Hi all, i'm quite to new to all this and wanted to ask a question to those in the know. I'm all curves, which I love, but I do have some horrible scars and stretch marks on my stomach after having my child. I feel compelled to tell potential partners...Am I being silly? Don't want to disappoint anyone? What do you think?
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I think that this might be really useful to you.
only ever do what you feel comfortable with.
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I think that this might be really useful to you.
only ever do what you feel comfortable with.
splendid
Attraction takes many forms
Many of us don't like things about ourselves, I don't like what I see in the mirror, others have paid me compliments
You may find some people have an issue with it, others may not care at all, I'm sure most men, if they have an ounce of savvy, would understand that a number of women have stretch marks, I don't think you are being silly, I just think you are being overcautious
Many of us don't like things about ourselves, I don't like what I see in the mirror, others have paid me compliments
You may find some people have an issue with it, others may not care at all, I'm sure most men, if they have an ounce of savvy, would understand that a number of women have stretch marks, I don't think you are being silly, I just think you are being overcautious
I think that if you let it worry you it will spoil the enjoyment of everything this place is about. You are you and if other people have a problem about it its theres not yours, your doing this for your pleasure it just so happens that who you play with will hopefully get something out of it too.
:welcome: have a
and some more forumites will be along shortly to say the same thing, as you live on the doorstep maybe we will meet at a social one day as they are great to get to know people. 
:welcome: have a
and some more forumites will be along shortly to say the same thing, as you live on the doorstep maybe we will meet at a social one day as they are great to get to know people. I was once told by a male friend that the male species are programmed to focus on all the delicious parts of their partner's body so unlikely to have any attention span left to critically look for inperfections. However if you start pointing them out you completely break the spell.
Not a single soul on this earth is without blemish, be proud of what you've got.
Not a single soul on this earth is without blemish, be proud of what you've got.
I have stretch marks on my tail! :giggle:
no seriously
My Shaz has a few stretch marks but it has never affected us meeting anyone and nobody has ever mentioned them so i wouldn't worry to much.
There just part of life and most mothers get them.. they can sometimes be quite sexy!
You may well look back in a years time and wonder what you was worried about
Anyway, with or without them, very nice pictures :twisted:
And welcome to the forums!
Tony
no seriously
My Shaz has a few stretch marks but it has never affected us meeting anyone and nobody has ever mentioned them so i wouldn't worry to much.
There just part of life and most mothers get them.. they can sometimes be quite sexy!
You may well look back in a years time and wonder what you was worried about
Anyway, with or without them, very nice pictures :twisted:
And welcome to the forums!
Tony
I've lost a lot of confidence lately, through one thing or another, and I know what you mean.
If I were with someone new, I would feel embarrassed about various bits of me.
But - then again, if I was looking at a new person, everything about a new person is just part of them, it's what makes them interesting, whether it's stretch marks, scars, mis-shaped bits or whatever.
Good luck :thumbup:
If I were with someone new, I would feel embarrassed about various bits of me.
But - then again, if I was looking at a new person, everything about a new person is just part of them, it's what makes them interesting, whether it's stretch marks, scars, mis-shaped bits or whatever.
Good luck :thumbup:
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I was once told by a male friend that the male species are programmed to focus on all the delicious parts of their partner's body so unlikely to have any attention span left to critically look for inperfections. However if you start pointing them out you completely break the spell.
Not a single soul on this earth is without blemish, be proud of what you've got.
:thumbup: well said.
The nice thing about this site is that it is populated by real people with real bodies. The SW inhabitants come in all shapes and sizes. There will be some people who care greatly about how you look but most, I think, will be looking for a nice person who's fun to be with.
Don't worry, you look mighty fine in your pics.
Don't worry, you look mighty fine in your pics.
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Quote by dekntan
i have stretch marks scars flabby bits droopy bits fatty bits think to a certain extent we all have but id much prefer to play with someone who has scars etc because it sorta shows they are real just like me and personally i aint into the flawless barbie doll look
You may be surprised to know that although there are some men who like 'eye candy', there are also those who like people for who they are, so scars, stretch marks, lumps and bumps are just part of that person.
There is nothing to worry about really! Real people look different that's what makes them interesting.
As an example Mathew Wright, The Wright Stuff, is quite open about his love of women with stretch marks because he sees it as a sign of femininity.
So there you go!
