Booze and Bonking

28 Jan 2007

I get pissed at home but not when I'm out.
So I guess the answer to the question is that in a swinging context I generally don't. That's partly 'cos of the risk to performance - alcohol seems to persuade my blood not to go to my penis. redface

I do like to go out and get very merry though and the degree to which I do that will depend on the chances of a shag later.
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28 Jan 2007

Quote by firelizard
I would'nt have sex with someone who was drunk. I NEVER get drunk. A couple of drinks is my limit. I'm not sensitive as Sassy is to vomiting, I'm positively phobic about it. So you will not find me within retching distance of a real drunk.
I don't think personally booze and sex make good bedfellows for all the reasons Polo says.
Love
FIRE xx

Never EVER been drunk enough to throw up-yeugh! :smug:
Not to keen on vomit myself- ever since I had bits of a food processor all over the floor, trying to find an attachnment- this is over 12+ years ago. My eldest, just a toddler at the time came in & said "Mum I feel...." and before she finished the sentence, threw up inside the food processor. It went in the bin.

28 Jan 2007

Hmmm interesting subject this.
Its well known that I personally like a drink, I make no secret of it as I am not ashamed of my own personal choices, however, I have just about, (bar 2 occasions redface

) managed to stay on the wagon since Christmas so have also seen the ‘other side’ of life.
To the question in hand, does sex and alcohol mix, I would say yes in moderation, the trick is to be sensible enough to get the mix right, just enough to relax the players, just enough to put the embarrassment / nervousness daemons to rest and it can be really great, but step over that line and it can all go to hell in a hand cart very quickly.
As far as socials / munches are concerned, as well as my vanilla social life, I tend to gauge early on in the evening if there is any chance that I may be required to ‘perform’ (like a seal rolleyes

) and if the indications are that it’s probably a no, then I have been known to let myself go and have probably more than is good for me.
I don’t think I have yet embarrassed my self, (unless you include falling asleep on the kitchen table surprised

ops: ) and would be mortified if I was to learn that I had pushed my unwanted attentions on anyone whilst in a state of inebriation.
One thing I will say though, since having laid off the daemon drink, my pulling success has sky rocketed, and I have enjoyed the actual sexual experiences so much more, and very much more frequently lol

And as one female member off this site will vouch for, taking advantage of a drunken potential playmate is absolutely off limits.
I guess there was a point to the above ramblings dunno

28 Jan 2007

Quote by Pete_sw
One thing I will say though, since having laid off the daemon drink, my pulling success has sky rocketed, and I have enjoyed the actual sexual experiences so much more, and very much more frequently

Interesting smile

28 Jan 2007

I think there's a big difference between having a drink and being drunk.
To me it's fine to have a drink before having sex and it can be quite enjoyable e.g. during the summer, dammie and I like to have an evening meal on the patio with a glass of wine and catch the last bit of the day's sun.
Sometimes he's been known to "spill" a little wine over my cleavage and lick it off - I don't think a glass of diet coke would have the same effect in this instance lol

Being drunk's another story. e.g. In a sexual environment such as a club, I'd certainly avoid anyone who was past the point of merry.

28 Jan 2007

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
I think there's a big difference between having a drink and being drunk.
To me it's fine to have a drink before having sex and it can be quite enjoyable e.g. during the summer, dammie and I like to have an evening meal on the patio with a glass of wine and catch the last bit of the day's sun.
Sometimes he's been known to "spill" a little wine over my cleavage and lick it off - I don't think a glass of diet coke would have the same effect in this instance
Being drunk's another story. e.g. In a sexual environment such as a club, I'd certainly avoid anyone who was past the point of merry.

I've been known to do the same on a certain male part.. :lickface: :thumbup:

28 Jan 2007

My apologies to Scandal. For personalising my previous post. I'm not retracting anything, but do apologise for that. You just rub me up the wrong way with your general and your personal digs. PoloLady and other are right. Of course everybody is entitled to their opinion.
It was wrong of me to personalise it.
Here's a line.
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Quote by PoloLady
Do you mix your cocktails with your cock-action?
Concern: the ability to make an informed decision of consent? I never want to hear someone say “god I wish I hadn’t done that” especially if I was involved in the situation.

That ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ would be my only real "issue"
I would be absolutely horrified if someone fucked me because they were drunk, then regretted it the following day.
I've actually "grown up" (but only a little :grin: ) since getting more involved in the lifestyle.
Like I'm sure many others - I've done lots of things and had sex while pissed that I perhaps wouldn't have done sober.
I'm going to claim age as my saviour. It use to be the case that regardless of how much I'd had to drink; if I could walk, I could shag. (PoloLady's point about "drunks are crap shags !" taken redface

) That "ability" is now reserved for particular people, rather than circumstance :lol2:
The dribbling of my favourite wine down/across/over various body parts I find very sensual and erotic. And to have my two favourite tastes in my mouth at the same time is magnificent ! ! ! !
And I agree, the "right" amount of numbing the senses can help to prolong the activities. The problem is finding that "right amount"

29 Jan 2007

I work as a taxi driver and have never accepted offers of sex of the customers when they are drunk, it would be taking advantage.
When i'm drunk though I go on for age's!.

29 Jan 2007

Quote by jaymar

Funny how that never gets mentioned on the thanks threads isn't it!
Stranger than strange though is the sneering attitude to those of us who express a preference for a more sober, gentler, less raucous forms of social interaction.

Funny ?
Maybe it doesn't get mentioned because it's not that big an issue to many people dunno

Sneering attitude . . . . . ????
I think there's far more sneering doneby those who express . . . . . . ?
And by you in particular Scandal.
I enjoy getting drunk. To varying degrees. I enjoy the feeling it gives me.
Do I needto get drunk ?
Actually - No. I do it because I enjoy it.
Do I look down my nose at those that don't drink. Or those that drink "a little" Or those that have a couple to take the edge off their nerves, or anything else ???
No.
Tonight, I'll go the the Munch in Yorkshire and probably get totally shit-faced.
I can almostguarantee that I won't act "inappropriately" Or touch someone in a manner they won't like. Or pin someone in a corner.
But that almost guarantee stands to whether I'm pissed as a bandycoot or stone cold sober.
And where misunderstanding occur - that's exactly what they are. Misunderstandings.
Will I be behave like a buffoon ? More than likely.
Will I "suffer" for it tomorrow ?
Probably.
One thing I won't do though is to try to say my way is the right way. Or the best way. Or the proper way.
Lots of people "use" this site and lifestyle for lots of different reasons and in lots of different ways.
You Scandal have made your feeling about the "social side" of it all pretty much clear.
Please allow others their own ways of enjoying the lifestyle.
Oh - and in edit . .
Munches aren't primarily about shagging.
I have to agree with Dambuster.... each to their own and you tend to attract your "own type" anyway, ie., if drunk people are incredibly offputting and distasteful you will avoid them.
I'm not bothered either way, if Mr Jay has had a skin ful, he gets none end of. If I've had way too many glasses of wine (and yes I admit I can do at times!) then I'll just go to bed and sleep not anything else.
We've swung with other couples who've had drinks before, and it does relax you esp. if you are really nervous.. but I think a few are better than oodles. I've been in a situation before where someone has had too much drink on a meet and they've not really enjoyed the occasion as they should (not aroused as much - both male and female!).
I certainly wouldn't criticise anyone either way.
I do take a drink sometimes, but I do like to remember the fun I had. It is true I avoid, or at least ignore those who have had to much, or are lay in the gutter.
As for would I be sexually attracted to someone drunk, no. My reaction is ether one of the elder brother or mild disgust for anyone who has taken drinking to the they will never remember in the morning stage. Which is it, elder brother or discuss? It depends on my mood and the other person.

29 Jan 2007

Quote by

Funny how that never gets mentioned on the thanks threads isn't it!
Stranger than strange though is the sneering attitude to those of us who express a preference for a more sober, gentler, less raucous forms of social interaction.

Funny ?
Maybe it doesn't get mentioned because it's not that big an issue to many people dunno

