Funny you should post that ... I go into the bi/gay rooms and get a lot of guys pm or message me that say they bi but profile says straight ... I ask why in bi room or why mail me when I'm looking for a bi guy and they say they are bi or curious but cant put on profile because if they approach a couple generally the male half wont want to meet them
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Quote by Sexysmilingeyes
Funny you should post that ... I go into the bi/gay rooms and get a lot of guys pm or message me that say they bi but profile says straight ... I ask why in bi room or why mail me when I'm looking for a bi guy and they say they are bi or curious but cant put on profile because if they approach a couple generally the male half wont want to meet them
Ah well, that's because bi and gay men are absolute tarts and will jump on the most straight of men. Of course, they are bound to fancy anything male aren't they? Says more about the people who don't want to meet bi men really, doesn't it?
Quote by flower411
Blimey !!! The plot thickens :shock:
I`ll say here and now I`ve got no problem with bi guys ...i just don`t want to play with ya
But if we met a couple or a guy whose profile said he was straight and he announced that he was bi half way through a meet ....I`d be a bit pissed off !! ...not because he was bi but because he had lied about it !!! :shock:
thats why some dont say they bi on profile because they wont get a meet - and there argument is, just they are bi doesnt mean they fancy or want to go with every man around, just like I as a bi fem dont like every female I meet
Sex God
Quote by Sexysmilingeyes
Blimey !!! The plot thickens :shock:
I`ll say here and now I`ve got no problem with bi guys ...i just don`t want to play with ya
But if we met a couple or a guy whose profile said he was straight and he announced that he was bi half way through a meet ....I`d be a bit pissed off !! ...not because he was bi but because he had lied about it !!! :shock:
thats why some dont say they bi on profile because they wont get a meet - and there argument is, just they are bi doesnt mean they fancy or want to go with every man around, just like I as a bi fem dont like every female I meet
That's no reason not to put their status though - at least if they're honest, people can decide for themselves. If straight males are so worried about a bi male jumping on them (because they are clearly so irresistible to bi males
), then they might miss out on a meet but that's their loss. Quote by flower411
Blimey !!! The plot thickens :shock:
I`ll say here and now I`ve got no problem with bi guys ...i just don`t want to play with ya
But if we met a couple or a guy whose profile said he was straight and he announced that he was bi half way through a meet ....I`d be a bit pissed off !! ...not because he was bi but because he had lied about it !!! :shock:
thats why some dont say they bi on profile because they wont get a meet - and there argument is, just they are bi doesnt mean they fancy or want to go with every man around, just like I as a bi fem dont like every female I meet
You misunderstand me !!
I didn`t say we wouldn`t meet em !!!
You can play with mrs f as much as you like !!!! :lol:
I said I didn`t want to play with ya !!!
fairenough
... but you can see what I meant, though (?) I hope 
Sexlightened
i think some people are just a bit thick.
if i read someones profile, i would presume that what they had written down was true.
if i read someones profile, i would presume that what they had written down was true.
Quote by red_dragon2006
i think some people are just a bit thick.
if i read someones profile, i would presume that what they had written down was true.
I like to think what they have written is true, but during the conversation I will casually check the bits I think are important for me ... better to know before you get any futher
Quote by flower411
Blimey !!! The plot thickens :shock:
I`ll say here and now I`ve got no problem with bi guys ...i just don`t want to play with ya
But if we met a couple or a guy whose profile said he was straight and he announced that he was bi half way through a meet ....I`d be a bit pissed off !! ...not because he was bi but because he had lied about it !!! :shock:
thats why some dont say they bi on profile because they wont get a meet - and there argument is, just they are bi doesnt mean they fancy or want to go with every man around, just like I as a bi fem dont like every female I meet
You misunderstand me !!
I didn`t say we wouldn`t meet em !!!
You can play with mrs f as much as you like !!!! :lol:
I said I didn`t want to play with ya !!!
fairenough
... but you can see what I meant, though (?) I hopeYep ... I can see what ya mean ... :wink:
I`m just concerned that bi guys are so desperate to meet straight people that they`ll lie about their bi status !!! :shock:
Is that really what you are saying ???
It`s a sorry state of affairs if that`s true , whichever way you look at it !!!
I dont think it has anything to with being desperate, I think a lot of bi guys are maybe stil just curious or only have bi meets occasionally so keep profile as straight - like I said before just because they are bi doesnt mean they want cock all the time (sorry for being crude)
Sexlightened
Quote by Sexysmilingeyes
i think some people are just a bit thick.
if i read someones profile, i would presume that what they had written down was true.
I like to think what they have written is true, but during the conversation I will casually check the bits I think are important for me ... better to know before you get any futher
the only thing i would want to check is that she isnt married if she says she is single. but then id never find that out from a profile anyway. if people are gonna lie about stuff like that they usually hide all traces of the truth.
