Going out for a laugh and getting drunk (by accident of course) is one thing and something I have no problems with what-so-ever – with the exception of people who think it won’t be a good night unless they get totally bladdered, set out to do so and judge their success by the number of times they hurl.
But going out for a laugh is not really what I am thinking about.
Would you, do you, have you fucked/swung/shagged/played with people who are pissed?
Do you mix your cocktails with your cock-action?
Apart from the fact when I am sober, being drunk is probably one of the least attractive qualities there can be in a perspective rumpy-pumpy partner/s, there are other reasons I personally dislike the combination of booze and bonking:
Fact: alcohol effects your ability to coordinate and control balance, touch and movement – thus the drunk thinks they are doing all the right things in a sensual manner, but the recipient (if sober) knows better. Drunks are crap shags! (they are just too drunk to realise what a hash they are making of it)
Fact: alcohol numbs the senses – so what is the point in exploring sensual sensations when you actually can’t actually feel half of what is going on.
Concern: the ability to make an informed decision of consent? I never want to hear someone say “god I wish I hadn’t done that” especially if I was involved in the situation.
Concern – will they vomit?
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Quote by PoloLadymy major concern also... though in my company, a potential partner need not neccessarily have had a drink before the V-Reaction presents itsself!!!
Concern – will they vomit?
alas... I sadly no longer can use the *wish I hadnt done that, I was soooo drunk* excuse any more...
I like people to be *relaxed*...so if a drinkie or two does the tick... thats fine... dribbling onto best best party frock (for the worng reasons...).... not attractive.... and not to be taken advantage of.
lp
I'm not a big drinker,i don't like to hang out with people who are compelled to get shit-faced.....there is nothing clever about it at all.....as for the swinging scene,i know that some people require a few drinks for dutch courage,you only have to ask my wife that,but as time went on and we became more relaxed in the scene,drinking as much isn't nessessary,she's even stopped smoking.....we try to avoid other couples who it looks like may have had one too many.....we have seen that it can lead to arguments with the couples in question.....i have seen one or two ladies passed out on sofas at clubs with very pissed off partners watching over them.
Sex God
Quote by LondonPlaything
I like people to be *relaxed*...so if a drinkie or two does the tick... thats fine... dribbling onto best best party frock (for the worng reasons...).... not attractive.... and not to be taken advantage of.
lp
It just wouldn't do for them to dribble on your party frock would it LP? :giggle:
Drunk is funny up to a point, when you're sober. I love being sober at munches - so much fun reminding people of the stupid things they said or did!
Bit annoying when a drunken twat is trying to touch inappropriately or corner you though
Quote by PoloLady
Concern – will they vomit?
As someone who is spew-sensitive ( ie, if someone hurls in front of me, I join them in sympathy
Not a good reaction for a nurse I grant you 
) that would be enough to put me off shagging someone who was 3 sheets to the wind :? There's also:
If they're that pissed, no amount of encouragement will get THAT soldier to attention!
Even if they do, it could only be a matter of minutes before the stiffy has left the building and even a splint wouldn't help.
I had enough drunken fumblings and disappointing 'no results' with my first husband to EVER want to go through that again
I'd want my partner to want to shag me because they want ME and not because I just happen to be there.
Being snogged by a booze bucket is not very erotic
Sex God
Quote by LondonPlaything
It just wouldn't do for them to dribble on your party frock would it LP? :giggle:
oi!
its rubber anyway....lol (wipe clean
)lp
Ooooooo everything wipes off then, hmmm?
:notes:
Sex God
Quote by Scandal
Stranger than strange though is the sneering attitude to those of us who express a preference for a more sober, gentler, less raucous forms of social interaction.
You won't ever find me sneering at anyone for that Scandal.
Sex God
Quote by Scandal
Virtually every thread on SH contains some reference to drinking and quite often drinking to excess
Does it
: I would have quoted a bit more and made my own comments but I havent got time...
I'm off down the pub....
Sex God
Quote by Scandal
Virtually every thread on SH contains some reference to drinking and quite often drinking to excess,
Apart from AA and CAMRA I can't think of a community where alcohol abuse plays as central a role as it does here.