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Hi all, i'm quite to new to all this and wanted to ask a question to those in the know. I'm all curves, which I love, but I do have some horrible scars and stretch marks on my stomach after having my child. I feel compelled to tell potential partners...Am I being silly? Don't want to disappoint anyone? What do you think?
no its not silly im the same, tho i think its saft to say not many guys are bothered about stretch marks on here but if you dont feel comfy with something you feel you have to point it out
I am very aware of my stretch marks and scars, specially on my tum. I'm a big girl and have had twins, so you cam imagine how I look 
But, I once moaned about them to Ian and he came back with, "I'm always too busy looking at your tits to notice" :lol2: :lol2:
We all have scars but many people have fun with a mind and soul, not just a body :thumbup:
But, I once moaned about them to Ian and he came back with, "I'm always too busy looking at your tits to notice" :lol2: :lol2:
We all have scars but many people have fun with a mind and soul, not just a body :thumbup:
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I have stretch marks on my tail! :giggle:
Tony
:giggle: silly bugger - tail! You sound like Jas!
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The nice thing about this site is that it is populated by real people with real bodies. The SW inhabitants come in all shapes and sizes. There will be some people who care greatly about how you look but most, I think, will be looking for a nice person who's fun to be with.
Don't worry, you look mighty fine in your pics.
Not just those from the SW, Keeno! Sex God
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I am very aware of my stretch marks and scars, specially on my tum. I'm a big girl and have had twins, so you cam imagine how I look
But, I once moaned about them to Ian and he came back with, "I'm always too busy looking at your tits to notice" :lol2: :lol2:
We all have scars but many people have fun with a mind and soul, not just a body :thumbup:
Exactly!
Not all men are shallow, some of us like the whole package, so wear your scars with pride.
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I am very aware of my stretch marks and scars, specially on my tum. I'm a big girl and have had twins, so you cam imagine how I look
But, I once moaned about them to Ian and he came back with, "I'm always too busy looking at your tits to notice" :lol2: :lol2:
We all have scars but many people have fun with a mind and soul, not just a body :thumbup:
Exactly!
Not all men are shallow, some of us like the whole package, so wear your scars with pride.
:D :Dits true, i think many women feel the pressure to look 'perfect' i know i do but if the truth be known hardly any of us are, and the ones that do look perfect to use have just as many self body issues as the rest of us, i guess we just have to accept ourselves for what we are and remember not everyone see's us as well see us which are easy words but not so easy to accept.
like its already been said, i think we all have something we dont like about ourselves, sometimes its lots of things and then it might be onlyone depending on mood and how we are feeling
no everyone is going to like the same thing and i know i am not everyones cup of tea whichi s fine, not everyone is mine, thats what makes us human
being a large girl i didnt believe anyone would want to be with me when i was first around, how wrong was i, just do what you feel comfortable with and with who you feel comfortable with the rest will fall into place.
Earthy xxx
no everyone is going to like the same thing and i know i am not everyones cup of tea whichi s fine, not everyone is mine, thats what makes us human
being a large girl i didnt believe anyone would want to be with me when i was first around, how wrong was i, just do what you feel comfortable with and with who you feel comfortable with the rest will fall into place.
Earthy xxx
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Quote by Jgee
Hi all, i'm quite to new to all this and wanted to ask a question to those in the know. I'm all curves, which I love, but I do have some horrible scars and stretch marks on my stomach after having my child. I feel compelled to tell potential partners...Am I being silly? Don't want to disappoint anyone? What do you think?
For the majority of people on here, personality is the main attraction and a scar or stretch mark won't put them off.
If it did, would you really want to play with someone so shallow!
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the stretch mrks on my bum though
Having inspected your bum, I didn't see any, then maybe I wasn't looking do them!! :lol:
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For the majority of people on here, personality is the main attraction and a scar or stretch mark won't put them off.
If it did, would you really want to play with someone so shallow!
I'd like to think this is true, and from what I've seen and heard from people so far, I think it is.
Also you're absolutely right if it does bother anyone then they're not worth playing with anyway.
:P
I think alot of people feel that they are not happy about something on their body but you will soon find out from alot on here that most arnt interested in stuff like that, I remeber when we first started swinging and i was very self concious about my body but ive just about got over it now, im a bit self concious about my boobs since i had boob job ive got scars underneath so tend to leave bra on or take it off when dark.
also a couple we know have been thinking about going to a club with us and she wont go cos she thinks everyone will be size 10 supermodels and she feels that she is too larger lady, I have tried to tell her that there are all shapes and sizes that go but until she does it for herself then she will probably continue to feel this way
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also a couple we know have been thinking about going to a club with us and she wont go cos she thinks everyone will be size 10 supermodels and she feels that she is too larger lady, I have tried to tell her that there are all shapes and sizes that go but until she does it for herself then she will probably continue to feel this way
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