Sex God
Quote by flower411
I think the big problem lies in the fact that being a bi male still carries such a stigma. Women can, in some situations, admit their bisexuality to their friends & peers, then carry on as if nothing ever happened. Guy's, on the whole, can't, sadly.
I can see that in the real world !!
I just can`t see why it`s a problem in here ...
I`m being naive ain`t I !!
A conversation came up the other night (damn late game on online truth or dare)
A question was have you ever done something classed as , the mans first answer was "being bi" Its a damn shame but it is still very much in this life Quote by red_dragon2006
i think some people are just a bit thick.
if i read someones profile, i would presume that what they had written down was true.
Then sorry but you would be very naive.
There are loads of guys out there and we have met a few who clearly state on their profiles, they are straight. Only for them to then say when meeting they are bi. :shock:
Whatever anyone says a lot of guys would never admit openly to it on their profile. It seems perfectly ok for a fem to say she is bi, but it is not ok to say you are bi if you are a guy.
We have been to clubs where I have never seen any guy play at all. Lots of girlie play. So why is that? Because guys don't want others to know they are bi or curious, until they feel comfortable enough to say something.
Never be naive enough to believe what others say, especially in the cyber world of swinging.
Sex God
I get questions all the time like "you haven't ticked anal sex on your profile, don't you do it?" or "are you married, is that why you can't meet me today/tomorrow/two hours from now?"
I'd love it if everyone a)was honest on their profiles and b)actually read profiles....
Not likely to happen though is it?!
I'd love it if everyone a)was honest on their profiles and b)actually read profiles....
Not likely to happen though is it?!
Sexlightened
Quote by kentswingers777
i think some people are just a bit thick.
if i read someones profile, i would presume that what they had written down was true.
Then sorry but you would be very naive.
Never be naive enough to believe what others say, especially in the cyber world of swinging.
ok, im happy to be called naive.
but i wouldve thought in all realms of cyber world, a swinging site would have the most honest members.
Sex God
Quote by red_dragon2006
i think some people are just a bit thick.
if i read someones profile, i would presume that what they had written down was true.
Then sorry but you would be very naive.
Never be naive enough to believe what others say, especially in the cyber world of swinging.
ok, im happy to be called naive.
but i wouldve thought in all realms of cyber world, a swinging site would have the most honest members.
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: Yeah, right. Sorry Red, they aren't all honest.
Sexlightened
it makes sense that it should be!
if youre a bi guy then im sure there are enough bi guys around here to hook up with right??
no need to lie. seems like a perfect place for a guy hiding his sexuality in the real world to come and be himself.
but judging by your replies then this place is full of big fat liars! lol
if youre a bi guy then im sure there are enough bi guys around here to hook up with right??
no need to lie. seems like a perfect place for a guy hiding his sexuality in the real world to come and be himself.
but judging by your replies then this place is full of big fat liars! lol
Quote by red_dragon2006
it makes sense that it should be!
if youre a bi guy then im sure there are enough bi guys around here to hook up with right??
no need to lie. seems like a perfect place for a guy hiding his sexuality in the real world to come and be himself.
but judging by your replies then this place is full of big fat liars! lol
Cant comment on the fat bit but liars there most certainly are. :shock:
You have the element of the timewaster, and the people who do not tell their other halves they are swinging.
We would all love people to be honest in the swinging scene but...lifes never that straighforward.
when chatting to guys i always look at their profile, ad and if there forum posts, if im considerng meeting them.
ive had countless guys message me who state they are straight.
when i ask the question are they bi they say no. they then say why and i say oh cuse it what i like most is a 3 sum with 2 bi guys.
Suddenly the majority then say , well.... yes i am but i dont put it on my profile cuse i dont want gay guys contacting me or couples who have a straight guy not wanting to meet.
Now... are they straight but saying bi cuse they think it will get a meet, or bi but not saying so to straight guys??
but maybe they dont consider them selves bi like i dont cuse i dont think i am in the true sense as i wouldnt meet a female on my own
and i dont put curious , cuse im not, well not about trying lady love lol ive tried it.. so not really curious anymore.
xxx fem xx
ive had countless guys message me who state they are straight.
when i ask the question are they bi they say no. they then say why and i say oh cuse it what i like most is a 3 sum with 2 bi guys.
Suddenly the majority then say , well.... yes i am but i dont put it on my profile cuse i dont want gay guys contacting me or couples who have a straight guy not wanting to meet.
Now... are they straight but saying bi cuse they think it will get a meet, or bi but not saying so to straight guys??
but maybe they dont consider them selves bi like i dont cuse i dont think i am in the true sense as i wouldnt meet a female on my own
and i dont put curious , cuse im not, well not about trying lady love lol ive tried it.. so not really curious anymore.xxx fem xx
Sex God
Quote by flower411
I can see that in the real world !!