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I'm broadly in agreement with your post Scandal, the frequent references to drinking/being drunk in here do become tedious. But I think it's also part of a broader problem in society in the last few years due to the liberalising of opening times and very clever marketing by drinks firms.
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Funny how that never gets mentioned on the thanks threads isn't it!
Stranger than strange though is the sneering attitude to those of us who express a preference for a more sober, gentler, less raucous forms of social interaction.
Funny ?
Maybe it doesn't get mentioned because it's not that big an issue to many people
Sneering attitude . . . . . ????
I think there's far more sneering doneby those who express . . . . . . ?
And by you in particular Scandal.
I enjoy getting drunk. To varying degrees. I enjoy the feeling it gives me.
Do I needto get drunk ?
Actually - No. I do it because I enjoy it.
Do I look down my nose at those that don't drink. Or those that drink "a little" Or those that have a couple to take the edge off their nerves, or anything else ???
No.
Tonight, I'll go the the Munch in Yorkshire and probably get totally shit-faced.
I can almostguarantee that I won't act "inappropriately" Or touch someone in a manner they won't like. Or pin someone in a corner.
But that almost guarantee stands to whether I'm pissed as a bandycoot or stone cold sober.
And where misunderstanding occur - that's exactly what they are. Misunderstandings.
Will I be behave like a buffoon ? More than likely.
Will I "suffer" for it tomorrow ?
Probably.
One thing I won't do though is to try to say my way is the right way. Or the best way. Or the proper way.
Lots of people "use" this site and lifestyle for lots of different reasons and in lots of different ways.
You Scandal have made your feeling about the "social side" of it all pretty much clear.
Please allow others their own ways of enjoying the lifestyle.
Oh - and in edit . .
Munches aren't primarily about shagging.
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Stranger than strange though is the sneering attitude to those of us who express a preference for a more sober, gentler, less raucous forms of social interaction.
You won't ever find me sneering at anyone for that Scandal.
Slurring, maybe...............
I've only ever shagged drunk people whilst I'm drunk. That said- to what degree of drunk are we talking?
I cango out, stay sober and have a blast if the atmosphere is right. I like to go out get merry & have a blast.
I can recognise when I'm on the verge of having too much though- even to the point of knowing that I need to allow 20 ish minutes for the last drink to take full effect- so I don't do "falling down drunk"
Each to their own, but no, I don't find someone who is far more inebriated than I am that attractive.
Quote by dambuster
Funny how that never gets mentioned on the thanks threads isn't it!
Stranger than strange though is the sneering attitude to those of us who express a preference for a more sober, gentler, less raucous forms of social interaction.
Funny ?
Maybe it doesn't get mentioned because it's not that big an issue to many people
Sneering attitude . . . . . ????
I think there's far more sneering doneby those who express . . . . . . ?
And by you in particular Scandal.
I enjoy getting drunk. To varying degrees. I enjoy the feeling it gives me.
Do I needto get drunk ?
Actually - No. I do it because I enjoy it.
Do I look down my nose at those that don't drink. Or those that drink "a little" Or those that have a couple to take the edge off their nerves, or anything else ???
No.
Tonight, I'll go the the Munch in Yorkshire and probably get totally shit-faced.
I can almostguarantee that I won't act "inappropriately" Or touch someone in a manner they won't like. Or pin someone in a corner.
But that almost guarantee stands to whether I'm pissed as a bandycoot or stone cold sober.
And where misunderstanding occur - that's exactly what they are. Misunderstandings.
Will I be behave like a buffoon ? More than likely.
Will I "suffer" for it tomorrow ?
Probably.
One thing I won't do though is to try to say my way is the right way. Or the best way. Or the proper way.
Lots of people "use" this site and lifestyle for lots of different reasons and in lots of different ways.
You Scandal have made your feeling about the "social side" of it all pretty much clear.
Please allow others their own ways of enjoying the lifestyle.
Oh - and in edit . .
Munches aren't primarily about shagging.
I have to agree with Dambuster.... each to their own and you tend to attract your "own type" anyway, ie., if drunk people are incredibly offputting and distasteful you will avoid them.