Sneering attitude . . . . . ????
I think there's far more sneering doneby those who express . . . . . . ?
And by you in particular Scandal.
I enjoy getting drunk. To varying degrees. I enjoy the feeling it gives me.
Do I needto get drunk ?
Actually - No. I do it because I enjoy it.
Do I look down my nose at those that don't drink. Or those that drink "a little" Or those that have a couple to take the edge off their nerves, or anything else ???
No.
Tonight, I'll go the the Munch in Yorkshire and probably get totally shit-faced.
I can almostguarantee that I won't act "inappropriately" Or touch someone in a manner they won't like. Or pin someone in a corner.
But that almost guarantee stands to whether I'm pissed as a bandycoot or stone cold sober.
And where misunderstanding occur - that's exactly what they are. Misunderstandings.
Will I be behave like a buffoon ? More than likely.
Will I "suffer" for it tomorrow ?
Probably.
One thing I won't do though is to try to say my way is the right way. Or the best way. Or the proper way.
Lots of people "use" this site and lifestyle for lots of different reasons and in lots of different ways.
You Scandal have made your feeling about the "social side" of it all pretty much clear.
Please allow others their own ways of enjoying the lifestyle.
Oh - and in edit . .
Munches aren't primarily about shagging.
I have to agree with Dambuster.... each to their own and you tend to attract your "own type" anyway, ie., if drunk people are incredibly offputting and distasteful you will avoid them.
I'm not bothered either way, if Mr Jay has had a skin ful, he gets none end of. If I've had way too many glasses of wine (and yes I admit I can do at times!) then I'll just go to bed and sleep not anything else.
We've swung with other couples who've had drinks before, and it does relax you esp. if you are really nervous.. but I think a few are better than oodles. I've been in a situation before where someone has had too much drink on a meet and they've not really enjoyed the occasion as they should (not aroused as much - both male and female!).
I certainly wouldn't criticise anyone either way.
I do take a drink sometimes, but I do like to remember the fun I had. It is true I avoid, or at least ignore those who have had to much, or are lay in the gutter.
As for would I be sexually attracted to someone drunk, no. My reaction is ether one of the elder brother or mild disgust for anyone who has taken drinking to the they will never remember in the morning stage. Which is it, elder brother or discuss? It depends on my mood and the other person.
I can certainly go with the disgust bit.. I work in a bar sometimes to finance my course. The most nicest men (and women) can go from being so attractive and appealing to repulsive in about 3 hours! surprised

A few drinks can bring out a very relaxed person and true personality but a skinful can bring on drips down the top, pure alcohol breath, and of course there's the "oops I missed" trips to the toilet! not to mention the spewing and then the continuing of the drinking.... see them all.
I tend to want to make sure very drunk people are seen home OK and put on their sides rather than bonk their brains out! :shock:

29 Jan 2007

Is being tipsy/merry compatible with swinging? Yes.
Is being so drunk you're slurring your words and talking bollox? No.
I get merry from time to time, but I must admit to being a bit of a control freak so I don't like to get really drunk. The last time I was what I would call properly drunk was about 6 or 7 years ago and was quite accidental. I hate being around people who are really drunk.

29 Jan 2007

Quote by Kiss
Is being tipsy/merry compatible with swinging? Yes.
Is being so drunk you're slurring your words and talking bollox? No.
I get merry from time to time, but I must admit to being a bit of a control freak so I don't like to get really drunk. The last time I was what I would call properly drunk was about 6 or 7 years ago and was quite accidental. I hate being around people who are really drunk.

I agree, I think this sums it all up.
If I accidently got myself really drunk (and depending on how much I have eaten it can happen) I would have to go home, I hate embarassing myself and I would hate to chuck up at someones house! rolleyes

29 Jan 2007

I don't as a rule drink often anyway. I can count on one hand how many times I've had a drink in the last 6 months. When I do, it's for a social occasion and i am happy to admit, I do like getting drunk.
I rarely get to the throwing up stage. i do sometimes have difficulty remembering certain events - but anyone who knows me, can tell you that I'm like that when I'm stone cold sober too - i just have a really crap memory.
I only go to Munches and socials for fun - not sex. Other than my own partner at the time, i've only played after a Munch once and I do remember it well.
I have been known to have one or two swift drinks to settle my nerves for a meet but I would not meet someone if I/they were pissed.
People who don't drink at all ... well, that's their choice but for me, drinking is sociable and I feel a bit uncomfortable when someone won't have a sociable drink. I'm not knocking them, it's just kind of like lighting up a cigarette in front of your non-smoking gran. confused

I wouldn't want to play with someone who was drunk. I've done it once when I was too drunk to "perform" as such. It didn't spoil the night but it could have been sooooo much better had i just stuck to one or two. Also, when i'm sober, I find drunk people really annoying!
That's all i have to say about that.

30 Jan 2007

I personally would not swing with someone that was pissed as a fart....but would with someone that was slightly merry....
I personally DO get very horny when drunk.....but I'm not sure I would be any good at shagging while really pissed....although I DO rather like being touched or stroked as my skin feels more sensitive and I feel more sensual....

30 Jan 2007

I wouldnt swing with soemone who was really drunk as i dont think that people can make good judgement calls when their pissed, so i wouldnt want to be on someones regret list :shock: . Me personally, i dont drink very often so when i do go to a social or a meet i have to have some dutch courage and end up a bit tipsy because im not used to it. Ive only been totally blotto once drinkies

and i didnt enjoy it at all as i couldnt remember half of the night and whats the point if you cant remember what youve done or who youve chatted too. dunno

Louise xx