I just can`t see why it`s a problem in here ...
I`m being naive ain`t I !!
:lol: :lol: I wouldn't say being nieve... but here is a senario I have seen played across the swinging landscape...couple want a single guy for a mmf...... both people to play with the fem only...
they will say yes to the straight swinging guy... but no to the bi swinging guy.....
I don't see a difference, both there just the play with the fem.... but you'd be surprised at how many people do.....
"if it say Bi on the profile, we will not contact you".... seen that in more than one profile....
Orgasminator
Quote by flower411
Last night I was chatting to a guy and he asked me if I was bi ...
Well you do have a certain 'quality' Flower matey......
Quote by red_dragon2006
ok, im happy to be called naive.
but i wouldve thought in all realms of cyber world, a swinging site would have the most honest members.
You do realise that swingers are people too don't you?
They are exactly the same as vanilla other than the fact they fuck with more people in the room.
Forum Virgin
Hi everyone although this is my 2nd post I'm a long time reader and a long time chatter in chat.
As a bi-guy who has already been quoted in this topic (admittedly the quote was taken slightly out of context) I feel I could add to this. I've always been honest (as far as I can remember on my profile- some of the text is fairly new but my status has remained the same). I've met with a couple who decided half way through the meet that they weren't interested in part because I was bi (although the man was at least bi-cur). Others (females and couples) say No bi males but are quite happy to have single st8 males. This always confuses me as if I'm there to meet the fem then that's what should matter I'm not going to jump any guys that happen to be there just because I'm bi.
As to other bi-guys on this site well I don't use this site for that purpose (prefer a different site which is more specialised in same sex sex and most of the bi/gay guys that are on here feature on there too) but if a reasonable one was to fall into my lap I'm not going to say no. Having said that some of the (few) men that contact me on here have st8 in their profile so they reduce their chances (to almost nil) straightaway by not being honest in their profile.
I can understand some straight people not being entirely honest in their profile but they can't expect the same number of meets because they aren't honest in their profile.
As a bi-guy who has already been quoted in this topic (admittedly the quote was taken slightly out of context) I feel I could add to this. I've always been honest (as far as I can remember on my profile- some of the text is fairly new but my status has remained the same). I've met with a couple who decided half way through the meet that they weren't interested in part because I was bi (although the man was at least bi-cur). Others (females and couples) say No bi males but are quite happy to have single st8 males. This always confuses me as if I'm there to meet the fem then that's what should matter I'm not going to jump any guys that happen to be there just because I'm bi.
As to other bi-guys on this site well I don't use this site for that purpose (prefer a different site which is more specialised in same sex sex and most of the bi/gay guys that are on here feature on there too) but if a reasonable one was to fall into my lap I'm not going to say no. Having said that some of the (few) men that contact me on here have st8 in their profile so they reduce their chances (to almost nil) straightaway by not being honest in their profile.
I can understand some straight people not being entirely honest in their profile but they can't expect the same number of meets because they aren't honest in their profile.
Quote by rude69
Hi everyone although this is my 2nd post I'm a long time reader and a long time chatter in chat.
As a bi-guy who has already been quoted in this topic (admittedly the quote was taken slightly out of context) I feel I could add to this. I've always been honest (as far as I can remember on my profile- some of the text is fairly new but my status has remained the same). I've met with a couple who decided half way through the meet that they weren't interested in part because I was bi (although the man was at least bi-cur). Others (females and couples) say No bi males but are quite happy to have single st8 males. This always confuses me as if I'm there to meet the fem then that's what should matter I'm not going to jump any guys that happen to be there just because I'm bi.
As to other bi-guys on this site well I don't use this site for that purpose (prefer a different site which is more specialised in same sex sex and most of the bi/gay guys that are on here feature on there too) but if a reasonable one was to fall into my lap I'm not going to say no. Having said that some of the (few) men that contact me on here have st8 in their profile so they reduce their chances (to almost nil) straightaway by not being honest in their profile.
I can understand some straight people not being entirely honest in their profile but they can't expect the same number of meets because they aren't honest in their profile.
Rude, I applaud your honesty. It's only by people such as yourself speaking up that bi males will eventually (one hopes) become de-stigmatised.
:thumbup:
Sex God
Quote by rude69
Hi everyone although this is my 2nd post I'm a long time reader and a long time chatter in chat.
As a bi-guy who has already been quoted in this topic (admittedly the quote was taken slightly out of context) I feel I could add to this. I've always been honest (as far as I can remember on my profile- some of the text is fairly new but my status has remained the same). I've met with a couple who decided half way through the meet that they weren't interested in part because I was bi (although the man was at least bi-cur). Others (females and couples) say No bi males but are quite happy to have single st8 males. This always confuses me as if I'm there to meet the fem then that's what should matter I'm not going to jump any guys that happen to be there just because I'm bi.