I'm not bothered either way, if Mr Jay has had a skin ful, he gets none end of. If I've had way too many glasses of wine (and yes I admit I can do at times!) then I'll just go to bed and sleep not anything else.
We've swung with other couples who've had drinks before, and it does relax you esp. if you are really nervous.. but I think a few are better than oodles. I've been in a situation before where someone has had too much drink on a meet and they've not really enjoyed the occasion as they should (not aroused as much - both male and female!).
I certainly wouldn't criticise anyone either way.
Well at munches i like to have a drink and though i dont get bladdered i have enough to feel good and have a laugh and a chat. Basicly just a fun evening meeting folks and having a dance ect. This can vary from munch to munch and dont try or expect to end up in the sack with someone so have a few more than i would otherwise.
I agree with Dammy in that munches arent for shagging they may lead to that at another time if i met someone and got on that well. I dont go to any after munch stuff just head back to the hotel bar or bed.
As for meets well maybe on or two thats it
Would i shag someone who's drunk: two answers
Merry = yes
Bladdered = no way
I agree with Dammy in that munches arent for shagging they may lead to that at another time if i met someone and got on that well. I dont go to any after munch stuff just head back to the hotel bar or bed.
As for meets well maybe on or two thats it
Would i shag someone who's drunk
: two answersMerry = yes
Bladdered = no way
Sex God
I prefer to be sober.
Sexpert
I can't remember the last time I was drunk - years ago probably.
I may have a (singular) drink tonight to stop me shaking like a leaf, but probably won't be getting legless. lol
Booze just makes me sleepy and relaxed for some reason - and I'm so laid back I'm horizontal (on a good day ;)) anyway.
I may have a (singular) drink tonight to stop me shaking like a leaf, but probably won't be getting legless. lol
Booze just makes me sleepy and relaxed for some reason - and I'm so laid back I'm horizontal (on a good day ;)) anyway.
Quote by Scandal
Funny how that never gets mentioned on the thanks threads isn't it!
Stranger than strange though is the sneering attitude to those of us who express a preference for a more sober, gentler, less raucous forms of social interaction.
Funny ?
Maybe it doesn't get mentioned because it's not that big an issue to many people
There's a thread running now where a well known member of the site can't remember what she did at a recent munch and is asking to be reminded in PM. Classy. You know as I do there have been plenty of embarrassing, outrageous and out of order incidents by people at munches. Plenty of eye rolling and plenty of "never going near him/her/letch again". Nearly all due to drunkenness.I think you are referring to a comment that I wrote.... For your information it wasn't because I was too drunk to remember what I did, rather that I wasn't aware that I had actually done what I was supposed to have done :roll: As I didn't get a PM I can only assume that the person in question was (as I first suspected) joking :roll:
I personally get merry at munches, I also remember everything that happens with alarming detail....
I am another person who is sick and tired of your holier than thou attitude when it comes to those of us that like to go to munches.... If you dont want to be part of the social scene then dont... It doesn't bother me and I personally dont give a shit if people dont want to. But for those that want to then please dont use your sneering tone towards us :roll:
Personally, I feel Scandal has just as much right to express his observations and feelings (however negative that may be perceived) as anyone else who expresses positive observations and feelings towards munches.
Is this not just another difference of opinion and preference? It just happens to be that munches make a more emotive subject to some than others (depending on how important they are to you). But still, if it is OK for one person to say how great they are, is it not OK for another to express why they feel they are not?
But all that aside - this thread is NOT about munches - it is about booze, sex and whether you feel the two mix.
Is this not just another difference of opinion and preference? It just happens to be that munches make a more emotive subject to some than others (depending on how important they are to you). But still, if it is OK for one person to say how great they are, is it not OK for another to express why they feel they are not?
But all that aside - this thread is NOT about munches - it is about booze, sex and whether you feel the two mix.
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
Personally, I feel Scandal has just as much right to express his observations and feelings (however negative that may be perceived) as anyone else who expresses positive observations and feelings towards munches.
:thumbup:
Still think he gets on his all too often
, as do a few others, but a difference of opinion and views keep the site both lively and healthy IMHO.Lets just not let it get personal folks please.
