,how aggressive do you get?...you said in a previous thread you like to make them cry through rough sex....to me that is abnormal!
I don't have nasty sex all the time. In fact I do do the loving caring stuff. It is just that, as I discover myself more I have found one thing that I really like.
Thanks for pointing me to that informed consent site. Very good. I'm not alone!
Not sure about paying a prostitute. I have banged a couple of hookers but to be honest it wasn't for me. Like I say I want to be worshipped and as soon as you pay for that it isn't real. I'd much rather go to a little bit more effort and pick up in a club if I want a new girl.
The point about making a girl cry was reference to a famous Charles Bukowski quote. He wrote,among others, the book 'Women'. I'm sorry if you didn't get the reference.
Quote by hateitorloveit
I don't have nasty sex all the time. In fact I do do the loving caring stuff. It is just that, as I discover myself more I have found one thing that I really like.
Thanks for pointing me to that informed consent site. Very good. I'm not alone!
Not sure about paying a prostitute. I have banged a couple of hookers but to be honest it wasn't for me. Like I say I want to be worshipped ]and as soon as you pay for that it isn't real. I'd much rather go to a little bit more effort and pick up in a club if I want a new girl.

and what church would you like them to attend confused: :?: :?: :?:
I think we have a resident Vicar in the house >>>>>>> M2PU are you free for this ?man
Fred
Quote by hateitorloveit
The point about making a girl cry was reference to a famous Charles Bukowski quote. He wrote,among others, the book 'Women'. I'm sorry if you didn't get the reference.

Doesn't matter if you are quoting an American poet or not - your context was wrong and you didn't cite it at the time.
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Quote by Fred aka Medic 1
I don't have nasty sex all the time. In fact I do do the loving caring stuff. It is just that, as I discover myself more I have found one thing that I really like.
Thanks for pointing me to that informed consent site. Very good. I'm not alone!
Not sure about paying a prostitute. I have banged a couple of hookers but to be honest it wasn't for me. Like I say I want to be worshipped ]and as soon as you pay for that it isn't real. I'd much rather go to a little bit more effort and pick up in a club if I want a new girl.

and what church would you like them to attend confused: :?: :?: :?:
I think we have a resident Vicar in the house >>>>>>> M2PU are you free for this ?man
Fred
sorry fred, i only worship the female form worship
Quote by hateitorloveit
The point about making a girl cry was reference to a famous Charles Bukowski quote. He wrote,among others, the book 'Women'. I'm sorry if you didn't get the reference.

I like to be in charge and fuck a girl like an animal until she starts crying and stuff. I am quite dom. Maybe thats why I like head so much.

This is what you said.....didn't look to me like you were quoting
Quote by da69ve
The point about making a girl cry was reference to a famous Charles Bukowski quote. He wrote,among others, the book 'Women'. I'm sorry if you didn't get the reference.

I like to be in charge and fuck a girl like an animal until she starts crying and stuff. I am quite dom. Maybe thats why I like head so much.

This is what you said.....didn't look to me like you were quoting
Me neither mad
Here's an authentic quote from said poet:
Sex is interesting, but it's not totally important. I mean it's not even as important (physically) as excretion. A man can go seventy years without a piece of ass, but he can die in a week without a bowel movement.
Charles Bukowski

I can just smell it already!
rolleyes :roll:
Quote by Jags

but he can die in a week without a bowel movement.
Charles Bukowski

I can just smell it already!
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Can I politely ask anyone who has nothing to say regarding the original topic not to post in this thread.
Quote by hateitorloveit
Can I politely ask anyone who has nothing to say regarding the original topic not to post in this thread.

Course you can ask!
But we don't have to comply.
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Quote by hateitorloveit
Can I politely ask anyone who has nothing to say regarding the original topic not to post in this thread.

Errrrr.....No!
Quote by Jags
Can I politely ask anyone who has nothing to say regarding the original topic not to post in this thread.

Course you can ask!
But we don't have to comply.
cool 8-)
he should try being more dominant
Quote by hateitorloveit
Can I politely ask anyone who has nothing to say regarding the original topic not to post in this thread.

You can ask and I may comply very soon as I am getting tired of wallowing around in the Bull Shit you are spewing out.
Fred
Quote by meat2pleaseu
Can I politely ask anyone who has nothing to say regarding the original topic not to post in this thread.

Course you can ask!
But we don't have to comply.
cool 8-)
he should try being more dominant
What?? And make me 'cry and stuff'??? (not TM Bukowski)
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Quote by Fred aka Medic 1
Can I politely ask anyone who has nothing to say regarding the original topic not to post in this thread.

You can ask and I may comply very soon as I am getting tired of wallowing around in the Bull Shit you are spewing out.
Fred
So i'm not alone in thinking this as well......thank god i thought it was just me!!
Please feel free not to read the thread and not to post on it if you feel it is BS. I would like a sensible adult discussion about a serious topic.
:laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove: again!!
Quote by hateitorloveit
Please feel free not to read the thread and not to post on it if you feel it is BS. I would like a sensible adult discussion about a serious topic.

Too late - you started the funny stuff. And now we're enjoying it! Better than the telly actually - well, apart from the smell that is!
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Quote by hateitorloveit
Please feel free not to read the thread and not to post on it if you feel it is BS. I would like a sensible adult discussion about a serious topic.

Yes, your right the topic is very serious,it's just what your saying isn't!
got to say, it's just extrapolating your previous thread. don't think there will be much more said here that wasn't said there, not until you actually make a decisive move or decision. id suggest you take some action and come back and discuss it then