As to other bi-guys on this site well I don't use this site for that purpose (prefer a different site which is more specialised in same sex sex and most of the bi/gay guys that are on here feature on there too) but if a reasonable one was to fall into my lap I'm not going to say no. Having said that some of the (few) men that contact me on here have st8 in their profile so they reduce their chances (to almost nil) straightaway by not being honest in their profile.
I can understand some straight people not being entirely honest in their profile but they can't expect the same number of meets because they aren't honest in their profile.
:welcome: to the forums rude69. Great to get your point of view.
Nola x
Casanova
Most people do not read my profile. I have had rather a lot of couples ask to meet me, cutnpastes from couples telling me how bi their lady is and how much she would enjoy playing with me and single women asking to play with me and men asking to buddy up with a sexy bi lady.
I just write back, saying "sounds great, I hope you have fun finding her" or something like that.
I also get guys emailing me saying hi to us 'both' and would we like to meet up with a guy to spice up our fun.
I then turn round and say, "I know I'm big, but both of us?"
I've even been asked what I'm doing here if I'm not bi and I was a bit odd. The truth is... I like sex!!!! Omg!!! how awful is that???? I also like meeting new people and variety, but nope I'm not bi.
I also have no concerns with bi peeps by the way, although I couldn't eat a whole one! Seriously I can't help the way I was made and why should I change that any more than a bi person should try and be straight?
I just write back, saying "sounds great, I hope you have fun finding her" or something like that.
I also get guys emailing me saying hi to us 'both' and would we like to meet up with a guy to spice up our fun.
I then turn round and say, "I know I'm big, but both of us?"
I've even been asked what I'm doing here if I'm not bi and I was a bit odd. The truth is... I like sex!!!! Omg!!! how awful is that???? I also like meeting new people and variety, but nope I'm not bi.
I also have no concerns with bi peeps by the way, although I couldn't eat a whole one! Seriously I can't help the way I was made and why should I change that any more than a bi person should try and be straight?
Quote by winchwench
I think the big problem lies in the fact that being a bi male still carries such a stigma. Women can, in some situations, admit their bisexuality to their friends & peers, then carry on as if nothing ever happened. Guy's, on the whole, can't, sadly.
Unfortunately spot on Winch, for me at least....
This thread has been the most interesting I've read so far, probably because it addresses an issue I've been thinking about for a long time:
I fancy women. I dont look at guys and think 'I fancy him'.
I wanna have some (ok, loads of) great sex with women. I don't think about fucking or being fucked by guys...
So, I've put straight on my profile. Pretty much only for that discretion issue above...
The thing is I've pretty much always wondered what it would be like to suck a cock. I've never thought about who is on the end of that cock. Just one of those fantasy things that, given the right people and situation, the right amount of booze :beer: may become more.
I dont feel I'm being dishonest by saying I'm straight, and I'd hate people to think I am. But of course I realise the dichotomy here.
Perhaps I should put bi-curious on my profile? What do people think? I suppose that posting this rather lets the cat out of the bag anyway....:doh:
Quote by Misterwood
I think the big problem lies in the fact that being a bi male still carries such a stigma. Women can, in some situations, admit their bisexuality to their friends & peers, then carry on as if nothing ever happened. Guy's, on the whole, can't, sadly.
Unfortunately spot on Winch, for me at least....
This thread has been the most interesting I've read so far, probably because it addresses an issue I've been thinking about for a long time:
I fancy women. I dont look at guys and think 'I fancy him'.
I wanna have some (ok, loads of) great sex with women. I don't think about fucking or being fucked by guys...
So, I've put straight on my profile. Pretty much only for that discretion issue above...
The thing is I've pretty much always wondered what it would be like to suck a cock. I've never thought about who is on the end of that cock. Just one of those fantasy things that, given the right people and situation, the right amount of booze :beer: may become more.
I dont feel I'm being dishonest by saying I'm straight, and I'd hate people to think I am. But of course I realise the dichotomy here.
Perhaps I should put bi-curious on my profile? What do people think? I suppose that posting this rather lets the cat out of the bag anyway....:doh:
You're very much not alone in that. Let's face it, cocks can be very attractive. They make you want to touch them, squeeze them, and stroke them. A lot of the time they make you want to take them in your mouth and run your tongue around their glistening head.
Many guys who wouldn't entertain a relationship with another man would like to play with someone else's cock.
Maybe you should use your profile text to explain that , whilst you considered yourself predominantly straight, you are open to new experiences and find the thought of sucking cock a turn on?