But all that aside - this thread is NOT about munches - it is about booze, sex and whether you feel the two mix.
I reckon that drinking and sex can mix quite nicely thank you very much, nothing nicer than sharing a bottle of wine before shagging.
For me it becomes a problem when people get sooooo drunk that their natural inhibitions go flying out the window and with that comes a degree of behaviour they may feel embarrassed about in the morning.
From my own point of view, if someone has to get so drunk to have a bit of Laird Loving* :rascal: then I obviously 'aint doing it for them. For me it's all about the senusal exploration of the senses and if you're too drunk to indulge in that then whats the point
*Disclaimer - I can give no guarantee of the service but by fuck I always enjoy it!!
I have stopped drinking alcohol completely of late for training purposes. I have experienced the whole "go on, just take a drink" thing among friends but they have finally come to accept it just isn't going to happen.
Each to their own eh?
So in answer to your question PL, FOR ME it can work but in moderation.
Casanova
Whilst swinging I often drink to varying degrees,and have on a few occasions mis-judged the quanitity But to the best of my knowledge havent caused offence to anyone else, nor have i ever regreted any swinging i took part in at that time. Russ more often doesnt drink when we swing mainly because he is driving,not anything to do with performance as drink rarely effects him that way. Neither of us would swing with someone who was obviously very drunk or lacking in both beleive light and moderate drinking when activly swinging is ok with us.
Nicky
But to the best of my knowledge havent caused offence to anyone else, nor have i ever regreted any swinging i took part in at that time. Russ more often doesnt drink when we swing mainly because he is driving,not anything to do with performance as drink rarely effects him that way. Neither of us would swing with someone who was obviously very drunk or lacking in both beleive light and moderate drinking when activly swinging is ok with us.Nicky
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
Personally, I feel Scandal has just as much right to express his observations and feelings (however negative that may be perceived) as anyone else who expresses positive observations and feelings towards munches.
Quite correct.....
But..............
Not when quoting specific instances he has no knowledge of whatsoever and then proceeds to describe those persons supposed actions as "classy" ......
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Not when quoting specific instances he has no knowledge of whatsoever and then proceeds to describe those persons supposed actions as "classy" ......
This does make an interesting point - and valid to many I have made in the past about the things which are often posted after munches/events and the way in which they will/could be perceived by others who are not 'in the know'.
I appreciate you do know all the details and ditty-gritty behind the post and what it was actually about - but all the reader has to go on is the post and what picture it paints in their perceptions eye.
Had you not be one who is 'in the know' and the post made by someone else, would your perception have been the same?
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
Had you not be one who is 'in the know' and the post made by someone else, would your perception have been the same?
My perception of any ill informed whinge is the same
Quote by Mallock2006
Had you not be one who is 'in the know' and the post made by someone else, would your perception have been the same?
My perception of any ill informed whinge is the same
Now you know that is not what I was asking
But whilst you are here - what about the booze and bonking?
Sex God
Quote by PoloLady
But whilst you are here - what about the booze and bonking?
Personally I like to have a couple of pints/cans to quell the nerves..
Not being a frequent player I still suffer from stage-fright so a couple of looseners do the trick
No objections to someone having a couple of drinks but I wouldn't shag someone that was pissed as a fart.
We did once get invovled with a couple where he'd had a few too many and I wouldn't consider it again.
As for munches, I was asked by a forum member what I was drinking or what I was on, at Notts.......I don't drink, I'm just an idiot :lol2: :lol2: :lol2:
We did once get invovled with a couple where he'd had a few too many and I wouldn't consider it again.
As for munches, I was asked by a forum member what I was drinking or what I was on, at Notts.......I don't drink, I'm just an idiot :lol2: :lol2: :lol2:
Sex God
I would'nt have sex with someone who was drunk. I NEVER get drunk. A couple of drinks is my limit. I'm not sensitive as Sassy is to vomiting, I'm positively phobic about it. So you will not find me within retching distance of a real drunk.
I don't think personally booze and sex make good bedfellows for all the reasons Polo says.
Love
FIRE xx
I don't think personally booze and sex make good bedfellows for all the reasons Polo says.
Love
FIRE xx
